What are your rules when going out with the SO/GF/BF

[2B Natasha]

Last week I made reservations to a nicer restaurant in Seattle. I am taking my future wife there for dinner a good glass of wine and dessert. I wanted to go out as Natasha, and I going to of course. But this lead to a larger discussion between her and I. Light hearted of course but I thought o would elicit responses from this board. O am especially interested on hearing from GG on this issue/questions

when going out with your SO dresed ad a woman. How do you inter act with her.

Do you hold hands?
Do you kiss?
Do you go as girlfriends?
At what point do you want yourale companion to appear if there is an issue? IE. Someone who folows you or is going beyond a snide rark to beratting you two?
Or do you defend her?

Please. Answer all or one or just state your rules of eticate when out together.

Remember please. This is out to a restaurant or shooing. Not really a club atmosphere although that does apply.

Toake a point there and demonstratey boundry. One night at the club. My future wife was out dancing with another HG when a very drunk man came on to her. She shooed him
away. But several dances later he was back and wasn't taking no for an answer. I was witnessing this from my stool. So out onto
the dance floor leaving my conversation to remove him from the dance flor. Gently. So I danced mt way between he and the ladies and blocked his line of site. Well he was no quite smitten with my chest. Which I at this point informed him where not real. He said he didn't care. I told you he was drunk. Anyway. O placed my hands in his shoulders. Turned him around and gently shoved him off the dance floor. I maybe a man in a mini skirt but I'm still a man. And that behavior is not happening with my future wife period.

Thanks
Natasha.

[Nicole Erin]

I have a good friend who I will probably be going out with more in the future.
I would not be caught dead without being dressed pretty.

Now as much as I would love to grab her, kiss her, profess my undying love, I don't really think it will reach that level.

[Sally24]

When I'm dressed I can't kiss my wife, even at home. As girlfriends we are just friends.

[PretzelGirl]

I think the thought is that we are going as girlfriends. But you can't break habits easily and I have held her hand while walking and put my arm around her at a movie. Oh well. She is fine with it and tells me to pucker up when I bring it up.

[t-girlxsophie]

You often see Girl Friends linking arms when out together,Just two gals out together having fun,and you can tell theres nothing romantic In It,
I must say when I have been out dressed with my Wife,I have held her hand,i dont care to be honest If anyone see's or thinks its not right

:hugs:Sophie

[Shananigans]

Okay, I'm a GG. First off, props to you for going out. My SO and I aren't quite there yet. I mean, where do we go? Who do we go with? Alabama is as lame as the day is long. So, we have been sticking to our indoor dates. However, I can tell you how I will act once we venture out into the big world together.

1. Do you hold hands?- I'm never a big hand holder, but I would if it seemed like a hand holding moment.
2. Do you kiss?- Of course, Camie's my gf so if I want to kiss her...I will.
3. Do you go as girlfriends?- See above.
4. At what point do you want yourale companion to appear if there is an issue? IE. Someone who folows you or is going beyond a snide rark to beratting you two?- I can usually handle my own with jerks, but if the person was persistent...I would expect my SO to say, "Hey, we are an item. Kindly back off."
5. Or, do you defend her?- It goes both ways. I expect that my SO could hold her own, but if I saw someone being persistent...I would definitely make it clear that we were an item and that they aren't invited to an after party.

EDIT: Well on second thought, me and my SO went out to a fraternity party on Halloween last year. She was dressed as Hannah Montanna. No one knew that he was actually a CD...just Ryan being funny and dressing as Hannah Montanna for the sake of being funny. He didn't shave or anything, so he wasn't like "full on Camie mode." But, anyway, we ended up hooking up on the dance floor. So, that might give some indication of our behavior.

[kitchenette]

My SO doesn't venture out dressed. But we are a romantic couple always, whether in male/female mode. If we did venture out "dressed", I would really want to hold her hand. I would be a little nervous and hope that she would hold my hand, too. As for defending one another, ABSOLUTELY. I think you can do subtle things to get someone to go away, you don;t have to make a big show - most of the time. But, my SO is also very tall and very strong, so not a lot of people are going to want to tangle with her or him. It can be scary though because some people are really afraid of TGs and can act crazy, especially when alcohol is involved. But since you are going to a restaurant, I would hope that people would be cool, especially in a city like Seattle. I think the most dangerous place is walking to or from a car if it's dark....

[2B Natasha]

Thanks for the reply's so far. They are very insitful. I am looking forward to what everyone else has to say.
And thanks for putting up with the bad typing/spellin.g Hard to pound things out on a phone sometimes. DUH!

Natasha

[WendyH]

My wife and I have historically been reluctant to openly hold hands, kiss, etc. in public when I'm in Wendy mode. This has lessened a bit in recent years. And when we're in "safe" company, like a support group or our church women's group, we are completely and unabashedly lovey-dovey.

[suchacutie]

I'm with Sally on this one. Tina and my wife are strictly platonic girlfriends, no matter they are. I do think that discussing these issues with your fiance is the best idea!

tina

[Misty G]

Okay, I'm a GG. First off, props to you for going out. My SO and I aren't quite there yet. I mean, where do we go? Who do we go with? Alabama is as lame as the day is long. So, we have been sticking to our indoor dates. However, I can tell you how I will act once we venture out into the big world together.

1. Do you hold hands?- I'm never a big hand holder, but I would if it seemed like a hand holding moment.
2. Do you kiss?- Of course, Camie's my gf so if I want to kiss her...I will.
3. Do you go as girlfriends?- See above.
4. At what point do you want yourale companion to appear if there is an issue? IE. Someone who folows you or is going beyond a snide rark to beratting you two?- I can usually handle my own with jerks, but if the person was persistent...I would expect my SO to say, "Hey, we are an item. Kindly back off."
5. Or, do you defend her?- It goes both ways. I expect that my SO could hold her own, but if I saw someone being persistent...I would definitely make it clear that we were an item and that they aren't invited to an after party.

EDIT: Well on second thought, me and my SO went out to a fraternity party on Halloween last year. She was dressed as Hannah Montanna. No one knew that he was actually a CD...just Ryan being funny and dressing as Hannah Montanna for the sake of being funny. He didn't shave or anything, so he wasn't like "full on Camie mode." But, anyway, we ended up hooking up on the dance floor. So, that might give some indication of our behavior.

I too live in Alabama and my SO and I go out to dinner at outback often and other places as well. We go dancing and shopping together and eithier of us will defend the other if need arise's.

[Sarah Doepner]

When my wife and I have gone out with me in Sarah mode we have generally been girl friends. She is quite the hand-holder and sometimes that works and other times it doesn't, so it has been a judgement call. We are too old to be "girls" kissing in public, so I can't address that one. Occasionally she will call me Dave instead of Sarah, not that anyone nearby would have any doubt, but I prefer to keep it girly if that is how I'm dressed. The only other problem was when she decided that after her bathroom break she was going back to the casino and left me waiting for the tab in the restaurant where we had just eaten dinner. Oh well, some things don't change regardless of what I'm wearing. ;-)

[Sandra]

From a GG




Do you hold hands?
Do you kiss?
Do you go as girlfriends?


Yes
Yes
and Yes


We are both very open when out in public...ok we are not all over each other and we don't go around with tongues down each other throats :) I still get on the defensive side if anyone is staring but manage to keep quiet..well sometimes :doh:

[DeeDee1974]

My wifes main rule when we are in public is that she is in charge of eveything to avoid any uncomfortable situations. She drives, she orders, she pays. She also decides if we have any pdas. Mostly she doesn't want to, but last week we went down to the lake and brought a blanket and just cuddled and kissed for a couple hours. An older woman said "you 2 ladies need to get a room" in a joking manner. It was good for us because it was fairly crowded. It was good for me because my wife professed her attraction to DeeDee.

[Tracy X Cruz]

Anything I would have done as a man with her I do as a woman. Includes holding hands, kissing, etc. The only real difference is I have to watch the way I sit in a skirt o.o

Seriously though she is a little nervous still because as she puts it "whether it is because you get seen as a man crossdressing, or we get seen as lesbians, there is always closed minded people who could give us trouble." So we don't go out too late at night or places that don't have a lot of people, etc. We are cautious as a rule but thats about it.

[2B Natasha]

Thank you for your responses. I read your thoughts to her last night. We both came to the same conclusion seperatly about how to interact with each other. That is. Basicly how ever we feel is appropriate for the inviroment. I am sure we will hold hands a we may even kiss. On a side note there. At a trip to a bar named Twisted, it was determined thstvonly one of us getvti wear lipstick. The other has to wear lip gloss.

Thanks again and I hope still more people toss there ideas in the ring
Natasha

[linda allen]

In many situations, "girls" can hold hands and show affection for each other (a kiss on the cheek, not the lips), dance together, and it's no big deal.

Guys doing the same thing are immediately labelled as gay.

[AKAMichelle]

I think you had better ask them what the rules are.

[Shananigans]

I too live in Alabama and my SO and I go out to dinner at outback often and other places as well. We go dancing and shopping together and eithier of us will defend the other if need arise's.

That's awesome! I see you are in Smith Lake. Do you go to Birmingham when you go out? My SO and I have thought about going out dressed in Birmingham since it's a pretty diverse city, but he knows so many people there...and, he's not "out" yet to any of his college friends. Might be a little awkward if we bumped into them.

[Kim_Bitzflick]

when going out with your SO dresed ad a woman. How do you inter act with her.

Do you hold hands?
Do you kiss?
Do you go as girlfriends?
At what point do you want yourale companion to appear if there is an issue? IE. Someone who folows you or is going beyond a snide rark to beratting you two?
Or do you defend her?

Thanks
Natasha.

Do you hold hands? No. She doesn't want people to think we are lesbians
Do you kiss? No - see above
Do you go as girlfriends? I guess. We just go out.
At what point do you want yourale companion to appear if there is an issue? IE. Someone who folows you or is going beyond a snide rark to beratting you two? UMMMMMM! I don't know.
Or do you defend her? She is quite protective of me so I think she would defend me