Getting "Cold Feet"!

[Lucy_Bella]

This Saturday night first time Lucy goes out ever.. Everything is set up, I have a friend and his date going he will drive his date has an apartment near the place we are going to and instead of me getting a room to get ready ,they offered me to stay there (very nice of them :) ..) So no need to get out of Femme mode and drive home..

I am just a worry wart I guess. I have these concerns like " What if what I am wearing is too ****ty "? or I have never been out in public and I have no clue nor could I ever act like a girl! So I am concerned that even tho I don't come close to even passing as a girl I will just be some weirdo guy dressed up as a guy ****!

What happens if an accident happens ? Should I take my guy clothes with me? .

[Ashleythenewgirl]

Hmmm a bit of irony here. If all works out and nothing interferes, I will go out into the public as Ashley for the first time Saturday night. It's to the local CD/TG support group meeting and I too am a bit nervous. It's good you have a place to change as I still don't know where I am going to do that. My wife does not want to see me at all en femme. But I think it will get sorted out. I am still a bit nervous since many of the gurls go out to dinner afterwards. Boise is still a small town and I don't want to run into someone I know.
From one worry wart to another, don't worry about the accident thing. Just go have fun.
Let us know how it goes.
Good luck Lucy!

[Lucy_Bella]

Hi Ashley,
This is a meet group event also , they too go out to eat afterwards..I will pass on that part..I hope your evening goes well keep me posted on how it went and have a blast..

[alyssaenglefield]

Lucy, the best thing you can carry with you when you go out is a mobile phone and some emergency cash.

Programme the number of a good taxi company into your phone, so if things get too intimidating, you can always get a taxi out of there. It's better to get out of there safely than to end up being a statistic.

[Fab Karen]

Bring a couple outfits ( one you'd most like to wear, & something else slightly more conservative ) & ask your friends if what you're wearing looks ok for where you're going ( you could switch to the slightly conservative one if they thought it better ). Stop thinking about it, just do it. The mind can create scary ideas which often turn out to not be what happens.

[charlen]

HI Lucy I know thehow youare feeling .Iam going out fully dressed for the frist time . I am also going to a cd meeting. I am worred to as i can not pass. But i have my wife help and support.

[erickka]

I too was that way my first few times, but now the only time I get cold feet is when I wear my strappy heels in a snowstorm! LOL

[Jorja]

Relax girl, take a few deep breaths, then step out that door like the girl you know you are. Everything will be just fine. You are with friends and will be joining others that think like you do. Have a ball and enjoy your night.

[Chari]

Rather than think about all of the "what if's", take a deep breath, relax, go and have fun! As for your outfit - look at what GG's in your area/age group are wearing and choose something similar. Be certain all items fit you comfortably and you feel confident in them! Staying close to your friend and his date will be helpful too. DO NOT think about "a guy in a dress"! You are Lucy and that is who is going out to enjoy herself!

[TiffanyTgirl]

Go ahead and step off the curb. If you feel it is necessary, then stash a change of clothes in the place you are changing. The cab idea is great and provides you with a safety net. I had a friend tell me she would not recognize me en femme. She said she would make me as a guy in a dress up close, but not recognize me. Do it. It is worth it. All the denial in the world is truly a waste of precious time. I have wasted far too much of it.

[Sophie86]

I'm going out this Saturday too, and I've also had some nervousness about it. This will be my third time, but first time really in a public place with a crowd of people around. Don't be daunted by the 'what-ifs'! Good luck, and have fun! :)

[renee k]

Hi Lucy, the hardest part is getting out the door. Just go and enjoy yourself.

Huggs, Renee

[Alice B]

Go out, don't worry about it and you will have a fun and memorial evening.

[AKAMichelle]

You are putting too much effort into this. Just dress appropriately and then go and have some fun. It really isn't more complicated than that.

[pernille d]

its true what everyone says , but easiers said than done , "focus on having a good time and forget about the worries " and if its a meeting then that is easier as remember everyoner t that meeting has had to turn up there for the first time so they know hat its like , just relazx and enjoy it , yo may even be surprised and do more than you planned when in the right company .

have fun but be safe

[NicoleScott]

Sure, take guy clothes with you. If you need them, you'll have them. If you don't need them, no problem. Just having them will give you more peace of mind, let you relax more and have a good time.

[Cassi3]

Lucy, the best thing you can carry with you when you go out is a mobile phone and some emergency cash.

Programme the number of a good taxi company into your phone, so if things get too intimidating, you can always get a taxi out of there. It's better to get out of there safely than to end up being a statistic.

I second that, good advice. I will add, RELAX, have fun, try not to worry about what "could" happen, things happen all the time, just RELAX, be yourself. GOOD LUCK and lots of HUGS!

[Lucy_Bella]

Wow!! I would like to thank each and everyone of you for such encouragement and great advice .. I feel better and more secure about going out that meant alot thanks again everyone..

[PretzelGirl]

Everyone reacts different to going out. I am willing to bet you will have a wonderful time. What is hard to predict is how much can you bring yourself to do while out before your nerves get in the way. That is okay. Everything can't be done in gulps. Realize that it will be fun and do as much as you feel comfortable. Have a wonderful evening!

[sterling12]

Now here is The most important thing to do Tomorrow Night. I want you to.....open your ears, open your eyes, open your brain! You only get One First Time! Your going to miss a significant set of memories if you spend all your time worrying about "What might Be's, what could Be's, long shot oddball situations, and numerous detractors" which should NOT be a part of your evening, IF you don't allow them to happen.

I want you to have Fun, Enjoyment, and experience that Special "High," that comes from a First Time Out. If you handle this incorrectly, your going to come back here and say: "Wow, that was fun.....what happened!" You will be hyper-sensitive to everything Tomorrow Night. Use that feeling, make it work in Your Favor!

Peace and Love, Joanie

[Chickhe]

Here's what will happen:

You will get read
You will not pass
You will look like a guy in a dress
You will not care...

at least if you start from a low expectation it can only get better... take deep breaths, be calm, just be yourself and don't try to fool anyone, you will be fine...and try to smile. Ask for advice and learn from it...

[tricia_uktv]

Relax girl, take a few deep breaths, then step out that door like the girl you know you are. Everything will be just fine. You are with friends and will be joining others that think like you do. Have a ball and enjoy your night.

Yay absolutely. And as that girl you will know what to wera. Have fun, and I bet you'll go back for more.

[t-girlxsophie]

That first time over the door is a big step,full of apprehension and was the same for almost everyone on here Im sure,but damn girl once you do it there will be no stopping you.I hope its everything you wish for,and more

:hugs:Sophie xx

[Claire Cook]

That first time over the door is a big step,full of apprehension and was the same for almost everyone on here Im sure,but damn girl once you do it there will be no stopping you.I hope its everything you wish for,and more

:hugs:Sophie xx

I second this! Trust your instincts Lucy -- and your anti-perspirant... Go Girl!

[LeannL]

Lucy,
As everyone has said, relax. You will stand in front of the door and think of al sorts of reasons not to go out. After you have let yourself go through the list in your head, say to yourself, "None of them are good enough", grab the door knob and walk out to a world of new and exciting experiences. While we have offered advice WRT what you should do, you need to decide what you need to do. If, as you asked, feel you need to bring a change of boy clothes, then find a bag and bring a pair of jeans and a t-shirt (keeping the volume low for convenience). The bottom line is, do what you need to do to feel comfortable and, as Nike says, "Just Do It".

Good luck and enjoy,
Leann

[Christy_M]

I am sure you will be fine and enjoy every minute you are out. As mentioned earlier, don't expect too much more than being out en femme and youwill have memories for a life time.

I did notice that a number of people are going out for the first time tonight (to all of you, please have a great time)...wouldn't it be funny if every CD went out tonight and there were no men at home anywhere?

[Tima]

This Saturday night first time Lucy goes out ever..

Good luck, sweetheart! I’ll be thinking about you tonight. :battingeyelashes:


I'm going out this Saturday too, and I've also had some nervousness about it.

I’ll be thinking of you, too, Sophie! Please don't be nervous. :)

[subwrx]

Lucy and Sophie, I have not been out in fem. So, I second all the already said encouragement and advice. I would just like to add please let us know how it went tonight I'll be thinking of you and the best of luck.

[sterling12]

Well, it's 1A.M. E.S.T. And Lucy hasn't checked back in yet. So, my guess is that she's probably having just A Hell of a
Time, and will give us a Report Tomorrow. Or, she got thrown in jail, assaulted, or any one of those other bad things that she alluded to. But, I think not!

Let us hope and pray that she DID NOT get The Coldest of Cold Feet! I hope that we gave her enough Ammo. to take The Plunge. That would be for her Sake...not for Ours. Pleasant Dreams Lucy!

Peace and Love, Joanie

[Lucy_Bella]

Hi everyone :)..
Would first like tell you all before I start that, without this forum and the support it offers I would have had "Cold Feet" !! I was going to chicken out yet again , but the over whelming support from great folks like you encouraged me to follow through . Thank you all !!

My evening started as I drove over to my friends, boy friends apartment ( close to the meet place ) I met him (the bot friend ) and his room mate . I stopped on the there and picked up a 18 pack of beer and started consumeing them right away ( I am such a lush ).. I was offered to get ready when I walked in the door but I declined, I was getting cold feet again and was really thinking about just calling it off.. So we just sat on the couch for about 45 minutes in the dark watching Glee.

After about 3 beers I nevously asked " well where can I go get ready " ? I was very kindly pointed to my friends S.O.s room and told " make myself at home and take as long as I needed".. So i grabbed another beer and took my bag of Lucy and shut the door to get ready. I started with the makeup so I wouldn't get any of it on my dress I shaved extra close and bronnzed in part of my farmers tan the best I could..I slipped on some nude nylons and pink hi-cut panties my toe nails as rough as they looked where already painted from last week and I didn't feel like touchiong them up so Ileft them alone.

Grabbed the lacey bra and put it on I don't use forms so I was pretty much flat then slipped into my thigh hi chiffon dress that is on my avator , did my hair as Lucy appeared before my eyes. I was finishing up all the touch ups but ran out of beer and I didn't want to walk out the door to get another . I was extremly nervous ,I brought two other outfits with me and I was running low on time if I was to get the opinion of those who where going to be with on what I was wearing. I didn't want them to be embarrased to be with me if I was wearing something too trashy.. So I opened the door and got thier opinion.
They was smileling at me and ensuring me that what I had on looked great and they wouldn't be embarrassed so I grabbed another beer and nail polish ,I was useing " Pink Chrome " sat at the table and started to paint my nails when my friends S.O.s offered to do them for me :).. I was awwwed that he would ask and happly took him up on it.. He did a fantastic job.!

So we sat around awhile and talked while he painted my nails , I soon found out that he and his room mate both had Dressed before and enjoy doing it still ata times they even had nail polish remover in the closet to fix my nails. I was floored to hear all of this as time neared for us to leave. The only thing I had left to do was slip into my 1 inch heel mule shoes . Our DD driver was the room mate and Lucy was getting nervous about walking out of the apartment door to the truck but off I went and nothing happened ..

We arrived at the club went inside and right away found the meet group , the girls were so friendly and reconized me right away . We all greeted each other with the intro's made a little small talk and then went our own way? The club was full of transgenders then average looking males with more than I expected GG's walking around. I was very un easy at first because I wasn't with my group for one and normal dressed people all over I felt like an out cast . My friend who treated like a lady he even opened and closed the truck door for me, felt very wierd but I went with it he was also the drink gopher and as I started on my 4th Rum and Coke the show started . The stage was in a different part of the bar and if you have never been there you would have never known it was eventhere ,so we got there kinda late and the seats were not that great.

Well it happened , after all the drinks I needed to use the bathroom.. I was a chicken cause I didn't want to walk there alone so my friends S.O. escorted me, I get back to our table as the show began I have never seen a drag show before and the way it started I was very impressed. , the seating arrangement was very tight and I was doing my best not to sit on or rub against the room mate who was next to me the whole time . I found out why so many GG's were there they where hosting a party for one who was about to get married and they all had center stage and they all where having a very good time.

I am a smoker ( bad habit ) and the only one in my group so if I was to have a smoke I had to go out front of the club that sits on a very busy street , I made several trips out there and noticed that with every trip it was getting harder to walk, the Rums where catching up. Finally it was about mid night and time to go, I realised that once I shook off all the nervousness at the begining of the night, I completely for the most part forgot I was dressed , I'm going to the bathroom un escorted ,stood next to a busy street several times comfortable smoking and didn't even think twice about leaving and walked straight to the truck finding the door held open for me to get in.
We all had a good time my guest wanted to eat and stopped at a Mexiacan food drive through, I am sitting in the passangers side and didn't even care once the tinted glass window went down to get the order. I was offered the couch as they ate their meal in the apartment luckly I brought a pink nylon gown to sleep in as I wasn't ready to stop being Lucy. All my fears came un answered I woke the next morning with one hell of a head ache got back into DRAB and went home.
Thank you all again for your support hope the long post wasn't too boring..

[Ashleythenewgirl]

Lucy,
I am so very happy for you. Great post and it was good to read the details and how you felt. I can relate!
Way to go girl!
Ashley

[sterling12]

Thank you for The Update, we certainly wanted to know! Next time, try it with just a few less "Pops." I think you will find The Experience is even better, without all "The Helpers."

I think your On Your Way! I know that for about 99.9% of us with The Desire to go out in Public, there is no turning back. Learn from The First One. Each Successive Episode will be a new, and exhilarating experience. I just wish more of us would go out, it's so much fun, it's such An Adventure, we just can't imagine why everybody isn't doing it.

I am sure, with just a little more "Lucy Goes Public Time" under Your Belt, you'll be on here writing and encouraging other Gals to do The Same Thing!

Peace and Love, Joanie

[Lucy_Bella]

Thank you for The Update, we certainly wanted to know! Next time, try it with just a few less "Pops." I think you will find The Experience is even better, without all "The Helpers."

I think your On Your Way! I know that for about 99.9% of us with The Desire to go out in Public, there is no turning back. Learn from The First One. Each Successive Episode will be a new, and exhilarating experience. I just wish more of us would go out, it's so much fun, it's such An Adventure, we just can't imagine why everybody isn't doing it.

I am sure, with just a little more "Lucy Goes Public Time" under Your Belt, you'll be on here writing and encouraging other Gals to do The Same Thing!

Peace and Love, Joanie

I agree Joanie, it was kinda cheating and I think it may have ruined the whole experiance, Kinda.. I do appreciate the encouragement you gave it was very helpful, I had so many chances to back out but I followed through . It's true what those say about going out, you do get more comfortable the longer you are out. :)

Odd tho, I really don't have any desires to go out anymore, I am sure they will come back in time .. I mean after all I just got it out of my system.

[littleronidude]

I say just go for it. It'll be probably one of the most exciting experiences ever. Don't worry so much about what people will think. Everything will be fine and you'll have a great time doing it! you go girl!

[Jorja]

Way to go Lucy!!!! I knew you could do it. You do realize that now you have done it once, many more trips are in your future :)

[Lucy_Bella]

Way to go Lucy!!!! I knew you could do it. You do realize that now you have done it once, many more trips are in your future :)

Thanks you Jorja :) As time goes by since last night the more I realize how much fun I had..I am also noticing that it wasn't such a big deal going because, I was at a place that welcomes these activites that makes it so much easier..
Thanks for the support :)

[Claire Cook]

I agree Joanie, it was kinda cheating and I think it may have ruined the whole experiance, Kinda.. I do appreciate the encouragement you gave it was very helpful, I had so many chances to back out but I followed through . It's true what those say about going out, you do get more comfortable the longer you are out. :)

Odd tho, I really don't have any desires to go out anymore, I am sure they will come back in time .. I mean after all I just got it out of my system.

Lucy,

We're glad the first time worked so well for you. Joanie has it right -- next time (and I'm sure there will be a next time) you'll be more relaxed, and won't need all of the liquid assistance to make it go. The more you go out, the more natural it feels.

[ellenwannabe]

I would say if your friends invite you along just go for it and let them do the talking to others and I'll bet you'll have a great time and what happens happens just go with the flow - enjoy the opportunity - smiles - Ellen