How well do you "pass"?

[Kate Simmons]

This is directed at the M T F CD's and is not what you may think. I'm wondering just how well you all think you "pass" as a man in public. Granted we are genetic men but nothing is "automatic" and from many comments I read here not all are happy with that fact. Do you think you pull off a convincing "man" act when interacting with others in public or is it a struggle as your thoughts are more to being your femme side as you would rather do that? Why do you answer the way you do? :)

[Susan4]

If someone was VERY observant when I'm in guy mode, they might notice my eyebrows - too well maintained for a guy, or my manicured hands ... sometimes with clear polish or traces of colour near the cuticles. Also soft and without hair up to my elbows.

Beyond that ... however, I pass very well. It's hard not too at 188 cm and with male pattern baldness. My voice is deep and I've never been called graceful.

So .. on a male scale of 1 to 10 ... I present as a 9 (smile)

Hugs
Susan

[joan47]

Well, the thin shaped waxed eyebrows, long arylic pinkpainted nails, shaved legs, painted toenails with sandals (light pink), no hair on arms, pierced ears light maek-up and tight girls jeans or short shorts might give it away.

[erickka]

That's easy for me to answer. I look like a neanderthal (sp?) in guy mode. There is absolutely no doubt that I am a GM !

[CallMeMeg]

It depends on how closely you look. I always wear a charm bracelet. My socks today have flowers on them. My shirt buttons the "wrong" way. I'm wearing women's khakis and shoes (black New Balance).

No-one's ever said "isn't that a girl's ****"?

OK, one girl, maybe 11, last spring pointed at my bracelet and said "is that yours"? I said "of course! Who else would it belong to"? and she said "your wife. Or your daughter".

So 98%, but maybe to another cd, not so much.

[Freddy12]

Well, on a scale of 1 to 10, maybe a 9.

No hair on the legs, chest, arms, shaped eyebrows, and long fingernails are clues, but other than that I look pretty much like other GM's. My wife is not at all supportive, so using nail polish would lead to a tremendous fight, and I'm not willing to go there. If it weren't for her, my hair would be shoulder length, and both fingernails and toenails would jave nail polish. Then there would be no way not to notice!

[victoriamwilliams1]

No problem for me I just stop shaving until I dress again:)

[thechic]

Some times i don't pass as a man in guy mode , ever since I shaped my eyebrows and got my hands manicured and lack of body hair i often get asked "are you a man or woman" sometimes is was sort of embarrassing especially at work.must have a neutral looking face.but now that im sort of out of the closet,i say im a woman.but i think if you look harder enough at me you can see im a guy.

[KathyC]

I have no problems at all, I do act as a man during my normal "business" hours; give direct orders to my coworkers, talk logically to customers without gay manner.indeed, I told many of my coworkers I am into CDing. They all thought I was joking because I am always into girls & have good taste about women..CDing?Gay tho, which they don't understand.

[Jocelyn Quivers]

Unfortunately for me I pass a little too well.

[joanne shannon]

Unfortunately, I easily pass as a macho man when in my guy mode...long period of miliary service is probably a contributing factor along with my size (6'3" and 240 lbs). I am seriously thinking of having my ears pierced and it would be a complete shock to all who know me if I do so.

[Inna]

40+ years of testosterone, 6' height, former body builder, and what? May I help you maam? I don't think so. When they look at my shadow they say "yo dude, wanna have some bud with us" and yet after makeup, ok, lots of makeup, some pulling and shoving you get the idea, she shows up. 1 year into HRT ( yeee, not only CD but TG as well) and no one called me Maam although, I do get double take long lasting stares, to which I smile, and joy runs through my body for I know what they ask them selves: "what a beautiful man" :D maybe not, but at least I know something is working and one day in my drab I will go for a mundane thing to do and straight to my face clerk will ask; "will that be paper or plastic"......................maaam!:daydreaming:

[Kate Simmons]

Nice replies. I wanted to see how others were as to dynamics and flexibility when confronted with the male presentation option.:)

[charlie]

Hello Denise!
As always an interesting post from you. People looking at me know that I am a guy. I pass well as a guy. However, I do have feminine looks, poses, hand movements and comments thrown in. These are just part of me. I actually act the same when in female mode as well....just a completely different look on the outside.

[Kate Simmons]

Funny that you say that Charlie. I command both sets of movements and gestures as needed. Sometimes I "mix and match" them though and of course get some double takes but never any verbal comments.:battingeyelashes::)

[Tess]

Presenting as a male isn't a problem since it comes naturally. If someone were very observant they may notice shined toe nails or shaved armpits at the pool, perhaps a whiff of feminine deodorant. Performing as a female, now that is a challenge.

[sissystephanie]

When my wife was alive, and did my makeup and fixed my wig I was very "passable!" Very rarely did anyone realize I was really a man! She had the skill to really completely change my look to female! I can't do that at all! So I don't even try. I just go out looking like the man I am, but dressed completely enfemme! That is what Crossdressers do! Well, at least some of us!

[carrie-ann]

I solved the male look poem for I went 247 over a year ago.

[tricia_uktv]

Really well. It was a huge shock when I came out to my workplace as a t-girl. But then I'm into sports and real ale and have never acted feminine in my male side.

[Rianna Humble]

When I was in denial, although I didn't join in many of the traditional male pastimes, I apparently passed extremely well given that after I came out as TG, several people said that I was the last person they would have expected to tell them that.

However, I think that from the time that I accepted myself, my ability to pass as a male diminished quite radically. At Xmas, a GG asked me why I was not wearing a dress to a staff party (I had not yet cross-dressed at work) and for Secret Santa, I received a manicure set.

Today, I am accepted as a woman (albeit with an excessively deep voice) but can just about pass for short periods if I cross-dress as a man.

[msginaadoll]

Well Im not a manly man. I have a higher pitched voice and have been called maam numerous times on the phone. I was once called a lady when i was biking in tight short, a bandanna, shedes and a tie die t shirt. However i dont think am especially fem as a guy maybe more adrogynous.

[Debb]

Sadly, I am a guy no matter whether I am dressed as one or not. My build is a pretty good give-away, and my voice seals the deal.

[RoxyDoxy]

I never have been mistaken...I think it's much easier to pass if you have really short hair. I've only ever been mistaken because of my voice over the phone.

[Miley]

"Passing" as a man is not a problem...I have been practicing it for 28 years :heehee: but people may natice the eye brows, and the long nails but when in drab I can pull off a convincing guy.

[tammygirl79]

Not a problem for me at all. When i am a woman....i am a woman! When i am a man....I am a man. I honestly think that when i am out in guy mode, only anouther sister might actually think to themselves "I think he might be a cd". Because I do keep my eyebrows plucked. But I have hairy legs, chest & arms. The only time someone would get suspicious is if they see me out as a man, right after I was out as a woman and I had to save my arms, legs & chest. But I limit how often I go out to public places then, and i always wear long pants until my leg hairs grow back.

[patricia 402]

as patrick the truck driver, heavy eqipment operator, no problem. the problem is i want everyone to know patricia, thats who i realy am.and she makes me happy.and they could never handel that. life sucks sometimes.:sad:

[Rachel Morley]

Do you think you pull off a convincing "man" act when interacting with others in public or is it a struggle as your thoughts are more to being your femme side as you would rather do that?
"Man act" .... are you talking about behavior? If so, I don't really act "that" much different in boy or girl mode. Ok, my sitting, walking and general gesturing is more feminine in girl mode but it's still pretty much still there even in boy mode, but less so.

I'm not sure what strangers think of me, but all my friends are TG girl friends (I have no non TG guy friends) and all my male co-workers make me feel like that they know that I'm a bit different compared to them. My female co-workers (two in particular) seem to treat me like "one of the girls", they sure do make me feel that way anyway. :) Do I pull of being male? ... well yes I think so, but perhaps a more girly one than most I think.

[Jonianne]

I think I know where you are going Denise. I have never tried to pull off a convincing "man act", even as a kid, except for the fact that I kept my desire to dress in girls cloths secret. I would just be me in my normal behaviour and when the other kids (and guys later in life) started acting out the overt macho stuff, I would just walk away. I would never allow myself to be pressured to participate in that. I imagine they either thought I was a goody two-shoes or somewhat of a sissy, but really I was just determined to do what I felt was right.

So even though I didn't broadcast my crossdressing, neither did I try to put on a false macho show to prove I wasn't girly either.

[Danni Bear]

pass as male?????? why in the world would anyone worry about that?

Danni


oh i guess maybe a gg getting mistaken for a male would hurt let you know if get mistaken for male since transition all female now and finally me

Danni

[PretzelGirl]

I still have two major problems. I don't burp loud enough. And when I walk past someone, I tend to smile and say Good Morning instead of grunting and nodding. :heehee:

[kimmy p]

I used to be called Ma'am all the time while in drab mode. Long hair can do that, along with the hair clips barrettes, and earrings. Now even with a wig I don't pass.:sad:. Unless I wear a burkah.

[Lexine]

If I'm not careful and wear androgynous clothing people can ma'm me. Otherwise, I think I pass pretty well as a guy ;)

[eluuzion]

When I was in the corporate world, I was the classic dark-suited yuppie that fit the image most people have in their head.

After dropping out of that back-stabbing arena, I am not as yuppy-ish looking. Totally shaved body now. But nothing that blatantly screams "feminine". Most would be surprised if they knew.

Most would consider me an eccentric anomaly before suspecting CD. I am always on my roof experimenting/testing surveillance cams & equipment. Or working on some bizarre art project on my sundeck. This week's project is hunting pesky squirrels and rabbits in my backyard (that are eating my deck chairs!) with a high powered pellet rifle with scope. hehehe. Neighbors are used to me by now.

In male mode I am still a prime target for "golddiggers". I still cannot figure out the mis-cued image I project in that area. It has been expensive problem...hehehe

[TinaMc]

Not terribly well. A lot people assume I'm gay because I'm not very macho at all (obviously so un-macho to the point of being most likely gay). Oh well... Maybe I should be less concerned about being dressed out in public, probably not going to be much worse than being seen as "a gay"...

[Sherry-Stephanie]

I'm told at a 100 ft to 200 ft. great!!!!

[kimdl93]

probably pretty well. I'm 6'3" and 234...rather sharp Nordic facial features, so I think really I pass pretty well as a male.