My last big hurtle

[Victoria Anne]

Today was huge for me , I have not been in the main office in 10 months (I did not make it last time) so this was it . I went in for my interview for the company paper and to get my new ID and off to the photographer for my million mile photo for the wall of fame .

I had no trouble , no looks , comments , nothing . I did get treated with respect and had doors held open for me and was continually referred to as she and all the ladies were just wonderful . Now it is ... well it is just normal life , Victoria Anne is here and loving it .

Again I must say thank you all for your support and encouragement and most especially to my wife Mrs.M for all her love and support , she truly was my strength and gave me courage to move forward and be who I was always meant to be . Thank you all .

[Melody Moore]

You are most welcome Viccy.

And its nice & reassuring to the new girls & boys here to hear these types of stories because it
shows that the fear and paranoia we often harbour about transitioning is completely unfounded.

Well done my friend!

[Faith_G]

What's to look at? You're just another lady trucker now. :)

Congrats on a million safe miles!

[StaceyJane]

I think the level of acceptance is so wonderful.

Congrats on a million safe miles!

[Kathryn Martin]

I wish you all the best for your future. Now building your reality as a woman enters a new phase. Good luck and all the best

[Karen564]

Congrats Victoria..
It's always good news to hear that....so that's an accomplishment very well done !

I can say for myself too, because it really IS/Was a great feeling when you to know your just one of the girls everywhere I choose to go..And that's all I ever wanted anyways in the end...



And its nice & reassuring to the new girls & boys here to hear these types of stories because it
shows that the fear and paranoia we often harbour about transitioning is completely unfounded.

That's very true as far as the fear & paranoia goes, because once you get past all that, you realize that it's not all so bad out there & nothing like what you thought it would be..
Maybe it's a sign of the times, because it does seem better out there more than ever as time goes bye.

Although I'm sure there are still areas/groups of people that do make it difficult for some TS's during their transition....
Like where I started my RLE was known to be very rough area (very small town), but I still did fine regardless..with no issuses....knocked on wood...lol

So yes, the biggest issue is overcoming ones fears, that's what stops or holds many back....once they get past all that, & some other little issues, it gets so much better..

[Teri Jean]

I wish you the best Vicci and hugs. Teri

[Melody Moore]

That's very true as far as the fear & paranoia goes, because once you get past all that, you realize that it's not all so bad out there & nothing like what you thought it would be.. Maybe it's a sign of the times, because it does seem better out there more than ever as time goes bye.

Although I'm sure there are still areas/groups of people that do make it difficult for some TS's during their transition....
Like where I started my RLE was known to be very rough area (very small town), but I still did fine regardless..with no issues....knocked on wood...lol

So yes, the biggest issue is overcoming ones fears, that's what stops or holds many back....once they get past all that, & some other little issues, it gets so much better..
The times are a changing that's for sure. I live in the equivalent of the Deep South of the USA in living in Cairns, Far North Queensland. However there is a huge GLBTi community here now and we have one of the better Sexual Health/Gender Services in Australia. And while I don't have any issues usually when I'm out in public, there are still pockets of ignorance that do exist in my local community, but these groups of people only have an issue when they actually know someone is a transsexual but they don't really know them personally at all.

My best example is my former house-mate, Tony who was very homo/transphobic when I first told him of my intention to transition & become a female. But Tony's ignorance & that of his friends was also attributed to the fact they feared someone who was trans because the had never met anyone else in their very sheltered lives who was like me.

On the night when Tony's friends first seen me as a female, their mouths all fell open & their jaws literally fell on the floor in total disbelief at what they actually seen. The told me later they actually seen "a real woman and not just a man dressed up in women's clothes". Meanwhile Tony was abusing me saying something like... "F**k off - get out of here you queer c**t". However when his friends finally did speak up it was in condemnation of how Tony was verbally abusing me & this guy also condemned Tony about what he had been telling these guys before they actually met me as a female. Once they had been confronted by what they initially feared, I felt nothing but total respect & support from this groups of guys. One of the guys told me that what I was doing was "one of the most courageous things he had ever seen anyone else do in his life". He also said "Before when I knew you as a guy I didn't ever know what to make of you, now I see you as a woman, I feel so much better & comfortable about you". I think these guys realised is that I was nothing evil or anything bad like Tony tried to paint me up to be, but rather someone who was not threatening in anyway & truly feminine.

Last Monday morning I had to call in an collect the last few things I left at my former house mate's place. I was pleasantly surprised when Tony said "Wow you really are looking good" & when he addressed me, he called me 'Melody' and not by my former male name. When Tony finally did this I thanked him and also congratulated him for overcoming his transphobic fears - he even gave me a hug for the first time ever as we said our goodbyes.

I think what this example highlights is that most people who are ignorant are in fear of the unknown and things that they don't really understand when it comes to transsexualism. But when they actually know someone like Viccy for example then those fears can be very quickly dissipated and turned around into total acceptance and respect because we really are not anything to ever fear.

[My Lady Marsea]

You go girlfriend. Like I'm sooo totally happy for you. This is like about the end of the major obstacles. Life is good. All we need now is to win the lottery to complete our journey lol. You've come a long way in like a short time...keep on trucking Vicky and I'm here for you. Congrats. Oh BTW...I thought this was million mile #2.

[Victoria Anne]

Thank you all for your kind replies , Marsea it is now 3.6 million career miles and 1 million with this company .

You are all right that it is fear of the unknown that drives those who are hostile in there attitude towards us and it is also unwarranted fear that keeps us , boy's and girl's from coming out and living up to our full potential . Marsea ,Melody and Faith , I can't forget you , all tried to tell me but I was stubbornly holding onto that fear . I believe I was as afraid of coming out as I was of the possible reactions of others and all was for not . I am happy now like I never knew I could be and every day is a celebration in life for me . I can't wait to see what the future holds . Have faith ladies and gentlemen and cast aside your fears , if it is for you you will never regret it.

[CharleneT]

Congrats to YA !

:yrtw: :D !!

[Louise C]

Victoria - Congratulations, It must be a wonderful feeling. I hope it continues for you!