sterling12
11-17-2010, 04:07 AM
Like virtual every trans person at some time in their existence, I asked: "Why, and What caused me to be like this?" As I progressed and learned, I realized that NO ONE had The Answers, including myself. So....we give up trying to find those kinds of answers and work on Self-Acceptance.
BUT, suddenly The Other Day something popped into my head, and for some reason I think it might have validity for SOME of us. It's not a Total Answer, (and I'm pretty sure one single answer doesn't exist,) but it's a possibility for at least some Gurls.
So here we go. I'll give you background about Joanie, and formulate The Theory after I fill in some of The Blank Pages.
I was told by My Late Mother that I was one of those kids that had A Blanket. A Symbolic "Totem" if you will, that I hung on to up till about age four. Said Blanket literally got so thread-bare, it turned into rags of cloth, but I still held on to it! One of my earliest memories also around age four, is having a small collection of my Mother's and Sister's Stockings, which I kept in a small wooden box. So, there is an Overlap, and Stockings have always been a particular favorite, and will continue to be favorites until I die.
Now here's The Theory. I imagine most of us have seen or heard The Term "Fetish Crossdresser." It's A Favorite Label attributed to The Majority of Crossdressers by many Psychologists who write big, pontifical, books. Personally, I don't go along with it, because A "Classic Fetish" is considered to be A Symbolic Object, that The Fetishist needs to have Sexual Relations. There are just too many functional CD's who have families, and don't seem to require Panties, or whatever to mate with their spouses. BUT, most every CD I have known DOES have A "Preference." Some object of femme clothing that they value above all else, and will almost always wear that particular favored item.
And Finally, we come to My New Pet Theory: "Is it possible, that many of us had very early experiences with some sort of "Talisman," and did we somehow transfer our early love of our Teddie, Blanket, Thumb, Favorite Toy, Doll, etc., etc. onto A Femme Clothing Object?" Perhaps some of us, rather than going Ga-Ga over A Tricycle, picked up Mommie's Panties and THAT took The Place of The Lost Blankee?" Now I can't explain where we got The Desire for The Original Object, and not every CD is dressing and experimenting with Female Clothes so early, but I'm thinking it's a possibility for at least some of us. Around Age Four is when Mom usually makes sure you got rid of whatever that early "Preference Object" was. Is it a coincidence that Early Onset Trans Children, would be losing an object and picking up another "Desire" centered around femme object(s) at about the Same Time?
It's all conjecture, and I'm not going to try for A Doctoral Dissertation. But, I thought it was kind of an interesting idea, and I though I would share. It would be interesting to see how many of you can relate stories of a similar nature.
Peace and Love, Joanie
BUT, suddenly The Other Day something popped into my head, and for some reason I think it might have validity for SOME of us. It's not a Total Answer, (and I'm pretty sure one single answer doesn't exist,) but it's a possibility for at least some Gurls.
So here we go. I'll give you background about Joanie, and formulate The Theory after I fill in some of The Blank Pages.
I was told by My Late Mother that I was one of those kids that had A Blanket. A Symbolic "Totem" if you will, that I hung on to up till about age four. Said Blanket literally got so thread-bare, it turned into rags of cloth, but I still held on to it! One of my earliest memories also around age four, is having a small collection of my Mother's and Sister's Stockings, which I kept in a small wooden box. So, there is an Overlap, and Stockings have always been a particular favorite, and will continue to be favorites until I die.
Now here's The Theory. I imagine most of us have seen or heard The Term "Fetish Crossdresser." It's A Favorite Label attributed to The Majority of Crossdressers by many Psychologists who write big, pontifical, books. Personally, I don't go along with it, because A "Classic Fetish" is considered to be A Symbolic Object, that The Fetishist needs to have Sexual Relations. There are just too many functional CD's who have families, and don't seem to require Panties, or whatever to mate with their spouses. BUT, most every CD I have known DOES have A "Preference." Some object of femme clothing that they value above all else, and will almost always wear that particular favored item.
And Finally, we come to My New Pet Theory: "Is it possible, that many of us had very early experiences with some sort of "Talisman," and did we somehow transfer our early love of our Teddie, Blanket, Thumb, Favorite Toy, Doll, etc., etc. onto A Femme Clothing Object?" Perhaps some of us, rather than going Ga-Ga over A Tricycle, picked up Mommie's Panties and THAT took The Place of The Lost Blankee?" Now I can't explain where we got The Desire for The Original Object, and not every CD is dressing and experimenting with Female Clothes so early, but I'm thinking it's a possibility for at least some of us. Around Age Four is when Mom usually makes sure you got rid of whatever that early "Preference Object" was. Is it a coincidence that Early Onset Trans Children, would be losing an object and picking up another "Desire" centered around femme object(s) at about the Same Time?
It's all conjecture, and I'm not going to try for A Doctoral Dissertation. But, I thought it was kind of an interesting idea, and I though I would share. It would be interesting to see how many of you can relate stories of a similar nature.
Peace and Love, Joanie