christiek
08-04-2010, 05:51 PM
As I stated in my introduction I am a MtF TS age 25 and have been living full time for the past 7 years (since I was 18). One of the biggest issues I am having at this point in my life is that since I have been living full time for so long everything is blurring together. I am constantly looking at myself and thinking "is this really feminine or is it too masculine" about many things. Walk, talk, body language in general, and just how I carry myself. I guess in a way being TS I don't wanna over do it as I don't have a feeling of pleasure of sorts when just being feminine (its more just the norm now) but at the same time I don't want to get read or even outed. Tho sometimes it happens anyways (mainly bc of my voice). It seems to me these days the more I focus on what I'm doing the more I do wrong. Like being nervous on stage. If you are nervous people can tell and most likely you will mess up. If you are confident then you are less likely to mess up. There are things I still feel that I need to work on. Yet it is hard to work on these things alone.
Voice for example. I have some hearing problems in certain ranges. So no matter how convincing my voice is it still sounds off to me. Yet it doesn't matter if I'm with friends and I'm either making fun of one of them or making fun of a man on tv or the radio I still hear my own feminine voice in my head (I guess its just my interpretation of what I think I should sound like) as I speak or even if I am just thinking. I have been told many many times over that I can pass 100% as long as I don't open my mouth. My own mother has even said "when you do talk theres no telling what type of voice you will have at times." That really makes me think about what I need to do tho I feel like sometimes theres nothing I can do.
Its kinda the same thing with walking and body language. As far as body language is concerned; I still do things that are considered more traditionally male but a lot of females are doing it these days as well. It doesn't help that most of my GG friends are quite a bit more masculine than I am. Since you pick up on things your friends do and say and even the way they talk. People in general tend to do this and emulate others in that way. Whether male or female doesn't matter much.
Unfortunately for me right now I don't have my best friend living close to me (actually right now I'm on vacation in FL so she wouldn't be anyways) She used to help keep me in line if I did something I shouldn't. Without her I feel lost . . .
So is there anyone else out there that is feeling like everything is just blurring together?
Also here are some pics of me in case you were wondering . . .
First one the colors are off but i like how it came out . . .
http://i565.photobucket.com/albums/ss96/Dreammodel_24/LayingInTheGrassOnMyBack-1.jpg
http://i565.photobucket.com/albums/ss96/Dreammodel_24/InTheGrass.jpg
http://i565.photobucket.com/albums/ss96/Dreammodel_24/SittingontheSteps.jpg
and heres an older one
http://i565.photobucket.com/albums/ss96/Dreammodel_24/Thedress.jpg
Voice for example. I have some hearing problems in certain ranges. So no matter how convincing my voice is it still sounds off to me. Yet it doesn't matter if I'm with friends and I'm either making fun of one of them or making fun of a man on tv or the radio I still hear my own feminine voice in my head (I guess its just my interpretation of what I think I should sound like) as I speak or even if I am just thinking. I have been told many many times over that I can pass 100% as long as I don't open my mouth. My own mother has even said "when you do talk theres no telling what type of voice you will have at times." That really makes me think about what I need to do tho I feel like sometimes theres nothing I can do.
Its kinda the same thing with walking and body language. As far as body language is concerned; I still do things that are considered more traditionally male but a lot of females are doing it these days as well. It doesn't help that most of my GG friends are quite a bit more masculine than I am. Since you pick up on things your friends do and say and even the way they talk. People in general tend to do this and emulate others in that way. Whether male or female doesn't matter much.
Unfortunately for me right now I don't have my best friend living close to me (actually right now I'm on vacation in FL so she wouldn't be anyways) She used to help keep me in line if I did something I shouldn't. Without her I feel lost . . .
So is there anyone else out there that is feeling like everything is just blurring together?
Also here are some pics of me in case you were wondering . . .
First one the colors are off but i like how it came out . . .
http://i565.photobucket.com/albums/ss96/Dreammodel_24/LayingInTheGrassOnMyBack-1.jpg
http://i565.photobucket.com/albums/ss96/Dreammodel_24/InTheGrass.jpg
http://i565.photobucket.com/albums/ss96/Dreammodel_24/SittingontheSteps.jpg
and heres an older one
http://i565.photobucket.com/albums/ss96/Dreammodel_24/Thedress.jpg