Crossdresser versus Sissy

[msginaadoll]

I dont mean that in any way we are fighting each other. I guess I am just referring to different attitudes or styles of dress. It hit me when reading the posts about drag queens. For me when I see someone dressed in ruffly skirts, petticoats, etc I think of them as more of the category of maybe fetish dressing. I really do not now much about that style of dressing or if even "Sissy" is the right term.
I like to see myself and even be open minded so I have to admit my likes and dislikes or is it prejudices. I do not get at least for me the little girl or sissy look. I would sooner be in flamboyant full on Drag Queen regalia. So now that I got that out in the open and probably offended some people... Im looking for education
For those who dress in that style, is it how u are usually dressed, or do u also like other fashions. If you dress regulary like that, do you get out and about, and how does the general public treat you? I am also interested in how you see the rest of the crossdresser/transgender community accepts and treats you.

[sissystephanie]

I always dress like any normal lady of middle age! I don't own any ruffly skirts or petticoats, and have never worn them. As far as I am comcerned there is nothing wrong with those clothes, they just don't appeal to me! Likewise, neither does the "Drag Queen" look. I am a crossdresser, plain and simple! I have no desire to be a woman, just a desire to wear their clothes when I feel like it!

In the past, I have been called a "Sissy" more than once. But never twice by the same person!!

[Crissy Kay]

I consider myself a "fetish" dresser more then a sissy. I prefer that style, as I have zero interest in passing,or regular womens clothes. As such, I do not go out in public dressed up like that. To tell you the truth, I am more concerned now with my 2nd Amd. rights, then anything having to do with cd.

[Barbara Dugan]

I like to dress that way every once in a while it's fun ...I can dress or undress almost anyway I want while in fem it is the fun part of being a crossdresser:)
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[busker]

I always dress like any normal lady of middle age! I don't own any ruffly skirts or petticoats, and have never worn them. As far as I am comcerned there is nothing wrong with those clothes, they just don't appeal to me! Likewise, neither does the "Drag Queen" look. I am a crossdresser, plain and simple! I have no desire to be a woman, just a desire to wear their clothes when I feel like it!

In the past, I have been called a "Sissy" more than once. But never twice by the same person!!
You dind't by any chance have a roll of dimes in your hand, did you?:thumbsup:

[Babette]

Ms Gina the points of your questions were well taken. I consider a person's fashion style often represents their interest or fancy for a moment or occasion. Sure, I have a dress fitted with a petticoat and at the right time, it is a hoot to wear. For the most part however, I wear "street ready" clothes (e.g slacks, skirts, blouses, T's, jeans, etc).

Let's take your questions and replace the ruffly skirt element with a witch's costume intended for Halloween. Something like this is usually bought for an occasion like a party. If that style is your interest, then go have a ball with it. I doubt if most owners of a witch's costume would only wear that style for the rest of the year. OK, there may be a few out there but note that I said "most".

There may be some who are really into wearing Western apparel. So what if they have never rode a horse or been riding the range. I know several people who absolutely loathe anything Western and proclaim they just don't understand why someone would want to dress like this. The people wearing jeans, boots, and hats aren't really hurting anyone unless their jeans are too tight.

I won't mention any names but a certain forum member with the initials of Karen Hutton regularly post their anti-blue jeans sentiments and wonders why anyone would ever wear such things. We all tease Karen about this but she is doing nothing more than supporting her fashion preferences. If not wearing jeans is her thing, then more power to her because as much as I hate to admit it, she looks darn good in every thing else.

Life is too short to not have fun once in a while. If you like dressing like a woman (ruffles, jeans and all), then why hold back?

Babette

[Christinedreamer]

<<<<<You mean petticoats and ruffles like these? This is not my regular femme attire but the outfit was a gift and it was a blast to wear. Much like women like to get dolled up in wedding gowns or prom.cocktail dresses etc.

You would be amazed at the number of GGs who told me they loved this outfit.

Many asked for the name of the dressmaker

[JenniferB]

For me when I see someone dressed in ruffly skirts, petticoats, etc I think of them as more of the category of maybe fetish dressing. I really do not know much about that style of dressing or if even "Sissy" is the right term.

As I see it, it's basically just role-playing. Not that much different from the french maid outfit, etc.
Lot's of CD's see the petticoats, lacy ruffley baby doll dresses, as the pinnacle of feminity.

[NathalieX66]

i've been a pretty average crossdresser for most of my life, until I purged, and went into 10 years of denial & shame.
When I picked back up on it, I didn't know exactly where to go. My dad owned a children's clothing store when i was a kid, and I had a pretty impressive stash of cloths for a young kid. However the little girls' dresses, to me, were another planet. As a kid growing up in the late 60's early 70's , all I know is I wanted to wear one. Girls had full license to wear frilly outifts.

Nowadays, I'm not so into the sissy/little girl thing (which seemed all fetish to me) , I'm lately more interested in presenting myself as a woman, as a part of my persona. All that forced feminization/sissy maid stuff means nothing to me unless it pleases my partner to do so.
This was me this past Halloween:
http://www.flickr.com/photos/nathalielandree/5154888318/

[Pythos]

I'll admit, I wouldn't mind if my SO wants to put me into the typical "French Maid" outfit. But I would of course do some mods to it. ;) No ruffled panties, and a moderate length skirt (my kind of moderate, lol)
You all have seen my typical style. It could be worn my any genetic female, but really only if they could stand the cat calls, or ignorant people asking "where's the funeral, or party?" Heh.

I also have styles that could be worn in a normal "female" fashion.

I don't dig the peticoated look to be honest, but once again, if my SO wants to wear, or even if my friends, male or female want to wear that, I am not going to knock them.

I still dislike the term Sissy though.

[Kathleengurl]

While certain similarities surely exist, I think most of our starts in dressing have some variances. I had some interest in my mother's clothes while young but the desire to dress was largely suppressed throughout my early adulthood. My interest in dressing accelerated with my introduction into various fetish lifestyles. "Sissy", "forced feminization" was a focal point of this. I still enjoy dressing very girly (vs womanly) but mostly, now, it's dressing as a woman that I prefer and practice most often.

IMHO: Sissy is largely a fetish involving overtly adolescent feminine style and mind set while crossdressing is a maturation of this. --NOT to say that all CD were once sissy.

[Dana]

I dont mean that in any way we are fighting each other. I guess I am just referring to different attitudes or styles of dress. It hit me when reading the posts about drag queens. For me when I see someone dressed in ruffly skirts, petticoats, etc I think of them as more of the category of maybe fetish dressing. I really do not now much about that style of dressing or if even "Sissy" is the right term.
I like to see myself and even be open minded so I have to admit my likes and dislikes or is it prejudices. I do not get at least for me the little girl or sissy look. I would sooner be in flamboyant full on Drag Queen regalia. So now that I got that out in the open and probably offended some people... Im looking for education
For those who dress in that style, is it how u are usually dressed, or do u also like other fashions. If you dress regulary like that, do you get out and about, and how does the general public treat you? I am also interested in how you see the rest of the crossdresser/transgender community accepts and treats you.

How one goes about doing it ~ matters not! Either what its about expressing ones own personal sense of feminility ~ regardless of how aburd it may be to that others.

Be it so-called "sissy" dragqueen yada~yada.

For some it may be dressing in a conservative feminine manner that wouldn't even turn someone else's head at the mall.

For others it may be the whole sissy thing with the over the top short cut dress and frilly others.

For some it may be as simple as so-called "underdressing" and just wearing panties under their jeans or business suit?


I like to dress that way every once in a while it's fun ...I can dress or undress almost anyway I want while in fem it is the fun part of being a crossdresser:)
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People constantly why some men have the "need" and/or compulsion to crossdress?

You just hit the proverbial nail on the head!

Because ITS FUN

[raelene]

i CONSIDER MYSELF TO BE BOTH BUT i MUST SAY i LOVE MY RUFFLED PANTIES AND SISSY DRESSES!!!

[Proteus]

Personally I really don't like these fetish/Halloween costume type outfits.

Probably because I like the real thing so much. Anyone interested in historic women's fashion should check out Katherine's Dress Site (http://www.koshka-the-cat.com/)!

[JenniferB]

i CONSIDER MYSELF TO BE BOTH BUT i MUST SAY i LOVE MY RUFFLED PANTIES AND SISSY DRESSES!!!

That's what I'm talkin about...
Get those rhumba panties on!

Nobody says you have to do the sissy thing in public. Just try it, you might love it...

[sissystephanie]

You dind't by any chance have a roll of dimes in your hand, did you?:thumbsup:

No, just my own hands and a knowledge of how to fight!! My Army dad taught me how to fight to win!!

[JohnH]

No matter what I wear I never get called a sissy. I may be called a "f**king pervert" but never a sissy. If anybody would call me a sissy my drill sergeant bark would set them straight!

[Joanne f]

A personal choice of clothing is just that as far as i am concerned , i am a man in a dress so how would it be right for me to judge others on what they chose to wear .

[Kate Simmons]

To each their own I'd say Hon. If they have the guts to wear it in public, more power to 'em, name calling notwithstanding.:)

[Kelle]

I for one like and enjoy petticoat style dresses. This style must have been imprinted in me when I was young and growing up in the 50's and 60's. I enjoy other styles too.

[Christina2008]

Never (yet) owned anything “sissy” although I can see the attraction to some outfits typically associated.
I’m no sissy though, I’m a strong independent woman! :daydreaming:

[Cassidy]

I think Sarah Jessica Parker did more for crinolines in various episodes of Sex and the City than any sissy or fetish site ever could. She may have single handedly re-popularized crinolines. could someone kindly bring back the 50s?

[Frédérique]

I like to see myself and even be open minded so I have to admit my likes and dislikes or is it prejudices. I do not get at least for me the little girl or sissy look. I would sooner be in flamboyant full on Drag Queen regalia. So now that I got that out in the open and probably offended some people... I’m looking for education

I wouldn’t attempt it, any more than I would attempt “full on drag.” Both of these genres require a “costume” of sorts, and that is the issue – I don’t see MtF crossdressing as a costume party. I dress in the clothes that are appropriate for my age, to allow myself to pass in public, to get where I want to go, and be as I wish to be. It would be impossible to dress “sissy” and not draw any attention, ditto drag, but those are worlds apart, demanding attitudes that are completely at odds with my own. I don’t wish to draw attention to myself, so I dress accordingly…


I always dress like any normal lady of middle age! I don't own any ruffly skirts or petticoats, and have never worn them. As far as I am comcerned there is nothing wrong with those clothes, they just don't appeal to me! Likewise, neither does the "Drag Queen" look. I am a crossdresser, plain and simple! I have no desire to be a woman, just a desire to wear their clothes when I feel like it!

Same here. My clothes are quite respectable and “classic.” There is this sub-genre of “sissy” crossdressing, and there’s a site dedicated to it. I prefer to be here, among my peers. Sissy is another one of those polarizing words that stirs strong feelings. I have no problem with it, since it is part of my psychological makeup. It’s not all that obvious, but it is the background of my dreams - I don’t wear the costume, but I am engaged in effeminacy 24/7…
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[msginaadoll]

Thanks for all the thoughtful responses. And also for the reminder that what I do and the way I dress doesnt always have to be so serious!

[JenniferB]

I’m no sissy though, I’m a strong independent woman! :daydreaming:
Great if that's what works for you. I gladly volunteer to be anyone's submissive sissy anytime.

[audreyinalbany]

I'm a pretty average late-middle aged gal. I wear a lot of cotton tops and girly jeans. I guess I'm a 'blender-inner." 'Course, given the opportunity or occasion, I love the LBD or even skirt, tights, and a nice top. Unlike many late-middle aged gg's, though, I haven't given up on three and four inch heels.

[Suzette Muguet de Mai]

I just say dress as YOU please and feel comfortable. If the occasion requires it, dress as is required and is acceptable for that occasion by the group in attendance. If one attends that venue then one accepts the standard of dress needed to attend. I do not think some people would attend a "gothic" venue dressed in paisley blouse and lilac slacks but heck why not try and "goth it up" :)) If we all dressed as one type then where is our own individuality? I dress as I feel, not what society dictates, I am ME. If I want to dress in a short dress, then I will but personally I prefer a nice cut skirt just below knees and flaired with a loose top and nice fitted jacket and 4" pumps or skinny jeans, boots and top with a loose batwinged cardi and a nice wide belt to finish. Around home its a short, loose summer dress and sandals. But if its a themed party...LOOK OUT I will go and have fun and be ME.

[joan47]

I dress as a normal women, underdress 24/7, wear girls jeans and t's in drab and yes I ove petticoats and ruffled panties, and I guess I am a sissy.

[StarrOfDelite]

I own a "sissy" French Maid outfit which was purchased for me by a boyfriend who pestered me for a month to get me to wear it. I must admit that it was a bit of a hoot to go prancing about in it, but it was all playing because of his fetish behavior, not mine. Not to say, by the way, that there is anything wrong with a trans-person wearing such an outfit for her own gratification. Everyone has their own fetishes, irrespective of his or her gender or sexual orientation.

[MsJanessa]

Great if that's what works for you. I gladly volunteer to be anyone's submissive sissy anytime.

Really?? :)

[Shananigans]

It may just be my experience...but, the only time I see the word "sissy" is in porn categories and titles. I guess I called myself out there, but oh well...

I had no idea that it referred to a style of dress...just thought it was a porn thing...

[Danni Bear]

petticoats,yes several but worn for square dancing and other western themed activities (even a bustle and that is a trip trying to wear one of those and walking or sitting)

Danni

[ginafaye]

like to be her sissy when she needs me to ,but mostly just normal type womens wear works just fine

[sometimes_miss]

Although I often wear a maid's uniform when working around the house, my most common outfits are with plaid / tartan pleated skirts, with a plain white button down girl's top, or a sweater set. I either wear thigh high stockings, or white knee socks, usually with tassel loafers, sometimes simple shoes with kitten heels. More rarely, with knee high boots with 4 inch heels. Not sure how or what 'class' that would put me in.

[TxKimberly]

OK, I would have to admit that I would love to have one of those cute little girl dresses like our very own Tiffany (http://www.flickr.com/photos/tiffanytime/4969095181/) often sports. It looks so cute and adorable! The bad news is that unlike Tiffany, I'd look ridiculous at my age and so have no business what so ever in a dress like that. She looks cute and sexy in it, and I'd look like (at best) a desperate old woman, and worst, a desperate old man. Still, I'd have to admit that I wish I could get away with it . . .

[Lacy PJs]

A couple of random thoughts... first, I sometimes find that I am MOST relaxed when I wear some of my frilliest "sissy" outfits. Not sure why, but if I'm dressed in a frilly robe, gown, lacy undies & cute slippers, that is more relaxing than a simple short everyday gown. And, yes, I'd like to try a cute party dress but my body won't permit that. Perhaps is is the ability to share this side of myself with my SO that allows me to relax so much.

Second, it seems to me that what is a sissy outfit to one person is "normal" to someone else. If my SO were to wear the same outfit that I find so relaxing, she wouldn't be a sissy at all. Several here have mentioned French maid outfits... your reasons for wearing one may be totally different than why someone thinks you are wearing it so it seems to me that it's the attitude that makes the difference.

Lacy PJs

[Juliemckay]

This thread title made me think this should be a SYFY movie title...


Maybe not

[Pinky188]

I like to dress that way every once in a while it's fun ...I can dress or undress almost anyway I want while in fem it is the fun part of being a crossdresser:)
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Cool pic!!!!