Why I lost my sex drive?

[KathyC]

Hello ladies,
Ever since I am into more serious CDing, I lost my passion of sex for some reasons..
I am still single, and I used to look at porno pictures all the time and ejectulate about 2 times a day.
Now, even if I look at those pictures, I don't really even care & have no hunger to let myself go.
I am not on HRT or estrogen, is my case normal?
Thanks a bunch!!

[LeannL]

For some crossdressers, the act of crossdressing relieves some of the sexual demand. It works both ways. Some "satisfy" their desire to crossdress as you did with the pornography (even if you didn't realize it) while others find that their crossdressing relieves the sexual tension thereby diminishing their need to sexual relief. Still others find crossdressing increases their desire for sexual relief. The brain is a complex organ and the need for it to be "fed" the right chemical mix for you to feel relaxed, well, and otherwise happy is somewhat specific to you. So don't worry about one thing replacing the others. The real test comes when you have an SO and you want to enjoy each other. Hopefully, the CDing doesn't prevent that from happening.

[Carroll]

your age also might be a factor. If you are 40 and over you start to loss you testosterone levels

[Kate Simmons]

It can be a two-edged sword for some of us Kathy. Some guys are so potent no amount of female clothing will cause them to lose their drive. In others, the dressing seems to supplant the desire itself. Curious, no?:)

[Gerrijerry]

I lost my sex drive when I really looked at myself in the mirror.
But I do know really that sex drive is effected by many things age of course but also medicines that are over the counter can also have an effect. Crossdressing can start as a stimulis but over time can work the opposite way. Not only for others SO and wives but for your self as well. So many things effect the sex drive in a person that only a doctor could really say what is actually happeneing. If you are really worried about it see a doctor.

[Gaby2]

Jeepers KathyC, this is worrying. :eek: How long has this really been going on for? Hopefully only for a few weeks and it's only a natural lull.
I don't notice a drop in my sex-drive at the moment, indeed no change at all since starting to devote substantial amounts of my time to crossdressing. Sometimes more, sometimes less.

I don't like the bit about over forty:

your age also might be a factor. If you are 40 and over you start to loss you testosterone levels

To my relief, I have the feeling that admitting my crossdressing recently in public has opened up totally new horizons to me and not only regarding sexuality.
I just flicked through your threads and suspect it's this "panic" thing which I myself know so well. You try something new and it doesn't seem to be working after an initial euphoric burst.
I've noticed though that if you stick at what you're doing responsibly, then things tend to work themselves out all by themselves. And in a way best suited to you.
I hope your sex-drive will develope as you wish it to, with or without medical advice.
:hugs:
gaby

[Alice Torn]

Age, and anti-depressents, and other prescription drugs dry up the sex drive, too. I am single, 56, and would need to take herbal or other types of things, just to get it up, if i had a wife.

[Tamara Croft]

your age also might be a factor. If you are 40 and over you start to loss you testosterone levelsDoes KathyC really look over 40 to you... which by the way you're way off by almost 10 years :rolleyes:

[Emily Ann Brown]

I would suspect a phyical issue (maybe stress).

Em

[AKAMichelle]

Does KathyC really look over 40 to you... which by the way you're way off by almost 10 years :rolleyes:

That's what I was thinking that she was in her 30's instead of 40's. As for the sex drive going, it is still there but hidden more or less. If a woman was naked in front of you, then the sex drive would come back. You just may require different stimuli now to have a sex drive. That happens and it may also mean that you have a medical condition like low T. I would ask a doctor to check you and see what is found.

[Loni]

i say just age catching up with you. a number of "other" factors but unless a medical problem, i would not say loosing the drive, just loosing the desire. :eek:

find the right girl and it should all come back. :heehee:


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[kimdl93]

I know you're young, but my guess is that you're still maturing...and sex is taking a lesser place in your life. And maybe dressing isn't so much a sexual thing for you, but rather fills some other needs. And if you have an orgasm 2x daily, there's nothing physiologically wrong. Don't worry!

[Olivia2]

Kathy C,

I think for many, including me, sex drive and stimuli ebb and flow. I've had many phases where my drive has been more or less strong and CD'ing has been the primary outlet and a few weeks/months later, it's pornography or other visual stimulation. Although I have no medical expertise here, I think its a little early for you to worry about it too much. You might want to look at your stress or whether you are having guilt, shame, anxiety, depresssion or some other emotional responses in your life at this time-whether from your CD'ing or other areas in life. They may be mostly out of your awareness but if you look deeply into your life, you may see it. If it continues to be a long-term problem, you can always consult a doctor, but I would be surprised if that is necessary based on the info. you have provided in your post. Hope it all works out soon.

Olivia

[Vickie_CDTV]

I would discuss this with your doctor as soon as you can. A sudden and long term drop in libido (especially at your age) might be a sign of other more serious problems such as low testosterone, depression and other things. As my doctor once said, one's sexual health is a good barometer for overall health in general.

Of course, if you have started any form of male to female HRT (you didn't mention it), for many TS on HRT I have known an eventual loss of libido is par for the course.

[Marla]

I'm 63 and when I am Marla I feel very sexy and get very horny.
This has been my feelings since I was 20 and I hope it will continue! I think that my experience is probably not normal for a cder but then again is normal a good thing? I have dressed in public and I can't help looking at good looking men because I really want them to want me sexually. Yes I have had sex with with men and I enjoyed it alot! I hope my feeling continue forever.

[sissystephanie]

Sex drive? What is that? Mine took a back turn years ago, and when my wife passed away it disappeared entirely. Yes, I do have a girl friend, but she is married and lives in a different country so no help there!!

[PretzelGirl]

I will guess a lower age than everyone else has since Kathy had a post about her mother cleaning her room.

http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=136842

So I will join in with the "see the doctor" crowd. At your young age, if you aren't taking any medication, there can be concerns.

[Jay Cee]

Same thing happened to me, KathyC. I wouldn't sweat it - sounds like CD'ing is acting as a replacement for sexual fantasies with porn. I'd ask what kind of porn you were looking at, and what your fantasies were, but that may be a bit too personal.

[KathyC]

Same thing happened to me, KathyC. I wouldn't sweat it - sounds like CD'ing is acting as a replacement for sexual fantasies with porn. I'd ask what kind of porn you were looking at, and what your fantasies were, but that may be a bit too personal.
They were just regular XXX movies or pictures, but later on I'm really tired of those big breast porn stars type of gals, they look very fake & plastic to me.
My fantasies switch from time to time, sometimes I like mature women, sometimes I am into "the girl next door".