How to seduce the man I love advices please

[shaz24]

Hi...I'm a newly turned M2F transsexual and a bit new to the love and relationships side. I know a neighborly guy very well who seems to fancy me but neither him or I have the courage to take a step forward and we do have great chemistry. I want to drop a small note to his home tomorrow saying "if you want to know who I am, keep the door of your home open after night tomorrow sweetheart" with a print of my lips on the paper made from my kiss and a scented panty tagged with the note. Will it work? Is it too cheap? I know he's also physically attracted to me.

By the way, we both have made out already once. Is this approach ok for me? I want to enter his home after midnight to "help" him.

[Ze]

To be honest, for a cheap thrill and one-night stand, that'd probably be the way to go...assuming he likes cheap and wants a one-night stand. You're saying "seduce," but also saying for the man you "love." Relationships are not stable on sexual activity alone. What exactly is it you're out for? One potential night of passion or for something to continue thereafter?

As far as whether or not anything works, only you can know that based on what you learn from him. The irony here is you'd learn more about him if you actually, say, went on a date with him and asked. Or talked to him. Do you talk to him?

I admit I'm not a cismale, but if I got exactly what you describe above from a female, it would be a big turn-off. If I had an interest in her before, I wouldn't anymore. Such a move would say something about her character that I'd just plain not like. And I consider myself a horndog.

Also, as a moderator here, I want to warn posters in this thread that sexually explicit talk is not allowed. So don't bother trying or feel the wrath of a scrawny transman.

[Fab Karen]

What Ze said. If you want a relationship, you could send a note saying it'd be nice to get together & TALK, get to know each other. Plan something where a bedroom isn't seconds away.
On the tangent of a guy's reaction to the sexually suggestive note, if he was even slightly attracted & a "horndog" he might go for a one-time encounter. But such a thing would NOT suggest anything serious or lasting.

[Stephenie S]

Yeah, what she said.

[pamela_a]

Ze and Karen are spot on. Tell him you'd like to meet for coffee and talk. Learn about each other first. Friendship is the best foundation for any relationship.

[Ze]

Something else I thought of: you said he was "neighborly." Do you mean that he's your neighbor? If that's the case, you need to give this a heck of a lot of thought. If he isn't interested or even if you two do have a one-nighter, things could get veeeery awkward from that point on. Believe me, having an awkward relationship with a neighbor will make you want to move.

Also, you seem to not know much about him, yet know he's attracted to you and has made-out with you? And yet neither of you has the courage to "take a step forward"? That sounds kind of odd since it seems you two already have. Does he know of your past at all? I'm not one to encourage outing oneself on every little occasion, but if it's somebody you might end up sleeping with and he's your neighbor, this is an important time to be truthful. Those aren't everybody's ethics, but they're definitely mine.

[cara]

Seriously, if you fell in LOVE with this man who you "made out" with once, IMHO you should withdraw from intimate relationships until you can get some therapy.
Cara

[Miranda09]

Yes, tread carefully here. Don't be a woman who chases....be the woman who is pursued!!! That way you'll know if he's really attracted to you AND wants you.....AND, play a bit hard to get. Make him work for his rewards!!!!! ;)

[7sisters]

Oh my God please do not do that!!!! Men can be quite gossipy... you dont want him gossiping with his buddys in the neighbourhood about you.

If he asks you out, restraint is adviced. Do not make out with him till the 7th or 10th date. I dont want him to think he can use you! When he starts to see you as a PERSON and you get past talking about jobs, bosses, ambitions in life, favorite things, hobbies etc, then let things get physical. Keep talking till the 7th date.

Best of luck my dear!

[Ms Jennifer]

I agree with the rest of the posters.The one night of fun is not good.A few dates and you can see who he really is.Jumping in to satisfy his needs seems a little too eager.Does that Satisfy your needs.A girl has to be a little hard to get.It seems the 2 of you are already attracted so take it slow and he might be the man you are looking for. Good luck and keep us updated.