It begins again...

[melissapghcd]

Well, I purged a few years ago for a variety of reasons and kind of waited to see if I could kick the habit so to speak. Not dressing entirely, but at least having my own stash. I'm closeted and am likely to remain that way due to family and other issues. I'm okay with that, and don't have a real urge to go public, but hiding the clothes stash at home is a pain!!

I can wear much of my wife's clothes, and do, but we actually have pretty different styles so while some of it is okay, there are a lot of things I love that she has no interest in. Like slips, gowns, and thigh highs and heels!

Well, turns out I really missed dressing fully in a wig, heels etc. so I finally broke down and picked up a couple of wigs again, and some new hose and panties. So I'm on my way to a new wardrobe and all the pain and pleasure that goes along with that when you're in the closet!

So, here we go again! Probably the 3rd or 4th time I've gone through this over the years I think!

Kind of a pain restocking now though. I can't mail order to home, and I'm not comfortable shopping much out in public. I get around a lot for work and really would like to keep things in the closet so I don't want to be out and about buying new lingerie and dresses much :) Well, actually I would like to, but it wouldn't be prudent!

[Leanne2]

Melissa,
When was the last time that we read about one of us purging and saying," well, that was the best thing that I have ever done?" I've never seen a post like that. It must be next to the post that says that they quit and don't miss dressing up. Instead of your purge cycles I would suggest councilling to learn why you do what you do. I'm seeing a therapist now and it's helping me a lot. Good luck, Leanne

[AKAMichelle]

It sounds like your wife doesn't know. You would have a much better situation if your wife would at least allow you to store the stuff in the closet. Otherwise one day you may have that embarrassment of your child finding your stash.

[melissapghcd]

Oh I know it. Thats the main reason I didn't really want to keep anything at home. There will probably a point when the kids are older when I'll have to reevaluate things again. Until then, I'll enjoy the time I have.

As to telling the wife, I've made moves in that direction in the past and she's very vehemently rebuffed them. She doesn't want to hear it so that isn't an option.

Leanne: I know why I dress and why I like doing it. That isn't really the issue. Unfortunately it just isn't compatible with the rest of my life. :sad: I have a great family, great job and things are otherwise pretty good though so if something has to give, its this. I'm not going to force the issue. Unfortunate, but I don't see that changing any time soon.

I guess the tone of this post came out wrong. I wasn't really complaining (or wasn't meaning to!), I was actually happy to have the chance to start dressing fully again, even with the logistics issue involved! :)

[carhill2mn]

"If only I had a nickel for every" CD who has purged and then had to start buying new things! It is too bad that these people frequently do not have contact with those of us who "have been there, done that"!
One time I was at a place where this GW did hair, etc, in her home. She had a lot of CD customers. While I was there one of her customers was telling her that she was through with it all, etc. This woman said why don't you leave your things with me? Then when you find that you need to have them again they will be here waiting for you and you won't have to spend so much money. She was very wise!

[TiffanyTgirl]

Been there done that got the t-shirrt and then purged it too. Maybe we need to start some kind of purge stash resource here on the forum. Members could give their stuff to other members to hold for a short time until the urge to purge passes. I miss my trerssallure jacquelin wigs. It was the Bordeau color. I really miss it.

[melissapghcd]

I miss my wigs the most too! And my heels!

[tamarav]

Unfortunately, purging is just like dieting, it never works. At some point or another you start getting that little nagging feeling and buy just some little thing, then another and another. Don't ask how I, or any other CD knows this, it is endemic in this area.

Realize that buying stuff over and over gets expensive and you have no need to just dump it, realizing that it is a part of you. Rent a small storage container and keep your stuff safe and out of the home. Many of us have been through this exact same situation, but it does get better with time as you learn to aclimate to it and merge it with the rest of your life.

Next time you feel like purging, just get on the forum and ask for help. You can always package your stuff and ship it to a friend, to be retrieved at a later date.

[Amy Lynn3]

Would it not be great for every city to have a storage building where us cd's could store our stuff until we want it again? Pipe dream, I know, but we will want it again, I'm sure.
Melissa, the problem we have when we purge, is we toss things that never can be replaced.
Good luck with your problem.

[melissapghcd]

Good idea Tamara! I do like the idea of being able to shuffle stuff off to another sister if need be too.

[JohnH]

I guess I have no urge to purge my feminine things, since I simply don't see what the big deal about wearing them. I do need to respect the feelings of my wife and be in drab when she comes home from work. There are some circumstances such as a worship service and court appearances where it is not prudent to expand the fashion envelope.

I do admit I have a bit of a different mindset than most members of this forum, so I really cannot sympathize with the feelings of needing to purge.

Kind regards,

John

[melissapghcd]

Would it not be great for every city to have a storage building where us cd's could store our stuff until we want it again? Pipe dream, I know, but we will want it again, I'm sure.
Melissa, the problem we have when we purge, is we toss things that never can be replaced.
Good luck with your problem.

Ugh, I know Amy! I long for some of teh things I've gotten rid of in the past! Now, admittedly, I might not fit in some of them anymore, but I'd always like to think that maybe I would again! ;)