Do I really look that young?

[christiek]

I wasn't exactly sure where to put this. If this needs to be moved I understand and please do so.

I just recently moved from a small town to a small city. I am from a larger city and hope to go back their some day IF I don't decide to move further south. I don't know if it is because people around here don't know me. Or maybe I look different for the people here (everyone looks different so I don't understand how it could be that but you never know) or maybe it is just the Fem voice I try to use when I am out in public.

Any way it goes it seems that people think I am a lot younger than I really am. I understand you have to look like 40 or older to not get carded for a pack of smokes these days but . . . I went into a gas station the other day. There was this really tall handsome guy working there probably in his early 20's. He kept watching me the whole time I was in there. I got my few things (drinks chips etc) and made sure to go to his register.

He asked how I was doing. I said "I'm doing well thank you how about yourself?" He just smiled and said "I'm good". He scanned everything and asked if I needed anything else. I then asked for a lotto ticket and a pack of smokes. He started giggling a little bit and said the usual "Do you have an ID?" Well of course I did and I pulled it out and showed it to him. He inspected it for a min so I asked "Is something wrong?" What he said next I couldn't believe!

He asked (like I would have told him if it was) if it was fake. I said "no, Does it not look like a real license?" He replied "To be honest I thought you were like 16 I never would have guessed you were 25" I was flattered! *blush*

I laughed a little bit and we talked for a minute since no one was behind me in line. After he found out I was 25 he started getting very flirtatious! Maybe he was attracted to me but thought that I was too young to say anything. *blush* Also not once the whole time did he even hint to the fact that I am TS. Maybe I just passed that well in his eyes or maybe he didn't care either way.

I have been back to that store a couple of times since but I have yet to see him again. I hope he didn't get fired or quit! It isn't one that I go to often so the chances of me seeing him again are slim unfortunately. A girl can hope tho!

Has anyone else out there had this happen to them? Or maybe something similar?

Edit: If he was just complimenting me he must be an actor because his *shocked* seemed genuine to me.

[Whispering Oaks]

I reckon he was flirting with you the min he saw you with his eyes Lol he obviously is attracted to you and wanted to compliment you x

[Kittie]

That must have felt awesome <3 :)

[AllieSF]

You probably look young when you used to be in male mode. My father always looked very young and got carded at a bar when he was 40 and they didn't card many people back then, and I got carded at 45. So it runs in my family. When I dress en femme, I look 20 years below my age, because no one can believe my real age. I say enjoy it, age come up to fast in life.

[Ze]

I think it sounds like he was flirting with you and trying to bring up some way to talk to you a little more. :)

[Faith_G]

At least in PA they have to card you if you look younger than 27. And you fit that description.

Depending on how "young" you were dressed you could be mistaken for a teenager.

And yes, he was checking you out because you are hot. :D

[christiek]

many *Blushes*

[Melody Moore]

You are a very lucky girl, reminds me of when I was 25 and still use to get asked for ID as a male when going to bars,
clubs & hotels - Check out my photo gallery (http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/album.php?albumid=4120) of what I use to look like way back then and you will see what I mean. :heehee:

I am 47 now and as a female a lot of people think I am really in my 30s. Quite flattering I must say :daydreaming:

[iloveps]

He was flirting :o !

[Gillian]

Christie!!!!!!!!!! he was so flirting with you girl!!!!!!!:o

Wish it was me! the only strange looks I would get would be from the local Hog farmer :tongueout

[michellesworld]

Christie,

This is flirting. It's the classic 'negging' that men do, to try to get women to pay attention to them. Most guys will fawn over, and over-compliment a pretty girl, and in the end, build up her confidence to the point where she thinks she's too good for them. Giving a negative comment lets a pretty girl's guard down to the point where she gets on his level, and is wondering who is he to think he can make such an offhanded remark! Of course, the trick is to not be too negative.

Here's a definition from urban dictionary:

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=negging

[Ze]

This is flirting. It's the classic 'negging' that men do, to try to get women to pay attention to them. Most guys will fawn over, and over-compliment a pretty girl, and in the end, build up her confidence to the point where she thinks she's too good for them. Giving a negative comment lets a pretty girl's guard down to the point where she gets on his level, and is wondering who is he to think he can make such an offhanded remark! Of course, the trick is to not be too negative.

That's horrible! :eek: Manipulation and corruption of self-esteem is no way to get in on a good relationship. Any guy that does that isn't worth a lady's time. He obviously doesn't respect her from the get-go, anybody who plays that game.

Myself, I'll continue being a gentleman. And alone. :lurk:

Anyway, I wouldn't have considered the flirtatious comment made to Christie to be negging if only because of the unfortunate cultural praise of youth. Sixteen is indeed the new 25.

[Niya W]

I'm 31 and when I do boy mode I still get carded .Last month I was with my father and he bought some wine and beer. He pays for it and its my turn at the check out counter . I put the wine coolers on the thing and the lady said is that for your father. I of course says its for me . She let out a loud oh and then said I need to see ID . I don't think her and the out clerk thought I was over 21 as they both looked at my ID. The younger clerk Oh I can tell that you bye the eyes as she was giggling at me . It felt weird.

[Melody Moore]

Christie,

This is flirting. It's the classic 'negging' that men do, to try to get women to pay attention to them. Most guys will fawn over, and over-compliment a pretty girl, and in the end, build up her confidence to the point where she thinks she's too good for them. Giving a negative comment lets a pretty girl's guard down to the point where she gets on his level, and is wondering who is he to think he can make such an offhanded remark! Of course, the trick is to not be too negative.

Here's a definition from urban dictionary:

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=negging

There is no doubt that this guy was hitting on Christie.

I went to the hospital about a week ago for my appointment with the gender clinic and when I pulled up in a carpark near a construction site & as soon as I got out of the car I could hear a few 'wolf whistles' coming from a group of workers on the construction site, then suddenly I looked around and this guy was right there & virtually right in my face asking me (nicely of course) to move my car over to the next parking bay so they could turn a truck around. I told the guy 'no problem, I will move it', but I also noticed there was more than enough room to turn the truck around. So would this fall under the category of negging? :heehee:

[michellesworld]

There is no doubt that this guy was hitting on Christie.

I went to the hospital about a week ago for my appointment with the gender clinic and when I pulled up in a carpark near a construction site & as soon as I got out of the car I could hear a few 'wolf whistles' coming from a group of workers on the construction site, then suddenly I looked around and this guy was right there & virtually right in my face asking me (nicely of course) to move my car over to the next parking bay so they could turn a truck around. I told the guy 'no problem, I will move it', but I also noticed there was more than enough room to turn the truck around. So would this fall under the category of negging? :heehee:

I think he was just looking for an excuse to talk to you LOL! In guy mode, I ask women I like for help with something just to try to get a conversation going. Negging would be more like a teasing sort of thing.

[michellesworld]

That's horrible! :eek: Manipulation and corruption of self-esteem is no way to get in on a good relationship. Any guy that does that isn't worth a lady's time. He obviously doesn't respect her from the get-go, anybody who plays that game.

Myself, I'll continue being a gentleman. And alone. :lurk:


Hi Ze,

That's just how many guys flirt with women. It is a little deceptive, but it's part of the game. You can say a man going out of his way to please a woman he barely knows is deceptive as well...I mean, is he really like that to everybody he likes in real life? I think some women play the game too. I've noticed women pretending to ignore a man she is really attracted to, in order to egg him on to pursue her more. Don't worry though, everybody has their own style, and as a gentleman, you will find great success.

[Whispering Oaks]

Hi Ze,

That's just how many guys flirt with women. It is a little deceptive, but it's part of the game. You can say a man going out of his way to please a woman he barely knows is deceptive as well...I mean, is he really like that to everybody he likes in real life? I think some women play the game too. I've noticed women pretending to ignore a man she is really attracted to, in order to egg him on to pursue her more. Don't worry though, everybody has their own style, and as a gentleman, you will find great success.

I would think a bloke is a pig if he cut me down :D I also find that most (myself included) girls actually ignore men they like simply cos they are shy as heck and dont wanna be rejected by saying something stupid so end up been rejected by saying nothing at all haha :roflmao:

[Ze]

Hi Ze,

That's just how many guys flirt with women. It is a little deceptive, but it's part of the game. You can say a man going out of his way to please a woman he barely knows is deceptive as well...I mean, is he really like that to everybody he likes in real life? I think some women play the game too. I've noticed women pretending to ignore a man she is really attracted to, in order to egg him on to pursue her more. Don't worry though, everybody has their own style, and as a gentleman, you will find great success.

And for the record, I don't condone those other forms of so-called flirting, either. :ner: Our dating scene is so messed up...

Whatever happened to "be yourself and you'll attract somebody compatible"? :doh:

[michellesworld]

And for the record, I don't condone those other forms of so-called flirting, either. :ner: Our dating scene is so messed up...

Whatever happened to "be yourself and you'll attract somebody compatible"? :doh:

I agree with you Ze, dating seems to be about how much you can deceive the other person into becoming attracted at you at times. So little truth. On the other hand, some look at it from a more positive light, and say this is positioning yourself to give yourself a better chance to get to truly know somebody and them to truly know you.

I a lot of this may be in our genetics. Just look at other animals in their search for mates. Rams basically ram each others heads to impress a girl...now while this may not be deceptive as a 'neg', this is probably a little more physically dangerous XD. Also, other animals have dancing rituals to attract females (or vice versa). Peacocks show off their feathers to lure the opposite sex. Maybe or games are genetic as well? Who knows...anyhow, sorry for hijacking this thread :(

[JoAnne Wheeler]

I am so envious of you - so pretty and so young. I am 65, but have been

told that I look in my early 50's, so that is great for me to hear. Still, I am

very envious of you.

JoAnne Wheeler Bland