Power Transfer for Trannys

[Marsha My Dear]

Hi All, crossdressing falls naturally into the submissive role I have in my marriage. Our power exchange is kept entirely at home just like my dressing up. Expressing my girlie personality and always complying with my wife's/Domina's wishes dovetails nicely with one anothers personalities. Who else feels this way?- Marsha

[Nataliebabe]

......and here I thought that I was going to learn alittle something about transmissions and possible even a torque converter.

[Marsha My Dear]

Itall depends on what you want torqued! Do the lot us have a sexual taste expressed through Mistresses, FemDomes and dominate women? I strive to more than be a gurl. I want to give in to my deep desire to emotionally and physically please my wife/Dom. Any thoughts anyone?

[Karren H]

......and here I thought that I was going to learn a little something about transmissions and possible even a torque converter.

That's what I was thinking. Lol. Why is "tranny" so derogatory to me?

[Kayla Shadows]

That's what I was thinking. Lol. Why is "tranny" so derogatory to me?

I definitely don't think its a nice word. It's most often used in a negative response towards us. ( "look at the tranny", "eww,its a tranny",etc ). Many other lovely things I've heard. It's also a word that has been used in portraying us a clowns.

In recent months,there was a celebrity in the paper here and I wasn't a fan of her outfit and makeup. I start to read the caption below and, "she looks like a "tranny", is in front of me. I really wasn't happy.

My understanding has come to be that,this word is very derogatory and used as a stereotype of us.

[Marshchild]

Itall depends on what you want torqued! Do the lot us have a sexual taste expressed through Mistresses, FemDomes and dominate women? I strive to more than be a gurl. I want to give in to my deep desire to emotionally and physically please my wife/Dom. Any thoughts anyone?

Well, it's something that's often appealed to me, although I'd also consider it a case of "be careful what you wish for". What would I do, for example, if I found myself with a dominant woman who wanted me to submit to her desire that I conform to a more traditionally masculine role? (Actually, I have fantasized about that sort of thing before (I know, I'm weird). Still, I've been smart enough to realize that that sort of arrangement would probably become insufferable within about five minutes in real life.) Still, if you've found an arrangement that works for you, more power to you. I think the right sort of dominant/submissive relationship would be wonderful!

[Tiffany2]

Get your motor runnin:dom:

[Linda St. John]

I don't connect CD'ing with submissive at all. If anything I find it empowering. As Linda , I am strong and assured. Out with friends, I tend to be confident and often the leader in various ways .. different strokes for different folks - I guess ..

[Marsha My Dear]

Hi once again, no offence intended by not using TV, CD or crossdresser. We all know the cultural bias we face (and why this site is a wonderful oasis for us). The topic I'm wondering about is whether your relationship with whomever has a Dominant/submissive aspect to it. My example of my wife and me at home was to be a reference to what dynamic anyone else may have in their life. Outside the house there's not a chance anyone would even suspect I crossdress, unless they note I'm a lot more keen to comment on what they're wearing. As her servant I try to anticipate what she may need or like and provide it for her- doing that little extra that makes her feel special. Taking care of the house has the added benefit of giving us more time together, regardless if I'm dressed up. No doubt some of us have a stronger give-and-take and others where it's not as strong. I'd love to know then, what accommodations you have to make things work. Thanks.

[MsJanessa]

Hi All, crossdressing falls naturally into the submissive role I have in my marriage. Our power exchange is kept entirely at home just like my dressing up. Expressing my girlie personality and always complying with my wife's/Domina's wishes dovetails nicely with one anothers personalities. Who else feels this way?- Marsha LOL not Me, I feel quite the opposite--but then that's what makes life interesting

[docrobbysherry]

I believe "Tranny" describes ME better than "Trans"!:heehee:

Be careful what U wish for, Lashed! Over time, my ex gradually became more and more Dom in our relationship. By the time I said, "Enuff!', it was TOO LATE! :sad:

Warning! If your SO is doing that and u begin to resent it, PLEASE! Tell them! Before it's TOO LATE!:brolleyes:

[joanieb]

I think that there is a natural tendency for women to please, to do what is necessary to keep a mate, to ensure their nest has love and tenderness, is clean and healthy. There was a study done that said many successful women were not satisfied by the competitive world, the world of men. So I would assume that having the desire to be a woman, means also having the desire to please, or in other words submit.

Unfortunately we have diminished this role believing that submission is fraudulent human behavior. I disagree. It is merely doing what one believes is necessary to create the world they enjoy around them for the benefit of themselves and those they love be they male or female and be they the head of household or not. I also by no means desire women to be kept in a subservient role to anyone (especially men) that would take advantage of this role.

[Marsha My Dear]

We've been together for over 25 years now. Ours is a strong, happy and supportive marriage. This is a new evolving aspect of our lives. I just wanted to know if anybody else had some experiences to swap.

[donnalee]

I believe there is a a misunderstanding of the underlying principal here. When you enter into a long term relationship, there are two words you need to memorise and chant like a mantra as necessary (which will be often); "Yes dear." Do this and almost all of your marital problems will be solved; forget it and all is in peril. This is not submission; just good sense.

[ReneeT]

Hmmmm..... I have no issue with the term "tranny". If the shoe (preferably a platform open-toed pump) fits, wear it! At the end of the day, labels

[Mistybtm]

Hi All, crossdressing falls naturally into the submissive role I have in my marriage. Our power exchange is kept entirely at home just like my dressing up. Expressing my girlie personality and always complying with my wife's/Domina's wishes dovetails nicely with one anothers personalities. Who else feels this way?- Marsha

:battingeyelashes:I do feel the same way as you. I am very submissive when dressed . I have no problem being called a tranny eather, A word can only bother you if you!! let it.:battingeyelashes::battingeyelashes:

[Hope]

I definitely don't think its a nice word. It's most often used in a negative response towards us. ( "look at the tranny", "eww,its a tranny",etc ). Many other lovely things I've heard. It's also a word that has been used in portraying us a clowns.

I think this is one of those words that needs to be reclaimed by the community it has traditionally been used to demean and dehumanize. I think it needs to be one of those words that you can only use if you are a member of one of three groups 1) a tranny, 2) A close associate of a tranny, and then only used in the most positive manner 3) a complete bigot who wants everyone to know that one is a complete uneducated bigot.

There are other words that have undergone this same transformation, words like "fag" or "dyke" or that one that rhymes with "snigger," but has nothing to do with laughter.

[Patty B.]

Yeah didn't expect this thread, but the word tranny does seem to carry a negative connotation from my perspective.

[Nicole Erin]

Hmmmm..... I have no issue with the term "tranny". If the shoe (preferably a platform open-toed pump) fits, wear it! At the end of the day, labels
If I am to be called that, I prefer "Trahnny" like a drag queen might say it.
Ands the shoes, girl what a **** that makes it's wearer! Can I borrow them?

[joanieb]

1) a tranny, 2) A close associate of a tranny, and then only used in the most positive manner 3) a complete bigot who wants everyone to know that one is a complete uneducated bigot.

A rose is a rose is a rose, by anyother name it would still smell as sweet.

Though I completely understand the emotional connection with being called out in a negitive context, I.E. a derogitory name, or a label used in a derogitory context. They are mear words, and words no matter how slanderious should not be hidden from reality as if they do not exist. Tis far far better to hear a bigot tell me whats on his/her mind, then it is to surrender the right to speak honestly and openly on any given subject.

It's become quite popular for the world to speak in specific language, a language that is meant to remove harm or at least emotional harm. Sorry, buy my opinion, if you don't know how much something hurts you don't know what real pain is. If you don't hear the real words spoken you don't know who the realy victim is. We can all make nice and pretend that people will change if we prevent them a spoken world. What happens next when we know they are still think it?

Call me a tranny anytime you want, I'll know by the tone of your voice if it's endearing or not.

[Hope]

A rose is a rose is a rose, by anyother name it would still smell as sweet.

Though I completely understand the emotional connection with being called out in a negitive context, I.E. a derogitory name, or a label used in a derogitory context. They are mear words, and words no matter how slanderious should not be hidden from reality as if they do not exist. Tis far far better to hear a bigot tell me whats on his/her mind, then it is to surrender the right to speak honestly and openly on any given subject.


The rhyme about sticks and stones is bullshit. If you don't think that words have the ability to do real harm, you are living a much more charmed life than the vast majority of people.

No one is suggesting that one give up the right to speak honestly and openly about any subject - merely that if you want to call a Jewish person a "kike," or a homosexual a "fag," or a transexual a "tranny" and you are not a member of one of those communities using the term in an ironic self-referential sort of way, that you should be prepared to be known as a bigot - because that is what you are honestly and openly expressing.

No one is asking you to be dishonest in your speech, just that you be considerate of others. If that is too much to ask... well... there is a word for people like that.

[Billijo49504]

She should be in charge, she is wearing the pants in the faamily. And you are wearing the panties and skirts...BJ

[DonniDarkness]

jus' sayin'

Can we get back on topic? because i was looking for a ft/lbs ratio.....

[sterling12]

I think this is one of those words that needs to be reclaimed by the community it has traditionally been used to demean and dehumanize. I think it needs to be one of those words that you can only use if you are a member of one of three groups 1) a tranny, 2) A close associate of a tranny, and then only used in the most positive manner 3) a complete bigot who wants everyone to know that one is a complete uneducated bigot.

There are other words that have undergone this same transformation, words like "fag" or "dyke" or that one that rhymes with "snigger," but has nothing to do with laughter.


Sort of like you can use The "N" Word....if your black! Sorry, I don't think we need to reclaim The Word "Trannie." It's been used in too many Porno Flicks where a lot of other people get The Idea we are double-jointed, and Very Bent! Our Community can leave "Trannie" in The Garbage Pail, and that would suit me just fine. I will leave it for Writers and Directors in The Adult Industry.

Special Bonus for Tiffany2: "Head out on The Highway!"

Peace and Love, Joanie

PS. My Spell Checker doesn't like The Word "Trannie" either. Wants to replace That Word with "Tyranny." That seems almost appropriate!

[Nicole Erin]

jus' sayin'
Can we get back on topic? because i was looking for a ft/lbs ratio.....

The problem with some cars is the owners will mod the engine for more power while overlooking how the tranny is gonna hold up or not.
I would love to adjust the cams on my GM 3.4 DOHC to get more power but if the tranny fails I am screwed.

[Persephone]

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[Persephone]

There are other words that have undergone this same transformation, words like "fag" or "dyke" or that one that rhymes with "snigger," but has nothing to do with laughter.


No one is suggesting that one give up the right to speak honestly and openly about any subject - merely that if you want to call a Jewish person a "kike," or a homosexual a "fag," or a transexual a "tranny" and you are not a member of one of those communities using the term in an ironic self-referential sort of way, that you should be prepared to be known as a bigot - because that is what you are honestly and openly expressing.

I honestly do not wish to be insulting to you, Hope, nor to expand this "sidebar" on the OP's message, but why do you find yourself unable to type a derogatory term that "rhymes with 'snigger,'" yet find it O.K. to post a term that is an equally derogatory expletive offensive to Jewish people?

[MaidJamie]

My SO and I have been trying (gentle) power exchanges where I get to play the maid, for years.

She's not really been comfortable with her Mistress role ordering me around. She says she doesn't know what to say or do. I want her to enjoy it as much as I but she's been trying to please me... pleasing her (if that makes sense). I love her for it but it wont work that way. I can't feel submissive and powerless if she she doesn't enjoy feeling dominant powerful.

We've not had a lot of success until recently...

I purchased Ms Rika's book "Uniquely Rika" and read it. As I did, it finally dawned on me what the issue really was. I shared the book with my SO and all of a sudden it "clicked" for both of us. It explained how we could both enjoy our power exchange sessions without the fear or confusion. We've put the recommendations into practice and its started to work for us.

Anyway, that's our story in a nutshell... I've found it difficult to locate others with similar interests in gentle D&S and crossdressing. There are a lot of extreme sites out there that don't really appeal. Happy to share experiences here with others of similar interests.

...
Maid Jamie

[joanieb]

The rhyme about sticks and stones is bullshit.

With all due respect Hope; only for those with thin skin and who consider it proper to defer their responsibilities on to others (namely the government). Why do you think a strong and profound Jewish mantra is “never again”? As it was their rights that were first removed in order to make it legal and viable to remove their culture. Speech agreeable or disagreeable is a right when used against a political movement. I recognize that there are many derogatory words in our culture which I distain. When used we should give them no effect as giving them credence empowers the user. I like many, who hear those words, am of the mind to understand the ignorance of the person speaking them. It is my objections to conversations about limiting words and the use of those words that I oppose. It is not that those words are proper and considerate.
I am here exercising my right speak out against some that have political motivations to place prohibitions on what some would consider Ideological differences. Using terms such as volatile or hate speech to pursue their agenda (the smallest infraction of people shouldn't say __?__ will lead to the political movment to make a illegal precidence of that opinon.
I consider standing up for one’s own rights to defend ones platforms. To demonize your opponent is not to argue your platform righteously or fairly it is to remove my objections by humiliation and or the pursuit of legal means. This excersice on your part is not valid for making your point or protective of anyone’s rights.

When I hear some speak of words being removed and I object, it is not because I love those words I simply love a person’s right to speak their honest opinion. I’ll then make up my own mind as to their worth to me. Contrary to popular progressive opinion, people actually do have the ability to be ration and reasonably decide what it is that they like or dislike.
It is quite clear to me that your ideology is larger than your ability to think openly and freely. There are current "hate crimes and hate speach" that exist in many forms which have been created by those whose soul intent is to sensor people’s opinion and thought. Our rights to live and hold our opinions have been viciously attacked by those who simply and emotionaly disagree. When an ideology can not constitute itself with logic and truthful rational, it often seeks to prevent others from opposing it with regulation.

So again I ask, once we've found vehicles to limit ones speech, will it then be necessary to find vehicles to limit ones thoughts? This is a frightening progression, and one I oppose. As prohibitions on speech do not detain hate. They can in fact provoke it. These are natural human emotions. It is our duty only teach and inform so as to prevent. It is not to sensor and arrests that which we find offensive.
In doing so, we enflame those who are being gagged. It's my opinion if it's not liked or shared that is your right. But by calling me out directly or implied as a bigot means you have simply exhibited that which you claim to despise.

[DAVIDA]

Listen, I'm not the submissive type whether dressed or not.
That doesn't stop Jean from telling me what to do!:doh::heehee:

[suchacutie]

I also have no trouble with the word "trannie". Back on topic, in the 5 years that Tina has seen the light of day, she has always been "girlfriend". The two of them (my wife and Tina) have joked a bit about a "french maid" outfit and all that goes with it, but so far it's just been a laugh. For those of us who have never ben in a D/s situation, it would be interesting to hear how some of us have made it work.

tina

[Jorja]

When I read the title of this thread, Power Transfer for Trannys, I think of two or more transgender people touching rings, a magical light show with lots of smoke and mirrors, and beautiful women or handsome men suddenly appearing. :D

I am far from submissive in the way you mean. As joanieb said, I think that there is a natural tendency for women to please, to do what is necessary to keep a mate, to ensure their nest has love and tenderness, is clean and healthy. I for one do not understand the bdsm side of submissive nor do I care to. I just want to be the woman I am supposed to be living in this world in peace and harmony with all the others I share this planet with. If you want to enjoy the bdsm lifestyle as a submissive it is your prerogative, enjoy as long as that is what makes you happy.

[Jamie391]

I enjoy "regular xdressing" but my spouse and I are into some D/s, where I occassionally like to switch and be submissive especially when "forced feminization" comes to play. it is a real turn-on, of course anything having to do with feminine clothing is exciting. Thanks for sharing. Jamie

[Lainie]

What would I do, for example, if I found myself with a dominant woman who wanted me to submit to her desire that I conform to a more traditionally masculine role?

My situation exactly.

[Hope]

With all due respect Hope; only for those with thin skin and who consider it proper to defer their responsibilities on to others (namely the government).

No one is asking for a round up or a series of arrests. No one is deferring their responsibility to ... wait, what is the responsibility you are accusing me of shirking on the government? No one (well at least not this evil liberal progressive pinko) is suggesting that any word be "banned." Calm yourself there constitutional scholar. The ACLU (an organization to which I proudly belong - do you?) has fought long and hard to assure you, and every American, of those rights.


To demonize your opponent is not to argue your platform righteously or fairly it is to remove my objections by humiliation and or the pursuit of legal means. This excersice on your part is not valid for making your point or protective of anyone’s rights.

And then...


Contrary to popular progressive opinion, people actually do have the ability to be ration and reasonably decide what it is that they like or dislike. It is quite clear to me that your ideology is larger than your ability to think openly and freely.

Me thinks the gentleman protests too much.


But by calling me out directly or implied as a bigot means you have simply exhibited that which you claim to despise.

No one called you a bigot. Certainly not me. What I did say was that if you knowingly and intentionally wish to use terms deemed by society to be hurtful to others, in a hurtful and disrespectful manner - then you are a bigot. If you feel like you are being called a bigot, by being asked not to use a variety of hate-filled words - then you are self selecting for that designation.

Besides, even if I did call you a bigot, I would expect, after your little tirade, to vigorously and loudly defend my right to do so (that is what the ACLU would do). After all, you can decide for yourself if being called a "bigot" is mean and hurtful can't you? (you insisted you could) A rose by any other name and all?