came out to my mom, i think.

[girlalex]

The other day the urge to tell my mom about myself was irresistible. I just couldn't wait anymore. i felt like i had to tell her no matter what. so instead of making it very complicated i simplified what i was trying to tell her by showing her one of my makeover pictures, which was make up only. i showed it to her on my lap top. at first she didn't recognize that it was me, then by the look on her face she was surprised that i looked fairly passable as a girl. i was really exited and super nervous in the same time but it was a relief that my mom at least saw me as what I really feel like inside. she didn't really say anything except that she wished she had a daughter too. :straightface: don't really know what that was about. before showing her that picture i dropped a bunch of clues to that im more feminine than muscling, and that makeover picture was supposed to be a detonator for those clues to take effect and really make my mom realize why is that i hated the gym so much. yet she still doesn't seem to notice. so i don't know. than one day later i even told her that the make over i showed to her was honestly my favorite picture and she looked at me and still didn't say anything.

[dominique]

Give your mum some time. She is trying to work out what has happened and also trying to frame some response. Give her space. Yes you've come out to her.

[Chari]

Good for you for being honest with your mom! Regardless of the situation, most mom's will continue to love and help their child. Keep communicating, go slow with your needs, but ask her for help. Hopefully your mom will understand some of your feelings so you both can enjoy your feminine side.

[Teresa Ann]

Alex tell your mom that with her help that you would love to be her part time daughter so the two of you can bond closer.

[Stephenie S]

Probably a good idea would be to TALK to your mom.

Clues are one thing, but when you really want to communicate with some one, talking has proven to be a VERY effective way. Really, hon, talk to her. Remember, she's your mom. She's gonna love you no matter what.

Stephie

[AKAMichelle]

Your mom is probably very confused. She sees this as something maybe that you did, but not necessarily what you have wanting to do still. Maybe you should just finish connecting the dots for her.

[Delenn]

Thats funny, I came out to my mom exactly the same way last year and her answer was same, she wanted girl more than boy before my birth:daydreaming: Also she did not ask at first something but gave to me some jewels:battingeyelashes: Afterwards she did ask some info about transition. Once I did ask about her feelings and she said its ok you are my own child does not matter how and what you wear.
Girlalex you are not alone, give her time and enjoy your life:love:

[banootcd]

I hope everything to be fine with u girlalex

[KatieV]

My dear mother knew I was, well, different - the bras in her lingerie drawer were slightly out of adjustment, her pantyhose were out of place and my sister's shortest, cutest skirt was missing. I had long straight hair and smooth legs. Late at night I'd sneak out of the house and walk across California Avenue and the guys would slow down and try to pick me up.
So, she sent me the a psychologist who absolutely didn't get it, a wasted effort. At the same time, quietly, my mother supported me - I received a Revlon nail kit and she and my aunt even commented that it was a shame to waste such good legs on a boy.
It reached a point where I could no longer resist the idea of my mother seeing me dressed as a girl. One night I slept en femme and the following morning I did a fashion show for her, changing outfits, shoes, etc. while she sat in a comfy chair watching - well, she did tell me to me close the blinds so the neighbors would't see. She loved my strappy red heels and asked if she could borrow my purse! When I put on an extremely short skirt and she told me I looked like a call girl - honestly. I confided to her that I didn't think that I could pass and she responded that I'd have no problems in a bar!
Mothers are so accepting - you've not doing anything harmful and mean spirited - just enjoying being a girl! Good luck - everthing is going to be all right.

[KristinSkye]

First off, way to go for having the guts to tell someone that you love. That's a hard thing to do for most of us.

Secondly, I agree with some of the other posts in that your Mom is probably very confused right now. This is probably why when you told her how the picture you showed her was your favorite she wasn't able to respond. She's clearly got a lot going through her head right now.

How long exactly has it been since you showed her the picture? If it hasn't been too long I personally would wait a bit longer to see if she is able to rationalize things and come talk to you about it. If not you may want to start a conversation with her. Is she acting towards you any differently? If so you may want to say "Mom, I noticed that since I told you about girlalex you've been a bit quiet towards me, can we please talk about it?".

Hang in there, and let us know how things go :hugs:

[girlalex]

its been about almost a month i think. but really i think she took it as joke. because ever since i showed her my make over pic her behavior stayed exactly the same like nothing changed. she knows im good at art so she probably thought that i wanted to impress her with my make up/hair skills.

[Chickhe]

You didn't tell her anything. You just showed her a creative effort to look female. You need to decide where you are going and tell her that. Then she will know how she can help you. ...you can use the image as a starting point...like hey, mom, remember the photo I showed you... well.....

[JenniferLynn0370]

Congrats Girlalex! That's a huge first step. I would just be observant for any opportunity you can get, while out shopping with your Mother, to tell her If you see something you like. I wouldn't go overboard, but try to find that fine line where you occassionally pull something out and show it to her and say something like "isn't this cute? I really like it" and then put it back and move on. I used that tactic with my wife. At first, she would comment on what she thought about it, then she might agree that she liked it or not and then one day she said that she didn't like it as it wouldn't look good on her...I replied that our tastes were different and that I wasn't really looking at it from that standpoint and she realized what I meant. She still doesn't support me dressing, but she knows I love it! As far as my own Mom goes, she has known pretty much all my life, but I think she doesn't want to accept it and I've nver pushed it too hard. She has seen me crossdressed more times than I can count from the time I was a toddler up to my teens but I think she always chalked it up to me playing around. I commend you for what you've done. Good luck!

[girlalex]

o and another thing i forgot to mention is actually something i find really funny yet confusing too. Ever since my mom saw my make over, on occasion she refers to me as a she by mistake when we talk.:o

[Teresa Ann]

Alex you are getting closer to talking with your mom about Alex, it sounds like see is getting ready to meet her daughter. Good luck

[JenniferLynn0370]

I agree with Teresa; you have your Mother's attention and the seed you planted has sprouted in her mind. I hope it turns out exactly the way you want it too!!

Hugs,
Jen

[Tasha McIntyre]

Hi Alex,

Ever since my mom saw my make over, on occasion she refers to me as a she by mistake when we talk.:o

Well, it sounds on face value like your mom is ready to hear what you might have to say. Are you ready to tell her?