Do you ever pretend to be a woman in bed?

[Genivieve]

I've sometimes closed my eyes and pretended to be the girl during lovemanking.
This only really works with woman on top positions but it has been one of the things that really gets me turned on. Have you had any partners willing to really roleplay this idea fully?

Also, for transmen, how would this work?

[Karren H]

Nope..... closest thing I do in bed is pretend to be a woman sleeping.........

[Alice Torn]

I am still a virgin, but, if I ever was married, I would prefer her on top.

[SuzanneBender]

Nope I have to admit that I love my role in bed when I am rolling in the bed with my sweetie. :D For me the act of making love is not about man or woman. Its about two souls confirming they are truly alive as one at that moment in time. I am me, no more no less, when I get swept away in those wonderful moments of passion with the love of my life.

I am not sure why you close your eyes while pretending unless you are pretending to be a woman that is with a man that is not really that handsome.:heehee:

[juno]

I think a lot of people here think about being in the female role of sex. It often freaks out their mental male side.

There is one trans-female member here who married a trans-male, so it definitely works for some partners.

[BobbiU]

Alot of the time yes, For years my wife is the dominate one in the bedroom, and even though I will initiate also, She'll always be on top, caress my nightie as if a female was wearing it, and talks to me as if she was talking to a female. To me, I don't CD outside of the house, and this is one of the activities that really turns me on also.

[AlexisWest]

yes, bottom gurl, my legs wrapped around my wife. Even get to wear nylons sometimes.

[Genivieve]

Ohh, I just saw some uhm adult video from the female perspective. Wow.
Can you imagine wearing your sexiest outfit, nylons rubbing up against someone, as you drive them more and more wild.

whew.

[JOJO44]

For me it's not a sexual experience, it is more what I dream of living.
Of who I am, or at least believe that I am if only I could be.

I know that this is a bit off the thread, but it is what it is.
Love,
Jo

[Loni]

being single i have to agree with Karren.

but as a truck driver there is this saying...


sleep.........it is just a bad habit.


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[JOJO44]

being single i have to agree with Karren.

but as a truck driver there is this saying...


sleep.........it is just a bad habit.


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Yes, my dad always told me you can sleep forever when you are dead.

[Steph.TS]

I'm a virgin, but I wear a night shirt, and I imagine myself as a woman

[Charise52]

Switching roles has always been fun for me.

[Shari]

You're not alone in your fantasies.
That's something I share and have for a very long time.
Exciting, isn't it?

[maya1love]

Yes, I love taking the female role in bed regardless of whether I'm dressed or not...not sure what it's like to be a man in bed. It doesn't suit my personality!

[SherriePall]

Old people like me don't have sex. It might kill us.
LOL

[kimdl93]

very much so. My wife acknowledged a bi side in the same conversation where I acknowledged by CDing. We've been "girlfriends" ever since!

[Joan_CD]

We love as two women in bed would love.

[Mary of Long Beach]

Nope, that is one thing I have never done. The link between CD and sex is not working here. :) mary

[Charise52]

I have done both male and female roles in bed, yet the female role is especially sweet... to totally submit to my parther...

[PrettyFlowingGown]

I sleep as a woman cause i wear long beautiful nightgowns in satin sheets.....everynight. Lovemaking wise, i like it to be as sensual as ever, so naturally, i like to be the woman.

[JustAlex]

I have a technique. I'll try not to get into too much pornographic detail.
Imagine a missionary with her on top. There's no real intercourse, not "all the way". It can be done but it's not easy and her movement wouldn't match those of a male.
I advice you to wear a condom, even if you don't use them regularly with your partner. It may get messy.

[RobynGirl]

Omg, that is the only way I can orgasm is being on the bottom dreaming of being penetrated by a man..........

Robyn

[ClaireB]

only when sleeping.

[Danni Bear]

Old people like me don't have sex. It might kill us.
LOL


It also keeps you young and healthy. lol

Danni

[t-girlxsophie]

Yeah,on odd ocassions my Wife and I will change roles and have some fantasy play,Variety is the spice of life after all:)

:hugs:Sophie

[k lynn]

yes i do

[Barbara Dugan]

I always try my best:hugs:

[sometimes_miss]

I'm not sure pretend is the right word; but I feel like I'm supposed to be the receptive person, not the active person, basically wait until the woman is doing something and then respond to that (re-active instead of active). Needless to say, that doesn't work very well, as women usually do the same thing when they're with men. I learned how to 'act' like the guy, but doing so requires conscious concentration to do that, which usually de-rails the spontaneous passion, which results in loss of erection. so yeah, I guess you could say that I'm basically 'a woman' in bed. Upside for the woman is that I'm much more inclined to do whatever she needs to reach orgasm; downside is that she doesn't have the dominant male that pretty much all women want.

[Cassiecd]

Old people like me don't have sex. It might kill us.
LOL

"lmao!" sad, true, but I like living on the edge!

As for you, Mrogredick , I know exactly what you mean! When I was younger I had this fantasy and exercise. Ah, the places you can go in your mind when in the throws! This curiosity about what sex was like for a woman actually ended up getting me into cd-ing ...but that is another story! (And yes, i am a happily married cd)

[Cindia]

Always when I get to be with a man and most of the time when I'm with a woman, usually a lesbian thing then.

[Susie2]

I love to fantasize about being the woman, and my wife does a great job of taking charge!

[Vikki Vixen]

Half and half for me. I often have sex with my wife dressed as a woman in sexy outfits, you can't beat the two of us in basques, stockings and 6'' heels but I am always the dominant one. Her being my slave is what I like so yes I do love looking like a real girlie girl but I am in charge.

[Hayley Comets]

ALL THE TIME.

I try to suppress it? I sort of freaked out my ex-gf when I went overboard by wrapping my legs around her and going "Yea baby, f*** me! Harder!!" while incessantly moaning away.

[katrinakat]

Sometimes, I know exactly what your talking about. lol

[rachel_rachel]

All the time... It's the only way that my wife and i do it. She is the dominant one and i'm the little girl being pleasured.
I don't think it's appropriate to write any more unless i want to banned, and for the record i don't.

[Yvonne York]

Alot of the time yes, For years my wife is the dominate one in the bedroom, and even though I will initiate also, She'll always be on top, caress my nightie as if a female was wearing it, and talks to me as if she was talking to a female. To me, I don't CD outside of the house, and this is one of the activities that really turns me on also.

Very much so. My wife and I play out both roles, but I love being the girl when I am dresed (which in bed is most of the time as I like to wear nighties). Doesn't matter who is 'on top', the exploration in a loving relationship is soooo good.

[Phyliss]

While I may not (at this time) have all the physical attributes required, I don't "pretend" .

It is the role I prefer and I'm good at it, or so I've been told

[Melody Moore]

One of the many differences I think that separates transsexuals females from the M-F cross-dressing community is
that we don't pretend to ever be female in such roles because we know that we are a truly female. Before I started
transitioning, there was always this envy that the roles were reversed because for me it never really felt right because
of my physiological gender when I lived & made love as a male when I was with a female. Now that I know I am truly
a female and Im with my girlfriend, I don't pretend to be a lesbian, because I know that I really am a bisexual female.

[Janice Lester]

When dressed I much prefer to take the feminine role. But If not dressed I prefer the masculine role.

[Tasha2633]

Since I'm a submissive, I like to be on the bottom and in the submissive female role. And I'm always the woman in bed, thats how I get my pleasure.

[danielletorresani]

Ohh, I just saw some uhm adult video from the female perspective. Wow.
Can you imagine wearing your sexiest outfit, nylons rubbing up against someone, as you drive them more and more wild.

whew.

I would love to find out where I could see that video. Gets me turned on just thinking about it.

[danielletorresani]

I would absolutely love to play a feminine role in bed. It's erotic as hell to fantasize about, but I've never had the opportunity to actually do it. My wife doesn't know about my other side.

[JenniferB]

I've sometimes closed my eyes and pretended to be the girl during lovemanking.
This only really works with woman on top positions but it has been one of the things that really gets me turned on. Have you had any partners willing to really roleplay this idea fully?

Of course. The possibilities are endless with the right partner and the right tools.

[sissystephanie]

When my wife was alive we changed roles frequently! She was a very good "man," especially when she wore the necessary equipment! She was well aware that I sometimes liked to be totally feminine. and at those times I was. Now that she is gone and I am an old CD, sex is no longer part of my nighttime, or any other time for that matter!!

[JeanneF]

Frequently. My wife is naturally the more dominant partner, and whenever I am dresses in bed, she takes the masculine role fully.

[Christina2008]

Only in my dreams!

[Chiana]

"A long time ago, in a galaxy far far away". And it was spectacularly wonderful. sigh.....

[rocktheplank]

Sometimes, we both enjoy the "role reversal" Like many have already said, having the right tools can make the experience even more fun ;)

[GirlieAmanda]

This is something I have been dreaming about for probably 15 plus years. The idea of being the woman in bed is so intensely thrilling and such a huge fantasy of mine. I have yet not gotten to act on this as of yet. It could be with any kind of person. CD,TS,GG,GM.

[rocktheplank]

The first time there was role reversal, afterwards I just kind of layed there, it wasn't like normal, I felt different. I thought "god... that was SOOOOOO wonderful!" I was weak in the knees and I had a smile from ear to ear. It was very freeing!

[Zoie]

Depends on the person and what you are into I guess

[katrinakat]

OF course that's the best part!

[Charise52]

When I am on top, I am a man with myneyes open... when I am on the bottom, I have my eyes closed and i definitely feel like a woman.

[AKAMichelle]

Never. I enjoy being the guy in this arena

[Brooke Smith]

I do the top but not in traditional sense i like her legs on inside and mine on outside drawn up.. so i look like i am kneeling to pray.. then well my imagination takes over..

Yup,me too. Works every time!

[Marla]

I have to be on the bottom Hands down

[Xandria]

yup :) tiff and i switch back and forth :)

[Aprilrain]

I've never not thought of myself as a woman in bed which can be problematic when your girlfriend/wife wants to have sex with a man. I guess I just have a healthy imagination.

[LaurenB]

Oh, I'll have what she's having. Yes, yes, YES, YESSSSSS!

[darla_g]

as much as i like CDing i haven't found lovemaking to be any different than in other times. I do like certain things though, my shaved legs in stockings being carressed or the feel and taste of lipstick on my lips......

i always liked it as a couple when we would switch off who took the more active role in lovemaking. (i hate all that dominant/submissive crap!)

[diannecourtney]

Early on when I was coming out to the ex(now) I suggested I could satisfy her as a lesbian.Boy (or should I say girl) I do believe that is why she is an ex. I do believe it would be great fun.

[Claire Cook]

I'm not sure how to answer this one. If being a woman in bed means enjoying sensuality, taking our time and being aware of what each other's body is doing, then YESS! I fantasize all of the time that we are Lesbians, and this definitely has improved our sex life over the (many) years. As many have pointed out, there's more to sex than the big O -- although when that point comes (pun intended) there is no doubt that I am on top (literally and figuratively).

[Miss Misery]

I want to be in the female role during sex sometimes. Just doesn't really happen and part of our agreement is no CDing in the bedroom so there's a compromise. Has anyone thought about or tried "pegging"? My spouse won't go there but I can still dream.

[Zoie]

I want to be in the female role during sex sometimes. Just doesn't really happen and part of our agreement is no CDing in the bedroom so there's a compromise. Has anyone thought about or tried "pegging"? My spouse won't go there but I can still dream.

Yes I have tried it and liked it as well.

[Lorileah]

Pretending to be anyone besides who you are is a normal fantasy. BUT maybe if you think you should be the opposite sex during ...uh....sex, it might be time to think about what you really want out of crossdressing. Maybe it is deeper than the clothes.

[Tima]

I've sometimes closed my eyes and pretended to be the girl during lovemaking.

I’m a “uke,” a submissive lover, always on the bottom. I never pretend to be a female, and I never pretend to be a male. I can’t explain it any better than that...:o

[jacques]

Do you ever pretend to be a woman in bed?
Hello
I tried it once, at my wife's suggestion. after she had seen a film.
I thought I faked it quite well, but was asked to leave the restaurant!
Luv to you all,
Jacques.

[kathie225]

When my wife and I make love, off comes my femme attire and she's with the man she married. Kathie wasn't even a figment of my imagination back then. I believe my wife is entitled to the bargain she made particularly since she barely tolerates Kathie.

[katrinakat]

My fantasies definitely include being made love to like a girl, when I'm dressed as a GIRL! There's something sexy about it. Otherwise I could care less for men. I truly love women, hence my obsession to try and emulate one. xoxo KatT

[Janine cd]

yes! I have often pretended that I was the woman being made love to by a man. It made it seem as if I really were a woman under the control of a man.

[Heather_Marie]

I am definitely a bottom girl, me and my wife love to have it that way I get to dress up and be the women it is so amazing. I am so happy I shared my fantasy with her and that she is very excepting of it.

[RachelF]

Almost all the time we make love when I am dressing. I love to pretend to be a woman in a lesbian relationship. Most of the time we divide the session in two parts: first I, although dressing, make love to my wife being the active one; second I take the female submissive role and she takes the initiative. We have practiced pegging also but my fantasy has been always to be a lesbian.

[laura.lapinski]

OMG, I do this all the time. I just let my fantasies run. Sometimes, I imagine I'm doing it with a former love, but lots of times i pretend I am the woman. My wife is on top for her to finish, and I go on top for me to finish. I would love to finish on the bottom too, but when I'm on top I pretend.

[TracyBoy]

Hi Everyone! This is my first post!
I really love it when my wife is on top. I pretend to be the woman

[Victoria P]

Oh definitely hon. My GF is open to my femme side whilst making love or my manly side.I do however prefer the extra erotic feelings we share and things we do when I'm En Femme'.

[TracyBoy]

Oh definitely hon. My GF is open to my femme side whilst making love or my manly side.I do however prefer the extra erotic feelings we share and things we do when I'm En Femme'.

You are very lucky to have a GF that understands your needs! (Doesn't it feel SO GOOD as a woman?!) I prefer this as to acing like a man during lovemaking.

[Charise52]

When I am on top, I am 100% male, even though I may be wearing a chemise or a T-Shirt dress, and when I am on the bottom, I let myself feel like a total woman... lovemaking is about feelings and bonding with someone...

[juligirl1984]

I go to sleep every night as Julianna... I'd love to be loved as Julianna... only other thing in my bed though is my dog lol. but if I could I'd so be Julianna with a man or woman rite now lol.

[Samantha Scott]

A previous partner and I used to act out many fantasies in bed with me always being a girl, which was great fun. My favourite fantasy was me being dressed up as a bride and deflowered for the first time with some special toys.

[ginafaye]

yes of course im the girl, it really has been a role revesal thats taken 20 years...

[cordgrass]

I'm not sure pretend is the right word; but I feel like I'm supposed to be the receptive person, not the active person, basically wait until the woman is doing something and then respond to that (re-active instead of active). Needless to say, that doesn't work very well, as women usually do the same thing when they're with men. I learned how to 'act' like the guy, but doing so requires conscious concentration to do that, which usually de-rails the spontaneous passion, which results in loss of erection. so yeah, I guess you could say that I'm basically 'a woman' in bed. Upside for the woman is that I'm much more inclined to do whatever she needs to reach orgasm; downside is that she doesn't have the dominant male that pretty much all women want.

Not all women. That's where I get into problems, I prefer my partner to be passive, for the most part. With most men it's like trying to dance where both are leading, and then the men get annoyed. And then if I try to say what my sexual preferences are at the start, men just assume that I'm only interested in a sexual relationship, nothing more, because nice girls don't talk about that sort of thing.

It's not that I'm a crossdresser, at least not now, I wore a lot of men's clothing back in college. I am feminine. But very active in bed.

[Maria_1969]

My SO has topped me a few times... She is the one that encourages the fantasy about a man taking me (it turns her on big time), but I am in no way attracted to men, so Ill pretend she is another CD or a TG woman when she tops me and she will call me Maria.

[urmilaaa2008]

while dressed I am always the passive one and my wife is the dominant partner and me submissive wife:o

[Autumndawn]

Haven't worn anything to bed, or during our special moments. It doesn't happen everytime either. There are occasions when we switch positions still joined and she is on top. The communication is implied rather than vocalized as she moves her legs together and starts to emulate the one on top. The momentum picks up as I wrap my legs around her back and hips. Those times are usually very intense delights!

[Joanna Maguire]

My wife loves being on top>Its great fun for us both

[DebsUK]

I have too much trouble pretending to be a woman getting ready for bed. Taking off makeup and moisturising is such a bind

[paulaluvssz8]

I am lucky to have had this experience with my wife early on in our marriage. She and I both were the girls and she wore a "toy". So it was awesome. Never want to be with a man. Just a woman who wears the gear. That's a turn on...

[Deanna B]

:love:hi yes i would love to wear girliy clothes while make love . my wife does not let me make love in female clothes . it is male only
love deanna .:love:

[KrystalA]

I too, agree with Karen. Falling asleep in panties and a satin nightie is a marvelous way to drift off to dreamland.