What is your next step on your Journey?

[Freddy12]

For you, what is the next step on your journey, and what is keeping you from taking that step? It could be going out of your house dressed enfemme, or underdressing, or disposing of all your male underpants and wearing panties exclusively. It could be getting permanent facial hair removal, or HRT. Maybe you are not sure. Perhaps this question may make you think about it and decide. The things holding you back might be finances or family acceptance or a host of things.

For me the next step is wearing panties exclusevely, and my wife's non-acceptance of my crossdressing is holding me back. What about you?

[Joyously 27]

I'm a closeted CD. Living alone affords me to dress daily, there are various female items I do not wear shopping,
church, dining out,and the doctor. I do wear panties daily except when I have an appointment with the urologist. JOY

[Karren H]

Death..... The final step..... Hopefully not any time soon.... I've done all I need to as far as progression wise so now I will slowly let age and gravity take their toll as I slide towards eternity... Sigh.....

At least that's my plan today! :)

[tanyalynn51]

Going to the endocrinologist. I have been to a counselor for a while now, and had a physical scheduled, so I just told my doctor today.

[gerri ray]

My next major step is to wear only panties from now on. I've already told my sister no more male clothes or cologne as gifts, that I only want female attire and feminine products. I'm losing weight so I have giving away a lot of men's clothes. My other major step is to find myself a good loving man, lol.

[KayleeDahl]

Started Laser, so happy with that!
Next steps will be
- New Apartment (sans roomie)
- Pierce Ears
- Find Counselor
(order may vary)

The only constraints are time and money. My goal is to accomplish/begin these by the end of the year. Finally feel like i'm getting onto the onramp of the highway I want to be on!!!

Hugs!
Kaylee

[Marilyn Beck]

I would like my next step to be going out en femme, at least every now and then. Before I take this step, I would like to be more passable and have the consent of my wife. To become more passable, I need to shave my chest and improve my make-up, outfit selection and voice. My wife currently does not want me to shave any body hair and is terrified by the idea that I might venture outside the house en femme. My dressing at home is currently in a holding pattern that my wife seems fairly comfortable with. Taking the next steps will most likely require some painful conversations with her.

[Rianna Humble]

My next steps will be:

1 Wearing my first pair of pierced ear earrings (when I can find where I put them)

2 Getting rid of my last remaining man-clothes now that I no longer need them

3 Seeing the Gender Clinic once the NHS finally decides on my funding

[Melody Phillips]

I still am very new to crossdressing. I have already shaved my legs and underarms. facial hair is next to go. then my next step is learning to wear makeup....how to pick out a wig...be passable....go out in public.....and other stuff you ladies have already done when you started out. I am so looking forward to my journey.

[windycissy]

Two major milestones this year: playing tennis and golf as a woman. Next on my bucket list: ballroom dancing backwards in high heels. Unfortunately, it takes two to tango...

[LisaKarenAZ]

Well, I guess tossing all of the male underwear and replacing them with panties only, with the help of the wife, was the next step I had worked toward.
Now, the next step will be to work on keeping the body hairfree. I already keep the underarms shaved and have for a couple of years now. Next, I want to focus on the legs.

Maybe work on keeping the toes painted pretty.

One step at a time and one day at a time.

[Kathryn Martin]

My next steps are coming out to my daughter and continue counseling, and adding gender specific counseling my counselor referred me to. Dressing for a week at Fantasia Fair 24/7. Getting my Dutasteride prescription. Quitting smoking in preparation for estrogen

[CalamityJane]

Well the next step on my journey would be to venture out in public which thus far has been a step too far in no small part due to the fact that I live in a very small community in which I have publicly worked for all my life so I am well known by a large proportion of the local residents. So it is only my location and the attitudes of narrow minded people that holds me back, I guess it is the price you pay for living out in the countryside.

[nylon boy]

Ive been moving slowly through stages for the last ten years!I can crossdress and make myself up properly once a week i shave my legs paint my toes and dress as sexy as i can but i cant help feeling that id love to go out and meet like minded people while dolled up and looking my best,thing is id like to keep my feminine activities secret to the people i know as i enjoy the alter ego i create and dont want to share it with my other life!

I dont want to be a women i just enjoy the release and the naughty side to what i do,the next step in my journey will be my last and that will be to go out to a bar sit and chat and feel like a sexy women every now and again...:)

[AKAMichelle]

I think the next big step for me is beard removal. The one items which I have been undecided about is throwing all of my male underwear in the trash.

[Shapeshiffter]

Male underwear has been gone for years. I need to lose the beard, but my GF doesn't like it, as I look at least 15 years younger then she does without it. Were both the same age. She gets really upset when asked if I am her son. I don't imagine she will want to be asked if I'm her daughter.

[StaceyJane]

My next step wpould be HRT. I've been discussing this with my counselor and it's pretty much up to me as to when I start it. what's keeping me back is fear of coming out to myu job.

[Karinsamatha]

My next steps are going to be.
See a therapist.
Perice ears :).
:hugs:

[shannonFL]

I think about it, like you, as mentioned above....facial laser, and maybe I would like to pay for a professional listener/counselor....non-accepting spouse ..have this nagging desire to just talk freely about tg issues in a non-judgmental setting, been out , worried...when is it ......too far?

[CuriousAdmirer]

#1: Now that I can admit I'm bi, coming out of the closet to someone would be a good step.

#2: seek councilor for my personal attitude and depression. This is most likely where step number 1 will happen.

#3: find a partner who understands me as me.

[Krista1985]

The next step for me is hair removal, make-up and accessories. And building up a nicer wardrobe too.

The temperature prevents me from going through with hair removal, I wear shorts a lot. Money has restricted my purchases in so far as make-up, clothes and accessories are concerned. After grad school I landed a job and got my own place. No more living with room-mates :) I love the freedom, it's allowed me to fully surrender to my desire to dress femme in my free time, but damn if it isn't expensive!

[PretzelGirl]

The next "small" thing? Even though I have been out a bit, I haven't had a mani/pedi yet.

The next larger thing? I would like it to be beard removal. Just have to be able to afford it.

[LitaKelley]

The next step for me is to go shopping en femme and visit a MAC counter, but my missing front teeth make me self conscious of my appearance and I only look pretty with my mouth closed :( Strange how this never stopped me from doing things on a daily basis as a male, but to be female and have this mouth, it's so very depressing to me. I tried to temporarily resolve this with some fake teeth sold online, but that was a futile waste of $$ that sucked and didn't work. :(

I do so badly wish to transition to living and presenting as female 24/7, well, most of the time anyway since 24/7 isn't really possible.

I suppose the next step then for me should be to get teeth, but first I'll need to save up $$

[Sarah Doepner]

I need to get out locally. What's holding me back? My wife's concern for how it will be taken by her parents or our grandkids if I'm found out.

Wearing earrings in my piercings. What's holding me back? The calendar, I need just a few more days, just a few.

Fitting into some of those cute skirts in my closet that I used to wear. What's holding me back? About 3 more months or regular work on the treadmill I think. I'll keep working at it but I'm amazed that I am still so much bigger than I was just a few years ago.

[NathalieX66]

The next step for me is hair removal, make-up and accessories. And building up a nicer wardrobe too.

Funny how all this becomes a financial investment....I know the feeling. I feel like my gay brothers & lesbian sisters have it easy because there's not much committment involving any level of transformation requiring money. Do I choose electro & laser over a new roof & replacement windows for my 80 year old house? Should I sell my antique car? I'm just a dude who *sometimes* likes to be a girl.....even out in public.
For me going out en femme, sometimes does not mean all the time, therefore I am not about to re-arrange my life to cross that great divide into the other gender. I find satisfaction in being both genders . For those that need to make a transition, I support you. I am fair. :)

[Inna]

Trip to evaluate my FFS with Dr. Ousterhout! I have been thinking about this for past 6 months and somehow can not bring my self to finalize a trip. Something keeps me from making this decision, and it isn't as though I am having a surgery but just an evaluation, I guess the time is not right. But I know that I can not become whole unless I go under such procedure to eliminate all the clues which for now give, my testosterone infected face away. Yet, it remains my next step!

[NathalieX66]

Not sure what your life situation is.
I feel so heartbroken when I hear of countless stories of transitioning TS people trying to find work to support themselves. We all know what a mean world this is.
Yeah, Dr. Osterhout does magical things, so I am told.
Does anybody ever try to evalute the results of what actually happens on the other end of the rainbow?

My advice is simple.....speak to people who have done it, and find out if it works for you.
Keep in mind, there are people more desperate out there than you will ever be.

[Inna]

Not sure what your life situation is.
I feel so heartbroken when I hear of countless stories of transitioning TS people trying to find work to support themselves. We all know what a mean world this is.
Yeah, Dr. Osterhout does magical things, so I am told.
Does anybody ever try to evalute the results of what actually happens on the other end of the rainbow?

My advice is simple.....speak to people who have done it, and find out if it works for you.
Keep in mind, there are people more desperate out there than you will ever be.

Thanks babe, I know that "the grass being greener on the other side" tends to always ring true, however I do not have a logical explanation for my want. Yes, I do have several friends who have gone that rout and it isn't always "forever after" but then I am not approaching this decission with hope for better, but this need arrises from within my psyche and calls for unifying my look to what I feel within. Then hesitation kicks in, perhaps exactly what you point out, and I stay confused inbetween femininity and manhood trapped as always. I feel that one way or the other this needs to be resolved. Why does it have to be so complicated?

[Nick2Nikki]

I'd like to get my ears pierced. I'll probably do that the next time my dad is out of town for a couple of weeks. I also have yet to get a manicure, though I don't plan on doing that until I have some sort of event where I can show it off to my friends (New Year's maybe?).

[janice murray]

I plan to take early retirement and I'm going to live the rest of my life full time. I've always been extremely envious when I see other women wearing low cut dresses and tops so I'd like to get breast implants.

[Danielle Gee]

Karren Hutton, I only have one repply to your post........

HAHAHAHAHA (Me too!)

Danielle ((The old bag) Gee:eek:

[Shelly67]

Lose some weight ....keep trying but temptaion always gets the better of me .
Dj live and erupt the dance floor too ........

[Rianna Humble]

My next steps will be:

1 Wearing my first pair of pierced ear earrings (when I can find where I put them)

Done it


2 Getting rid of my last remaining man-clothes now that I no longer need them

Done most of it


3 Seeing the Gender Clinic once the NHS finally decides on my funding

Still waiting :sad:

[Veronica Lacey]

As a "hobbyist" crossdresser there are not many steps to be taken. From this perspective a few things I still wish to try are:


dressed 24/7 for a week
shave legs and other areas


Ultimately it is ourselves that stop us from pursuing these things but we cannot discount reality. My wife is tolerant so much as not wanting to be around when I dress but otherwise is a perfect spouse. I do not wish to alienate her by letting my hobby take much bigger of a hold in my life.

So dressing for a week I would require a week off without my wife around and as for shaving, well, I think I might enjoy it too much until the hair grows back for the spring :doh:

[stephiny10]

I think my next step that I want to take is hrt but I've just started therapy for it and still looking into if the benefits out weigh the problems that will develope

[DeeDee1974]

I just went full time a few weeks ago. I thought I could do it without hormones, but now I realize that is not the case. I have already discussed hrt with my therapist and wife and have their blessing. I also know that srs is something I desire. I've lied to myself too long about who I really am just to make everyone else happy. Those days are over because the past couple weeks are the first time I have been happy in many years.

[Tracy X Cruz]

Next step is definitely hair removal and money is the only wall in my way. Money and pain heh.

[darla_g]

i am perfectly happy to be a stay at home CD. I am really comfortable and so is my GF. i do truly have an understanding and compassion for those that wish to go further. that's why i think CDs in particular need to support the entire Transgender movement.

See you later, my stop is coming up here .......

[DeeDee1974]

i am perfectly happy to be a stay at home CD. I am really comfortable and so is my GF. i do truly have an understanding and compassion for those that wish to go further. that's why i think CDs in particular need to support the entire Transgender movement.

See you later, my stop is coming up here .......

As someone getting ready to transition I appreciate your kind words.

[Detroit Molly]

For now, I feel like I've reached the logical conclusion of my dressing. I've picked up enough clothes to actually kinda sorta have a wardrobe, My wife and a select few friends know and accept (or are even stoked by) my dressing, I've been out in public as Molly and...well...that's what I want. I have no need or desire to live full time or transition, I like being a man as much as I like dressing, I don't know, I'm pretty content at the moment. Will I continue to grow? Certainly. Will I continue to buy cute clothes and go out as Molly? You bet! Are there things I haven't done yet? Yes, things like coming out to everyone, shopping/spending time with my wife en femme/etc. All in good time, though.

[munshine nightwood]

becoming the woman that is in this male body. being able to do thing that I want to do right now but cant because of thing that I have and dont want!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Michaella]

I'm afraid the next step -- due to a lot of complicated circumstances -- is going to have be backwards: not going out anymore, having fewer opportunities to dress in private, and not underdressing as often. I would like to move towards stopping entirely, but realistically I cannot expect that to be successful.

Michaella

[Aprilrain]

For me it would be hair removal. The big question is were to start. Face or legs. I guess I can always shave my legs wait I already do that. But the face. I'd like to be able to were less make up and not have a shadow. Actually I lied the very next step is getting a better wig preferably real hair. I hate the cheap wig I have now I have worn it a handful of times and it is already garbage. It all boils down to money!

[dilane]

Dancing is lots of fun. I've taken lessons (en femme) in swing, salsa, and ballroom (mostly in straight venues). I'm getting back into it now.

[eluuzion]

"Steps" are way too dangerous at amusement parks. I only have slides in my Disneyland world of crossdressing. Maps? nope...that is too much like asking for directions, which of course, I never ever do. No rules, no steps, no maps, no trials, no verdicts, no complaints, no logic, no brochures, no peddlers, no discounts, no whining, no crying, no victims, no regrets, no hindsight, no pickles, no onions, no justifications, no deception, no explanations, no flat shoes, no hidden agendas, no SOs, no wives, no contracts, no free trials, no applications, no members, no data sharing, no third party affiliates, no free sets of steak knives, no risk free offers, no excuses, no trespassing, no taxes, no right turns on red, no no warrants, no passing, no get out of jail free cards, no back child support, no female leprechauns,no reality, no spam, no passing go, no bugs, no losers, no kids allowed, no free lunches, no free rent, no wet towels on floor, no returns, no exchanges, no refunds, no free demos, no body hair, no cookies, no prenuptuals, no apologies, no cheating, no 800 numbers, no religious fanatics, no loitering, no tiebreakers, no debts, no promises, no credit dept, no saying "hi" to Jack on airplanes, no sunscreens, no barking, no real names, no phone numbers, no warranties, no cops, no more wives, no muddy shoes on carpet, no heels under 3.5", no closing time.

Basically, it's just controlled insanity at my place...

works for me...:battingeyelashes:

:love:

[dirtysecretxdreser91]

As I'm still fairly new to cross dressing I'm only on my early stages but my next step is to shave my legs
but as I work outside I'm worried about when it gets warmer wearing shorts any idea's how long it takes
For leg hair to grow back? I like the idea of over these cold months dossing arround the house (when no ones in and get chance) wearing my
White short denim skirt in some clear tights and top instead of wearing thick black tights to hide my legs
Also my next step after shaveing my legs is to go shoping for some more cloths instead of buying offline
Because I'm embarised x

[tricia_uktv]

The next step for me is to go to work dressed. It has been agreed. I've been setback by a bad illness ao I haven't been in work for six weeks. Firstly though Triciia needs to be introduced to colleagues outside work hours, to get them used to the idea.

[Kate Simmons]

Not sure really. I've come "full circle" and now enjoy being my guy self. I think it mostly depends on what you are trying to accomplish.:)

[karezza]

The next step for me is living full-time in a second-home environment. Laser facial hair removal and ear piercings will ensue. I will remain andro at work and to my son, but my wife has fully accepted me as transgendered and she approves of me taking it further. At this point, srs is off the table, but an orchiectomy might be considered.

[My Lady Marsea]

The next major step for me will be SRS and/or FFS as I've like done all the above including the legalities of name change on everything and gender change on drivers license. All I like really so totally need to do is win the lottery lol. Then I'll finally be free of this walking prison I've been in all my life. I bought a non stop one way ticket on this T-Girl train (in baggage class) and I'm like going to the last stop (death) I hope as the girl I was meant to be, unless the last stop is like closer than I realize.

[patricia 402]

i have been who i am for 43 years and im tierd of living two lives, just very tierd of being patrick and patricia. why couldent i have been born NORMAL! whatever, im just tierd.

[seatown9]

My next step is to actually go out dressed. I'm thinking late at night, dressing a bit conservative for the first time....

[Cassi3]

My next step is HRT :D and RLE. Only thing stopping me is have knee surgery coming up an wheaning off some other meds. Can't wait to start

[AKKaren]

:heehee:My next steps are...getting my ears pierced and going to a conference for a whole week as Karen!!

[simplykaelyn]

i am perfectly happy to be a stay at home CD. I am really comfortable and so is my GF. i do truly have an understanding and compassion for those that wish to go further. that's why i think CDs in particular need to support the entire Transgender movement.

See you later, my stop is coming up here .......

Just wanted to comment on the terrapin station, from a china cat sunflower. ;)