Have you ever felt alone, when you are around people.

[Gerrijerry]

Over the years I have at many times looked around with lots of others around me. At different places and felt alone. Have you ever felt this way?

[Traci Elizabeth]

There have been times in my life when I have felt very alone whether surrounded by tons of passerby's, in a group I knew, at work, and even around family.

But those times tended to be when I was self-absorbed in a crises or low point in my life. Issues like dealing with lost love, dealing with abusive parents, fighting wars, death of someone dear to me.

These past several years, I can't recall feeling that way. For me at least, the present is the happiest I have ever been in my life and even when I am out and about with myself, I don't feel alone.

I think the awareness of being "alone" is predicated upon our own state of happiness.

So says the "Great Sage" Traci ~

[suzy1]

I think that’s true of most of us at times Gerri. Nothing to worry about. Just means your human like the rest of us.

Look after yourself, SUZY

[Steph.TS]

I rarely feel 'alone' but I always feel that I'm not understood and people know IRL would be surprised to find out my true feelings, I have a big beard on my face, aside from my family they have NO clue that I'm more girly than most men. even though my family knows I'm a girly guy, I doubt they would be happy at all to find out I want to transition.

[Kaitlyn Michele]

OMG Gerry Yes!!

I have thought this on the inside my entire life... i am not lonely. but i am alone...

i feel it all the time and when i see situations in business and relationships i often have a sinking feeling that "they" are not like "me"..that there is some kind of human bond out there that is unattainable for me

i am blessed with a gift for BS'ing my way through lots of situations...i've been the life of many parties, and i've been a corporate business leader...but i never felt like i belonged..
remember that altho we all share being TS, our personalities, upbringings, experiences and other factors all get thrown into the stew of our identity...but the TS part has been such a black hole in my personal growth..

i have to say that i still feel that way as a woman, but that i feel like as a woman at least i have a chance..

anyway...i just wanted to send out a hug to you and say i feel that way all the time, and i try to think of if as just a part of my personality and i like being alone most of the time..

[Cherie]

I will admit i to have felt alone in a crowd i get along with just about anyone but do not allways fit in. If im at a pub around a group of guys i have to be careful on what i say i have allways been more relaxed around women (wonder why) but allways have trouble with the jealous boyfriend so back i go feeling awkward talking to the guys again

[Asako]

The "crowd" in schools never wanted me. So, when I look back at my childhood in school, I can definitely relate to your feelings in a way. Today, I just keep a little emotional distance from everyone else while letting others decide how close they want to be to me. If I feel they're getting too close, I let them know. This obviously won't work for most people(I'm anti-social) but this is just how I get by in day-to-day life while being around others. =)

[Phyliss]

Being "Alone in a Crowd" .... how well I can identify with that statement.

Grammer school, was always last picked at recess game time, high school , never quite "fit in" ... you all know the story. While in USN got drunk quite often (was acceptable then) helped to mask the feelings.

Many years ago, stopped drinking, and got sober. Realized over time there are others like me who "feel" alone. We all know how miserable that is. Didn't want to be miserable, but didn't wanna be drunk either. Had to do something.

While I'm not what would be termed "an outgoing person" I've taught myself to reach out to anybody and get to know them, quite surprisingly many people are just waiting for "the other guy to make the first move"

Yeah I sometimes get those "lonely" feelings but with constant effort, those times don't happen as often.

[RylieCD]

I feel alone much of the time, moreso in groups of others

[Rianna Humble]

Over the years I have at many times looked around with lots of others around me. At different places and felt alone. Have you ever felt this way?

Only roughly all the time. A while back, I was invited to an event at a hotel that I frequented. I tried to mingle, but it didn't work so I just did my sad so-and-so in the corner act for a while then left.

Even last month at my first TG support meeting, although loads of people came up to welcome me and after a while I went up to someone who looked a bit left out. When we went on from there for a meal together, I ended up wondering why I was alone with all these people around me.

So the best I can offer you, Gerri is :bighug:

[Ellenor]

Being alone -- while surrounded by family - by friends - part of - and yet outside the loop -- trying so hard to prove my toughness - being one of the guys -- it is hard to find peace but worth the hunt..

[Barbara Dugan]

Yes... all my life

[pamela_a]

Feeling alone in a crowd? I've felt that way for as long as I can remember. When you never fit in it's impossible to feel anything but alone.

[girlalex]

Yes, i can definitely relate to feeling alone more often than not. I guess im not feeling so alone as i did before since i kinda got used to thinking like other people do. During
my days in college no matter how many cool people i met or how much fun i had i still felt like i was alone. also the other reason why i feel alone is because i don't understand why
so many people want to get married and have kids so early in their life. i never understood why people get married at first place anyways. no offense to anyone but it just
doesn't make sense to get married and be dependent on someone or have someone depend on you which in the long rung leads to divorce and lots and lots of annoying paper work to
deal with. i am extremely alone because i don't understand why so many people want this headache. life is hard already the way it is. why make it harder. don't you want to make a few cool friends and just experience all the good things life has to offer from its beginning to its end? just how some people act freaks me out. sometimes i feel like everyone around me is clueless about something very simple that i'm aware of and thats why i feel alone.

[Andi]

Yes... all my life

That be me too! I think it may be due to my mind constantly being in different place than my body and my daily activities. I'm deeply in the closet with no acceptance by my SO and no one else knows. I view the world, listen to the world through my Feminine mind and there I stay mentally. That makes me quiet, withdrawn and thus alone even tho I'm surrounded by and interacting with others when necessary as a male. It's very frustrating and lonely for sure.

[AnonyMouse]

I often felt that way before I came out to myself. Never really felt like I fit into the social webbing that others had constructed. Being made to play as the opposite gender 24/7 does that kind of thing to you.

Now I feel alone in my own house, because no matter how much I interact with them, my family members and I are incapable of connecting on a very deep level. My mother betrayed me a few years ago and since then I've rarely confided in her, my dad is just the wrong person to go to, and my siblings have enough of their own problems.

[girlalex]

That be me too! I think it may be due to my mind constantly being in different place than my body and my daily activities. I'm deeply in the closet with no acceptance by my SO and no one else knows. I view the world, listen to the world through my Feminine mind and there I stay mentally. That makes me quiet, withdrawn and thus alone even tho I'm surrounded by and interacting with others when necessary as a male. It's very frustrating and lonely for sure.

im the exact same. only in my case i don't think my mom would not understand. btw im a virgo too.