What happens when you don't crossdress often enough?

[Jay Cee]

I'm starting to think that "Jessie" isn't getting enough time to play. I'm not sure why I'm keeping her locked away, but other than wearing nighties while sleeping, she's rarely seen. I put a wig on tonight, and immediately felt better.

I'm not sure if I am a lazy cd'er, and can't be bothered with makeup and getting all dolled up, or if there is something else going on. My SO is cool with my dressing, so it isn't like that is an issue.

How do you feel when you don't get (or deny yourself) an opportunity to dress up? Please be as specific as you can.

Thanks

Jessie

[NathalieX66]

I had a very demanding & stressful week last week, with long hours.
I went out with my crew of girls this past saturday, and it was fun to be able to step out of my usual 8-to-8 realm by being my femme self.
I don't know if you call this a hobby, but I look forward to getting Nathalie beyond my front door, and into a public setting. I don't do this every weekend, but it sure is fun when I do. .....better some than none. :)

[Loni]

moody. in a downer way.
grumpy...and i am not short.

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[Kaz]

Yeah, it's painful... Kaz has been locked up for a few months, and I feel like I am going crazy! Thankfully, I am away for a few days so maybe it will all come good again.

Kaz xx

[Asako]

I get really depressed and have to work hard at having fun to forget it but the moment my mind finds something to think about, it goes right back to it and down the spiral I go. Thankfully, I can focus my attention really well when I want to. That would be one of those times.

[Tara1967]

I haven't dressed ever since we came back from SCC. It's been around 3 weeks for me now. And I do get a little cranky myself. I try to keep Tara away for as long as I can trying to be considerate to my wife. But latley I feel the fever coming on. And of the other poster here calling this a hobby. It might be for some cd'ers, but for me and I'm sure plenty of others, this isn't a hobby. It is a major neccesity. Well 2 weeks but it just feels like 3.

[sissystephanie]

As a widower, I live by myself. Thus I can dress whenever I feel like it. Of course, I also did that when my late wife was alive, since she totally supported my CD activites.

However, earlier this month I made a trip to Scotland to visit some friends. The lady knows that I CD and doesn't care! However, her husband does not know so I took no CD clothes on the trip. I was gone for two weeks and by the time I came back I couldn't wait to put on a pretty skirt and top. Of course I also had to go out into the big world so people could see Stephanie!! I love to crossdress!!

[brandi]

I haven't dressed in almost three months now. Ever since I was suspended from my job. I just don't have the desire anymore right now. I know eventually the urge will come back, it always does, but for right now I just don't feel like it.

Brandi

[alyssaenglefield]

I can manage about a week - I went home for two and a half weeks in June-July, and I left everything here: when I got back, the first thing I did (after turning the power back on and opening the windows) was to dress en femme!

[Jenniferpl]

Grumpy and depressed describes me.

[Kate Simmons]

Evidently the space-time continuum is disrupted according to many here.:)

[RachelDenise]

Unfortuately I have to find time to dress. It does make me feel regretful and slightly depressed that I can't share this part of myself more frequently.

[Maryesther M.]

Funny, I live with my eternally disapproving wife and also frequently have family dropping by, so I have to plan Maryesther's outings very carefully and well in advance.
Right now the family are abroad and the wife has gone off for a few days playing bridge with her friends....BINGO! Maryesther can emerge. It happens so seldom that I need to get in a photo session most times she appears, and I have to fit that in with my normal workday and some evening activities, like rowing training and choir, which eat into ME-time.

Sanity in the meantime is preserved posting you grrls and planning wardrobe &c. for ME's next outing. I get a great kick out of that, too.

[Samantha_Smile]

Personally, when I cant dress often, the stress levels SOAR.
Its ridiculous.
And over prolonged periods of not dressing, I have to take acive measures to keep my mood in check.
It's usually worth the wait though isnt it? :)

[linda allen]

"What happens when you don't crossdress often enough?"

I start dreaming about it. Mostly daydreams. Sometimes "real" dreams, only in the real dreams I'm usually about to get caught and I'm trying to get my bra and forms off and hidden.

[LitaKelley]

depressed, agitated, moody, stressed.....

I feel SOOOOO MUCH BETTER when crossdressed/en femme that I am going full time being female. I'll be a much happier and pleasant person

[Jenna Stunned]

Its like having an itch that you cant scratch. The anticipation builds over time, Getting ever more stressful. Until your able to express your inner feelings, Ah.... relif.
Why, Oh why, Must dressing be so unacceptable by the mainstream.

[AKKaren]

:sigh:Me...I have integrated Karen as part of my every day life. I don't even own guy sleepwear anymore. It's night gowns every night. It helps me keep an even keel, if you can relate!

[Sarah Doepner]

I'll get a little figgity at first. Some of that energy can be redirected and I can be productive, sort of. Then I start to get a little grumpy, short of temper and not willing to suffer the actions of fools. Unfortunately as I become grumpy the universe of "fools" somehow expands to include much more of the world. I become distracted and find ways to get little samples of crossdressing on line, but it's never the same as actually doing it. I'll take a few minutes and check out my closet, just to think of outfits I'd like to wear but can't right now. If I'm shopping I'll take a stroll down the cosmetics asile or through the women's clothing area if I can. I begin to write stories about crossdressing with my computer facing away from those who are keeping me from doing what I need to do. I begin to visualize dressing before I go to bed or as I'm waking up, but it's not the same thing, it only makes it worse. I'll get up early or go to bed late so I can dress for a half hour, no makeup, no wig, no relaxing and no real satisfaction. I then begin to stalk the night looking for those who mock my beauty, destroying all who dare walk the streets or drive the roads without paying proper tribute to their queen, wait, that's a different story.

Eventually I find the time and feel much better now, thank you.

[Debra Russell]

I too get grumpy if Debbie doesn't get "out":sad: It's been three weeks and I am thinking of something to do this weekend as my wife is at work. When I don't dress often enough my work suffers. I try to focus but "she " is inside wanting out so a little nail polish will just have to do for now! I wear panties and night gowns regularly anyway. I try not to dress just for a little while to ease the frustration as it is too painfull to regress without more of fullfilling expierence so I come here to read and observe and glean from all of your thoughts -- it's a little bit of relief :) .......Debra

[Michaela42]

As many others have said I tend to get moody and angry with people easily. It has been this way since I let Makaila back out of the closet. Tough I cannot go out in public (just yet) just some alone time enfemme lets me feel better.

My biggest issue right now is limited funds and all of the great sales I have found on the intertubes. Makaila definitely has champagne tastes on a (cheap) beer budget.

[Roxanne_Alternate]

I'm usually a laid-back person, so if I can or can't dress up isn't actually an issue for me. Sometimes I just get this great urge, which just won't go away until I give into it. Usually, being dressed up for an hour or two can be satisfying for me.

My urges come and go. Sometimes, I have them every day, and sometimes, they stay away for weeks.

For me, there are no direct consequences I can think of when I can't dress up if I want to.

[JessiRed]

Depression mainly.

I've gained too much weight to fit into any of my clothes nor can I afford to go buy more so I'm stuck :(

I am slowly losing weight so once I get it back off look out world!!

[sterling12]

Oh Wow! I once read that if you don't get femme dressed often enough, hair starts to grow in your palms, followed by going blind, and finally; insanity!

For all you folks who were writing about not having done it for a while....I'll just bet that you now need glasses! Better heed That Warning!

Peace and Love, Joanie

[5150 Girl]

I get very cranky and short temperd if I don't get out enough.

[evadan]

I can never get the house to myself to spend time en femme. It has been a very long time since I was able to get completely dressed up. Also, I purged my all my feminine things back then. Thankfully, now my wife buys lingerie for me and has talked about clearing out a drawer for me in her dresser. I hope she will be ok if I enhance my wardrobe with a bra or two, shoes and some dresses, etc. Wishful thinking but it keeps me going. Then if I can just get the kids out of the house...

[Kelly Greene]

I get emotional and depressed.
It is not a fun place to be.

[Tina B.]

Well first I have to shave the palms, and clean my glasses, then when I have done that I will find away to start an argument with someone, just to blow off steam. Now none of this really helps, but it is expected. Really I just get moody and quite, and everything gets to me. Little things become big worries, and I too have a hard time with the fools of the world, and yes Sarah, it's not just you, there does seem to be a lot more of them at those times. Fortunately I don't find myself in that position all that often anymore. My wife would much rather see me in a dress, as to see me in a snit.
Tina B.

[OccasionalSkirt]

I just won't stop thinking about it till I get into a skirt

[Madilyn A.]

Like the rest of us, I become miserable and the repercussions spill over into the rest of my life. Over the last month or so, several of my on-line friends have sent PMs regarding my inactivity....... I thought my recent reply was appropriate for this thread :..............."You are so thoughtful, thank you for thinking of me.......I am fine. Just readjusted my priorities over the late summer. Since the beginning of summer, my opportunities to dress became very limited. I only fully dressed on one occassion. My stress level seemed to increase each day I was unable to dress. I finally realized by late summer that, I was missing out not only on dressing, but also the enjoyment of spending time with my grandchildren and children, as well as my wife. The reason was my focus on NOT having time to dress was making me miserable. So after much thought, I realized due to schedule changes more time would become available for Madilyn and the life long "pink fog" effects us more and less throughout our lives. So I chose to focus on what I had as opposed to what I did not have, with the knowledge that the fog will descend on me like a ton of undeniable bricks ! So, right now Madilyn is content to crossdress as a male. So as I said I am fine right now."

[Maia C]

Uptight and frustrated. My fantasies start working overtime to make up for it.

[Christy_M]

I am in the same boat as many others who get moody, cranky, short tempered, depressed, frustrated, etc. My wife doesn't approve and so I have to plan time for Christy. I had a SUnday plan all laid out and my wife decided to leave the kids home from church so Christy didn't get her time.

[Rachel Morley]

Fortunately this doesn't happen to me that often as I'm lucky that my blending of girl and guy clothes (outside of work) helps to satisfy me and keep me at peace with myself but if I can't or don't have the opportunity to dress fully and let's say I haven't dressed fully for perhaps two weeks ..... then I get like others have said, I get stressed, and I have anxiety, and I'm irritable. :sad:

[Kari Lynn Franks]

have you ever heard of blue balls? I get blue boobs when I dont get to dress.lol

[Hali]

Its like having an itch that you cant scratch. The anticipation builds over time, Getting ever more stressful. Until your able to express your inner feelings, Ah.... relif.
Why, Oh why, Must dressing be so unacceptable by the mainstream.

Perfectly said. When i dont dress due to time contraints or i face rejection from my femme expression the following week am likely to be a bit grouchy.

[eluuzion]

you[/I] feel when you don't get (or deny yourself) an opportunity to dress up? Please be as specific as you can.
Jessie

Well, the short answer is this...

The same thing that happens after swimming in a cold pool...just like the episode of Seinfeld where George Castanza's date walked in on him while he was changing clothes right after he went swimming...hehehe

[Tiffany2]

Bitchy !!!:devil:

[maggiecdva]

Hi Jessie - I know what it's like to not get enough CDing time. I tend to get cranky and feel more stressed out. This happened recently from mid-August until just recently. My parents needed some extra care giving and my sister and I were the ones who had to provide it.

Surfice it to say it was stressful and bring Maggie out to play was not a possibility even though I needed her that much more. Fortunately I've been able to be out more the last week or so. I really feel a little Maggie time each day does me well.

For those who don't know I have Stage 4 Colon cancer ... metastisized to lymph nodes. Spending time as Maggie helps me deal with the cancer treatments and all the stress of the disease. I even dress partially as maggie while recieving chemo treatments, the nurses have been so supportive.

hugs - maggie

[GirlieAmanda]

I can't go more than a couple of days lately. I love it so much. I get very angry and resentful that I am prevented from doing it by 1. My wife being around and not wanting it while she is around, or 2. Working two jobs. I get so little time to dress and it is contrasting with a hugely renewed desire to be my girl self. I want be my girl self all the time so any time I am not... just feels wrong.

[PretzelGirl]

I don't understand. What is "not dressing often enough"? :heehee:

[Karinsamatha]

Bitchy !!!:devil:


Yup that's me! when I don't get to dress, and be myself!
:hugs:

[adrienner99]

I have not been able to dress for quite a long time.

I feel like I am not being true to who I am.

[Kelly Blaine]

I really become unsettled.

[sometimes_miss]

What happens when you don't crossdress often enough?
Simple. I become increasingly short tempered and have difficulty focusing on tasks, have difficulty with short term memory, well I basically just become cranky. Kind of like if you're walking around with a stone in your shoe that you can't remove.

[erika_s]

Becoming Erika takes me a lot of Time and energy. Just *knowing* that I can crossdress is enough when I have little time for me. It is the case since three months.

[Suzette Muguet de Mai]

Sigh, I get depressed, and a lil bit cranky. Especially when I just took a while to decide to buy a nice dress and made the decision to buy and I open a magazine and I see another one I just adore at half the price. Or I cannot make a decision between a number of items on which I want to get, Or I get something finally and I have not got a chance to try it on. Or major like, when I am in male mode and I see a woman with a gorgeous top and I stare, it becomes problematic cos she thinks I am staring at her, but I am looking with envie at her top. Like that becomes a real drag for me. So I have got to get home, and dress in my favourite clothes and settle down, if I have to stay in male mode............SULK.

[Sharon B.]

Irritable, gain weight, male PMS, will stress out over simple things.

[Claire Cook]

All of the above. Dressing kick-starts my day!

[Kylie666]

Well with times hard down here i am unemployed and have no money, Back living with my mom and brother :sad: so i have no time to myself at all, As my brother is right next to my room, I try dressing at best once a week when he goes to bed, I just put on a Wig,Bra,makeup etc in my room :) here in the past few days it's been real bad and i hate not being able to just walk out all dressed up.

My Girlfriend is considerate and understanding of me dressing up but every time i try and talk to her about it i get the feeling she does not wish to talk about it :straightface: even when she tells me that she's ok with it.
Everyday i wish that just once she would come to me and start talking about girls stuff or take me shopping etc etc but she never does :sad:

[Raychel]

Bitchy !!!:devil:


Bitchy !!!:devil:
Bitchy !!!:devil:



That is pretty much where I am at now.

[Cassi3]

I really get unsettled, feel like someone pulled the rug out from under me. And it's worse now after moving into my father's house, he doesn't know and there is no way he would understand or accept it. But I found a few ways around it, luckily I live on the beach, so I'll take off for the beach, and if it gets too bad, I just go to my room and get dressed, that is after I tell him I'm not feeling well, which is true, lol..... and just relax in my room. Some is better than none. :D

[Ashleythenewgirl]

My head spins.....no just kidding! I have felt more peace and calm just getting to dress around the house alone than in boy mode. Today I won't get the chance at all to dress. I will live, but the days where I get to do something I feel a difference. I feel more content and not in turmoil when I can dress.

[sherib]

What happens when you don't crossdress often enough?
I'm miserable and very moody. I snap at my wife over stupid things and become very quiet. sometime I can't even stand myself.

[Vspink101]

I go crazy! All I can think about is dressing until I can again!

[Rachel Mari]

I fine the urge to dress gets stronger and stronger and I start daydreaming about it. Knowing that I will be able to again just not sure when, helps. Also wearing a night gown helps a great deal even if only for awhile.

[dominique]

If I go a long time without dressing I get a little bit tetchy with the family. Always planning what I'll wear when it all ends then the day comes and I'm a woman again bliss.

[Jessica Who]

I can get really irritable and depressed, it really sucks so I try to do little things that will keep my feminine side happy because otherwise my balance gets thrown off

[JustineFallow]

Daydreaming, actual REM-type dreaming and a bit of mental/emotional/physical tension build-up.

[thechic]

If i do no crossdress i would just Die, i cant stop, its liking breathing,i sort of crossdress 24/7 just dont ware dress and skirts to work.tried stopping once it wasn't good.I just cant stand acting like a Guy.

[suchacutie]

I think the best description of "Tina-on-hold" is a bit lost and disoriented. After all, the idea is for Tina to be able to find a life for herself with the goal of really understanding this part of the total me. When she's not able to have enough time all her projects, book, movies, and just all the things she does are stopped. It's a bit of a mess really :(. It's especially bad when there are others constantly around and my wife and I can't even openly talk about Tina! It's like she's a phantom. Pretty sad, really!

tina

[Aprilrain]

The short answer to your question is you will explode or is it implode? Either way NOT GOOD. But seriously I don't know about others but I get kinda depressed. Although going out en femme and being heckled by little black kids, as happened today, is kinda depressing to. Well at least they were honest if not polite.

[crusadergirl]

if i don't dress for a week are so all i can think about is crossdressing are i will get angry for no reason