Wife Knows Now - "Whew" so far

[Stefia S]

Before we got married in the mid 1990's I let my fiance (now my wife) know I had crossdressed in the past but had stopped (silly me, I thought it was for good). She was okay that I had crossdressed, was a bit curious, but never asked much about it or pursued it herself.

Two day ago my wife found a blouse in the guest room I had unknowingly lost; she was puzzled whose it could be. We left to go out of town to visit family yesterday where she'd ask each of the women if they left the blouse when they'd visited.

So, I figured this morning was an "urgent opportunity" to let her know that over the past year I had started crossdressing again and the blouse is mine. Its less than ideal, since we are staying at a relative's house. Her response was to be very caring, curious and wanting to talk more, once we get back home. She ended by saying *"gee, I'm so naive I wouldn't have thought of that, or that it could've been an affair (since I had assured her I was not having one)".

**Whew!** Tonight I'll talk with her about setting a definite time for us to talk as soon as we can when we get home, before she makes too many uninformed assumption for herself.

[Marcia Blue]

Stefia,
I hope everything goes well. My best wishes for you both.

[Danielle Gee]

Stefia: I told my Wife about my Cross-Dressing over 3 years ago. Even though we've had some problems with it here and there, I believe the honesty is the best policy. My women I know seem to have the ablity to forgive a man for just about anything......except lying. Give her a chance to accect you as you are , and I'm sure it'll work out for the best!!! Keep us posted on how it goes.

Danielle

["Mary"]

So far so good. Go slow is my only advice.

Wishing you the best in this.

[Ashleythenewgirl]

Good luck Stefia- I know how you feel as I came out to my wife a few months ago. Wishing the best for you!
Hugs
Ashley

[Ria]

Interesting, that could have gone way worse hey... good on ya for being honest about it.

[Alice B]

That is the right move. It sounds as if she might be accepting, so be open and honest.

[AKAMichelle]

I hope the talk goes well.

[Danielle Gee]

Stefia: I told my Wife about my Cross-Dressing over 3 years ago. Even though we've had some problems with it here and there, I believe the honesty is the best policy. My women I know seem to have the ablity to forgive a man for just about anything......except lying. Give her a chance to accect you as you are , and I'm sure it'll work out for the best!!! Keep us posted on how it goes.

Danielle

Sorry, I meant to say 30 years ago!!!

[Elle1946]

Sounds like a good idea.

[Stefia S]

We talked about my crossdressing last night and I feel so relieved! My wife still loves me for who I am, crossdressing included. For the first time ever I'm feeling a burden of guilt lifted from me.

She is understanding about how fundamental to me expressing my feminine self is and how it enhances the qualities she likes in me. Though she is not prepared quite yet to see me in female attire nor to learn to what extent I crossdress. Perhaps she says in due time.

She will not discourage nor encourage me to crossdress, as long as I am discreet and it does not divert any more time and energy from our relationship (as our personal hobbies tend to do) than we both agree is acceptable.

I feel so lucky! I plan to disclose and help my wife learn more about my crossdressing at a pace comfortable for her.

[kimdl93]

it sounds like your wife is a reasonble and loving person. Realy, in such a short time frame, her response is very encouraging and you seem to be willing to give her the time, space and consideration she needs to adjust. Of course, once she sees how cute you are, she may never let you wear drabs again!

[Alice B]

It sounds as if she will be OK with your dressing. Be sure to have a frank and open discussion, find out what her concerns are and establish working rules. It will only get better after that.

[kristinacd55]

Stefia, sounds like your handling it the right way. Take it nice and slow, my wife found out 3 years ago (not 30 like she should have!) and has been pretty good about it.

[Amanda22]

Of course, once she sees how cute you are, she may never let you wear drabs again!

Hi Kim!! Not sure if you meant that seriously or not, but actually, that happened to me. My wife LOVES how I look dressed. She calls me "pretty", "cute", even "hot". Once she saw me well-dressed with taste and class, she was all for it. Nearly every morning, she asks me what I'm going to wear that day (I telecommute exclusively) with a smile.

[Amanda22]

Stefia, it sounds like you're handling this perfectly. Great job! As others have said, lying is really hard to overlook, so make sure you don't go there. I don't think you will. Honest communication and the setting of boundaries are the pathway to crossdressing becoming a nurtured aspect of your relationship. That happened to me. Congratulations. I foresee your life and relationship becoming better with crossdressing out of the closet.