Kaitlyn Michele
09-30-2010, 10:37 AM
So I have been doing ok...i am unmotivated to work (or find work in my case)..post srs i have felt some emptiness ...its not centered around what i did...i can not express enough how "normal" i feel ...
the emptiness is centered around everything else...other than my instincts in taking care of my kids and family, nothing else seems to matter...i can't find interest in things...that could be considered depression and perhaps there is some depression ...but i think its more about the fact that i've lived 45 years only wanting and needing ONE THING...and now i have that thing...so what next?? this ONE THING dominated my life so much that I never considered for one second what I was going to do afterwards... I know i overanalyze, but its true
i'm thinking this is common (she says with her fingers crossed) among post srs girls...
on the bright side i am trying to take an overall attitude that if i can transition through all the physical and emotional pain and still be do well, then i can do anything!...financial profile going down the tubes? well i can do it! i have to beleive that I'll be able find a way to make cash flow...
but in the short run, all things considered, im feeling a little blue
the other thing i want to say is that i've met alot of folks like me that lived a whole life prior to transition...if you are spending most of your waking thoughts wondering if you are transsexual, then you are a transsexual.. you may be going through alot of craziness in your head, and there is a prospect of losing everything you have in the world...you may be deeply ashamed at the way you feel about yourself..feeling ashamed is a terrible way to live...one of the thoughts i had is this..."if i am stuck being ashamed of myself for the rest of my life, then i might as well get the benefits of it.."..i was literally that pragmatic about it..it was all i thought about
if your brain is spinning around in never ending circles..
your best course of action is to deal with it sooner than later...over and over again i have seen (including my own case) girls make the mistake of spending all their energy obsessing over why? and am i trans?? why am i trans?? type questions..and not on, what am i going to do about??? can i transition? what are my impediments? am i afraid of being laughed at?? what can i do RIGHT NOW to put me in the best position to transition?? these are the right questions...and i can say that when you take the crazy emotional part OUT OF THE EQUATION...you are faced with a very basic battle plan to live your best quality of life... and that may or may not include transition..people muddle by and i have alot of good friends that are pretty happy, even though they will likely not transition...
anyway...thats just sharing some thoughts ...btw..i got approached at the supermarket by a guy that worked there...he made a comment about cereal i bought and i responded with joke and he immediately told me i had pretty eyes, and that i always looked so happy and friendly....!!!!
ummmmmm....:D
he proceeded to also blurt out that he didnt mind the age difference, and with a wink!!! yes a wink. he said "and i really dig tall girls"...
ummmm....:doh:
unfortunately i was so elated i responded much more like i wanted to see him than i felt...and he works at my local supermarket...i think i can never go there again!!
the emptiness is centered around everything else...other than my instincts in taking care of my kids and family, nothing else seems to matter...i can't find interest in things...that could be considered depression and perhaps there is some depression ...but i think its more about the fact that i've lived 45 years only wanting and needing ONE THING...and now i have that thing...so what next?? this ONE THING dominated my life so much that I never considered for one second what I was going to do afterwards... I know i overanalyze, but its true
i'm thinking this is common (she says with her fingers crossed) among post srs girls...
on the bright side i am trying to take an overall attitude that if i can transition through all the physical and emotional pain and still be do well, then i can do anything!...financial profile going down the tubes? well i can do it! i have to beleive that I'll be able find a way to make cash flow...
but in the short run, all things considered, im feeling a little blue
the other thing i want to say is that i've met alot of folks like me that lived a whole life prior to transition...if you are spending most of your waking thoughts wondering if you are transsexual, then you are a transsexual.. you may be going through alot of craziness in your head, and there is a prospect of losing everything you have in the world...you may be deeply ashamed at the way you feel about yourself..feeling ashamed is a terrible way to live...one of the thoughts i had is this..."if i am stuck being ashamed of myself for the rest of my life, then i might as well get the benefits of it.."..i was literally that pragmatic about it..it was all i thought about
if your brain is spinning around in never ending circles..
your best course of action is to deal with it sooner than later...over and over again i have seen (including my own case) girls make the mistake of spending all their energy obsessing over why? and am i trans?? why am i trans?? type questions..and not on, what am i going to do about??? can i transition? what are my impediments? am i afraid of being laughed at?? what can i do RIGHT NOW to put me in the best position to transition?? these are the right questions...and i can say that when you take the crazy emotional part OUT OF THE EQUATION...you are faced with a very basic battle plan to live your best quality of life... and that may or may not include transition..people muddle by and i have alot of good friends that are pretty happy, even though they will likely not transition...
anyway...thats just sharing some thoughts ...btw..i got approached at the supermarket by a guy that worked there...he made a comment about cereal i bought and i responded with joke and he immediately told me i had pretty eyes, and that i always looked so happy and friendly....!!!!
ummmmmm....:D
he proceeded to also blurt out that he didnt mind the age difference, and with a wink!!! yes a wink. he said "and i really dig tall girls"...
ummmm....:doh:
unfortunately i was so elated i responded much more like i wanted to see him than i felt...and he works at my local supermarket...i think i can never go there again!!