What triggers the need to dress up en-femme

[NikiMichelle]

I am not sure how best to word the question I have...so here goes...

Sometimes I get in a mood where I really don't feel the need to dress up en-femme. I classify myself as a CD and have CD'd since I was 6 ot 7. That adds to up to well over 40 years!!!

I was in that mood right up until lunch time today. I live in a major Canadian city and today was the first really sunny warm day for a number of days. I went for a walk in the downtown area at noon and was awe struck at all the woman in sexy, summer office attire...short skirts, sexy tops, tanned legs and high heels (my dream outfit). Well, talk about snapping me out of my funk!

I now can't wait for the next chance I have to get dressed up.

So, my question is: Do any of you CD'rs have "trigger points" such as this that set you off on a CD rampage? If so what are they?

I would love to know.

[NathalieX66]

My interest in CD'ing began when I was 8, and my older cousin showed her bedroom and flaunted her wardrobe and jewelry, and she was just so "la la, look at me...aren't I pretty?" I just liked what I saw. The earrings on an earring tree, the dresses in the closet, the frilly lacy bedspread, the smell of the perfume. All looked cool to me....how does she get away with it? I thought. Why can't I do that?

Her brother, my other cousin, the only thing I found fascination in his bedroom was his electric guitar and amp.

Women wear cool clothes, they have infinite variety, and they take over men's world, and mens jobs....that's just the way it is. How about some payback, dammit??!!

[Teri Jean]

For a long time it was more off than on but then it became an obsession to the point it consumed my life from morning to nigh and again until morning. At that time I knew I was TS so I sought help and never looked back. My trigger points was when the new sale catalogs showed up as the first half of the catalogs are for the women. No one thought much of my paging through them as I was married with two daughters.

[Steph.TS]

I started CD'ing what I was around 12, my parents caught me and told me it was a sin, I stopped for 10+ years, this year I started working with a woman that wear such great outfits, I'm a bit jealous. well needless to say that restarted my desired to crossdress, and I just want to drive right in, so much so I'm seriously wondering if I want to transition to a female... now I find myself looking of website of stores for fem clothing, hoping to build a small but very nice fem clothing collection... I also need to learn how to use make up correctly...

[docrobbysherry]

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So, my question is: Do any of you CD'rs have "trigger points" such as this that set you off on a CD rampage? If so what are they?

I would love to know.

So would I! I started dressing out of the blue at age 50+!:eek:

Everything, anywhere, any time, that involves women, seem to be My trigger points!:brolleyes:

[t-girlxsophie]

The start of every new day is my trigger:) every new experience I go through
makes me want to keep dressing,It's a great part of who I am,and don't want it to ever stop.

:hugs:Sophie xx

[Annaliese2010]

So, my question is: Do any of you CD'rs have "trigger points" such as this that set you off on a CD rampage? If so what are they? I'm not a CD but I'll answer anyways. I turn to (or turn into, or allow to 'surface') the girl inside when I get fc'd over by a GG friend or gf or (soon 2b) ex-wife. This maltreatment has been happenning quite regularly of late so I've been 'giving it up' to Annaliese more than ever. For me its not just about donning a dress. It's a kind of self-surrendering that goes on where I go 'under' as she awakens. Once on top it's all her even tho i'm still aware. Her mind-set is very different, and when she's 'in-control' she's Really in-control, if u know what I mean. It's a complete TRAN-sition.

Point is, the clothing is ancillary. She's a girl so naturally she dresses as one and it's no big deal. There's no special 'thrill' to wearing womans clothing or need to focus on "CROSSDRESSING" as though that is the point of anything. Anyone can wear anything but the outer garment doesn't make the person. Like...you put on a helmet & jersey, are you a football player? If you put on a cap and mit, are you a baseball player? Um...no, I don't think so. But yeah, cuz you're not a ball player you may get a thrill pretending and therefore place much emphasis on what you're wearing. But the professional football or baseball player doesn't. They wear what they wear because it's simply what one wears being what they are. When a transition happens in me, especially for the reason I've given (the trigger u speak about), it's a complete transition: not the simple act of donning female clothing; not me the man pretending to be a girl; not an act or fantasy. I'm no longer present when she 'surfaces'.

We are two independent and completely different individuals. She's a very confident worthwhile person, sexy as hell, interesting and edgy - and the fcd-up guy I apparantly am to my GG-ex and bi-GG gf is back in some corner subservient to her - gladly so, actually. It's peaceful when she's in control. Sounds weird but she turns me on like you wouldnt believe. Hell, I'd fc her in a minute if I could but men turn her off completely i,e, she's totally into girls. After all this talk I feel her stirring inside me, getting aroused, but...god, I'm too effin tired just now...goin to bed in a sec so doesn't make sense to 'let her out'. Gotta go to sleep now...

[Gillian]

Trigger points?

If I see a girl that has a physique similar to mine or face shape (the poor dear!) how she is dressed and made up is a massive trigger a girl dressed as I like or with similar character traits especially is a trigger.

The fact that I don't particularly "like" myself as a guy the feeling of escapism is a major trigger as I can be another person etc etc etc very freudian!

[abassi]

usually, I have to think about cding. But once I make a conscious thought its full throttle from there. Or I see something, and wonder how I will look wearing it.

[Shadeauxmarie]

Actually, stress (usually work related) causes me to want to dress to relax.

[Angie G]

Mt trigger is getting out of bed in the morning that's all I need to want to dress Niki.:hugs:
Angie

[Cheryl T]

So, my question is: Do any of you CD'rs have "trigger points" such as this that set you off on a CD rampage? If so what are they?

I would love to know.

Waking up does it for me...:heehee:

[lauraabdl]

thinking about the dress I bought the other day, the skirt, the blouse, been in the fog of late and my wardrobe closet has expanded greatly.:heehee:

[Barbara Dugan]

Trigger points?

If I see a girl that has a physique similar to mine or face shape (the poor dear!) how she is dressed and made up is a massive trigger a girl dressed as I like or with similar character traits especially is a trigger.

The fact that I don't particularly "like" myself as a guy the feeling of escapism is a major trigger as I can be another person etc etc etc very freudian!


I have exactly the same triggers of Gillian... I am glad I am not the only one and lately I will add to the triggers the desire to have again intimacy with a guy :)

[Tara1967]

I'm not sure if there are any trigger points.

[gingerli]

breathing

[Samantha Kelsey]

My trigger point?

Opening my eyes and getting out of bed.
Samantha.

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[melisa r]

I started crossdressing late,I was 11.Like you sometmes I really need to dress and sometimes it doesn't cross my mind for awhile.I have not noticed a trigger .

[SusieB]

Knowing that I will be alone in the house for a couple of hours does it for me every time.

[eluuzion]

I am self-employed and also live alone. I usually go out 3-4 times a day to meet my clients. My day "starts" when people get off work (consulting/training).

After my last client of the day, I get in this mode similar to when I was in high school...driving home with the knowledge my parents had left for the week-end and I had the house to myself. By the time I get home, I am ready to rock-n-roll.

It never seems to get "old", regardless of the number of times I play out that "fantasy".

Maybe I will outgrow it when I grow up...:heehee:

[Kate Simmons]

With many of us it happens when we get in touch with feelings we equate with being "feminine". Many times we feel we need to "act out" the part for it to be genuine.Societal conditioning plays a big part in this I'm afraid. The goal should be to get around all of this and be comfortable with who we are and all of our feelings.:)

[Danni Bear]

Niki,

What triggers the need to dress?



Lets see.


Probablly the best answer is




getting born.




Danni

[Sarah Doepner]

I wish I knew. Sometimes it's as simple as just waking up and wanting to dress so I can leave lipstick prints on that first cup of coffee. Other times it's the end of a long stressful stretch when I know that finally I can shower and relax. Sometimes it's just having one new thing that I picked up at a store and wondering how it will fit in the rest of the wardrobe.

It's probably always buried here somewhere, but since it is awfully complex and probably dynamic, it is exposed differently in different situations. No single trigger will explain the whys of this behavior. It's the same for where it came from, probably multiple things coming together, layering up the foundation until just being fascinated by girls wasn't enough.

[air_walk]

Stress. My trigger is definitely a reacting to stress.

Or getting new clothes or shoes. :)

[5150 Girl]

One more for the "just waking up in the morening crowd.

I really wish I was in a position to go full time.

[mishmam32]

Between the family and work, I seldomly have time to think about it. However, the second I know I'll be home alone for even a couple of hours I can't get dressed up fast enough. Before I was married and had more time alone I dressed up every time I got home, but didn't have a lot of clothes in stock, guess I missed that opportunity. I don't know why I feel the need to do it, I just know I like to do.

[kimdl93]

The alarm clock each morning, actually. I work at home and can dress pretty much 24/7, except when the step daughter is around.

[Heidi_slave]

I have asked myself this question too. In my experience onset of The Urge can be quite abrupt. I might spend a day immersed in Man World without a conscious thought about dressing and then suddenly - WHAM! - I'm hit with an almost physical need to dress. What sets that off? Don't know, but I have a few ideas:

* Stress does it
* Passing a lingerie store or getting the Victoria Secret catalog in the mail
* Taking s**t from my ex. (It somehow stimulates a weird submissive response, but don't ask me to psychoanalyze that!)
* Being with an attractive woman who is seemingly oblivious to her feminine charms (a shoe dangler, for example)
* EBay (no, seriously)

Heidi

[NicoleScott]

I recognize myself all the time as a cd, a part-time, dress-for-pleasure cd. I think about it every day, but with so many of life's distractions, I know I can't dress up any time I want to. And, really, as a normal guy who likes normal guy stuff, I'm not constantly being nagged with the desire to be en femme but unable to dress. Still, I know that I do occasionally get the opportunity to make up and dress up, and I look forward to those times. For me, seeing an upcoming opportunity (place and time), I start getting excited about it. I think that's my trigger - when I see a time in the near future when I can dress up - I start planning and preparing. I want to make sure I have everything I need, and the list is long. Besides all the makeup (and application and removal) supplies, I check to see if I need stockings/pantyhose, eyelashes, fake nails, etc. Also, camera batteries, memory card, etc. I want every dressup exerience to be great.

[vetobob9]

I recently took a course on the evolution of human sexuality. Like homosexuality, the desire to crossdress is caused by an evolutionary neurochemical battle between the fetus and the mother.
Female embryos demand less of the woman's body than male embryo's. A male embryo will cause a woman to become temporarily diabetic by making her consume more sugar than is healthy for her. The woman's body responds to this by releasing biochemicals to "feminize" the embryo so that it becomes less demanding and less of a threat to the woman's body.

Did you know that women with few resources are more likely to have daughters and women with access to a lot of resources are more likely to have sons? At least according to the global cross cultural survey that looked at 5,000 different cultures and subcultures.

[Dannigirl]

Wow, freaky, I was just thinking about this the other day. I have the same thing, watching something on tv or seeing some lady walking down the street in her pencil skirt etc ... WHAM. In fact that Reebok commercial seems to be setting me off recently.