Single because you crossdress? What do you say to people?

[CherryZips]

I feel I am probably single because I crossdress and generally have exotic sexual tastes.

I've not given up. I'm not miserable about it. I'm not that hung up about it, well no more than you might expect :) But it is an issue especially about relationships.

I now feel judged about not being settled/married etc.

It must be confusing for people as I don't appear hung up about sexuality so I can't be repressed about being gay. Maybe they suspect all manner of things.

I am tempted to let people know, the older I get the less I care. Though it could be awkward. I find some people can be seemingly understanding then shy away.

Though I do know other middle aged single people. They seem vanilla enough and I wonder what their problem is. :)

Anyone else in a similar situation?

[jessica renee]

I'm single because I choose to be at this point in my life. I don't feel that it is because of my crossdressing because I don't share that part of my life with very many people. And I have much bigger issues than that in my life right now that I don't give it much thought.

As far as what I say if people persist, I simply tell them it's none of their business.

[Laura Jane]

I'm single because I'm untidy! Well thats what my ex-girlfriend used to row with me about!

[Melinda G]

I know where you're coming from. I was married once, and have two kids. The marriage fell apart only partly because of the CDing. I've had a couple long term relationships, and the CDing would go on the back burner for a while, but it always comes back. I never told any of my girlfriends, but I shaved myself, or my legs a couple times, and then avoided intimacy for a couple weeks, until the hair grew back, which didn't set well with them. One of my girlfriends thought I was doing someone else, because I wasn't doing her.
I haven't had a girlfriend for a while now, and it doesn't bother me at all. I have plenty of opportunities, but when I look at these old women, it's like, "No thank you". I look better than any of the women I know. Seriously. Some years ago, my girlfriend and I were sitting on the porch one summer Sunday morning in shorts. She was checking me out and said, "You've got better legs than I do". I looked over at her slightly gnarly legs, and damaged skin, from too many visits to the tanning booth, but didn't say anything.
I'm alone by choice, and I like it that way. Every morning, I slip on some mid heel sandals and a short dress, or something comfy, while I have breakfast and coffee. Then I get into my guy clothes and get on with my day. Later in the evening, I get into something sexy and some heels, and have some wine and lounge around. If I had a woman here, I would either have to tell her about my CDing, or keep my guy clothes on. When I'm alone, I can do what I want, when I want.

[MJ]

well I'm happy and single and gay and i like it that way. why do i need anyone to be complete?. no Drama no fuss life is great

[Lucy_Bella]

At this stage in life, yes ,I find myself single for the first time since my teen years and partly because of my dressing. GG's are out there don't get me wrong , but I am picky now... I will not push my dressing off on a GG who I feel may sour her taste to it.. I won't even cluea GG in while seeing her that I even dress and if I sense she is ANTI to my habit, I will stop seeing her and normally that is on 1-3 dates..

So ,,yeah I am single because of my desire's to dress ..But I have to be true to myself first as I know this will not go away and I am okay with this life style for now , it's a bit lonley but a lot less drama..

[Barbara Dugan]

I am single pretty much about the same reasons and yes sometimes people ask about it specially at work where almost everybody is married or in relationships. Sometimes I think life would be easier if I had married and lived an heterosexual life but that would be a lie to me and specially to other person.
I guess the only thing that is left is try to be a happy gay transvestite:)

[Marissa]

Good question.. can't say that anyone would think the wiser of me being a crossdresser but when people see that you have not brought someone around or mentioned someone for two years (I had transferred to new job site two years ago), then I would think that in their minds that I must be gay or something. Well most knew that I had a crazy marriage/divorce that left scars and as most would say it takes time for the healing process.

Last night I decided to hang with a buddy to see a Zeplin cover band. We were going to grab a bite to eat and then go to the small sports bar where they were playing. It has been a while since I have gone out for this type of evening with my buddy. A few years back it was common for a few of us to meetup and make a night of it. One of those nights I ended up meeting my future wife.

When we stopped at the first choice of resturants, we scowered the bar area in hopes of finding a seat since it was crowded big time. As we departed, I noticed a woman give me that once over look, so I caught her eyes and smiled as I walked out. The next stop to eat and have a beer, I saw a few pretty women that were near my age. I took in their looks and thought how nice it would be to be in one of their's company. Later, at the bar to see the band, I did take in the scenery of cute girls/women. Including the staff servers who for some reason seem to have big breasts protruding from their tops..I never could figure out why they dress that way??!! LOL.

Well somewhere along the night, my thoughts shifted to seeing what they were wearing and doing the critique thing that most of us are guilty of. :) So the thought did occur to me about admiring these women, being jealous of what they were wearing..and wondering if a relationship could fit into my life...no.. not at this time.. I'm still trying to figure things out.

But I will add that I did like the feeling of the desire to spend time with these women. So I think that dating may be in my future, but not really a relationship unless there is a hint that she will accept me for me..as I would accept her as her.

Hugs,
Marissa

[Melinda G]

I don't worry about what people think. I've had my share of girlfriends, and my friends all know it. The women close to my age just aren't attractive anymore.
I'm reminded every day why I stayed single, when one of my friends says his wife won't let him do this or that, or buy this or that.

[Lucy_Bella]

The women close to my age just aren't attractive anymore

Wow.... I see plenty of women my age just knock outs!! They seem to be to get more beautiful with age like a wine.. I never thought I would feel that way over a matured lady as a youngster.. But I tell you what!! Send them my way anytime..

[busker]

afraid to BE ALONE with your own thoughts. A lot of people just seem to be blank when they are alone. I enjoy my own company, I'm busy all day, I have lots of interests and I'd love to have 48 hour days.
It is true that at an advanced age, it is nice not having to explain oneself for whatever. I no longer want to get permission for what I do or buy, and by the same token, I don't want to tell someone that they can or can't do something either. Life is now too short for me. Being single is the same thing that having NO CHILDREN used to be. People wonder whether your gay, or sterile or worse. They never bought the idea that there are simply too many people in the world and why add more. I do have lady friends and go out but that is the extent of it now.

[Amy Lynn3]

Lucy, if you get too many, send them on to me.

[Chiana]

Interesting question. I guess after my X left, which had nothing to do with CDing, I didn't try to go out and find someone else. There are probably several reasons for that and one would certainly be so that I could have more privacy to dress. Unfortunately, I do care what people think about me and I know some have questioned my sexuality. Almost everyone who knows me well enough thinks I am completely hetero since they know I am compulsively checking out the ladies. Of course, they might misunderstand why I check them out so intently, but I don't see any reason to correct them.

[AliceJaneInNewcastle]

I was single until my late 20s. I felt like I was never going to meet someone who would accept me. After a disastrous relationship with a woman who equated crossdresser with transsexual and assumed that I would soon transition, I decided to be open with any potential partner, very early in the relationship. I told my wife only a few weeks after we began dating, and she was relieved that I was only a CD. She was worried that I might have been bi. We married about a year after we met, and have been married for over 11 years now.

I started going out frequently in the past few years What I have found surprising over that time is the number of women who have openly flirted with me when I'm out en femme. At first, I assumed that I was misreading the signals and that they were simply treating me as they would a female friend, but I've watched some of the same women interact with other women and other CDs without exhibiting flirtatious behaviour. I've also seen some women openly flirting with other CD friends of mine. I think that the best way to meet an accepting GG would have to be to get out and about regularly en femme and let them come to you. :)

[sometimes_miss]

Crossdressing is usually the straw that breaks the camel's back. I try to feel out the person, and see if she's open to, say, 'La Cage', and how she sees the actors in the show. Any negative feedback about guys in dresses usually signals me to look elsewhere.

[NathalieX66]

I'm single because I'm busy, proud, and sometimes weird.

Somehow I get the feeling that crossdressing has nothing to do with it.....mainly because iIthink one's personality is what shows through.

Some girls won't mind if you are a cd'er, others will....that has been my experience.

[eluuzion]

Let’s see…why am I single…going on my 16th year now…hmmmm…

Well, it took me about 10 years to recover from the financial and career devastation of being hooked by cheating gold-digger (ex) that found me as a mark. (I mean that in a cough, cough, nice, complimentary, respectably pleasing sort-of-way…:battingeyelashes:).

The last 6 years I have become totally self-employed, I am debt free, live alone in a big house with lots of toys, dress almost 24/7, have lots of friends, I’m healthy, sleep well when I do sleep, and get lots of “invitations” for companionship (which I seldom pursue). I’ve lived alone most of my life, but I have never been “lonely”. Most people that know me would describe me as eccentrically amusing, but not dangerous unless attacked, lol.

The possibility of me running into a cognitive “match” at this point in life are slim. Most of the single people I meet seem to be “desperately needy” or “gold-diggers”. Most stable couples think I will either corrupt the husband or attract the wife, so they avoid me,:o).
Plus, I seem to mistakenly send out the “player” or “good catch” impression when dating…which always attracts the opposite of what would be my ideal SO. :sad:

Go figure…but, hey…I am happy.
:love:

[Noemi]

I love this place.
I am single right now because I cross dress, and also because I am a starving artist, but I have been that for many years now and have found a few relationships. Actually very few as I am usually wondering just where I fall in the gender spectrum. I have slept with women with out making love to them several times because I just am not interested in their pussies, and have rebuked the advances of about 100 gg's(this probably makes me gay, but sometimes I really do not know what I am). This does not go over too well as GG's really want to have fun, and deserve fun, and get so worried when a man does not want them sexually. I love and respect women, it is fun calling them GG's on this forum, I wonder if they hate that, the poor creatures, they get so much undeserved shit to off set the considerable power they evince. My situation is that I am masculine looking, the public suspects nothing, but inside I am 98.4% woman.
Barbara you said it, to be a Gay happy Transvestite. That is it dear, I like your posts by the way.
Right now I am dressing allot and am the happiest I have been in a long time. I am going to ride this train and see where it goes.
I am so happy to be here reading what you all have written. It is helping me, thank You.

[Steph.TS]

I'm single as I'm a transwoman, I haven't taken hormones, no surgery, no therapy yet, I don't think it'd be right for me to get involved with a woman (I have no interest in men) only to tell her later on in the relationship that her 'man' is a woman. I remain single as a choice and hope one day I'll transition and be the person I am inside.

[Ms Jennifer]

I am single pretty much about the same reasons and yes sometimes people ask about it specially at work where almost everybody is married or in relationships. Sometimes I think life would be easier if I had married and lived an heterosexual life but that would be a lie to me and specially to other person.
I guess the only thing that is left is try to be a happy gay transvestite:)

I agree with Barbara and MJ,and when asked why I never married I just reply that I never wanted to.Works for me.

[Michaela42]

For the most part I am single because I am so . . . well, different. Yes, my crossdressing plays a part in that, but it is much deeper than that. I have never been much of a dater or anything, but with the few relationships I have had there has never been a real connection. The women only knew a small part of me and, truthfully or not, I felt that if they were ever to know the 'true' me they would bolt. It is the same way with friends and casual acquaintances for me as well. Like I said, crossdressing is a part of this feeling, but mainly I feel it is that I have not truly accepted myself. On moment I may be all feminine and like, but in the next I am looking for . . . well, trouble, I guess. Until I find the balance in my own life I do not think it would be fair (to myself or any potential partners) to even begin a relationship.

[MJ]

I guess the only thing that is left is try to be a happy gay transvestite:)

too bad you don't live near me:love:

[Janice Lester]

I'm single because I've decided to find out how far I want to go. I've been in relationships pretty much since my teens and several have been with GG's that were accepting and wanted to participate but I found that unsatisfying. I don't enjoy cross dressing around a woman with whom I'm intimate, it just feels really weird to me.

I do however enjoy it when I'm with a man I'm intimate with. But that leaves me with the problem of not being all that attracted to men when I'm not dressed.

I don't think of my self as Gay, because I really, really like GG's. However sometimes I think the only practical solution will be to give up the Bi label and fall for another Transvestite, because I do find Transvestites attractive when I'm not dressed but also when I am.

If you remember the documentary "Paris is burning" one of the things that really struck me was when they were doing what I remember as "businessman drag". That hit me because as a man I love to wear a well cut suit, it makes me feel remarkably masculine.

This mixture of feelings complicate my life but I wouldn't have it any other way.

[CherryZips]

thanks for the thoughts everyone. Its great that the interweb supplies a place where you can put an idea like this and have people understand.

I still say ideally I would marry a woman. I miss the intimacy so much. And so when someone asks me "would I like to meet someone?" I hate the idea of lying and pretending to be happy alone. But I am more accepting of that possibility. Though I have to avoid the company of too many couples in the one sitting.

@AliceJaneInNewcastle

What kind of locations were they?

I agree just being seen is a good idea. Perhaps even being socially known. My best sexual experiences were with a woman who knew my tastes before we dated.

Ideally I would put on a clubbing outfit and hang out in bars. But I'm not close to passing. I wish I was more effete rather than just boyish. Some women really go for crossdressed guys. But they don't look for it and only realise it when they see it. But I would not feel safe in the straight clubs.

I did used to go to the fetish clubs but got too much unwanted male attention. So this is kind of me returning to the scene. No purges mind. Just returning to the scene now that work and family are less important.

[MJ]

I don't think of my self as Gay, because I really, really like GG's. However sometimes I think the only practical solution will be to give up the Bi label and fall for another Transvestite, because I do find Transvestites attractive when I'm not dressed but also when I am.


I also find Transvestites attractive and i see myself as gay, i so hate lables. i just respect people for who they are in turn i hope i get respect back weird world we live in ?

[docrobbysherry]

I'm over 60, and used to dating/marrying women much younger than I. These days, American women, (who still have their looks), seem to date men their age or younger! :sad: Unless they're going for $$$

After dating in Cal. for a few years, I thot maybe I could do BETTER finding an attractive, educated, Communist Block woman. Quite an experience! In the end, I found women r probably the SAME the world over!:brolleyes:

A year ago, I told ONE PERSON about my dressing! An old, accepting girlfriend. At first, she was encouraging! Making complimentary comments about my pics, etc. Then suddenly, after 6 months, she said she wanted no more of Sherry! She felt Sherry was coming between us!:eek: ("Us"?) There hasn't been an "us" in 30 years!

I stopped dating altogether over a year ago. How can I expect to find a female attractive enuff to keep ME interested, yet willing to share me with Sherry? And, how many late 40's and older GGs r there, that can COMPARE favorably with Sherry? I haven't consciously compared Sherry to ANY real females. But I'm pretty sure, any self respecting GG will!:straightface:

[Donna June]

I'm single and I enjoy my freedom, not only to dress anytime I want but to anything or go anywhere I want. I will say being a crossdresser / transgender has probably kept me single. I never discussed it with them but any woman I dated, I should say the very few I dated, I don't think they would've approved. I do fantasize about being the girl in a relationship with a man and it's something I would consider. Either way I am single and content. Just try to be happy where you are.

[Pythos]

I'm single. I am sure it is partly due to my unconventionalness, which as I was growning up was told is what people were looking for. We encouraged by our music, television shows, and movies to "be ourselves" "don't follow the crowd", "throw out the norm".

What do I see? I see my friends and people my age doing the exact opposite....I have not.

There are days where I think it may have been easier to be "normal". There are days where the thought to throw out all my strange clothing, gain a beer gut, grow a huge beard, and obtain a Harley, and become the "manly man" image that is so pushed on us (well one anyway)

When my now abondoned prospect said she did not like Effeminite men, despite the fact all the other "manly men" in her life raped her and beat her, I really got some self doubt. I started wearing just plain jeans and t shirt....a sure sign I am depressed.

When I did the last set of pics I felt alive. I felt awesome. I felt like me.

I whine about this a lot, but I still don't get why most women are attracted to brutes. Why are women not more open minded? Especially considering the restrictions they fought off years ago.

It is not my fault those stupid rules ever existed, why do I get left to the singleness, while the two timing, wife beating piece of junk on two legs gets dates?

The sexual revolution was one sided, and it didn't go far enough.

Oh, there I go again.

[Joanne f]

No i do not believe cross dressing by it`s self will keep you single as most females and no doubt males can see beyond the cross dressing providing there is something to see beyond it .

[Melinda G]

There are days where I think it may have been easier to be "normal". There are days where the thought to throw out all my strange clothing, gain a beer gut, grow a huge beard, and obtain a Harley, and become the "manly man" image that is so pushed on us (well one anyway)
Eeeeaaaauuuuu. Bite your tongue!:eek:


When my now abondoned prospect said she did not like Effeminite men, despite the fact all the other "manly men" in her life raped her and beat her, I really got some self doubt. I started wearing just plain jeans and t shirt....a sure sign I am depressed.
Woman don't know what they want. They are attracted to the "bad boys", get used and abused, and wind up hating all men.


When I did the last set of pics I felt alive. I felt awesome. I felt like me.That works for me,too.:D


I whine about this a lot, but I still don't get why most women are attracted to brutes. Why are women not more open minded? Especially considering the restrictions they fought off years ago.
It's got something to do with nature. Lots of male animals fight over the females, and the females wander off with the winner. Watch the nature programs, and you will get a lot of insight into human behavior. In the case of humans, it's either money, or the brute.


It is not my fault those stupid rules ever existed, why do I get left to the singleness, while the two timing, wife beating piece of junk on two legs gets dates?
You can have dates too, if you lower your standards. But you wouldn't want them.

[Janice Lester]

MJ,

I think your right that the labels get in the way, I try to use them as way to help me categorize what I'm thinking but often they just confuse the issue.

By the way is it true, do blonds really have more fun? lol

[Mistybtm]

:battingeyelashes:
I am single been married raised as child and now divorced at 48 I am very happy with who I am. I am A sub BI cross dresser who enjoys the best of both worlds. Being single again and live alone I can explore all my feelings. As far as others are concerned I just say been there done that. :battingeyelashes:

[MJ]

MJ,
By the way is it true, do blonds really have more fun? lol

NO we just get dirty quicker :heehee:

[Janice Lester]

Well MJ, I will certainly keep that in mind should I ever have the good fortune of meeting you.:daydreaming:

[MJ]

Well MJ, I will certainly keep that in mind should I ever have the good fortune of meeting you.:daydreaming:

You know what they say " careful what you wish for. you just might get it "

i know i know get a room already

[hhdave]

I'm single, but was married once. Ex-wife was OK with my wearing women's shoes, and even encouraged me to explore it. I dated a girl earlier this year who had a strong aversion to it. Tried hard to give them up, thinking that some things are more important than the shoes you wear. We stuck it out a little but she had some major red flags that started popping up. I broke up with her and got an earful from her, including calling me gay, tranny, and a few other unpleasant things. Then the more I thought about it, I know of guys who are married and wear women's shoes. Guess I haven't quite found the line between wearing what I want, trying to be myself, and not scaring off potential women. Being single has its ups and downs, but despite my ex-girlfriend's strong beliefs I really don't think I'm gay.

[Alice Torn]

Excellent thread! Very good sharing and comments. Single for life, here. Starting to accept it. Really like living alone, with cats. From extremely dysfunctional family, never was ready for marriage, but did date quite a bit in my 30's, and 40's. Never had it together enough to provide housing for a mate or family. Was rejected by scores of 'gg's, but some really liked me as a friend. I am sure some folks suspect i am gay, or something strange. I truly loved certain ladies and wanted marriage. The painful part, is always being the "loner", at restaurants, stores, and anywhere else. It is a couples world. I am coming to not care much anymore. I have always been a misfit son of a misfit dad, but i would never tell him about Louise!!! Pythos, so true about the sexual revolution. I see there have been three sexual revolutions. But, cders are the last to be accepted. GG's are beautiful, but they are not considered strange wearing men clothes, but a man who cd's, is still considered bizarre.

[PrettyFlowingGown]

i'm single, but i have 2 very lovely girlfreinds (non sexual) that love me in other ways, in which i prefer. freindship, respect and warmth is the most important in my life at the moment...

[Kate Simmons]

Not much. None of their business really.:)

[Charise52]

I am single now, and I am concerned that when I meet someone new, i will wonder how she will react when she finds out... my last three girl friends all knew and approved and one even was initially attracted to me because of it. One ex girl friend is one of my best friends today, one was a little weird, and one had an affair... so now I will have to tell a new person, and that scares me more than a little...

[Jorja]

I was married twice. Once when I turned 18 to a lovely girl. I was still trying to prove to myself I was a man. That just didn't work out. The second time was after all the drama of transition and SRS had settled. It was an awesome experience and if he came along a again I would marry him in a heartbeat. Unfortunately, he passed away a couple of years ago. Would I ever get married again? Maybe but he is going to be a hard act to follow.

[sarahNZ]

the older I get the less I care. Though it could be awkward. I find some people can be seemingly understanding then shy away.

I find the same and have come to realise that the answer is blindingly obvious (well it is to me anyway) as you have said the older ... etc etc ... so get on with it! some will shy away but others will not! At the very least you will know who you can count on!

The up side is that if you are honest with your potential mates then you can see if they can accept you for who you are, and there are more than enough people out there to find the right one for you. Good luck

[Frédérique]

A year ago, I told ONE PERSON about my dressing! An old, accepting girlfriend. At first, she was encouraging! Making complimentary comments about my pics, etc. Then suddenly, after 6 months, she said she wanted no more of Sherry!

Yeah, the same thing happened to me – my crossdressing ruined a relationship, or did it save me? Sitting here now, after many years of solitary freedom (dressed!), I’m VERY glad to be single...


When my now abondoned prospect said she did not like Effeminate men, despite the fact all the other "manly men" in her life raped her and beat her, I really got some self doubt. I started wearing just plain jeans and t shirt....a sure sign I am depressed.

Yes, effeminate is a defining word that carries a lot of baggage with it – I think effeminacy scares some people, but it describes what we do very accurately, and there are different levels of effeminacy, of course. I got the exact same type of reaction (or confusion) from my ex. She would talk at length about how much she hated certain male characteristics, then look at me and say, “But not YOU...” We were in love, but it didn’t work out. I get the feeling certain women desire a masculine presence in their lives, come what may. I would have to step out of myself and be miserable and depressed (like you) to do that, so I think it’s not a good thing, especially if you’re more effeminate and comfortable being so...


Single for life, here. Starting to accept it. Really like living alone, with cats. I am sure some folks suspect i am gay, or something strange. I truly loved certain ladies and wanted marriage. The painful part, is always being the "loner", at restaurants, stores, and anywhere else. It is a couples world. I am coming to not care much anymore.

I live with my sister, with cats, but it’s like living alone – we live on separate floors in the same house and give each other plenty of room. I lived alone for many years, and I must admit I like having someone to talk to who is on the same wavelength as me. I went through a period when I desired a married, "normal" existence, but I’m glad it didn’t work out. It helps to enjoy being alone, and I revel in floating around, just observing everything and everyone. I think when you’re part of a couple you’re only half of yourself at best – why not be WHOLE and be happy?
:)

[Mister Ed]

Forgive the large and numerous quotes but so many people have said things that combined I feel makes up my reasons for being single still at nearly 30.


For the most part I am single because I am so...well, different. Yes, my crossdressing plays a part in that, but it is much deeper than that. I have never been much of a dater or anything, but with the few relationships I have had there has never been a real connection. The women only knew a small part of me and, truthfully or not, I felt that if they were ever to know the 'true' me they would bolt...
Makaila's thoughts mirror my own closely. When I was young I made an effort to drive girls away from me for a few reasons. Plus being quite a chubby kid meant it didn't take much effort. Since then I've never dated much because I'm concerned about their reaction to my crossdressing and wasting effort on a dead end relationship in general.


Crossdressing is usually the straw that breaks the camel's back. I try to feel out the person...
...Any negative feedback about guys in dresses usually signals me to look elsewhere.
As above, Somtimes_Miss' actions are similar to my own plan when dealing with the situation.


I'm single because I'm busy, proud, and sometimes weird...
I've moved around allot in the last few years myself and currently barely have a social circle beyond work colleagues (some of whom I can't stand anyway). It's something I have to deal with but first I want to work on my health and fitness. Once that's done, I'm going to work on my face, skin and body hair. I want to reach a point where it benefits my crossdressing. I'm not looking to pass (I'm not sure if I would) but I'm sick of being itchy for days after shaving for the day I'm smooth and the fun I have dressed.

And sometimes...I'm weird too :)

[t-girlxsophie]

After my first marriage ended with crossdressing being a major part of it,I was in that where do I go from here relationship wise stage,even though I was relatively young (mid 30s) I think On the whole I would have been content to live life from that moment on alone,I sorta dated one girl but wouldnt have told her about Sophie,also experienced the other side much more having relationships with Men,fellow CDers and yeah I enjoyed that side being explored and I (thought) hey am a happy chappie can come and go as I please,noone to answer to but when I look back now it was a lonely life to live,but I think I would have lived that life.

If this interesting thread has shown one thing its that we all want different things relationship wise and settle with what,to us seems to make us content.As it turned out I did find my contentment with my Wife who embraced Sophie ,but who also likes the whole package I met her online,not looking but finding my soulmate (sorry for the cliche,but its true),unlike some others have said,I DO like being half of the whole,to me It makes me more rounded individually but also better as a partner.

It all comes down to the Individual ultimately,do what makes you happy that way you can look back on your life with no regrets

:hugs:Sophie

[JustineFallow]

Since acceptance, at absolute minimum, of my CD'ing is a litmus test for compatibility with a woman, I make it a policy to tell her as soon as we get serious, if not before. Being something of a solitary sort, the topic hasn't come up very often with prospective partners.

[Kristi Moore]

Thank you Janice this is me to T! No pun intended. I like you only enjoyed being dressed with men sexually but I struggle with enjoying being the male role with woman. I would love to chat xxoo Krist


I'm single because I've decided to find out how far I want to go. I've been in relationships pretty much since my teens and several have been with GG's that were accepting and wanted to participate but I found that unsatisfying. I don't enjoy cross dressing around a woman with whom I'm intimate, it just feels really weird to me.

I do however enjoy it when I'm with a man I'm intimate with. But that leaves me with the problem of not being all that attracted to men when I'm not dressed.

I don't think of my self as Gay, because I really, really like GG's. However sometimes I think the only practical solution will be to give up the Bi label and fall for another Transvestite, because I do find Transvestites attractive when I'm not dressed but also when I am.

If you remember the documentary "Paris is burning" one of the things that really struck me was when they were doing what I remember as "businessman drag". That hit me because as a man I love to wear a well cut suit, it makes me feel remarkably masculine.

This mixture of feelings complicate my life but I wouldn't have it any other way.

[Magickman]

Single because I crossdress? No. Maybe I crossdress because I am single.

I am persistently and permanently single. A natural born bachelor. Born without any desire for marriage. That is just as well, since I don't think I have any talent for marriage.

Out in the world, I have more interactions with women when I am dressed up. Women ignore me, when I am in normal male clothes.

If anyone were to ask why i am still single, my answer would be, "Just lucky, I guess." But no one asks.

The physical presence of a woman is something I miss. Yet, i survive.

[AriannaH]

Single because I crossdress? No. Maybe I crossdress because I am single.

I am persistently and permanently single. A natural born bachelor. Born without any desire for marriage. That is just as well, since I don't think I have any talent for marriage.

This pretty much sums me up, too.

I'd like to find a gf but hasn't happened yet. Somewhat gave up on trying ot find one.

[NicoleScott]

NO we just get dirty quicker :heehee:

Define "dirty"

[Suzette Muguet de Mai]

Single and proud of it. I had a beautiful lady once, a true lady. Study, no money and a high desire to achieve over ruled my brain and I lost her. I have searched for someone like her only to find disappointment. Now I am still single and love it. The only people who have issues with me being single are those who are jealous of my freedom. They can question but I do not have time to answer.

[jasmine57]

I'm single and love being that way. I'm not single because of crossdressing but I've certainly been able to explore it more fully since becoming single. And being totally honest I may be staying single because I don't want to live the lie anymore. If I found a fully accepting woman or man that may change but for right now I'm just happy being me the way I am.

[Cari]

This ? interests me

I think I destroy relationships by looking for every reason its wrong so I dont have to take that step of actually opening up and explaining that I am a crossdressser.

[LisaTaylor]

I'm single. but not because of CDing. The ex-wife and girlfriends all knew about it and had varying degrees of acceptance - everything from "don't ask/don't tell" to "let's go to the beach and check out the guys". I've been single for three years now, and realized that I prefer it this way. I don't have to worry about acceptance, I can do what I want when I want, and I don't have to cater to someone's fragile ego or put up with their bulls**t. No more tip-toeing around, worrying about saying the wrong thing at the wrong time. I enjoy time with my friends, but ultimately have come to realize that I'm one of those people who is happiest when by themselves.

[Carly D]

SINGLE BECAUSE I CROSS DRESS: Sounds like a good excuse to me.. Truth is if I could find a woman like Carly... YIKES what am I saying here???

[julie w]

was married for 20years hated it three great grown up kids though , been with my SO 10 years she knows about my CD ing but we have two apartments in the same building works great Im neat she is messy I like to dress she does'nt like to see me dressed perfect

[Sharon B.]

I have been single for the last 18-years, have been in a long term relationship a few years after my divorce because of my cross-dressing. For the last five years since the relationship ended I have remain friends with the woman but there still isn't nothing romantic about it. As a few of them have said it can be nice to dress whenever I need to and purchase whatever I desire. Every once in a while I think about finding a woman but then once I think about my number one hobby I know it wouldn't work.
I guess my alter ego is the woman of my dreams, at least she like to dress up hose, heels and a dress, something a natural woman doesn't wear these days.

[Shelby]

I am single and hate it. Granted I like living life by my terms and doing what I want when I want, but I would give that all up to be married and have kids. Of course the cding makes the whole dream somewhat challenging. I went out on a few dates with this girl and after 3 of them I told her about Shelby and she was so excepting. She has gone shopping with me and even giving me a few things that didn't fit her. She looks forward to seeing Shelby again. Sometimes I think she likes Shelby more then me. Despite her exceptance, she felt there wasn't the right "chemistry" (I hate that word) so we stopped dating. I have been trying to meet women, but I find it so hard. I mainly stick to Online dating since I lack the courage to ask someone out in person. Plus I seem to not meet in person anyone at all. I have made a decision that before any relationship goes to far, I will tell her. I will not lie or conceal the truth even at the risk of losing her. At least I can tell her that I have no other secrets from her. No if I could only find her. Sometimes, I feel like women have this source of info, like what the FBI or Interpol use to determine if they should respond back to me. I do believe that women are just as judgemental of guys as guys have been acused of forever. Recent news articles stated that Women are less interested in getting married then Men. There are women who are more interested in having children yet remaining single because they just can't find the right guy. Yet men are standing there asking WTF is a right guy and what is wrong with me? What I have found imho is that women aren't interested in getting to know a guy but are hung up on our height, body size, income level and education and even what we drive. I know what that sounds like and of course there are women who would say that that is total BS and of course there are guys who look for dumb, easy women with certain physical attributes. I am always described as a "Nice Guy," and often read profiles stating that they are looking for "Nice Guy" yet they never respond back to me. I have never seen a woman run away from me in horror and I have an easier time making friends with women then with men. I'm ranting, but to sum it up. I am not single because I crossdress, I think I crossdress because I am single.