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FionaO

10-05-2010, 05:57 PM

A couple of days ago I visited my Mom and she gave me a sealed birthday card to be opened today for my birthday. The card says "don't panic" on the outside with a picture of a little kid panicking in front of a cake and "it's just your birthday" on the inside. By implication the little kid is supposed to be me and it's a little girl in a blue party dress with loads of frills and a short full skirt.
My mom knows nothing about my CDing but what a card. She's not confused, she's written on the front "I'm not losing my mind, I know you're a boy." I'm not reading anything into it but is sort of nice.
However there was another serendipidous moment. My Mom lives a fair distance from me and there is a discount chain store near her that I sometimes visit in drab, as it is far enough away that I will not meet anyone I know and I usually have spare time on my own. Remember at this time I hadn't seen my card but I decided to treat myself for my birthday and bought a blue party dress with loads of frills and a short full skirt. The dress cost me £39.99 and when I opened the card today my Mom had also given me £40.00. So basically she bought me a dress for my birthday similar to the one on my card.
I've attached a photo, do you think I should wear it the next time I visit Mom? I can always blame her card for putting me over the edge and imply that I thought she was trying to give a subtle hint. I can even show her the price label to demonstrate I spent all but one penny of her gift on my dress.

HEART BROKEN

10-05-2010, 06:05 PM

I think that would be a great way to go.Looking just as you are in the pic above and holding the card in your hand when she see's you.If she seems to freak outjust say playng with you Moandchange your clothes.Just wondering when you where growing up if she often did little things like that?

lacie

10-05-2010, 06:13 PM

Wow! All signs point to her knowing what's up. Or it's one hell of a major coincident. Maybe if you put some thought into it you could bait her into confirming your suspicion without giving up your secret. That's if you want to keep it a secret...

Jamiegirl1

10-05-2010, 06:22 PM

You are very gorgeous!!!!

Bobbi Lynn

10-05-2010, 08:32 PM

Great dress, great picture! Wear the dress and take the card and say "is this what you had in mind"? I guess that's one way to come out to her for sure. Did she ever "catch" you when you were younger?

regina young

10-05-2010, 08:43 PM

Happy Birthday Fiona, Love the picture, and the dress. Moms always want us to think they know more than they actually do, dont they?......regina

Being Paige

10-05-2010, 08:52 PM

Yes Happy Birthday and love the dress too!

Persephone

10-05-2010, 08:59 PM

You look lovely, Fiona!

Personally, I think that a coincidence such as the one you just experienced, particularly a triple-coincidence, is nature's way of giving you a "teachable moment." How you choose to learn from it, and how you choose to use it is up to your own interpretation.

BTW, I don't know if you get a U.S. program called "Burn Notice" where you are, but the leading woman on the show is one of my heroines and her name is Fiona.

Ashleythenewgirl

10-06-2010, 02:27 AM

Fiona, I love the dress! You look fab. I wish I could do the same!
Happy Birthday.
Ashley

Connie D50

10-06-2010, 05:51 AM

You look Great in the dress Connie

FionaO

10-06-2010, 08:06 AM

My Mom never caught me when I was young and I haven't lived at home for 37 years since I started college. I do occasionally stay over and would normally wear a nightdress to bed but again never was caught.
Once and only once about 5 years ago when the pink fog was on me, I held a major photo dress up session in her living room while she was asleep upstairs. She is a pretty heavy sleeper and didn't hear me going up and down the stairs in my different outfits. A pretty foolish thing to do but we all know what the pink fog is like. I'm just going to show one photo from that session to illustrate how deep I was into it, you definitely couldn't mistake my outfit for a nightshirt.

Jilmac

10-06-2010, 08:31 AM

Fiona, If it had been my mom who sent me a card like you described and the exact amount to purchase the dress (which by the way, is gorgeous), I would gladly model it for her. I think the subtlety of the card is enough to show her your appreciation of the message, it may turn out to be a mother daughter bonding session.

Christie ann

10-06-2010, 08:45 AM

Very pretty dress with a pretty girl inside. Did your mom mean anything by a girl on the card? I doubt it, especially with the comment "I know you are a boy" I think she just liked the card. I often buy a card that isn't quite aimed at the person I give it to. I think it would be pretty cool to giver your mom a picture of you in the dress holding the card. You could certainly gauge her reaction to CDing that way.

Happy Birthday and please tell us what you did.

Chari

10-06-2010, 09:04 AM

Your Mom may know your "inner secret", or suspect you are enjoying your feminine side, and she is trying to find a way to open up to you! You know her best and can guess what her re-action would be if she saw Fiona in her birthday dress. BTW, you look very confident and comfortable in all your pics! Belated Birthday Wishes - and thanx for sharing.

SamanthaS

10-06-2010, 09:15 AM

Lovely dress hon :)

AKAMichelle

10-06-2010, 10:01 AM

I think leave the dress at home but bring the picture. Then have a talk.

NicoleScott

10-06-2010, 10:26 AM

maggiecdva

10-06-2010, 11:58 AM

That's wonderful! Happy Birthday and Enjoy!
hugs - maggie

AmiFL

10-06-2010, 12:10 PM

simply ask her the significance of the card.................

anonymousinmaryland

10-06-2010, 12:20 PM

Nice photo. Real nice dress. Happy Birthday. Oh, BTW, moms know EVERYTHING!

Daphne Renee

10-06-2010, 12:23 PM

It could just be a coincidence I suppose . Although a fairly big one. I will agree with the others who said to send her a picture of you in that dress with the card. You know your mother best so you will have to decide if its worth it.
Happy Birthday BTW hope its a good one.

Inna

10-06-2010, 12:34 PM

happy birthday, and there are no coincidences. Weather she knows of your desires or not such events point to one conclusion, it is time! I have lived my life recently by obeying the road shown to me by The source, intuition, universe, you name it. Every time the direction is shown I will follow blindly and be overwhelmed by its beauty and eventual sense. Such Bday card and gift money, all I can say is that if your mother doesn't know I think it is time she does, but I should withhold my opinion because you are the only one who knows the next step. I am so happy for you that you get the signs and wish for you the wise and joyful road to walk and embrace real you, isn't that what we all want for our birthdays!

FionaO

10-06-2010, 01:52 PM

Thank you for all the advice girls, it has been really helpful. As Christie ann says I think Mom just thought it was a nice card but it was a rather strange choice. As I said before, she has never caught me crossdressed but now that I think about it there could be other ways she knows. I could have left something feminine at her house for example which she found while cleaning my room. I used to use her house as a base while she was on holiday and have left it fully dressed to go shopping and socialising and maybe a neighbour seen me and told her something. Although back then I was very passable and a neighbour would have thought a strange woman was using my car.
If Mom does suspect something and this card is a way of getting me to open up then all I really have to do is mention the card and let her take it from there. I know my Mom and it would be unusual for her to do something like this, however my elder sister returned from abroad a few years ago and spends a lot of time at my Mom's. This would be the sort of thing that she would do through my Mom although I don't think she would have any malicious motive.
Ok so I'll discuss the card with her and if she doesn't want to take it any further that is fine with me. If she does then I can tell her I bought the dress and let her see the picture if she wants. I can then show her some more pics if she wants (but not the ones taken in her house). If she wants to meet Fiona I'll let her, if not no problem. If my sister wants to meet her as well, that would be great as I think she would probably want to go shopping with her. I look extremely like her in my photo with the blonde wig.
I'll keep you posted.

joanna marie

10-06-2010, 02:01 PM

nice dress
you look ,great in it

Brendastevens47

10-06-2010, 02:25 PM

What a wonderful story. The dress looks lovely on you Fiona, so feminine and pretty. Your mom I think knows....but it is up to you if you feel comfortable wearing the dress to see her...but girl...that might be Just OK.

Fab Karen

10-06-2010, 07:24 PM

Thank you for all the advice girls, it has been really helpful. As Christie ann says I think Mom just thought it was a nice card but it was a rather strange choice.
If Mom does suspect something and this card is a way of getting me to open up then all I really have to do is mention the card and let her take it from there.
Sounds sensible- the last thing you want to do is leap to conclusions and shock the hell out of her showing up dressed.

busker

10-06-2010, 10:18 PM

there is the possibility that she knows someone who works at the store since it is NEAR HER. The other possibility is that she saw you in the store and you didn't see her, or someone who knows you both saw you and reported back to your mom.
What you might do is if possible, substitute your picture for the one on the card and ask if she recognizes the person in the picture?
The whole thing is JUST TOO coincidental for me to believe that it is. Something is up.
happy birthday and good luck with your mom.

Kate17

10-06-2010, 10:34 PM

Great Story and teriffic dress - you look great!! The real question is -do you want your mother to know? If yes, take the card, put the dress in the trunk of your car and ask why - It will all come out if you want it to.

Ediosa

10-06-2010, 10:34 PM

Bernadina

10-07-2010, 12:17 AM

From my experience, mum's always know everything. I know mine did. Wouldn't be surprised if yours does too.

Diane Smith

10-07-2010, 01:28 AM

Nice nightshirt.

- Diane

Marissa

10-07-2010, 01:37 AM

Fiona, such a cute story and I'm sure how much you wished it was all based on your Mom knowing..then again, as stated, Mom's are all knowing :) Maybe you should see what you get for Christmas before devulging all to Mom..

That is a cute pic of you..and maybe someday Mom can see you as you want to be to her.. someday..keep them fingers crossed :)

Thank you for sharing..

Hugs,
Marissa

Spinne0013

10-07-2010, 03:18 AM

I recently told my mother about it after some very pointed offhand comments. she mentioned metro a few times because she noticed the en drab femininity. It went much better than I expected it to. like the everyone else is saying you know your mother best and if you feel you should and that she will take it well, then by all means do tell her. You may be shocked at where it leads and what doors open up for you. Since telling my mother we've gone shopping and have become closer on a much different level.

Rianna Humble

10-07-2010, 04:45 AM

A couple of days ago I visited my Mom and she gave me a sealed birthday card to be opened today for my birthday. The card says "don't panic" on the outside with a picture of a little kid panicking in front of a cake and "it's just your birthday" on the inside. By implication the little kid is supposed to be me and it's a little girl in a blue party dress with loads of frills and a short full skirt.
My mom knows nothing about my CDing but what a card. She's not confused, she's written on the front "I'm not losing my mind, I know you're a boy." I'm not reading anything into it but is sort of nice.
However there was another serendipidous moment. My Mom lives a fair distance from me and there is a discount chain store near her that I sometimes visit in drab, as it is far enough away that I will not meet anyone I know and I usually have spare time on my own. Remember at this time I hadn't seen my card but I decided to treat myself for my birthday and bought a blue party dress with loads of frills and a short full skirt. The dress cost me £39.99 and when I opened the card today my Mom had also given me £40.00. So basically she bought me a dress for my birthday similar to the one on my card.

Are you sure she doesn't know? Does seem an amazing co-incidence that she gave you the price of the dress that goes with the card.

Personally, I would try to broach the subject with her before showing her the dress, but then you could put iton and use the line "is this what you had in mind?"

Tina B.

10-07-2010, 07:41 AM

Reality check, there is no reason to think mom knows anything! it's just a card, maybe mom just thought you are at the age when one worries about getting older. It's what the card said, "don't worry, It's just a Birthday". It just happens to have a girl instead of a boy on it, so she wrote the note so you would not think shes getting senile. You bought a blue dress, not mom, it's just a coincidence. Your gift was around the same price as the dress, another coincidence, after all, dresses come in all sorts of prices. It some times amazes me just how much we can see while in a pink fog, but just like a Grey fog, what you think you see is not what is really out there. If you don't think mom knows, and if you like it that way, I would just put that picture away and enjoy that happy coincidence for what is.
Happy Birthday!
Tina B.

Rachel05

10-07-2010, 02:31 PM

Well you look great in the dress and what a way to say thanks for the present, might be a shock too far though

Starling

10-09-2010, 11:11 PM

From my experience, mum's always know everything. I know mine did. Wouldn't be surprised if yours does too.

Amen, Bernadina! You beat me to it. I think my mother knew all my life, but didn't want to bring it up, out of shyness or fear it would make me panic. Besides, what did one do if one was TS in 1957? Enter an asylum for shock treatment, is the likely answer.

Shortly before she died, she said she wanted to talk to me about something. As I have siblings, including one she lived with, I don't think it was about practical matters. I called her back the next day, but she was out of town (with no mobile phone). Sadly, she died before we could talk. Nonetheless, I think she was on a path to give me her valedictory blessing.

And Fiona, the dress is lovely, and it really suits you. By all means take the photo with you when you visit your mother. Whatever happens, I wish you much happiness.

:) Lallie

janice murray

10-09-2010, 11:29 PM

I'm sure your Mum knows.
Why not invite her over telling her that you want her to "meet someone".
You could then go and get changed and make an entrance.
I'm sure you're Mum would be absolutely delighted to meet her new daughter.
BTW just wear a normal day dress, not a wedding gown.
One thing at a time!

trappedNhere

10-14-2010, 11:37 PM

Fiona:

I have to agree with all the other "girls" here, you look absolutely beautiful and self assured. You above all people know your mother. I can only hope mine could leave the perfect opportunity to come out. Your self-assuredness showes on your face. I hope to one day have that level of confidance (sp). At this juncture, I haven't even found my name yet (alas, the screen name). I wish for you a truely moving and bonding moment with Mom and Sis.

happy Birthday

Hugs and kisses

VictoriaP

10-15-2010, 01:22 PM

A couple of days ago I visited my Mom and she gave me a sealed birthday card to be opened today for my birthday. The card says "don't panic" on the outside with a picture of a little kid panicking in front of a cake and "it's just your birthday" on the inside. By implication the little kid is supposed to be me and it's a little girl in a blue party dress with loads of frills and a short full skirt.
My mom knows nothing about my CDing but what a card. She's not confused, she's written on the front "I'm not losing my mind, I know you're a boy." I'm not reading anything into it but is sort of nice. What a coool thing to have happen!!
However there was another serendipidous moment. My Mom lives a fair distance from me and there is a discount chain store near her that I sometimes visit in drab, as it is far enough away that I will not meet anyone I know and I usually have spare time on my own. Remember at this time I hadn't seen my card but I decided to treat myself for my birthday and bought a blue party dress with loads of frills and a short full skirt. The dress cost me £39.99 and when I opened the card today my Mom had also given me £40.00. So basically she bought me a dress for my birthday similar to the one on my card.Maybe mom does know more than she is letting on!!
I've attached a photo, do you think I should wear it the next time I visit Mom? I can always blame her card for putting me over the edge and imply that I thought she was trying to give a subtle hint. I can even show her the price label to demonstrate I spent all but one penny of her gift on my dress.

don't you just love serendipity? (did i spell that correctly?)
vicky

pernille d

10-15-2010, 01:47 PM

By accident I opened this thread up at the end and read where someone had quoted you. A youngish girl suddenly sprung to mind that had not long left home , so I was pleasantly surprised to see a nice lady when I actually got to the start of I opened the thread by mistake at the end so did not see your photo to later but before I saw it I had an idea of a person that has just left living at home so that just shows how we can all jump to conclusions, so be careful as I have often thought the same as my wife showed so many signals/hints that I was certain she had worked out my other side, how wrong I was when I was outed , it does seem a bit unreal to be true so maybe she does know ,the question is are you brave enough to go in the dress and visit her are you ready for it if you are wrong.

You certainly look good in the dress anyway so it could be that dress for a specal occasion

If it was me I would probably do it for the fun and then whatever the outcome you will both end up knowing ,

Mmummm! I can see that I have repeated myself above as my phone whent s bit nuts so I hope you get the idea of what I mean

ReineD

10-15-2010, 02:03 PM

I agree with the others: you look great in the dress.
I also agree with Michelle. You suspect she may know about your cd-ing, but you can't be sure. It is usually unwise to inform a significant person in your life that you are a cd by suddenly appearing in a dress and makeup. As Michelle said: leave the dress, bring the pic, have a talk. You may want to start the conversation with "Why did you pick out that card for me?"

Excellent advice, and I'd go one step further. Bring the pic, but tell her first. Then judge by her reaction as to whether or not she might like to see the pic. Or you could tell her you have a picture and ask if she wants to see it.

You do look great in your pics! :)

EDIT - Oops, I forgot ... Happy Birthday!!!

Annaliese2010

10-15-2010, 08:55 PM

Maybe she actually knows. Wouldn't be so surprising. I mean mom's are pretty smart - in mysterious ways we don't have a clue, ya know? If she does know & that's why it was a girls card, that's pretty nice of her - and very sensitive to your possible delicacy. Or I should say very respectful to you. Mom's are so cool to begin with. Aren't they though? Aww...

Wonderful dress - yooo loook mmahvalous ;)

Edit - oops 4me2... Happy Birthday!