Look who's here!

[Stephanie Miller]

I was looking at all the wonderful looking gals in the photo section. I've also read a lot of the threads why people don't post pictures, add a photo avatar and all that. Now I haven't gone back through the past threads to see if it has been brought up before because I thought even if it has, it needs to be brought again to the attention of the new girls here how well managed our site is.
Question: How many girls that have put thier picture up have had a negative response by an outsider they knew, seeing it and recognizing them? If they have, was the photo in a membes only area - or in the general public area?
I know a lot of girls would like to share themselves, but are affraid. I have never had anyone I know mention seeing me. And I enjoy sharing my photos in my albums with the group, and take what tips they give me to better my presentation with pleasure.
But just because I have not received negative, doesn't mean someone else hasn't. Thoughts or experiences people?.....

[CATgirldo]

Actually,
I use an avatar because it's prettier than I am and because I'm afraid any photo might travel the world via the internet. I haven't ever had a negative comment but just want to point out that there are other reasons there might not be a photo. HOWEVER. I DO plan to set up a photo whn I get a decent one. I'm working on it, I promise.


CAT

[kimdl93]

Steph,

Let me start by saying I wish I was as pretty and naturally fem as you are. I have a long ways to go.

so far no one has "seen me" on line. I have put myself out there on another site, and the responses were surprisingly positive. If I weren't married already, I may have followed up 0n some of those responses :)

[Tara1967]

I do feel that people should post at least an avatar of themselves on here. I'm not quite saying that we all are proud of ourselves and some us may be proud, but none of us should be ashamed of ourselves. But when we are talking and corresponding with others, it is good if we can at least put a face with whom we are talking.
Love Tara

[AKAMichelle]

Nothing negative here. If I am worried about someone recognizing me from the photo then I don't post it. The biggest reason that I don't post pictures a lot yet, is that I feel like a big fat whale. When my body image improves then you won't be able to stop me from posting pictures.

[StaceyJane]

If one of the soldiers I work with mentioned they saw a pic of me online I would have to ask them how they found that pic.

Of course that might be a violation of don't ask don't tell.

[vikki2020]

I'm not sure if anyone would recognize me, but if they did, well, I' don't think I would be all that concerned. I've been on hot or not since last year, and at first I thought, someone is going to see me for sure, but I guess not! I thought they would recognize the background,at the least. Or, if so, no one's saying anything! It just may be that I want to get seen? Force me to open that door!

[AllieSF]

Tara, I am proud of who I am and definitely not ashamed of snything relsted to who I am, and I do not post many pics nor do I have an avatar pic and probably won't. You say that you understand that some people have a lot to lose if they are "discovered/outed" if someone that they do not want to see their pics does. Then you basically say that even though you understand their reasons you still think that those same people should post at least an avatar pic to satisfy your personal need to "know them better". I guess that I do not understand why you cannot accept someone else's reason as valid and not try to put pressure on them to post a pic when you yourself recognize that it could have significant negative impact on them, their family and future, including employment. Maybe that is not your intent, but that is what I read in your post.

In my case, I have decided not to post an avatar pic and have only posted a very few pics in select threads started by good friends of mine. I appreciate that it can be nice to be able to put a pic/face with a post or PM. But remember, that a some of the pics in some avatars are of someone else. One way to get to know someone is to read their past posts. However, when someone's current life as they know it now may be at risk because they post a pic, only they should be the one to make the decision and no one should be pressuring them to do so just to make them feel better about reading their posts. Many here are sensitive to the comments of others and can be easily influenced to do something that they were not yet ready to do. Someone came out to their wife recently based on pressure from posts here to "come out" to the SO. That did not have good results.

Now to the OP's questions.

I have not had any negative response from anyone to the few pics that I have posted so far. However, someone here that looks like a very sexy GG and is now doing some modeling as a TG had her pic copied from this site and then posted in a CraigsList ad without her knowing about it. I sent her a copy of the ad, which she appreciated. As everyone says including the Mods/Admins, you post a profile, text and pics at your own risk. This is far from a secure site for privacy.

[jazmine]

No problems as of yet...(knock 0n wood). Now watch tomorrow it'll all come crashing down and burn me.

[erickka]

I have a real problem with anything that has to do with the internet. There are just too many screwballs with nothing better to do than wreck people's lives electronically. I do not exchange ANY personal information for ANY reason at ANY time over the net. I just dont need any more avenues to be paved for these kind of people to take advantage of.

[Gerrijerry]

I have never had a problem with my avatar being me. But I am so lazy I normally don't take photos. Being a part time photo bug The last person I would take photos of would be me. Not that I don't like taking photos but I am such a plain basic overweight person well you get the idea. As for being afraid that someone would see my photo. Never had a problem with that. I always assume someone sooner or later will see it that I know. Just been luck so far I guess. Besides like others have said if they are on this site kind of tells you something about both of us.

[Tara1967]

Allie,I appologize. I've done some rethinking about this since I woke up this morning. I agree and to each their own as to why they do not post pics. Some will post for various reasons and some do not post pics for good reasons. I admit, I was not thinking very clearly at the time I posted above. I also appolgize to all for I have re-thought my position. Love and respect to all
Tara

[Rogina B]

I am one that doesn't understand why people don't put their picture up...I have never gotten a negative comment from it...I show my Fl state ID card a lot as well to "out " myself to accepting and non accepting people...Never had anything bad come from any of it.If they like us as boys,what is wrong with liking us as girls?:2c:

[SherriePall]

I have never had any problems. In fact, I have never had any feedback from this forum except by the other members of it. I feel a bit more secure here than other sites which anyone can get onto and view pics. Some of our members are on some of those sites.
While I really wish I could join one group in particular, I can not because it is too accessible by the general public.

Or course, it goes without saying that the viewer would have to recognize me out of the thousands of girls here. And they really couldn't find me by my name, so I think the odds are in my favor (wish they were at the casino).

[bianca66]

I had a male associate of mine hit on me on Myspace...As Murphy would have it, he shows up at a meeting the next day. He never recognized the fact that he was e-mail chatting with me. I wanted to ask him at the function so you like crossdressers :heehee: but since he thought he was chatting with a woman that would have confused the heck out of him...

I think the odds of a friend or associate finding you on crossdressers.com would be rare, unless your friends like crossdressers and are looking for a date.

After that encounter I realized that I look different enough fem and started posting more pictures. Most people are not expecting me to be a crossdresser or searching me out for evidence...Most people do not know about crossdressers.com since they have no interest in crossdressers.

[Vieja]

I use an Avatar because it was easy to install. I have four pics of me enfemme, none of them at all attractive, but I would put one in as Avatar if I could figure out how to get it sized properly and then installed as Avatar.

I am the type of computer expert that can never download or install anything right the first time.


Vieja

[docrobbysherry]

Most recently, a T girl who lives across the US from me said it was, "fate that we be together"!:eek:

I explained how Sherry wasn't real. But, the Tgirl insists she KNEW the REAL ME and had seen pics of me without my masks!
Which is impossible! As I have ALWAYS dressed with them!:brolleyes:

I keep imagining coming home from work and finding her sitting on my front porch!:sad:

[Inna]

I love celebrating my voyage of self discovery with everyone like minded and even devoted whole website to it, I experience about 20,000 views per month and never ever did I get negative or demurring note, although said that I probably will receive one tomorrow :D.

Also for all those girls who think of them selves as less of a looker because this or that, I have a website devoted to enhancement of facial symmetry and femininity called VFFS( virtual face feminisation surgery). I have established it specifically for those girls who would love to share their face with the world but are afraid of not being good enough, coincidentally so thinks half the earths population.
So there is no reason anyone should be reluctant to have their real Avatar next to their words, and if I can make their face look like what they feel within then I take pride in doing so.

[Victoria Anne]

I have never had any negative responses to my photo's and on my photo bucket I have pictures of me in drab as well . I did not realize at first that my fears were paranoid and now I do post pics without fear and if by some chance someone does recognize me well then they do and I will deal with it then.

[Elsa Larson]

Anyone fwho recognizes you on this forum is probably a sister.
A few might be admirers or chasers.
In any case, I think this is a safe place to post pix.

[Philipa Jane]

Hi all
I did not put up my photo because I was showing my wife many of the posts that I had written and knew she would have been upset to see PJ.

My photo is on my profile for all to see (such as it is).
I did have concerns originally about privacy but it's only you girls here and who are you going to tell that knows me..

The other thing is my new found acceptance of myself and anybody that has a problem with it can "go forth an multiply"lol
PJ

[Stephanie Miller]

So far so good. Only one out of all that posted so far. And I would like to confirm that Sherry's follower was indeed because of this website- or was it another? Also it looks like it was someone that is in the CD/TS/TG gender circle and not your ordinary Joe Q. Public that may know you from the office, next door or a family member like many are worried about.

Kim you're a sweetheart to say such nice things. I look at me and think it's time to get your glasses checked :heehee:

Vieja if you need help in getting your picture sized, drop me a PM and I'll see if I can help.

[sonna]

i want to post a picture latter. but i never get enuff time to get
dressed and makeup at the same time.

[leggylisa]

don't do it they are watching!

[charlie]

Hello Stephanie!
Seeing the pretty girl in your avatar I'm sure is not the guy underneath that people know. Nobody would recognize you anyway.....even if they did know you. I have sat with people dressed in a bar and talked with them for hours dressed as Charlie. A day later I came in and sat down with them and they asked if they knew me from somewhere. We just do not look or seem the same. Also, what are the chances of someone even looking for you here on a CD forum?

[PretzelGirl]

When I first came on here, I planned to only put pictures in passworded areas. So no avatar and nothing in M2F. Now that I have been around a bit, I don't think I am worried about it. I just don't put many pictures up because they stink! :heehee:

But I do want to leave my avatar as it is. I think there is a recognition factor there. When I read a post from Babs1250, I may not relate it to past posts and remember something about that person. But if my peripheral vision picks up that avatar that has always been there, then I remember. So posters with a consistent avatar does help me as my memory is triggered by the visual.

[Dee Baker]

Stephanie,

I have also seen many pictures of “wonderful looking gals” in the photo section.
I have posted my picture as an avatar however it doesn’t show my face, I would like to get a new wig and take some better photos before posting a full photo in either the photo section or in updating my avatar.

I have been somewhat apprehensive about posting out of concerns that you have mentioned here.
Thank you for being a leader here and demonstrating that we really have little to be concerned about when posting our photo on this site.

BTW I think you look fabulous in your photos.

Dee

[Danni Bear]

it's scary to do. but then again it's freeing

Danni :)

[dominique]

I deleted mine after my wife found out was in blind panic then. But have put it back up becaue if any body sees me dressed on line then they have a lot of explaining to do as well. That's how I look at it.