Why we Dress

[christine55]

I wonder if one of the reasons we dress is because we had sexual urges at a younger age than other children. I know that I had definatly sexual feelings about girls and what they wore as early as 3 or 4 years old. I have been told by a shrink that it is impossible to have sexual feelings at such a young age.
At 3 or 4 years old we are unaware of any physical difference. The only difference we were aware of was the pretty clothes that the girls got to wear, becoming imprinted in our minds as an object of desire. I beleive this is one of many reasons I am a crossdresser.
Hugs, Christine
I just got this lovely blouse last night.
http://myweb.cableone.net/rjoh2/newredtop.jpg

[ChristineRenee]

I'm not sure why we dress Christine...but I know I sure like that blouse honey! Very pretty I must say...and you look fab in it!;)

[Jodie_Lynn]

I'm not sure of ALL the reasons I dress, but I definately know what one of them are:

To step out of my masculine role, and surrender the sense of responsibilty as breadwinner, Mr repairman, Strong & Stoic defender of hearth & Home.

Even if its only for a few hours I can be soft, and vulnerable, and emotional.

Please, please note that I'm not saying GG's are defenseless or inferior to males. I know they aren't, but the ability to shed the 'expected' behavior of a man, is like a vacation for me.

[Lisa Maren]

I identify with you, Jodie-Lynn.

I definitlely like taking a break from feeling like I have to be the one to make romantic moves, be the fearless one, having to worry about showing my emotions or offering physical affection to others (even hugging my brothers is something I do, but I'm not 100% comfortable with it -- at least en drab -- they don't know about the en femme part lol).

Anyway, that's a definite part of why I do it. However, in my case, I think that comes from being mostly feminine inside. Many times I wish I was a girl.

Hugs,
Lisa

[christine55]

Men have to act strong and in control to be successful in life. It is indeed a relief to be a girl for a while and not have to be someone we are not. I find myself so much preferring my female side. As I cultivate the girl inside do I become her?
Hugs, Christine

[MarinaTwelve200]

We dress for different reasons----Some to temporally escape From our "real" selves---to de stress etc. Others to escape TO a fem self they consider their "real' self, and others for fetish or SM reasons.---All these types Cross dress and several more, so asking why a Cross Dresser does so is not a simple question there is not one answer.

[IRIA]

I guess, I dress to really express the thoughts I hold in my heart. It just feels good when I do.

[emmicd]

Very pretty blouse!

I crossdress because I love the clothes!

I also am very attracted to women and have always been.

I remember my first crush on a girl was in kindergarten!

I still can't resist looking at a beautiful woman!

Emmi

[Tristen Cox]

At five years old I didn't even know what sex was yet, but I knew jewelry was pretty:)

[MsEva]

For me, it is who I identify with. I guess my best friends growing up were female. My wife is and has been my best friend since Freshman year of college. It started I guess with the sexual excitement of dressing at first, but I guess I have matured to appreciate the finer things of being fem. Love the clothes and the fem mindset when dressed. I guess it prevades my male persona too. I don't think anyone would look at me in drab and guess about my crossdressing, but my personality is more maternal that paternal..boy I am going on..sheesh :rolleyes:

[Tiffy]

I think for each of us the reason we dress is different. At 6 I knew I liked clothes more suited for me mother than my father. But who cares, the point is we all do dress. So lets make the best of it. BTW, nice blouse honey :)

Kisses, April

[Kimberly]

I wonder if one of the reasons we dress is because we had sexual urges at a younger age than other children. I know that I had definatly sexual feelings about girls and what they wore as early as 3 or 4 years old. I have been told by a shrink that it is impossible to have sexual feelings at such a young age.
At 3 or 4 years old we are unaware of any physical difference. The only difference we were aware of was the pretty clothes that the girls got to wear, becoming imprinted in our minds as an object of desire. I beleive this is one of many reasons I am a crossdresser.
Hugs, Christine
What's weird is... I think this makes some sense!!

I remember having sexual desires, though they were unguided and I remember a physical desire "popping up," but I remember desires! Not as young as you... say, 8 or 9? Something like that. I also remember feeling helpless and chained to things gave me some sexual thrill (though small) around my early teens.

I don't think it has something to do with CDing, I just know that the want to dress merged with my sexual desires to make me a tranvestite for a major part of my teens, and is still a part of my dressing, in some degree.

xx

[GypsyKaren]

I guess the reason I dress is so I can be the real me. I know that being yourself is an inner feeling, but the visualization of seeing myself as Karen helps bring it home. It's kind of re-assuring, since I have to spend so much of my time trying to be a man to the world.

I also find it to be quite relaxing and a stress reducer, so I do it to take a break and re-energize. It's the best therapy I've ever found. The time I take to dress and do my make-up is my time, and I can tune out everything and enjoy myself.

GypsyKaren

[LaceLuvr]

i beleive the reasons for dressing are as varied as we are individually but here's one reason I read once that i think might have some merit too it for some people.

One reason as stated by some "experts" :lol: (yeah right) is that some individual males come to dress as they get older as a way of compensation... been a while since I read this article but it was explained kind of like this....

some of us truly love seeing women dressed very feminine.. such as stockings, lingerie, skirts, dresses, heels, with sexy nails etc... you know what i'm talking about i'm sure... and as times change a lot of women no longer dress this way or keep their hair long etc... so the article suggested that some dress as a way of compensating for the way they love to see women dressed but do not see as much as you once might have so they dress this way themselves....

it's all kind of jumbled up but if you could read the original article to me I think it actually made a lot of sense in some ways. now granted i don't think this is in any way the reason for the majority of CD'ers but maybe for some and it's "food for thought" i suppose. but anyway back to the threads

[Khriss]

honestly..... I could'nt help myself.....!?

[JocelynG]

Very interesting theory Christine. I didn't get a sexual urge until I was 12 years old. I did like a girl when I was younger and something arroused me while dressing from the ages of 7-9. I dress because that is who I am and deep down I am a woman who wants to look and feel pretty :)

[Marlena Dahlstrom]

The reasons are undoubtedly different for each person, but I wonder if those who start CDing earlier (5-6 vs. 10-12) do so in part because there's no "janegirl" role that boys can play. I don't know if it's universally true, but it seems like for a lot of those who start earlier that attraction was the "pretty things" that girls could wear but they couldn't. So they end up fixating on what's being repressed.

[Billie Jean]

I might have started for the sexual reasons, but then at 13 anything to do with a girl was sexual. But now I dress and never think of it that way. It just feels like the thing to do at the time I dress up. Btw I love the pic you look great.

[windycissy]

I was a late bloomer with girls, although I made up for lost time...dressing gave me my first orgasm, and at first it was totally sexual. Now my dressing is more of an escape and release from the pressures of my real life,but it still turns me on. Ask Windy (http://snurl.com/askwindy)

[Angela Burke]

Christine,
Your lovely pics. show such warmth.
I can't give you a real hug via e-mail,
So here's the closest.

A big hug!

Love Angela XX

[Marla]

I have spent countless hours planning my next dress-up sessions. It has become a very exiting hobby. The collecting of everything I need to really look good takes a lot of time (and sometimes nerve). I would rather do this than spend my money on playing golf or some other agravating activity.
Just learning what make-up is the best has taken years of research(Elizabeth Arden by the way) and experimentation. Thank God for such a wonderful hobby!

[TGMarla]

I dress for a myriad of reasons. I guess there isn't any one reason. But here are the ones I can positively identify:

1: I enjoy being feminine. I like physically "being" a woman. I like having breasts and imagining that I am anatomically female.

2: I love wearing dresses. I like hosiery, jewelry, feminine lacy things, high heels, long hair, makeup, etc. Wearing dresses makes me feel wonderful.

3: I love the different options that women have when it comes to getting all dressed up. Men simply cannot wear dresses and skirts, high heels, jewelry, and makeup. In a way, it's like indulging in forbidden fruit. And the color and fabric options are limitless.

I am sure that if you ask ten girls why they dress, you may well end up with ten different answers. These are some of mine.