Thanks

[Jeremy]

i want to say thanks to every one who responded. i also believe to be honest up front. but i was also honest up from with my husband and he ended up killing himself. i'm a little hesitant about disclosure. i am not dating now but i want to eventually. next month i start taking my hormones so i know there will be alot of changes. unfortunately my boobs give me away. sports bras don't help that. well anyway i'm sorry i'm babbling.
i just wanted to thank everybody. y'all are very helpful
jeremy

[mistunderstood]

I am truly sorry to hear about that happening to you.

[Areyan]

Jeremy, you're most welcome... hey, about your husband, that was really rough, man. try not to blame yourself. i understand how freaked out you must have been having such a negative and sadly permanent response from one person, but i don't believe this was in any way your fault (i also assume he had other thiings going on to contribute to this). that action was his to take and i don't think you should take on board anyone else's reactions to your being who you are, even though this is hard. i am still battling with myself over this and am worried about disclosing to anyone apart from my kids/ex.

i have also supported a male-to-female transwoman into her transition, which ended our relationship and for the longest time i was heartbroken (still am a bit and not ready to date) but it was hard, so i have been on the other side of this as well. it isn't pretty all the time but it's manageable... i'm sure when we're both ready to meet someone the right man/woman/transperson will turn up... keep on posting here and ask as much as you need... again, welcome.

and in saying all that... damn i love being who i am, blue fog does exist and it feels good... heh. :D

:hugs:

[7sisters]

First up Jeremy, my most sincere condolences.
Second, your husband probably did not take his life only due to your disclosure. I say this with utmost respect to him and you, but there were probably underlying issues like depression that was unchecked. This is so in almost all suicide cases.
Unfortunately, hidden truths are more destructive. Just tell the truth. You cannot influence how others react to the truth.
My best wishes are always with you.

[Felix]

Hi Jeremy and so sorry to hear about your ex :( I do agree with all respect with 7sisters that there was probably some underlying issues like depression so don't blame yourself my friend. You did what you saw as the best for everyone being truthful and at the end of the day we all handle this huge thing in our own way the way we know we can deal with it. Take care xx Felix