Frédérique
11-28-2010, 08:47 AM
In the minds of many people, outside of our community, MtF crossdressing is an irrational activity. Why on Earth would a male want to dress as a female? Has he lost his mind? Has he lost his rationality? How can crossdressing and effeminate behavior be seen as a reasonable thing for a male to engage in? It makes no sense, unless (of course) you’re actually doing it, but how does one explain the rationale behind the dressing? Do you ever think about these things? You must…
I would suggest that “reason” is a term worthy of discussion, open to interpretation by anyone who walks (or avoids) a pre-determined or pre-aligned path. Someone who follows the dictates of sound reason would, I feel, have a lot of problems with the urge to dress, and yet NOT to dress, when prompted by desire, would be completely irrational. Something inside has to express itself, since it is part of who you are – why suppress these natural urges? Looking around, I can see a lot of irrational behavior that is accepted as normal and reasonable, while we are not allowed to enjoy our own personal, inherent dictates. BTW, reasonable means “not foolish.” Let’s check out this word rationality via Wiki…
“A rational decision is one that is not just reasoned, but in some way optimal, given the available information, in terms of achieving a goal, and individuals or organizations are called rational if they take rational decisions in pursuit of their goals. Thus one speaks, for example, of a rational allocation of resources, or of a rational corporate strategy. In this concept of "rationality", the individual's goals or motives are taken for granted and not made subject to criticism, ethical or otherwise. Thus, rationality simply refers to the success of goal attainment, whatever those goals may be. Sometimes, in this context, rationality is equated with behavior that is self-interested to the point of being selfish. Sometimes rationality implies having complete knowledge about all the details of a given situation.”
Sounds good so far. We are interested in goal attainment, correct? We seek to step out of our male personas and put on something a little more…comfortable…and thus feminine, for whatever reason. The goal is to be happy, and to many outsiders this pursuit of happiness is selfish in the extreme – do they, or can they, understand our reality, or our rationality? I think not. We have knowledge of ALL the details of our given situation(s), and we are still discussing these details endlessly, on this site, according to our purpose as outlined above. But, it all gets rather muddy when morality is folded into our little soufflé of reason:
“…a good rationale must be independent of emotions, personal feelings or any kind of instincts. Any process of evaluation or analysis, that may be called rational, is expected to be highly objective, logical and "mechanical". If these minimum requirements are not satisfied i.e. if a person has been, even slightly, influenced by personal emotions, feelings, instincts or culturally specific, moral codes and norms, then the analysis may be termed irrational, due to the injection of subjective bias.”
Translation: you are allowed to be yourself, but there are rules you have to follow, and MtF crossdressing just doesn’t fit into any accepted societal context. According to those who shape and maintain moral conduct, it is an unreasonable “activity” (or whatever one wishes to call it). Turn away from “culturally specific moral codes” and you will be paired with irrationality, my friend. Tell me:
Is crossdressing irrational, meaning inconsistent with the dictates of sound reason? Is it unreasonable to wish to be happy? Seems like a reasonable goal to me, and highly rational at that. Aren’t we supposed to pursue happiness?
Is crossdressing foolish? Does our urge to dress imply perversion, or a weak (or fatuous) mind? I insist it takes concentrated effort and a strong, healthy mind to crossdress, and complacency is certainly not an issue…
Is crossdressing absurd? Are we automatically opposed to perceived notions of propriety and truth? What about our own self-evident truths, and our own idea of what “correct” is supposed to be? Also, how can conformity be a good thing, since individuality often gets crushed? You must “come out” in some way – you can’t avoid yourself…
Is crossdressing preposterous? Are we inverting the order of things with our appearance and adopted feminine characteristics? I submit we are not, but, as an inveterate crossdresser, I think a lot of the problem with being accepted in society has to do with the accepted CD presentations in the media. It must be ridiculous, because you’re joking, right? You can’t be serious! Guess what – I am serious, not preposterous. I may be an inversion of someone’s idea of gender, but that’s no reason to laugh at me. I’m trying to pass, not fail…
Is crossdressing ludicrous? Huh? Is it idiotic? No, unless you’ve started off dressing as a joke, looking for the nearest exit back to your idea of reality. Is it unthinkable? Obviously not, since we are all here thinking about our own crossdressing, meaning how to do it, when to do it, where to do it and why we do it. And yet others are wondering why we do it, too. What gives? Strong emotions are involved, of course, but I think we are just doing what comes naturally – it can’t be stopped and shouldn’t be stopped, for to do so is tantamount to killing ones’ reason (or rationale) for living. Is it irrational to be happy? Is it rational to be unhappy? The capture of happiness is a thoughtful, reasonable activity, and I dress to be happy, period…
Since few people understand the reasoning behind crossdressing, and they assume it stems from a lack of reason on our part, we need to develop our own rationality and carry on unhindered. We have found this curious oasis where the genders merge and co-exist in bliss – what could feel more right, at least in terms of contentment and peace? I dress to exist as one being, together, a complete (and happy) expression of my psyche. To this end, I insist that crossdressing is rational, and welcome to my own rationality – please tell me about yours…
:whew!:
I would suggest that “reason” is a term worthy of discussion, open to interpretation by anyone who walks (or avoids) a pre-determined or pre-aligned path. Someone who follows the dictates of sound reason would, I feel, have a lot of problems with the urge to dress, and yet NOT to dress, when prompted by desire, would be completely irrational. Something inside has to express itself, since it is part of who you are – why suppress these natural urges? Looking around, I can see a lot of irrational behavior that is accepted as normal and reasonable, while we are not allowed to enjoy our own personal, inherent dictates. BTW, reasonable means “not foolish.” Let’s check out this word rationality via Wiki…
“A rational decision is one that is not just reasoned, but in some way optimal, given the available information, in terms of achieving a goal, and individuals or organizations are called rational if they take rational decisions in pursuit of their goals. Thus one speaks, for example, of a rational allocation of resources, or of a rational corporate strategy. In this concept of "rationality", the individual's goals or motives are taken for granted and not made subject to criticism, ethical or otherwise. Thus, rationality simply refers to the success of goal attainment, whatever those goals may be. Sometimes, in this context, rationality is equated with behavior that is self-interested to the point of being selfish. Sometimes rationality implies having complete knowledge about all the details of a given situation.”
Sounds good so far. We are interested in goal attainment, correct? We seek to step out of our male personas and put on something a little more…comfortable…and thus feminine, for whatever reason. The goal is to be happy, and to many outsiders this pursuit of happiness is selfish in the extreme – do they, or can they, understand our reality, or our rationality? I think not. We have knowledge of ALL the details of our given situation(s), and we are still discussing these details endlessly, on this site, according to our purpose as outlined above. But, it all gets rather muddy when morality is folded into our little soufflé of reason:
“…a good rationale must be independent of emotions, personal feelings or any kind of instincts. Any process of evaluation or analysis, that may be called rational, is expected to be highly objective, logical and "mechanical". If these minimum requirements are not satisfied i.e. if a person has been, even slightly, influenced by personal emotions, feelings, instincts or culturally specific, moral codes and norms, then the analysis may be termed irrational, due to the injection of subjective bias.”
Translation: you are allowed to be yourself, but there are rules you have to follow, and MtF crossdressing just doesn’t fit into any accepted societal context. According to those who shape and maintain moral conduct, it is an unreasonable “activity” (or whatever one wishes to call it). Turn away from “culturally specific moral codes” and you will be paired with irrationality, my friend. Tell me:
Is crossdressing irrational, meaning inconsistent with the dictates of sound reason? Is it unreasonable to wish to be happy? Seems like a reasonable goal to me, and highly rational at that. Aren’t we supposed to pursue happiness?
Is crossdressing foolish? Does our urge to dress imply perversion, or a weak (or fatuous) mind? I insist it takes concentrated effort and a strong, healthy mind to crossdress, and complacency is certainly not an issue…
Is crossdressing absurd? Are we automatically opposed to perceived notions of propriety and truth? What about our own self-evident truths, and our own idea of what “correct” is supposed to be? Also, how can conformity be a good thing, since individuality often gets crushed? You must “come out” in some way – you can’t avoid yourself…
Is crossdressing preposterous? Are we inverting the order of things with our appearance and adopted feminine characteristics? I submit we are not, but, as an inveterate crossdresser, I think a lot of the problem with being accepted in society has to do with the accepted CD presentations in the media. It must be ridiculous, because you’re joking, right? You can’t be serious! Guess what – I am serious, not preposterous. I may be an inversion of someone’s idea of gender, but that’s no reason to laugh at me. I’m trying to pass, not fail…
Is crossdressing ludicrous? Huh? Is it idiotic? No, unless you’ve started off dressing as a joke, looking for the nearest exit back to your idea of reality. Is it unthinkable? Obviously not, since we are all here thinking about our own crossdressing, meaning how to do it, when to do it, where to do it and why we do it. And yet others are wondering why we do it, too. What gives? Strong emotions are involved, of course, but I think we are just doing what comes naturally – it can’t be stopped and shouldn’t be stopped, for to do so is tantamount to killing ones’ reason (or rationale) for living. Is it irrational to be happy? Is it rational to be unhappy? The capture of happiness is a thoughtful, reasonable activity, and I dress to be happy, period…
Since few people understand the reasoning behind crossdressing, and they assume it stems from a lack of reason on our part, we need to develop our own rationality and carry on unhindered. We have found this curious oasis where the genders merge and co-exist in bliss – what could feel more right, at least in terms of contentment and peace? I dress to exist as one being, together, a complete (and happy) expression of my psyche. To this end, I insist that crossdressing is rational, and welcome to my own rationality – please tell me about yours…
:whew!: