new and old

[tommietv]

I'm wondering? Is there a place for us more "geraticly challanged" girls. That's the old part, the new is that I'm just starting and it scars the hell out of me! I know I'm not ts but diffiently tg and want to spend the remainder of my life living as such and not hiding in the house.
I remember when I was much younger I saw an artical about a ts it was the first time I had ever heard of such a thing, I knew then what I was, just not who I was yet. At that time I was just a sick,dirty crossdresser. THANK YOU DOCTOR.
As we all know life is full twists and turns, mine led at 18 to the Navy I was discharged after about 1.5 yrs because of being a cd, dame faggots, after that I got stupid and ended up in prison for 4 years; no girls I was still cherry when I got out. But trust me there were guys in there to die for! After some adventures in the "Big Apple" (there are stories from that time)and a couple of years just knocking around I met Mary we were together for 37yrs. we are/were (I'm not sure how to put that) soulmates I guess I loved her more then I knew, yes I'm crying as I write this, because of my love for her I was able to live my life as a man now that she's gone I need to move from male to female or a close factsimialy there of.
I guess as with everyone when they get older we don't see ourselves as old. My point in all this ramblin is that,if, at a couple of places in my life journey I had taken a different path I would grown old as female. Now at the end of life I have to try to find a way and the courage to face the world as I want. knot as they want me to be.And I'm scared!
I think for a younger person it would be easier. More time to get over the rejection and pain that I am sure will happen. No children or grandchildren to have to deal with or the inlaws, the neighbors or a lifetime of other people who I have delt with as Tom. I don't regret the road I have traveled I have loved and won!, have two great children and 9 wounderful grandchildren and maybe I am being selfesh wanting what I want but if I don't do this I won' be around for them anyway.

[pamela_a]

I don't believe in being "too old" to become who you are. There may be more challenges but that's no reason to not try. Start with finding a good therapist and go from there. IMHO, if you need to transition, the only reason not to is if you stop breathing. Until that event happens continue to live your life. I think many of us wish we'd started younger, I know I do, but I'm doing it now. I started at the spry, young age of 50 and I know there are others who have started later.
Follow your heart, chase your dreams, dare to live.

[tommietv]

Thanks as I say I have crazy doctor, have pills. Lived in SSt Paul for a while years ago. Reminded me of home outside Buffalo, butt deep in snow! Love dragons and wizards. tommie

[Jorja]

It is NEVER too late! We had a lovely young lady of 93 at our last support group meeting. She had just come out this year and was finally comfortable enough to come to the meeting. If you feel it is right for you who's to judge your decision? Believe in the impossible dream, dreams do become reality!!!

[gennee]

Tommie, I was nearly 57 when I discovered that I was TG. I'm 62 now and loving it. I'm a non-op TS who has an accepting spouse. It's never too late. The best to you as you transition.

Gennee

[Louise C]

I think you owe it to yourself, for giving up those younger years for others. You go for it.

[tommietv]

Thanks you gals are being wonderful to me wish we could all meet in the center of the US for a group hug. I''m being selfish since I live in Iowa. I am a transplanted NYer, small town outside Buffalo.

[tommietv]

Went yesterday to see the nurse practioner who maintains my meds. A RN always checks bp and all that, she thought it was high158 over 70 something and she wanted to wait a few minets and check it again. We talked abit and I told her of my plans, I'd always refrained from telling anyone other then theropest about who I am. She re-took bp went up to 189! hope that dosen,t happen everytime.

[noeleena]

Hi.

Im 63 & i dont know how far you need to go other than say have a talk with a endo first as you may have body issues that would need to be sorted before going on h r t . meds . your b p will allways go up after a walk or a work out or if you get wound up . & you can get help to bring it down if needed.

iv been out as a woman for 13 years tho did not dress as a woman all the time . really it did not matter. 6 years h r t & 4 years s r s,
iv allways been a woman . so its just a matter of being your self when your accepted for who you are thats whats important.

from my back ground just do it . i dont pass & so what . thats of little concern . i can be just me not told how i should dress you know its freedom dont even think for a moment you cant do it . you can if i can & with a lot of detail going on before , people will get passed the 7 day wonder trust me its more that just worth it . as youll find out . GO FOR IT.

...noeleena...

[Stephenie S]

You know? It's really hard to decide when you are "too old".

I think that this is probably only a state of mind. My opinion? You are NEVER too old.

You MAY find that transition is EASIER the older you get. You certainly have more maturity and wisdom to draw on. Good luck, hon.

S

[Eileen]

I was married for 42 years and 65 when I started living f/t. Two years later I had my surgery. See a therapist, a doctor and start on hrt if medically okay. You may not loose anyone or everyone in your life. If you do loose some or all, you were there for your family for many years and put your needs aside. Now you need to think about your needs. My eyes are are on the future. The past and the mistakes I made over the years are just that, in the past. Now I enjoy today and plan for the future with the hope that it will be a long one. I know the days I have left will be happy. That being said, one must always be aware that there will always be some cloudy days in the best life. Take it one step at a time and find out what is best for you.

Eileen

[Diane Elizabeth]

I've been dressing since I was 55. Just started on HRT in late August at the age of 58. But it would be nice to talk with others that transitioned late in life.
I don't relate well to the young'uns that transitioned before they were 40. (just kidding, you whippersnappers)

[Melissa A.]

I'm 51 and been on hormones for two years, full-time female for 1 1/2. Thank you to some of you for making me feel like a pup! Doesn't happen often. I'm usually the oldest person in the room.
Seriously, it may be ideal to start when you are younger, but you have now, and the rest of your life. Make the most of it. By the way, it was a very, very long time ago, but I attended Buffalo State. The Queen City will always have a special place in my heart. Best to you.

Hugs,

Melissa:)