I just came out to my dad....

[Myojine]

So like, um... After many beating around the bush calls back and forth with the man i kinda didnt really care for, My Father, a person i desperately wanted to be "friends" and be family with.
I finally made the call
and talk to him...
and Finally told him
"Dad, im trans"



Im not exactly sure how he took it, i mean i guess its hard to understand...
But I dont think he hates me or um anything that i thought he would...



i need some time to gather my thoughts...

[7sisters]

Well, does he even know what trans implies? I knew of the word transexual ten years ago, but I had no idea what it really meant till March this year!!! Is he very traditional?

[Myojine]

Well, does he even know what trans implies? I knew of the word transexual ten years ago, but I had no idea what it really meant till March this year!!! Is he very traditional?

well it was more then just "Im trans"
i was alot more discriptive and explanitory about it.
Im alot like him so i explained it like i would explain it to anyone like me.
he understands, and the question he gave me was the same i had been asking myself...


Whats more important?
Being a girl? or getting certain life details and being a Soldier like i promised to do?
as it stands now, i dont have the means to transition...
i wish i did.
becuase in the end, its going to take him a while to get used to this... but...
i think in the end hell accept it, expeically because im the only child he has that has any connection with him.

[7sisters]

Good that he'll accept it. It's easier on you if he does. You'll transition. Just take one day at a time. But dont just 'want to transition', start working at it. Tiny little steps every week should get you there in the end. Take care! Best of luck!!

[BreenaDion]

Good for you Myojine. Least you was able to.Mine left after I was conseved an never knew I was born. Stepfather came 10 yrs later and he never knew ,he died 2001. All my parents never knew the scope of what I am.
More power to you girl god love ya.

Bree

[Rianna Humble]

I'm proud of you, Myojine! It takes a lot of courage to tell parents especially if (as in your case) they have expectations of you that may not sit well with your need to transition.

After I told my father, I gave him time for it to sink in and for him to ask questions before I let him see me dressed. By taking it slowly, I think I allowed him to accept it progressively so that when I told him I needed to change my name and start living full time as a woman, he was able to accept the idea and support me.

[Jorja]

I too am proud of you Myojine. It does take courage to tell parents things you know they don't want to hear. I was scared to death of my father growing up. Not that he ever hurt or abused me but he was one rough SOB. Just the thought of telling him I was transsexual made me pee down my leg. Finally I got up the nerve to tell him. He stood up and I thought omg I'm dead. He walked over and gave me a big hug and said it was about time I admitted it to myself and was thoughtful enough to share it with him. Huh? How did he know? Surprisingly, most parents know a lot more than you think they know. Go slow with him and things will work out.

[AnonyMouse]

Congratulations, Myojine. That's one huge hurdle you've just overcome. I know how judgmentopsycho parents can be, so I'm really happy for you that he took it well.