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[Jeremy]

I have been doing a lot of research but yes i think i am jumping the gun so to speak. i see an endo on tuesday. what can i expect when i go see the doctor?

i am ready to be jeremy full time. i have started to dismiss jennifer. i have been living as jeremy only for a few months however. but the more i do, the more i know jeremy is who i'm supposed to be. what sucks is that my boobs give me away. any recommendations on that issue?

any suggestions is appreciated

jeremy

[DanteDonovan]

Hmm, I know in the boob area I'm lucky to have really small-bare A, so can be hidden wonderfully. My mother has DD and explained to me that when she did certain activities she had to bind big time, ace bandages, duct tape to make sure it didn't pop open. I think for someone of bigger size(don't know yours exact) maybe getting a compression top might be a little more helpful because I can imagine, the bigger they are, it'd be difficult to wrap them daily.

If you are of a bit smaller size, perhaps a sports bra and another tighter t top for it? If anything to help break you in to tighter chest compressions before you get the actual binding tops because they are going to be tighter.

By doctor do you mean therapist or blood/levels test one? If the latter, well I can assume just like other doctor visits of making sure levels are proper etc. If you mean therapist, I did go to one once(when I get a job I will start it up definitely) but I say the best advice I can give you, is be prepared for all the questions that will come up, because if you have to think for even a minute on more in depth questions, they will see that maybe you haven't fully thought things through and need more time to do so.

Think of these questions. What made you decide this? The moments you noticed some things, how it made you feel. What about it made you feel the most. How did you respond to it? Once you responded how did you come to terms and acceptance of it? When living as FTM, is there any time you feel nervous that you could possibly doing this as more of an escape of something that isn't your gender? Or that maybe still not sure and positive that this is truly the way to go. Have you come out to friends and family yet? If so what happened? If negative, how did that make you feel? How are you dealing with it? If you haven't come out, when do you plan on coming out to friends/families/co-workers. How do you plan to go about it? Are you prepared that some things might come out negatively in that area? Ready to possibly have to face being shut out and away from people? These are things to think about, to be prepared for worse-case scenario. Because a lot of people don't think that far and then see it happen and wish they never did it. Only if your are ready to face it all head on, no-matter the consequences, then you are ready for this transition. If you are not ready to face these possible outcomes, then you need to think a bit more on if you want to go this far. You can't even avoid them for a yr before coming out, as it will actually mean you are avoiding being yourself no matter what. When you do this you need to be prepared, as well because sometimes they find out before you were planning to say anything. (that happened with my bro and mom btw-one of the most scariest moments of my life since I had no clue what to say-ya know, putting me on the spot).

I wasn't asked all of these questions, but they are ones that could come up, because let's face it, it really all is something you need to think about before the final step. If you are unsure about some of these possible outcomes, there is no shame in waiting while you come to terms on if things might happen, to be prepared.

Good luck with everything<333 :hugs:

[Areyan]

Dante has given you some solid advice here.... i would also be taking my time though i can really understand how you are feeling. i've taken to wearing menswear with my girl clothing every day now (just starting out) but i still feel the discomfort at times trying to present as her all the time. i feel my confidence crumble and the anxiety creep in as soon as i have to assume her role with someone. i have started connecting with people in my target gender online and have one good trans friend in the reals so i am lucky to have that... though it doesn't take away from the intensity of feelings this can cause at times. i have someone i can contact who may be able to source me some gender therapy in future in my country, so it's one of those last resort options for me... try to create more options for support for yourself if you can.

i actually have a therapist but she has been quite honest with me in that she doesn't know a thing about gender identity issues so i'm out of her league at this point (she knows about my former MTF partner and cannot help me with it in the same way a gender specialist could). it's hard because i feel like i should disclose... ugh, it's a bummer trying to work this all out. stick around and keep talking to us... i am still learning a lot myself. you sound very excited and happy to be discovering this side of yourself as well - believe me i get those feelings too and it's hard to ignore them at times... makes you want to go out and push yourself onto the world, lol.

[Felix]

Some very sound advice here and not much more I can add as I thought and asked myself these very same questions a million times before I came out to my gp in January 2008 :) I wrote my journal over the last 4 years which helped me imensley and I showed this to my psychiatrist when I met him he was impressed at how much I had scrutinized everything until I knew there was no other way to go but forward regardless of the consequences. Keep talking to others like yourself and keep coming in here its been a great source of encouragement and support for me :)

Oh was just wondering where are you from if ya don't mind me asking ? xx Felix :)