looking like a hooker

[5150 Girl]

So, I go to my Avon sales rep meeting in a nice skirt, hose, and a women's short sleve suit jacket, with zebra striped lepeles, ans a cammi. Ok, maybe the stiletos were a bit much, but they were still tastefull. My SO told me I looked like a hooker, and said "haven't you learned anything from my teachings" :doh:
The next day I wore a long black dress, and ok, it was form fitting and low cut, but it wasn't to crazy I didn't think. It's the same one I wore for Elvira last Holoween. Taht fact became fodder for what came next, again I look like a hooker, and she asked how meany men I picked up in my wild Holoween costume. (she knows i hate men BTW) Ok, I admit, the black floral print hose may have been a bit much, but still not to far out of line...
So finaly the next day, she confesses that she may have just been jelous.
She has had some self image issues lately, so mybe she is just beeing jelous. But anohter theroy I had is that I feel she lives vicariously though me, and she was just over reacting to a fashion desision she wouldn't have made.
She really has been super suportive, I've pracicaly been her life size Barbie doll at times. She's gett'n kinda rough and I don't know waht to do or think here...

[Shananigans]

It doesn't really sound like you were dressed like a hooker. I think it's how you act when with what you are wearing that can either make it skanky or classy.

Of course, this isn't true all of the time. If you are wearing a plastic skirt, there's just no hope. Or, if you're like my SO with her 2 inch in length plaid skirt, silky camisole, fishnets, stilletos, and red panties. Hooker. But, I prefer it that way.

But, since she openly admitted she is having some body image issues, why not reassure her that you still find her beautiful? Sometimes we just need to hear every once in a while that you still find us attractive...that we are still beautiful in your eyes.

Perhaps, she wishes she could wear sexier clothing, but feels uncomfortable doing so...and maybe she resents you for doing it when she can't. Maybe pick something a little scandalous out for her to wear and tell her that you'd like to see her in it and nothing else.

[sherri]

I won't get into a lot of social, marital or sartorial commentary, but I will say this: whenever I see a GG dressed as you describe (including stilettos!), I don't think "hooker". I think, now there's a girl I'd like to get to know. Here's to standing out from the dowdy crowd.

[Jenny Doolittle]

Hey Sis,

Why not have her help decide what you are wearing, and likewise, you her? There would be no negative comments if you both agree along the way to decide an outfit.

[Chari]

IMO, it is time to sit down and communicate about the issues at hand! Discuss what is appropriate dressing for the event - whether it is business, pleasure. or just for fun! Observing GGs in similar situations/events can give you ideas for your "proper & acceptable" attire. Above all, please be comfortable and confident in all that you wear.

[NicoleScott]

Honestly now, most hookers don't dress like hookers. Huh?

[linda allen]

Hey Sis,

Why not have her help decide what you are wearing, and likewise, you her? There would be no negative comments if you both agree along the way to decide an outfit.

That's good advice. :thumbsup:

[TxKimberly]

Well, your wife already admitted that she is having some self image problems, and having been married for 23 years I can attest that this DOES happen.
I think that most of us TG's have days where we look in the mirror and say to ourselves "OMG, what is the point? I look fat, I look like a linebacker, I am the bearded lady. I should just toss in the towel and quit!" Well, a lot of women have very similar moments, when they look in the mirror and think "I'm old, I'm fat, I'm ugly . . . " etc, and I would have to imagine that having a cross dressing husband only adds fuel to the fire.
I know for certain that MY wife has her moments. Sometimes she is happy with who she is and how she looks. Sometimes she realizes that she is 20 years older and 80 pounds heavier than she was when we got married. Sometimes she laughs and gives me honest advice when shopping or picking out outfits, and sometimes she hates the very mention of anything related to my being TG.
I am not the type to trot out the tired old joke about women and PMS, but my wife will be the first to tell you that during "that time of the month", Kimberly had better lay low and quiet or it's gonna get ugly.
In other words, I think your wifes attitude is probably fairly typical for the wife of a TG.

[docrobbysherry]

U reel me in with, " Looking like a hooker"! Then, don't post any pics? :eek:

That's VERY UNFAIR to those of us without any imagination!:sad:

[TiffanyTgirl]

We may dress like the caricature of a hooker, but most hookers don't dress like that

[Pythos]

I have realized for a long time that the reason people put other's styles down is usually due to nothing less than jealousy. Your SO admits to having body issues, and was spouting off the usual statements made by women being catty.

Your looks sounded sophisticated, and possibly your SO may have found herself feeling less attractive due to what she wore. (what did she wear by the way? This could be a clue).

By the way, I think it is great you are going to events three days in a row dressed in what sound like sexy and fun outfits.

[windycissy]

I was in Vegas a few years ago, and one night I took my makeup up a notch, poured myself into a little black dress and heels, and went to the Palms Casino. As I was passing two women who looked like tourists on their first trip to Vegas, I heard one whisper to the other, "I think she's a hooker!" Made my day, so much nicer than "I think that's a man!"

[DianeDeBris]

Bill Maher has a routine that goes roughly like this: "You know who I feel sorry for? The hookers. The way most women dress these days, nobody can tell who's working and who's not."

[eluuzion]

Hey, just like Polly the parrot once told me...


"sometimes you feel like a cracker...
sometimes you feel like a crack-wh*re"

:D

[5150 Girl]

Yea, like may posters hve said, I do belive she's lashing out due to her self image issues.
It's jsut taht it's hard when the mods flip flop. One minute I'm her sweet little hottie, and the next, I'm a hooker.
LAst night, I was Daisy Duke for Holoween, and she was have'n me bend over to show evryone my ass, pushing me into, well attention geting situations, and waht not....

[Rhonda Jean]

Could it be that she has a little issue with the "Polar Bear" moniker?

If I ever referred to my girlfriend as my "Polar Bear" I'd probably be in the emergency room. Maybe she's a little tired of you being the little hottie and her being the Polar Bear.

[5150 Girl]

Could it be that she has a little issue with the "Polar Bear" moniker?

She's the one that's primarily responsible for it.