KlaireLarnia
10-21-2010, 05:05 PM
Over the last couple of days I have tried to decide if now is a good time to explain to my daughter what I do - rather than she finds out later in life and hates me for it.
I have been wearing women's tops around the house this week (as my wife is away until Sat night). This started with them being covered, then partially on show and for the last 3 days and evenings fully on show. Some have been simple low cut t-shirts in black or white. Others more casual, patterned tops with slightly frilly shoulders. My daughter has not batted an eyelid. Her only question was "why are you not wearing a t-shirt daddy?" to which I replied, "I am but it is a low cut one for a change". She seems to have accepted this.
Tonight while walking to my brothers for a shower (as my bathroom is being redecorated and our bath will not be back in use until tomorrow, around 3 days later than I hoped) we spoke about shoes as she had on some heeled boots. She said they where for girls only, and I asked why. She replied they just are - so I countered well boys can wear them can't they if they wanted? Her reaction "Yes, but they would look very silly if they did". And so it went on, I did mention I had worn heals once and explained I know they are not easy to walk in. She asked when and I said at a party - which she again seemed to accept. [there was no point in telling her I had a pair of three inch heeled boots on my bed if she went home and looked].
So this is my first step. Gentle exposure and questioning on what she thinks. My idea is that if she seems to have a lot of negative reactions - rather than impulse reactions of that's silly, it is like that because it is sort of thing - then I know it will not be a good idea to go much further. I am not planning on telling her I wear skirts - although I think she suspects I wear nightdresses.
Not sure how much further we will take it but I think making the first steps is the main thing here and now I can see how best to make my next move - if there is to be one.
Klaire
I have been wearing women's tops around the house this week (as my wife is away until Sat night). This started with them being covered, then partially on show and for the last 3 days and evenings fully on show. Some have been simple low cut t-shirts in black or white. Others more casual, patterned tops with slightly frilly shoulders. My daughter has not batted an eyelid. Her only question was "why are you not wearing a t-shirt daddy?" to which I replied, "I am but it is a low cut one for a change". She seems to have accepted this.
Tonight while walking to my brothers for a shower (as my bathroom is being redecorated and our bath will not be back in use until tomorrow, around 3 days later than I hoped) we spoke about shoes as she had on some heeled boots. She said they where for girls only, and I asked why. She replied they just are - so I countered well boys can wear them can't they if they wanted? Her reaction "Yes, but they would look very silly if they did". And so it went on, I did mention I had worn heals once and explained I know they are not easy to walk in. She asked when and I said at a party - which she again seemed to accept. [there was no point in telling her I had a pair of three inch heeled boots on my bed if she went home and looked].
So this is my first step. Gentle exposure and questioning on what she thinks. My idea is that if she seems to have a lot of negative reactions - rather than impulse reactions of that's silly, it is like that because it is sort of thing - then I know it will not be a good idea to go much further. I am not planning on telling her I wear skirts - although I think she suspects I wear nightdresses.
Not sure how much further we will take it but I think making the first steps is the main thing here and now I can see how best to make my next move - if there is to be one.
Klaire