small town usa

[Tina P Hose]

Being in a small town, and I am sure there are many other girls, that live in a smaller towns than I, my question is where is
where to other cd gurls meet up ?

Yes, in my town there is a gay bar, but the town is so small, the only gay night, (just on thursday)is only for the people who are gay. I am not sure that a cd would fit in. Also, if I stopped by as Tina, I may not be fully understood. Nothing against being gay, maybe I am gay myself? I am in limbo with that.


So where do small town girls go, without having to drive 2 to 4 hours ?

[Tranny Tee]

My town of 7,000 has two redneck bars, a bowling alley and an Indian casino, none of which would I consider going to dressed. I drive 80 miles to Reno where there are several places to go. Small town life is good but it is difficult for a closeted crossdresser.

[AKAMichelle]

I sure am glad that I live in Denver. I would hate to have that dilemna.

[AllieSF]

i have lived in small towns before (less than 1,500 people). However, I was not dressing at that time. Since you already have a gay bar in town, I recommend that you check it out in drab first a couple of times to get an idea what it is all about. No one will bite you there and probably not make a bold attempt to pick you up on gay night. They may start conversations with you and that is good to get a better idea of what it is like there. If you feel comfortable, then you can consider it as a potential night out place for you. If you do go there you will probably attract a lot less attention by dressing down in jeans (maybe a jeans skirt) flats and a dark top. I know that is not exactly Cd glamor. However, you will get the opportunity to go out in full female mode, which is better than nothing.

In the meantime, I would look around your area for other CD's, best from this site, URNA (youarenotalone.com) or wherever you can track them down. They will be in the same small town boat as you are and maybe you can start meeting at each other's houses, or drive together those 2 hours to a bigger city to have a girls night out. Good luck.

[linnea]

It's difficult in small towns or towns with small-town attitudes. The most recent towns where I have lived--35,000 and 68,000 population--are not good places for CDs. So I have had to make the 1, 2, or even 4 hour drives to better places. In the state where I live, there aren't many places or situations that seem safe and accepting. On the west coast, there are quite a few cities--Seattle, Portland, Vancouver (WA and BC), and a host of smaller cities--where a person could feel pretty comfortable going out en femme.

[Tina B.]

Another small town girl, we had a bar here that had Alternative night on Sunday night, where the bar was a Gay bar. But it closed a couple years ago, and now I'm not sure if the gays have a bar around with less than a 4 hour drive. But at my age the bar scene is a bit much anyway, so I spend my time at home with the SO.
Tina B.

[sterling12]

Think Regional!

Unless your in "Buffalo Country," or something similar; there's probably a City of 100K or more within a couple of hours. I imagine if you can find a Town that Big, you will also find "A Community" that exists in That Town. Then, you find out where The Local Places are, and hook up with Others. Or, Most University Towns are very liberal, and even on The Smaller Side, there's usually an Active GLBT Community.

There's another Thread from Monica that's running right now. She's in, or around St. Louis, and she just went out and went shopping for The First Time. Got everything she needed with zero hassle, and I KNOW that there's a large GLBT Community in St. Louis, with lots of places to go. I imagine it's The Same in K.C.

I think that some of this Info. might solve Your Problem!

Peace and Love, Joanie

[5150 Girl]

My town is kind of medium-to small. We have only one alternitive bar taht I know of. Ine day while out grocerie shopping in my denum jumper dress, I passed by said establishment. It was arround 4 or 5, and they had just opend, and nobody was really there yet. I had nothing perishable, so I stoped in and spoke to the bar tendeer as to what the lay of the land was like.
So I guess what i'm trrying to say is, go early before it gets busy and investigate

[michellesworld]

I'm just a small town girl,
Living in a lonely world,
Took the midnight train going anywhere.

[Jodygurl]

Gosh, Tina, don't feel too bad. I live in a very big city near you, St. Louis, and am not aware of and groups in the area. I've tried gay bars but the boys just give you a disgusted look and ignor you. They seem less "tolerant" that straights. Lesbion bars are entirely different. There's on in town that even has an impersonator nite that's fun. And the girls seem to love to chat.

I'm actually from a small town and have a pretty good idea of what you're up against. Especially in So. Mo. No deviations from their norm are tolerated.

Come to town and we'll explore together. :battingeyelashes:

[Frédérique]

Being in a small town, and I am sure there are many other girls, that live in a smaller towns than I, my question is where is where to other cd gurls meet up? So where do small town girls go, without having to drive 2 to 4 hours ?

A two to four hour drive is nothing out of the ordinary here in Kansas! I live in a rather small town, but I’m not a social flower. We could meet in the middle of a wheat field, or near that hay bale over yonder, or someplace more sympathetic to your hosiery…:heehee:


Nothing against being gay, maybe I am gay myself? I am in limbo with that.

If you were gay you would know it, no limbo involved, my dear…:doh:

[Marcia Blue]

My rural small town is really small. The population of the town is under 400, less than 200 house holds. I do travel to go out dressed, I am deep in the closet near home. I do leave home dressed to go out on occasion, but I do not live in the city limits. I am not sure everyone in the area, would be ready to know, they have a CD among them.

[sterling12]

OK, since everybody seems to think nothing is happening in St. Louis. Try this Addie and look down Her Home Page. You will see a section for St.Louis Support Groups (St.Louis Transgendered Groups and Gatherings): Try....www.tgtoday.com

That ought to get you started! Hope Tina is close to St. Louis. But I bet you could find something in Springfield, K.C., Joplin, Columbia, and a lot of other places.

Peace and Love, Joanie