Tell her in writting?

[Donna]

Hi,

As a lot of you know, I'm a new girl. I've been a panty girl for a long time but now I want to dress up. My question is:

Has anyone told their wife about their hidden desire by writting? If so, what were the results?

Thanks for the help!

Donna

[mand]

Hello Donna :)


No I didn't do it in writting ..............did it by video tape :o

The results?.........Well we still live in the same house and are toghether in a different kinda way.


love mand xxx :)

[Carlacd]

I came out and told her. I have asked for help through Marla and Tamara both GG's, in finding my wife help, as she feels she is alone in what i do. No one to talk to about cd'ing.
I want her to join the GG forum, where she has other Ladies to talk to.

[JocelynG]

Writing can be easier to explain yourself without having the nervousness and loss of words while talking. Videotaping it is interesting. I wouldn't of thought of that one. Personally I sat down and talked with her about it

[Tristen Cox]

Sounds a bit impersonal donchya think?

[urban gypsy]

Hi

I did it intailly in writing. I gave her the letter and told her to read it at her own time as i had opened my heart to her. and to talk to me about it when she felt ready. what only took about a week. I found a good way as it took me nearly a month to write the letter to make sure it was 100% how i felt and it expressed my worries and fears.

[mand]

Sounds a bit impersonal donchya think?


It's very impersonal Tristen and the way I did it was unforgiveable, but I was miles away and well out of throwing range ;)

Hardest/scarist thing I've ever done but I was simply too chicken to tell her to her face :eek:


love mand xxx :)

[Shelly Preston]

I thought it was impersonal to begin with.
I have changed my mind.
If you are writing the letter so words wont fail you at the crucial moment. Assuming you are there when it is being read, so you can answer questions but it has to be done in person.

Best Wishes to any girl who is about to go through this experience.
Hope it all goes well

[Clare]

Not that i've told my wife, but i'd reveal my crossdressing verbally. I'd also have to have a letter explaining the whole concept of why i XDR as backup.

For some reason, my spoken statements (whatever the topic) are always taken out of contex or misunderstood when the subject is a difficult or complex one.

But essentially, I would have to face my wife and say what's on my mind - I can't see how sending a video or a recording or a letter would make it any easier for either individual - too impersonal for me.

Christine

[Lyn Ryan]

I think it has been mentioned before, baby steps.....maybe get a dvd movie that has something to do with cding and judge her reaction....wear her nightie one night and say "what do think hun" would you still love me. I don't really know a right or wrong way, but to be told cold, if she has no idea, it could be painful. And Please please please make sure you are there to answer all the questions that will follow. Then maybe introduce her to the forum, I know it has helped me no end.....

.........Hugs Lyn........