Are you Right or Left handed???

[Christina Horton]

OK I'm not asking , nor do I want to know if , your right or left handed but.....



We all have tryed to explain to non-TGs why we CD. The only way to compair our CDing is to ask them " ok are you right or left handed?" when they say "right" or " left" , I say " ok why"? When they stamer and then say " well I guess I was born that way , but I can't explain why I am". Then I tell them "that's the same with me. I am a CD and can't really say why".

This explaintion works good for 2 reasons. One they can give a better answer for it and two it's true. I was born this way.

Now if you all have a good way to explain why we are the way we are I would love to hear it.

I would also like to hear how you have explained why you are TG !

[tanyalynn51]

Christina, I hope I am not extending myself to far by including myself in this as a TS, but I tell the few people who know that I was born this way. As a religious person, I say that God made me this way, actually.

[Barbara Jo]

I'm a left handed, middle child with two sisters.
Analyze that! :)

[Kate Simmons]

People who care about you for who you are as a person don't need an explanation Christina.:)

[Barbara Jo]

People who care about you for who you are as a person don't need an explanation Christina.:)

No they don't
However, I suspect that many of us would like one. :)

[carrie-ann]

I just tell people that I've felt this way all my life. That's all I know. All I know is it feels normal for me. It's who I am.

[sissystephanie]

The one thing I haven't seen in any answers here is the real answer. You are a CD because you chose to be! God or any great power may have given you a strong feminine desire at birth, but you are the one who chose to utilize it!! No one forced you to!

I am a CD! I freely admit it! I crossdress because I like to, not because I want to be a woman or for any other reason. I do it simply because I like to mwer feminine clothing!! I CHOOSE to dress enfemme!! So do all the rest of you!! And you all know it, even if you won't admit it!

BTW, I am right handed, but with a rather bad right shoulder have had to learn to use my left hand more!!

[Laurie Ann]

I am a ts who is equally adept with either hand as popeye says I am what I am.I think he might really say I is what I is

[Rianna Humble]

The one thing I haven't seen in any answers here is the real answer. You are a CD because you chose to be!

I'm sorry you choose to over simplify this. If choosing to accept myself rather than commit suicide is your idea of choosing to CD, then you are right. Personally, I would say that it was more like choosing life over death.

[sissystephanie]

Rianna, I am sorry you feel that way! There is no life or death situation in whether or not to become a CD. It has always been, and always will be, a matter of choice!! The feeling may be stronger in some than in others, but it still is a matter of choice!! Your life does not not, or at least should not, enter into the picture in any way. If it does,than there are a lot of other problems involved.

If you have read many of my posts you know that I have been a CD longer than a lot of the people on this forum have been alive! And in that time period I have seen and experienced a great deal of things. I have also talked with numerous therapists, or other supposed experts in the field of Gender problems. All the ones I have talked with agree that CD'ing is purely a matter of individual choice, nothing else!! The feeling may come from birth, but the decision to follow that feeling is the choice of the individual!

I hope we are still friends!!:hugs:

[Shelly67]

Am a left handed psy trance trannie dj .
I rest my case .

[xdbiker]

well Im right handed and when asked by the few that have asked why this is what i tell them If i had the answer Id telll my self first and they would be second to know after that.... Im a Biker at hard along with being a CD so not to many people ask me why they just go OK and Move On .....


There is one Time i rember well a friend that i hadnt seen in some time came to me at a shop i was working at and said Hey so I hear you like to dress like a girl ..Hows that working out for You ? I said its going GREAT and that was the end Of it .... So yeh I am Me and thats just part of me Love me Hate me I am ME and thats It kisses jerzie

[tammygirl79]

I'm a left handed, middle child with two sisters.
Analyze that! :)
Poor girl....you never had a chance did you...lol.

[Danni Bear]

Rhianna,
stephanie is oh so wrong. it can and does cause great turmoil and depression in some not all.and Step. before you can come totally unwound I'm a transitioned Tg 63 year old who cd'ed with wifes support for 30 years before transition
so yes tell them that ask if you want or just say why aren't you? afraid you might like it?

Danni

[lisajane]

ambidextrus and very happy:)

[Naomi Rayne]

When i told one of my close female friends that i was a CDer she told me she had some questions but she wanted some time to think about what she wanted to ask. So after a couple days we hung out and went to a park and sat down and she asked some simple questions about it and one of the things she asked me to do was explain why because she wanted to understand. So i explained in a similar way although much more conversation went on.

So what i did was i said to her "tell me something that you like" So she answered with "well i like to play the guitar" So i responded with "why?" Then i got a generic answer like it makes me feel good and accomplished and other such good feelings. So after her answer i said "well there you go. I do this because i like to and it makes me feel good, but at the same time its a part of who i am."

I had also figured the best way to explain was to let them almost explain it to themselves.

[Jamsey]

I'm left handed, no, I'm right handed, no, I'm left handed, no, I'm right handed. I'm whatever hand I am that is best for the task I'm doing.
I'm one of those ambi people, you know, ambivalent, or ambigious, or ambidextrous, or some kind of ambi.
Can't write with either hand worth a damn, but put me on a keyboard and away I go.
So if I'm so mixed up with what hand I use, why should it be any different with my gender identity?

[NicoleScott]

I'm right-handed. Since I need my good hand to accurately apply lipstick, I do only one thing left-handed.

[Barbara Jo]

Poor girl....you never had a chance did you...lol.

If you knew the full story it would become even clearer about why I became a CD and love being one. :)

[Maryesther M.]

Left handed, but ambidextrous at my work. How does this relate to CD-ing ?

[PretzelGirl]

Left handed, but ambidextrous at my work. How does this relate to CD-ing ?

Something some of us joke about around here. There occassionally will be a post that says something like "are left handers more likely to be a CD" or "are those with their ring finger longer than their middle finger more likely to CD".

[Angiemead12]

Right mostly but depends what needs to be done. I exercise my left hand a lot too. :hugs:

[AmiFL]

very left handed..............

[Charleen]

Pure lefty, not that it matters as far as this thread goes. S.S. might CD because she wants to, but I wear woman's clothing because it's who I am. I can't help it if I know I was born with the wrong plumbing.
Beside, if it's just a choice why do most of us have trouble stopping for any length of time, we all go back to it.

[sissystephanie]

Rhianna,
stephanie is oh so wrong. it can and does cause great turmoil and depression in some not all.and Step. before you can come totally unwound I'm a transitioned Tg 63 year old who cd'ed with wifes support for 30 years before transition
so yes tell them that ask if you want or just say why aren't you? afraid you might like it?

Danni

Danni,

First of all, congratulations on your marriage!!

I do realize being a CD can cause turmoil and maybe even depression in some! But it still is their choice! Unless they were forced to dress enfemme as a child by thier parents. Depression or turmoil comes from within, and is most usually caused by the actions of the individual! That is where the choice comes in. You either choose to do it or not! But you alone make the choice!!

I based my thoughts in my earlier post on many hours spent talking to Therapists and other people who worked on Gender disorders. Some of that talk was treatment for me, but most of it was because I wanted to know more about what CD'ing was and how things were treated.

Hope this makes things a little clearer! BTW, I have 15 years on you in age and started as a CD at age 6!

[Ashleythenewgirl]

right handed dominant but I try to be ambidextrous. Never hurts to exercise both hands

[suchacutie]

This may be the one question that I can answer easily when it comes to my crossing over to the feminine side:

The morning that we discovered Tina and the 48 hours afterwards were pretty amazing. Without discussing it there was a clarity that Tina had been a part of me for 55 years but had not been identified. Once we identified her and started to let her test the waters of being her own person we were completely amazed at who she is. Yet, she has been there all along.

So, Tina exists because she is a part of me, and that part of me has gone misunderstood for almost 6 decades. How can I not want to know who she is, and the best way to do that, by far, is to let her be free to find herself. It's working and we love it!

Oh, btw, I'm right handed as a male, and Tina is mostly left handed.

Neat, huh!

tina

[Christina Horton]

I don't think some of you understand what I'm asking. I am not asking if YOUR right or left handed. That's just the way I explain to non-TGs.

No what I want to know is "how YOU explain to non-TGs why YOU CD.".

Some are just fixated on the title and not on the topic. Lol I was wondering if it was a good or bad title.

So girls let's try this again. "How do you explain to non-TGs why YOU CD?"

[NicoleScott]

I explain to non-TG's that I CD because I'm right-handed.

[sissystephanie]

I don't think some of you understand what I'm asking. I am not asking if YOUR right or left handed. That's just the way I explain to non-TGs.
No what I want to know is "how YOU explain to non-TGs why YOU CD.".
Some are just fixated on the title and not on the topic. Lol I was wondering if it was a good or bad title.
So girls let's try this again. "How do you explain to non-TGs why YOU CD?"

As I said in my earlier posts, I CD because I choose to do so. And so does every other CD on this Forum!

[satincandies]

Write left handed, bat right handed left or right with tools, ambidextris in the kitchen, seem to have more control with lipstick left handed.Youngest child, and introduced to satin lingerie by my mother. I remember as a very young child still sleeping in a crib, being given a blue satin slip to sleep with. I slep with this slip until I was nearly 10 years old, just like a security blanket.

Satincandies:battingeyelashes:

[Annaliese2010]

We all have tryed to explain to non-TGs why we CD. The only way to compair our CDing is to ask them " ok are you right or left handed?" when they say "right" or " left" , I say " ok why"? When they stamer and then say " well I guess I was born that way , but I can't explain why I am". Then I tell them "that's the same with me. I am a CD and can't really say why".Very perspicacious of you! Bravo...

Now if you all have a good way to explain why we are the way we are I would love to hear it.

I would also like to hear how you have explained why you are TG !I think yours is the bestest I've heard. I made a mental note in case I'm ever confronted by some goody 2 shoes - IF I'd even care to respond to such a one that is, as I generally avoid or simply refuse to acknowlege the presence of ppl who annoy me, LOL. Sorry, I know that's mean but...I don't like unnecessary conflict. Too many things to enjoy n do in life! :battingeyelashes:

[Nadia-Maria]

I based my thoughts in my earlier post on many hours spent talking to Therapists and other people who worked on Gender disorders. Some of that talk was treatment for me, but most of it was because I wanted to know more about what CD'ing was and how things were treated.

Hope this makes things a little clearer! BTW, I have 15 years on you in age and started as a CD at age 6!

Also, Sissy, you know the final word about it !
Or at least you claimed you know it. :battingeyelashes:

Anyway the reasons you gave for being right about the matter appear as rather funny :
1. you made complete trust to your psychiatrists
2. you started crossdressing at an early age (while not so early than you may believe)
3. you are older than many people here

These are so funny and irrelevant that you made my day !
Many thanks for entertaining us. :love:

[wanagione]

I'm left handed and i do like your anallogy

[Charisma]

Ambidextrous.

There are things that one hand can do better than the other. I've taught myself how to write a few words with my left hand while writing with the right hand it's easier said then done.

[Christina Horton]

As I said in my earlier posts, I CD because I choose to do so. And so does every other CD on this Forum!

I may choose to CD but the only reason I choose to is the fact that I need to. I want to be treated like a women but not have SRS. So when you say " And so does every other CD on this Forum" that is not fair to the others for you or anyone to speak for them . We all have our own reasons for going out or staying in dressed , but is it really our choose? I'm not so sure about that. I think we are born like this and if we did not express ourselves we might not be long in this world. So would you then make a statement like " a gay person chooses to sleep with a person of there same sex". I know you would not do or think that but when you say that we choose to dress is the same as that.

We may choose to wear women clothes but being a CD can in some cases be JUST a choose but for most I think we were born like and need to be who we are. CDing is fun but if we did not some might not be happy for the rest of there lives. But that just MHO.


Very perspicacious of you! Bravo...


Thanks I ahhhh what? I'm having a blonde mo and can't read that word right. LOL.


I think yours is the bestest I've heard. I made a mental note in case I'm ever confronted by some goody 2 shoes - IF I'd even care to respond to such a one that is, as I generally avoid or simply refuse to acknowlege the presence of ppl who annoy me, LOL. Sorry, I know that's mean but...I don't like unnecessary conflict. Too many things to enjoy n do in life! :battingeyelashes:


Thanks . Its not the jerks that I tell that to but the people who really want to understand why we do CD.


Ambidextrous.

There are things that one hand can do better than the other. I've taught myself how to write a few words with my left hand while writing with the right hand it's easier said then done.

I have been trying to do my left eye with my left hand and am getting better so maybe one day I will be just as good with my left but I doubt it.

[Carole Cross]

I believe that there is a genetic link to the reason why I am TS.
There have been 3 people on my father's side of the family who were born intersexed. There are also some family members who I have never met, they were deemed to 'weird' to be introdused to. It is possible that some of them are crossdressers or TS, 40 years ago that would have been considered weird behaviour.

I have told some of my work collegues about the interesexed people in my family as a means to explain why I an TS.

[Nadia-Maria]

As I said in my earlier posts, I CD because I choose to do so. And so does every other CD on this Forum!

Choice. Dressing is an easy choice and NOT dressing is a really hard choice. I think the question about why we dress isn't about choice or not, but why that choice is so easy or hard.

Only saying that crossdressing is a choice is a rather superficial statement leading about nowhere.

Almost everything we do is a choice. For instance, to eat is a choice because you may do the opposite choice. You can stop eating till your death a few weeks later. Hence, if you eat, this would be because you choose to !

What's funny with the statement quoted above is their author believed to discover something very enlightening. However she goes on ignoring why Dressing is for us an easy choice, while it would be the hard choice for other people. :battingeyelashes:

[Lexine]

Right-handed!

But that's not really what the thread is all about ;)

The way I explained my CDing to people is that it's like playing a role. I'm essentially me, but my outer facade is different. My mannerisms and voice change, but I'm definitely the same person with simliar interests, sexual orientation, hobbies, likes and dislikes, and ambitions.

When people still don't understand it, I tell them that we play a role everyday. We are workers, sons, daughters, fathers, mothers, students, and friends. This role is just in addition to the many roles I play, and is in fact a "modifier role" which then changes other people's responses to me. In a way, it's a way of control that only a few people are gifted to have, but it's also something that a huge number people are wrestling with.

If they STILL don't get it, I surprise them by hanging out with them as Lexi. My success rate with this tactic has been about 200% so far and people start "getting it" as soon as I interact with anyone outside my immediate social circle.

[Dee Model]

I'm not especially concerned about how this state of affairs came about...ie my being a bisexual cross-dresser.

Fact is I feel I ought to be free to express this aspect of my persona without fear of bigotry.

Unfortunately, most people have a pretty narrow view of what consitutes male/female traits, aspects of self and so called 'normal behaviour' (whatever the hell that is). Most people, regrettably, are sheep. They just want to be like everyone else, and anyone who doesn't fit into their little box for assignation is automatically suspect. This kind of thinking is classically indicative of a limited imagination.

Cross-dressers are naturally on the edge of society...something misunderstood, oft-derided and ridiculed or worse offered up as a pathetic parody (of the femme aspect) for idiot male stag weekends etc.

For myself...I'm glad to be on the edge. In the immortal words of Reverend and the Makers...'If you're not living on the edge, you take up too much room'.

True freedom and self-expression is almost impossible in, as we are, the dark ages of human culture. Perhaps in a hundred years we will have progressed such that what matters is what kind of person you are...not as a candidate for judgement by virtue of your proclivities.

To end, a quote.

"This world will never be free until the last politician has been strangled with the guts of the last priest." Voltaire

Yeah, I'm a radical and a free-thinker.

[Juanita O]

I am left handed

[sometimes_miss]

Hmmm; I'm clumbsy with both hands. What does that make me? But I write (alright, scribble) with my right hand, kick with my left foot, left eye dominant, and catch with whatever glove is available. Learned to use my left hand to dribble so I could drive left under the basket.
Other stuff:
Sissystephanie wrote:

The one thing I haven't seen in any answers here is the real answer. You are a CD because you chose to be!
I disagree. I don't think many people choose to want to do this. Besides, we are crossdressers whether we actually do it or not. Much the same as alcoholics are alcoholics whether they drink or not. I don't think the majority of the population goes through all day feeling like they're in the wrong clothes, and suppressing the desire to wear outfits of the opposite sex.


There is no life or death situation in whether or not to become a CD
Maybe not for some, but there is for some of us a tremendous amount of stress involved in holding off the desire to crossdress; I become grumpy, short tempered, more forgetful, can't sleep, the list goes on and on. I would imagine for some it would come to suicidal ideation. So, yes, for some, it's a life or death situation.

[Christina Horton]

Hmmm; I'm clumbsy with both hands. What does that make me? But I write (alright, scribble) with my right hand, kick with my left foot, left eye dominant, and catch with whatever glove is available. Learned to use my left hand to dribble so I could drive left under the basket.
Other stuff:
Sissystephanie wrote:

I disagree. I don't think many people choose to want to do this. Besides, we are crossdressers whether we actually do it or not. Much the same as alcoholics are alcoholics whether they drink or not. I don't think the majority of the population goes through all day feeling like they're in the wrong clothes, and suppressing the desire to wear outfits of the opposite sex.


Maybe not for some, but there is for some of us a tremendous amount of stress involved in holding off the desire to crossdress; I become grumpy, short tempered, more forgetful, can't sleep, the list goes on and on. I would imagine for some it would come to suicidal ideation. So, yes, for some, it's a life or death situation.

Well I think that says it all. You hit the nail on the head. But it's neat to see all the reasons people tell themselves why they do CD.

As we get older and more or less int CDing our outlook into ourselves change and in ten years will yours be the same as it is now?

[christiek]

Wait what day is it? I think I'm right handed today .. .

Very creative! I'm going to have to remember that one!

[BiancaEstrella]

I'm left-handed and the younger of two boys. (I should also add that I have few female cousins.) I write better on a chalkboard with my right hand, and nobody knows why that is -- especially when they see me write right-handed on paper.

[AKAMichelle]

Not a bad way of explaining it.

[Christina Horton]

Still people are stuck on the right hand left hand thing. As I said I'm not looking to see if your right or left handed just want to know how you explain to others WHY....

I think I made a mistake on the title. Next time I will think better on that.

[Imogen_Mann]

I don't explain why I am a cross-dresser, and I don't expect people to ask me. Maybe I'm lucky to move in circles where it would be unthinkable to pose the question.

The only person who asks me why I cross-dress already knows but can't for the life of her articulate the feelings and reasons behind it. And she... is me.

[Patty B.]

I like your way of explaining cd, makes perfect sense to me.

[Christina Horton]

I like your way of explaining cd, makes perfect sense to me.

I'm glad you like it and your welcome to use it when ever you want to. I won't even charge ya Ha Ha Ha.

[kimdl93]

I'm actually just sort of ambidextrous. I can do some things - like shooting a Baskeball, better lefty than right. If there's a connection, it figures that I'd be somewhere in between!

[Brianna in Hose]

I am naturally left handed but and fairly ambidextrous when it comes to many activities. I can write, shoot a basketball, shoot firearms and do many other activities either left handed or right.

[Kathryn Martin]

I am ambidextrous. Why? because that is the way I am.

I am CD. Why? because that is the way I am.

I am TG. Why? because that is the way I am.

My constitutional makeup just happens to endow me with all of these wonderful traits. In fact, I am a princess not a beggar!

The only choice I make in all of this is who gets to see and benefit from all of this. If you have a gift, and I actually consider my traits a gift, then it is up to me to use them.

I have throughout my professional life used my gift to the advantage of those that I provide a service to. Not dressed, not made up, all in drab yet always present. Those who love me, love me because I have all of those gifts and know that I am very feminine. It is a going joke in my office that I am not a real man. When people say that to me (and they have said it openly) they mean is as a compliment not as a put down.

And so I can say I am feminine because that is the way I am.

[Christina Horton]

I'm actually just sort of ambidextrous. I can do some things - like shooting a Baskeball, better lefty than right. If there's a connection, it figures that I'd be somewhere in between!


I am naturally left handed but and fairly ambidextrous when it comes to many activities. I can write, shoot a basketball, shoot firearms and do many other activities either left handed or right.


I don't know why but people are missing the whole point of my thread? I want to know how you explain why you CD not if your right or left handed.

[Leyna]

:heehee:

[busker]

It's sweet which ever hand I use. Eh!!!Just kidding!!! I guess that's one explanation, but as a human being I do have some choice in the matter and at the present time, I CHOOSE to do this--there were many years that I did not let myself enjoy this part of me and I understand why--it can be damned costly and requires a lot of extra closet space, not only for the clothes but for a place to hide myself.
Best to you Christina.

[Christina Horton]

it can be damned costly and requires a lot of extra closet space, not only for the clothes but for a place to hide myself.
Best to you Christina.

Ya well I had to leave the closet because of the dam dust bunnies :swear::bunny::bunny:.....they are the biggest bullies in the world. Yes I know I'm week but I ran and now I can and would never go back in. There little brutes... Once in a while they comment on something i put on from my closet but not with any vigor. Since they don't have me as there bitch they have all but given up . LOL.

I wish you luck and hope you to will get out of the reach of the bulling dust bunnies in your closet.

[Emma England]

I crossdress because womens clothes are nicer than mens.

The majority of both right or left handers are not crossdressers.

[Juanita O]

I am a lefty

[Christina Horton]

I crossdress because womens clothes are nicer than mens.

Aman to that sister.


The majority of both right or left handers are not crossdressers.
Not sure what you mean....could you explain further please:idontknow: Not sure what you mean....must be having a blonde moment(why don't they have a smile for that...like the blonde mo?)

[Julogden]

It has always been, and always will be, a matter of choice!! The feeling may be stronger in some than in others, but it still is a matter of choice!! Your life does not not, or at least should not, enter into the picture in any way. If it does,than there are a lot of other problems involved.
Yes, we choose whether or not to act on who we are, but I maintain that what's inside determines whether one is a CD/TS/whatever, not how we react to the realization of who we are. If a person wanted to dress, but never did, they would still be a crossdresser, in my book.

So, while the decision as to whether to act on being a crossdresser is a choice, you have no choice regarding WANTING to crossdress, and I think that, more than how you decide to react to wanting to crossdress, is what makes you a crossdresser, or transsexual or whatever. :2c:


I don't know why but people are missing the whole point of my thread? I want to know how you explain why you CD not if your right or left handed.

Let's face it, we're generally a self-absorbed bunch, and it's clear that many didn't really bother to read your original posting. They just want to talk about themselves.

Can you tell I'm in a cynical mood this morning? ;)

Carol

[KellyKream]

I just like the way it makes me feel.

[suchacutie]

I completely agree with Carol, and that whole idea of choice started bouncing around in my head. To be honest, everything we do is a matter of choice, no matter how pressured we feel. There are always alternatives, but after weighing the options we then make a choice. Ok, the choice in some cases might not be great (the best of a pile of bad alternatives), but it is a choice.

For those of us who lived much of our lives without understanding about our feminine selves, this choice to acknowledge that side of us came when we were already mature. I was 55. It was a bit of silly fun, but suddenly there I was walking toward my wife with enough feminine attire to ensure that I was clearly presenting as a women (badly, but presenting) from the neck down. It could have ended right there. One negative word from my wife and I'm sure the whole thing would have been put away as a bad experiment, never to be tried again.

Clearly the negative word never appeared, and the choice to explore that side of me that had always been lurking in the background began. Why is there a feminine side? As we've all said in this thread, that's how we were born. Why do we investigate this side of us...that's a different story. For those of us who lived many years without understanding who we really were, that feminine side has help mold who we are. Once one stands back and understands this simple fact, the need to identify and examine that feminine side is, well, an obsession. Who doesn't want to know who they are? Ok, I could choose to shut it down, I guess, but why in the world would I do that (okok, so Tina is incredibly high maintenance and it takes time, money, and an incredible amount of effort to "be" Tina)? Why would I want to stop understanding my wife better (after all, as she explains about being a woman I learn ever more about what it's like to be my wife!)? Why would I want to stop knowing better who I am? Yes, I expect some external catastrophy could shut down Tina by eliminating the time she takes to exist, but the genie is out of the bottle and at some level that genie just waits patiently and is never quite totally gone.

How do I explain this to those around me? I don't. Frankly, it's none of their business :). To me, Tina is personal. In another thread I mentioned that I have no need to dilute my male side to the friends and family who only know my male side. Let Tina make her own friends, and those friends don't need to know my male side, either. Of course, those who know my male side get their piece of Tina as they always have. It makes my wife and I smile! :)

Tina!

[Rianna Humble]

I completely agree with Carol, and that whole idea of choice started bouncing around in my head. To be honest, everything we do is a matter of choice, no matter how pressured we feel. There are always alternatives, but after weighing the options we then make a choice. Ok, the choice in some cases might not be great (the best of a pile of bad alternatives), but it is a choice.

And sometimes, the choice we make is Hobson's Choice.

For me the alternatives boiled down to 1 of 3:

1) Accept who I am and stop fighting so hard
2) Continue to sink deeper into depression and continue to feel sick every time I dressed as a man
3) End my life

It is easy to see that option 2 is the least good, so then it comes down to a choice of live or die.

But SS & co are right - it is still a choice. For a long time, the choice between 1 and 3 hung in the balance and could have gone either way, but it is still true that I could have chosen not to cross-dress away from my anatomical gender. Trouble is that the alternative doesn't leave much room for finding out later that it was the wrong choice. I can still change my mind if I want to. I could stop cross-dressing permanently if I chose option 3.

[Jason+]

Yes, we choose whether or not to act on who we are, but I maintain that what's inside determines whether one is a CD/TS/whatever, not how we react to the realization of who we are. If a person wanted to dress, but never did, they would still be a crossdresser, in my book.

So, while the decision as to whether to act on being a crossdresser is a choice, you have no choice regarding WANTING to crossdress, and I think that, more than how you decide to react to wanting to crossdress, is what makes you a crossdresser, or transsexual or whatever. :2c:



Let's face it, we're generally a self-absorbed bunch, and it's clear that many didn't really bother to read your original posting. They just want to talk about themselves.

Can you tell I'm in a cynical mood this morning? ;)

Carol

Christina, a fantastic question and I'll do my best to answer well.

Carol, someone years ago described my personality as cynical, sarcastic bordering on downright caustic. I simply said thank you, and have done nothing to change it since. :D I think you got straight to the heart of the matter and it matches what I believe. I have used my analogy to cover topics from CD to sexuality.

I ask what your most favorite flavor of ice cream is and your least favorite. Imagine that I put a bowl of each in front of you. Which bowl you pick up is where I agree with SissyStephanie and is absolutely your choice. Which bowl you truly want to pick up isn't so easy. It's as simply complex as that. I can apply enough conditioning to get you to tell me the flavor answer I want to hear to avoid further conditioning but I can't make it true or what you truly want.