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Danielle Austin
08-11-2010, 02:20 AM
So I few days ago I was in Dallas for a short trip. I’ve always wanted to venture outside dressed, but have never felt comfortable doing it in my hometown, for fear of seeing somebody I know. It’s a real pity, since Austin is probably as good a place as any in terms of acceptance of gender diversity.

Anyway, I decided that a little distance from home would be a good opportunity for me to take my first steps outside. I had no great adventure planned, but instead only a trip to the Cedar Springs neighborhood for a walk on Sunday evening. I checked into my hotel and got dressed. “What would Danielle wear on a casual Sunday evening?” I decided on simple Calvin Klein T-shirt, a pair of low rise jeans, and my awesome new wedge sandals. This is only the second time in my life I’ve put on makeup. It took a lot of time and never really looked great. It’s a start, I guess. My toes looked good though. I took a few pictures to commemorate the event. While talking the pictures, I realized that I was smiling for the camera. “I don’t know how to smile for the camera”, I thought. It turns out Danielle knows how to smile for the camera. Who knew? I didn’t since I’d never taken a photo of Danielle’s face before.

After a few minutes of pictures, I grabbed my keys and got ready to walk out the door. As soon as I reached for the door knob, I heard somebody in the hall of the hotel, I froze. My heart raced and I came about 5 seconds away from giving up. Instead, I took a deep breath, opened the door, closed it behind me and started walking down the hall. Down the stairs, and out the door to the parking lot.

Outside! The hot Texas summer evening probably called for a skirt instead. I didn’t care, my jeans still felt great. I walked to my car and climbed inside. I turned on the radio and the Katy Perry song, “California Gurls” was just beginning. I smiled, again. Actually, I started crying…really just a few tears rolling down my cheeks. I think I was still a bit taken back by the feeling of the smile on my face. Back to driving…. It turns out that driving in 3.5” heels requires a little adjustment. All the angles are different. Needless to say I was extra careful on the 15 minute drive to Cedar Springs. When I arrived in the neighborhood, I flirted with the idea of going to one of the clubs, but really felt no interest in going alone. I kept my original plan for simple walk around. The neighborhood was not super crowded, since it was Sunday, but there were still plenty of people out and about.

I just walked and enjoyed the summer evening. I didn’t talk to anybody but I didn’t hide from anybody either. I just walked and smiled. I definitely felt self-conscious, but not so much that it was frightening. Step by step, I felt more and more like I cared less and less about exactly what people saw or thought. After 20 minutes or so I had completed a large loop back to my car.
Satisfied with myself, I drove back to my hotel. Upon arriving, I remembered that they locked the side entrances in the evening. I had no choice but to walk in the front door and through the lobby. I was actually a little excited when I realized it. There was a group of 4 men checking in just as I entered the lobby. I could see a couple of them turn and look towards me, but I just kept walking and smiled….down the hallway, up the elevator an back to my room.

I realize it’s a pretty underwhelming adventure for so many on this board, but it was still very special for me. Before I took off my makeup, I decided to take a few more pictures of a few different outfits. I'll post them in the Pictures Gallery.

CallMeMeg
08-11-2010, 06:23 AM
Underwhelmed? What did you expect? You wanted to go for a walk, and decided to be yourself doing it.

Life is good.

victoriamwilliams1
08-11-2010, 06:27 AM
What a great adventure you had:) I will get easier as you can tell each time. Also you look great!

erickka
08-11-2010, 06:32 AM
on getting up the courage to just do it! I think you looked pretty darn good in your outfit.

Gerrijerry
08-11-2010, 06:40 AM
Please that is not a small thing you did. Going out for those steps is very hard and I think you did wonderful. Glad to hear everything went so well. Oh your photos are great.

Samantha Girl
08-11-2010, 06:46 AM
Don't underplay your accomplishment Danielle! ;) It's a big deal for everyone of us who wants to and takes the leap of going out en femme! Congratulations!

The other night me & my girl were leaving our apartment for a night out, me dressed to the nines and there were some people and a few kids outside. I froze momentarily, afraid to walk out despite the fact that I've gone out about a dozen times now and am feeling more confident. My girl waited a second and said "walk out the door and follow me to the car, it'll be fine" I did and it was! :D

Marcia Blue
08-11-2010, 06:50 AM
Way to go girl. Sounds like you had a lovely time. The first time for me was the hardest also. Every time from now on will be easier, as will the makeup.

AKAMichelle
08-11-2010, 09:44 AM
Underwhelming nothing. That's how many of us started. I was more of the terrified one at first. You did great. It is hard to get started and you did it. Congratulations. BTW, you looked great.

carolinoakland
08-11-2010, 10:44 AM
So what was the lesson learned here? The world didn't come to an end, people didn't turn and scream, and you found out that you CAN smile. Dani might be the one showed it to you, but you can too. And I bet you couldn't wipe the smile of self satisfaction off your face the whole next day! Good experience, good confidence builder, and you DO have a great smile. Use it to your advantage...

kimdl93
08-11-2010, 10:50 AM
I'm impressed - you have more courage than I do. BTW you look great!

carhill2mn
08-11-2010, 04:40 PM
I am not sure what you mean by "underwhelmed". I suppose it depends upon what your expectations were. Virtually no one of whom I am aware felt "underwhelmed" from their first few ventures out while en femme.

SusanLCD
08-11-2010, 05:25 PM
Thank you so much for sharing this with us and for reminding us of what we all felt during our first time out.

I, also, was walking in the Cedar Springs area, recently. (Saturday night) Maybe we passed each other on the sidewalks. The excitement of the area and the partying crowds was all the more intoxicating with the enjoyment of our freedom to present in that way.

You will probably begin to prefer going out to staying in your home, now. You've seen that there are no "pervert police" waiting to scoop you up and embarass you in public. In fact, most people don't even notice. So, there is no reason to stay inside any longer.

There are many of us in the DFW area. Maybe we can experience it together on a future trip.

iloveps
08-11-2010, 07:04 PM
I loved your story! I live near dallas and am yet to go out. Its nice to know that people treated you well. I love the jacket you were wearing too!

Susan4
08-11-2010, 07:22 PM
with going for a walk and having fun. Your story is not underwhelming ... it's a tribute to doing the things you want to do ... dressed how you want to dress.

Jeans was the perfect choice ... you look just like anyone else out for a walk.

Stay well ... hugs
Susan

kimdl93
08-11-2010, 07:32 PM
A few years ago, I would have told you that I would never dare "step outside" the privacy of my own yard with even a hint of feminine attire. I have been taking baby steps for several years - first underdressing, wearing tights/stocking with open toe sandals, etc. But in recent months, partly by learning from the experiences of others on this site, I've grown more adventurous...wearing bras & forms under jackets, women's tops and a touch of make up. My only fully dressed "outings" have been out to my mail box or watering plants in the evening. I hope to grow the courage to go out for a stroll en femme in the near future.

your story is helping me build that resolve

KristinSkye
08-11-2010, 07:48 PM
First off, you look fantastic, I love the outfit ;)

And secondly thank you for sharing. As someone who still hasn't gone out in public I was everything but underwhelmed by the time I finished reading. Like Kim said, its from the daring people like you sharing your experiences that help the rest of us build up courage.

Angiemead12
08-11-2010, 07:50 PM
Underwhelmed? Thats still a big accomplishment! Good on you for going out:hugs:

PretzelGirl
08-11-2010, 09:57 PM
Nothing underwhelming about your first time out. This is the foundation. This is what will get you going. Now that you have tasted that freedom nothing may feel underwhelming again!

Freddy12
08-12-2010, 08:52 AM
I want to join everyone else by saying that your adventure was in no way underwhelming. It was a fantastic step for you, and helped build your self-confidence. It will without a doubt lead to more adventures, and more self-confidence. Congratulations!

Jennifer Marie P.
08-12-2010, 09:03 AM
Congratulations on getting your courage.You will love it and it gets easier.

Paula Siemen
08-12-2010, 09:12 AM
Congratulations, I hope you had a fabulous time in Dallas. It's really a pretty cool place to cd. I'm thrilled you first real outing went so well. Really, you should have dropped into one of the places just for a drink.

I hope this is your new beginning and that you get to come back to Dallas soon and often.

Paula.

Daenna Paz
08-12-2010, 10:05 AM
[QUOTE=Danielle Austin;2231726]After a few minutes of pictures, I grabbed my keys and got ready to walk out the door. As soon as I reached for the door knob, I heard somebody in the hall of the hotel, I froze. My heart raced and I came about 5 seconds away from giving up.

At times that door is 10 feet tall and weighs 3 tons, doesn't it! LOL!!!
Congratulations on your outing ... you look great.

Marissa
08-12-2010, 11:33 AM
Hello Danielle, I want to say we have somewhat similiar 'first outing' adventure.. :)

I spent a weekend at a Dallas hotel for Valentines Day 2009 (alone..sniff..sniff). Only I went out that night clubbing (only having gone to a local small bar once in Fort Worth) and had a great time knowing i wasn't the only one.

The next day, I decided to go out to grab lunch..so a white top, short jean skirt, and low boot..grabbed my purse and off i went.. stopping by the reception desk to show the counter girl my look as I had promised her the day before when i check-in in drab as we had a conversation about dressing.. she was amazed..and inspirational to me.. :daydreaming:

so off i went in the same area you spoke of.. found a sandwich shop.. ordered.. yes i was the only cd with mostly gay and lesbians (and maybe one straight person..lol). Took my order and decided to sit outside to enjoy the fresh air.. it was great.. no pointing fingers or double takes.. walked around and then later back to the hotel to get rested for another night out.. :D

I have yet to go to an everyday (hmm not sure why i used that term) cafe and grab lunch while dressed.. a big step for me.. :eek:

Good luck in your future ventures :D