Shaving....

[Kayleigh-Marie]

A little while ago when I purchased some white knee high heart printed stockings, I shaved my legs so that the "man hair" wouldn't show through. Now my Partner is very supportive and understanding with me CD but, she got a bit freaked out with me shaving my legs. I admit there was irration etc, from shaving, which I used baby lotion which helped no end.

I would love so much to shave them again, so I can wear my flesh coloured tights with a shine, they would look so good with my denim skirts I have, but she doesn't want me to shave. :(

I remember when I did how I loved the feeling of not just Kayleighs clothes, but my own against my skin, so in a way I guess I didn't just shave for Kayleigh.

I very rarely wear shorts... A. as I don't really have manly legs to show off and B. we never have the weather. I don't go swimming either, so thats not much of a problem. The only time I wear shorts is my PJ's I wear to bed.

I am going to have chat with her later to see if I can presuade her in to letting me shave again, is there some way of approaching it? I always seem to get cut off when trying to talk about it. She even said, if I shaved mine, she wouldn't shave hers :doh:

[carolinoakland]

If it was me...I'd call her bluff. Lets see who can go the longer... you with shaved legs enjoying it, or her hairy just to piss you off? My money's on you.
A tip though, instead of baby oil try plain old hair conditioner, it provides lubrication during shaving but also softens the hair and moisturize's the skin after. Doesn't even have to be expensive conditioner, although I'd avoid any with a strong scent. Cheers. Carol

[Tallie]

Now, I don't quite get it. She is okay with your CDing but wants your hairy legs? How does the lack of hair on your legs make you less manly in guy mode? I wonder if she is not quite comfortable with your CDing and this is just a hint of how she really feels. :2c:

I would love so much to shave them again, so I can wear my flesh coloured tights with a shine, they would look so good with my denim skirts I have, but she doesn't want me to shave. :(

I am going to have chat with her later to see if I can presuade her in to letting me shave again, is there some way of approaching it? I always seem to get cut off when trying to talk about it. She even said, if I shaved mine, she wouldn't shave hers :doh:

[kayegirl]

Kayleigh, you don't say what freaked your so the most, the shaved legs or the shaving rash/reaction. If its the first then you have some work to do, but try and get her to look around, loads of blokes now have shaved, or in my case, waxed legs, and has we have seen on this forumn so many times before, nobody really notices these days.

If its the second reason then you need to improve your technique, and yes the cheap non-perfumed conditioner works very well, but don't forget to moisturize afterwards. Good Luck

[Kayleigh-Marie]

If it was me...I'd call her bluff. Lets see who can go the longer... you with shaved legs enjoying it, or her hairy just to piss you off? My money's on you.
Cheers. Carol

Well that would would certainly be me, as she goes swimming with her mum every Tuesday, so I doubt it will be long till her mum notices the fact that my GF has hair coming out of her legs.. :heehee: Thank you for the tip also. :)



Now, I don't quite get it. She is okay with your CDing but wants your hairy legs? How does the lack of hair on your legs make you less manly in guy mode? I wonder if she is not quite comfortable with your CDing and this is just a hint of how she really feels. :2c:

I really don't know, my friend can't understand it either. My GF doesn't live with me (although we have been dating for 9yrs..complications with myself of lack of a job and her working, etc) she doesn't even see my legs that much anyway, only at bed time when she stops over 2-3 days a week, but if it really bothers that much tracksuit bottoms to bed would solve that.




Kayleigh, you don't say what freaked your so the most, the shaved legs or the shaving rash/reaction. If its the first then you have some work to do, but try and get her to look around, loads of blokes now have shaved, or in my case, waxed legs, and has we have seen on this forumn so many times before, nobody really notices these days.

If its the second reason then you need to improve your technique, and yes the cheap non-perfumed conditioner works very well, but don't forget to moisturize afterwards. Good Luck

I don't know to be honest, I feel its more to the "Guys should have hairy" legs. Yes I was a bit irrated when my legs were itching like hell, but I soon calmed the irratation down. I have been looking into getting electric shavers that are made for women leg shaving...

[Satrana]

I would say that this is really your choice. Do you get to dictate whether she shaves her legs or what her hairstyle will be? It is only hair after all. It is really a matter of her getting used to the idea. If you had carried on shaving after your first time then you would not be having these problems now.

So you just need to do it, take the flak and continue just being your normal self and giving her reassurance that you do not plan any permanent body alteration or will do anything which would embarrass her. In time it will become a non-issue once her anxiety fades away.

[kimdl93]

Those are definately your legs, she knows about and supports your CDing, and you're not married - so frankly, I think this is your decision, not hers. You can tell her you appreciate her input, but have elected to shave and hope that she can come to grips with it. Her threat of not shaving her own legs is rather a childish attempt to coerce you. Not cool.

[Kayleigh-Marie]

Your both so right. I am 28 this year she is 31.... a lot of my friends have commented on how strange she is with certain aspects.

Its makes me giggle that I actually own more tights and shoes then she does... shes more of a jumper and jeans kinda girl.

Tomorrow then when I have a bath again, I shall do it!

[Taylor186]

Now, I don't quite get it. She is okay with your CDing but wants your hairy legs? How does the lack of hair on your legs make you less manly in guy mode?

My wife feels the same way... she likes the hair.

Also she has an "out of sight, out of mind" philosophy regarding CDing so she's only reminded of my CDing maybe once every month or so. Shaving my legs is a constant reminder.

That said, I have shaved every day for five years now and we are still together. YMMV

[Kayleigh-Marie]

Ok well that didn't go quite as planned. She is 100% ok with me crossdressing, but she said that she wanted to keep at least some manly features about me. I have had to agree to save grace that I shall not be shaving.. Instead she gave me the idea to look for Ice Skating tights, as they are very thick denier, so at least I have the best of both worlds.

I guess some people have to have boundaries somewhere.

[Brenda2246]

I feel very lucky my girl friend who knows about my CDing, asked me to shave my whole body! I am a very lucky girl!!

[Kaz]

Hi!

I remember when I was about 15/16... I played guitar in a band and wanting to grow my hair long (this was a long time ago!). My parents were very strict about this. No way!

I spoke to a guy in the band who had a really good head of hair and he said... just do it. When they complain, just accept that they do not agree with you and then carry on. If they care about you, they will accept it. It worked.

Now partners are not parents... though the letters look scarifyingly similar! But the same applies... I have been shaving my whole body now for 7 years or so...

I used to hide my legs and arms. My wife clocked this and suggested I wear short sleeves again in Summer... I did and have had ZERO notice ever since. I even started wearing shorts again.

It is useful to know that there is a general trend in the young away from body hair! Worth having as a card up your sleeve! :)

[Kaz]

Ok well that didn't go quite as planned. She is 100% ok with me crossdressing, but she said that she wanted to keep at least some manly features about me. I have had to agree to save grace that I shall not be shaving.. Instead she gave me the idea to look for Ice Skating tights, as they are very thick denier, so at least I have the best of both worlds.

I guess some people have to have boundaries somewhere.

Manly qualities = hair?

[Kayleigh-Marie]

Manly qualities = hair?


Yes :heehee:

[Daenna Paz]

We, for the most part, all make some compromises in the pursuit of our life style / life choice ...
I say, if this is her 'line in the sand', that you respect it and look for ways to work with it.
Just my .02 ;^)

[kimdl93]

Personally, I would object to a GF mandating whether I could or could not shave. that being said, you're both adults - so to each their own.

[CharleneT]

Two votes for calling her bluff, I'm with Carol on this one !

Of course, you have to get along her though! When dealing with a partner and CDing issues, it is good to respect the boundaries that allow them to be comfortable with both sides of you.

[Kaz]

It just seems sad that being a man for some women means having hairy whatevers...

I know loads of of women who don't like hair!

Now, being manly in my household is about mowing the lawn, fixing the roof, sorting the annoying phone-calls, mending the car, dealing with idiots, bringing home the main income source, trimming 10 foot high hedges, decorating, plumbing, sorting parents' funeral arrangements, managing weddings, supporting higher education, doing the tax stuff, cooking... yes I do mean cooking!, yawn..... and they still want hairy legs?

Why?

Do a trade-off... smooth legs or the above... choice!

[Tuesday]

My so feels along the same lines she has know problem with me dressing she buys most of my clothes but the first time I shaved my underarms she got upset and said that she felt she was losing the man she married
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[PetiteDuality]

I don't know to be honest, I feel its more to the "Guys should have hairy" legs.

Yeah, I know... My wife is the same. She says she doesn't care about the looks, but "guys are not supposed to care that much about hairy legs"

However, I think that you should not shave. She is already supporting, let her have this little think for her.

Unless having hairless legs is more important than your relationship :strugglin

[t-girlxsophie]

I sometimes wonder about SOs that are seemingly ok with their spouses CDing,but send out mixed messages,I'm not talking about having bounderies as that can be best way for relationships to prosper.It's ones where the SO absolutely detest the dressing up,but although they hate It doesn't mind the spouse doing it when they in different room/out at work etc Two ends of the spectrum in one relationship,how does that work

Surely Honesty Is a two way street,seems to me the SO Isn't being truthful in these cases .I suppose It can be seen as compromise,but I see CDing as an either or situation,or maybe my opinion is clouded in that my two Marriages are like black and white,no grey area

:hugs:sophie xx

[Satrana]

but she said that she wanted to keep at least some manly features about me.
So your male body, errr aparatus, voice, mannerisms are not enough? She needs the leg hair dammit! LOL. Lame deflection, it is all about her anxiety that leg shaving is a slippery slope to a fully feminized body. Just give her more time but don't give up. You could even try an experiment like shaving your armpits and seeing how many days it takes her to even notice. :tongueout

[EmilyCD]

I was recently asked by my wife to stop wearing nylons even though I had worn them almost every day since we met over seven years ago. After that I also stopped shaving partly because I wasn't under doing anymore and partly because my sons birthday party was coming up and knew I was going to be wearing shorts around hey family and mine. After the party I decided to stay shaving again because the hair was driving me crazy. After I had shaved and my wife finally noticed she have me a hard time this issue led to three fights. She says it is because out son that sher doesn't want me shaving I think its cause she's just a prude. She also threaten to not shave her legs as well, which is such an extremely childish move. I feel your pain let us know how it all works out for you

[Jamiegirl1]

You didn't say how long you have been with your girlfriend,maybe after she gets more used to your CDing you can shave your legs again.My wife doesn't know I CD,I shaved my legs a few years ago and she hated it,so I let it grow back,Last fall I shaved my legs and underarms,she mentioned it ,I said I hate hair. I love the feel and shave everyday,she used to hate it,but now accepts it.....Jamie I

[banootcd]

I wish I can shave but this will make my wife and familly think that somthing is going on with me.

[Sarah53]

I guess I was very lucky in a way. For some reason the hair on my legs started to fall out or just got so thin you could not see it except for a few patches and these areas looked funky. I told my wife I was going to shave because I feel strange they way I look. She told me OK and even showed me where her hair removal cream was kept. I go ahead and shave because it is easier for me.

[Emma England]

Most men shave their face - why is this acceptable? (it is no different to shaving any other area).

A modern man (not a cder but a "normal" man) cares about his skin, and often removes hair.

Did you know that a lot of salons are marketing towards men by offering waxing services for legs, back, chest, buttocks, groin etc. They would not do this if there was insufficient demand.

Our ancestors may have been covered with hair as this was used for protection of the skin.
Most men do not hunt in the wild at all, so there is no purpose for hairy legs - your clothes actually offer more protection than from any sparse hair.

I think your misses is old-fashioned.

If this sound like a rant, it is not. I just find body hair (on men and women) disgusting and embarrassing.

[Chickhe]

The tights you want are called 'danskins' available at most dancewear shops and you want the natural tan ones. They last a long time and look good. Some people wear them under other hose to hide leg hair. I use them for that and as a foundation garment for smoothing out hip and thigh padding.

[AKAMichelle]

I know what you mean by liking how it feels regardless of what you have on. I have shaved mine now for 2 years and nobody has said a word outside of my wife. With that said to gain acceptance something it is required to make compromises. So maybe you should just tow the line and go forward.

[rachellenicole]

Maybe you can approach her with a comprimise, where you trim the hair on your legs so its short enough to wear opaque panty hose but long enough to satisfy her demand??

:2c:
Rach

[jackielou]

if you watch any tv you will see practically every male star is shaved on his chest ,under arms and if you are a swimmer then legs and if your wife likes you clean shaved as her does she shave her bikini line or now as the style shave completely bare and as i was watching tyra banks show last week she had some trans people and cross dressers on and the were well dressed she did a poll to see wheather men liked there women completely shaved and it was 95% yes then she did a woman did they like there men shaved it was 80% yes .

[unclejoann]

In one month I shave. The summer family beach season is over. I am so ready!!!!

But I really am attracted to women who don't shave. Hairy women are a fantastic turnon.

My wife is scheduled to go ballistic as soon as the razor comes out.

[Alberta_Pat]

Kayleigh;

I am kind of along with many here. It is your body. Shave or not, to suit you.

I wonder what kind of "manly" man lets his S O "dictate" the conditions. This sounds more like a power struggle between you. Dating 9 years, and both around 30 makes me wonder if there is a lack of commitment between the two of you. Sounds almost like friends with benefits to me.

On the "push the buttons" side of things, consider changing your head hair. Grow it longer, or shave it off completely. Then you will have a bargaining point.

But, anyhow, this is your life. You are the one to live it, and if this situation is one that you are happy with, then I wish you well.