What will you do?

[Celeste]

Yea another family thread,I'm wondering about the different responses?When your totally called down! What is your response?I mean,everyones situation is so different.So,how do you deal? How will you explain....you?

Give your real reaction...

[Paula G]

What do you mean exactly?

[charlie]

Hello Celeste!
I'm assuming "called down" means being chided by my non-accepting wife or someone on the street. For my wife I do not get into any sort of argument. I simply tell her that I am transgendered. I'm not wholly male as most guys. Thus, I am just me, a person that must show a certain amount of my girl self along with the male.

[linnea]

If "called down" means what Charlie has said, I would have a similar response, the truth really. I have already come out to my closest relatives and a few friends. Although a couple of them expressed dismay and surprise, none has really criticized me for being who I am. For that I'm grateful.

[Stephenie S]

Oh dear. Another "understanding" thread.

Look girls, you don't understand this yourself. How can you possibly explain it to some one else?

Listen, understanding is not what's needed here. What you need is ACCEPTANCE.

Crossdressing is something that defies understanding. Everyone seems to search for understanding, but it eludes the best of you. STOP trying to understand, and focus instead on acceptance.

If you can accept yourself, and you get acceptance from those around you, what more could you ask for?

Stephie

[juno]

Crossdressing is something that defies understanding.
Huh?? It makes perfect sense to me. I think many men don't understand it because men are often out of touch with their emotions, and don't understand where the desire comes from. Crossdressing is a sensible expression of the other gender. Form men that have a strong female side, crossdressing makes your female self happy.

So, the simple explanation is: Mentally, I am part female, and crossdressing makes my feminine side happy.

With all of the possible bad traits of a man (spouse abuse, being unfaithful), crossdressing really should be considered a good trait. Here is a press release explaining the benefits:
http://www.prlog.org/10165256-todays-crossdresser-the-perfect-husband.html

The only bug negative CD trait is dishonesty, so tell the truth from the beginning. If it ends the relationship, it is better to end before you invest many years into it.

[Steph.TS]

Proverbs 21:19 "Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and ill-tempered wife."

I have never been married so I don't know from experience how right that is.

however I am a person who tries to reason with whoever disagrees with me, I desire to live in peace and harmony with my SO if/when I have one.

[noeleena]

Hi ,

We would say being hauled over the coals ,

no did not happen i told Jos 13 years ago, then we told our kids & after that every one.& i do mean every one. what i said was i am a woman .because i allways was / am .

For me i knew that & had accepted i was any way . being able to express that was an other matter. that, took years,
Proverbs 21 19 , applys to men as well its not a only womens detail. & yes it happens . after 37 years i think i know the score.
& with out self acceptance therell be no other acceptance till then , & some times it takes years . for us it has,

...noeleena...

[AKAMichelle]

I just don't understand the question

[Cherry Lynn]

I just don't understand the question

Me either.

[Christy_M]

Uhhhhh what were we talking about? Did someone just sneeze?

[Emma England]

I don't understand what you are saying. Are you drunk or something?

I have never came out to anyone, but I guess one would be feeling guilty as they were explaining.

[Tasha McIntyre]

Celeste, my assumption is that being "called down" is being taunted or belittled by the wife (as a few of the girls have already assumed).

My honest response wold be to point out that I cannot alter the way I really feel, but I can choose my actions and that I do abide by mutually agreed ground rules.

Tash :)

[Chickhe]

It means to be critisized or called out for dressing. Early on, I guess I would turn red. Now, I still might be embarrased, buy also, I don't care too much what anyone else thinks (except my wife, pretty much) so I would, just shrug my shoudlers and say, 'ya, so?' and explaination, is it is just fun to do so don't rain on my parade.

[Celeste]

My apologies for being vague in the original post,i was at a loss for words.I did mean mean someone "calling you out",wow some of the responses were really on time.Stephanie answered my question so well. I just wake up with reoccurring dreams,terrified that Ive hurt someone else through my actions.Thanks for your responses.Its always cool to know someone is with you.

[Nikki A.]

If called out at one point I would have denied it. Now I would look at them and say "and if I do so what".