Feeling trapped (2)

[Pattie O]

Hello,
I am having a struggle with my transgenderism.I have retreated back to the closet,regrown my beard (to appease my wife) and have lost my way.I have been to a psychologist for an initial visit to discuss my situation.I feel more trapped than before.Now that I'm "out" to wife and some others it feels like I am retreating and I am becoming totally confused.Has anyone been in this situation? and any advice would be welcome.

[Stephenie S]

Well, hon, what does your shrink say?

But sure, a whole LOT of people on this forum have been right where you are right now. Get a grip, girl. Take a deep breath. Take several. Try to relax.

This is why we go into therapy. As light as I try to make it in my posts, GID is hard to deal with on our own. Most successful TG women (and men) willingly, or otherwise, go into therapy.

Therapy is what you should do and you are doing that already. Good for you. That's a good start. Whether you transition or decide against it, you are doing the right thing now.

Do I have any suggestions? Well, as some people know already, I can usually manage to render an opinion on many different issues right here. Stay tuned. There's lots of other people ready to help right here too.

Stephie

[Ana5551]

Been there several times. I never fully accepted who I was until recently. Actually about 3 weeks ago. I have been back and forth so many times... The best thing for me to do was to take a breath, and talk to someone that knew what I was going through. Usually my therapist as I did not tell anyone other than my wife until, well 3 weeks ago. I have come to appreciate the fact that I can not do this alone, and coming out to my family was the best thing I ever did. I do not know what type of support you get from your wife, but you should definitely talk with her as well. And do something fun, we can not obsess over this 24/7, it is not healthy for us. The distraction of something you really enjoy will help distract you from the turmoil inside. Good luck, and remember, you are not alone...there are so many of us going through exactly what you are at the same time.

[Pattie O]

I have been a lifelong crossdresser but only recently have I become aware of gender dysphoria and this has been a more difficult thing to accept even though it may help explain my present state ie late 40s and desperate to go out ,go to balls,join a support group,waxing body,wanting to just BE that woman I want to be.My wife is non accepting and so this is very difficult makes it even hard to compromise.I suppose that if I head on back into the closet for long enough the CDing may settle BUT I'm scared of the future and how I am going to address my gender dysphoria. I also have been praying for help and yes it helps not to dwell constantly on this.

[Melody Moore]

regrown my beard (to appease my wife)
I have one very simple bit of advice after what I have just read
"Live your life for YOU and not for other people" not even your wife

If U dont it will destroy you!