A question to ask

[sportsfan56]

I am a hetero college student and have finally decided to date. Now I haven't cross dressed in years, but the thought will run across my mind. Now where the attraction comes from is to the clothes, makeup, shoes etc. The problem I have is due to the fact that I can only achieve sexual release is through some sort of thing involving this feminine aspect of myself. Some of the fiction sites are a good example. Now the question I have how exactly do people with the same attraction to the clothes do in a encounter with a normal girl and just do it This is the thing that worries me if I can't perform since I have only done it through the sites or something similar.

Thank you for the replies

P.S. you guys have helped so much in just reading some of the posts and struggles within myself and coming to peace with who I am

[Joanne f]

It sounds like you have built up an association with the cross dressing to get what you want at the end of it , the only way that you will find out if the same thing works with dating a female is to try it but if you go into it worrying about it that will not help in it`s self .

[Jeanna]

It sounds to me that you either have a fetish or you could be caught up in viewing porn. If you are, be careful as it can damage the brain. I'm not saying this to be funny. Read http://www.netnanny.com/learn_center/article/153

[AKAMichelle]

I had that when I was young and found women made it go away. That is what caused my biggest problem of all. I thought I had conquered cd'ing, but I didn't. So at that age I didn't tell anyone that I was a cd'er which gets me to this point where I could be going either way with a divorce or not. I now dress for completely different reasons like it feels closer to my soul and it is just a part of me.

So keep that in mind that cd'ing does change over time and you need to tell anyone you are serious about. Don't hide it from them as it will be repeating a mistake many of us made on here because we didn't have enough information. You have told so use the information wisely.

[DonnaT]

A number of guys use various means to help themselves, and I imagine most don't have a problem when they finally engage with a woman.

Try not to over think things or you may worry so much you can't perform from worrying.

Others use their imagination. If you can't dress with her, you can fantasize about it, which could get you over the top.

But, from a parental perspective, I would suggest getting to know her and telling her before engaging in sex.