Getting a new name but dropping the old one.

[Nicole Erin]

Alright so, I have noticed this with a lot of married or divorced women.
Their married name somehow becomes part of the maiden name.
Maybe like Janet Stevenson Thompson. (ficticious name here)

Now with us TS getting name changes, how does this affect us?

Will just our old last name plague our new name or our entire old name will plague our new name? BTW my name is completely changed, all 3 parts.

See at school, they are saying my old name will somehow be attached to my new one. The old last name I could live with but the old first name needs to vanish.

As some of us TS women know, as soon as people learn our old male names, they want to use that, no matter how many times we explain this. Sometimes out of intentional spite and other times they seem to "forget", even tho they have been reminded for the past 6 months.

I have heard from many a TS about the nightmare of getting it changed but never paid much attention cause I never really thought serious about this until recently. And yes, it is done.

Is there like no escaping our male identities?

[Hope]

There is no escaping your past. You can run, hide, and go deep stealth and back into the closet - but that will simply be living in fear that someone will someday learn your horrible little secret. That is no way to live.

With people who knew you before you used your new name, you should expect a transition period for them, and after that period you should expect that they will still occasionally - though infrequently - have honest slip-ups. To error is human. IF however you have reason to believe that the slip-ups are malicious or if someone who never knew you by your old name starts using it, you should strait up call them on it, and if the BS doesn't stop, you should feel free to cut them out of your life the way you would cut out anyone who intentionally hurts you.

You can't escape your past - but you don't have to put up with garbage from it either.

[Karen564]

I keep my last name because I'm proud of it....And at school, everyone either calls me by either my middle or 1st name, because that's all they ever knew since I started school over a year ago..

You'll escape being called by your old name more once you distance yourself from them that knew it. either that, just keep correcting them to use only your new name.

[Faith_G]

When you get your name changed through the courts, it is whatever you want it to be. If you want to change it from "James Robert Smith" to "Virginia Felicity Rothschild" that is your right. You can change all of it or leave your last name intact, it's your choice. And if your school won't change it at that point, they are violating a court order.

[Rianna Humble]

In your school records they will probably have to attach your old name to your new one for the purpose of continuity, but access to your old name should be severely restricted.

When I began planning my transition at work, my manager pointed out that this would have to be done in order to calculate entitlements and also to check things like sick leave which are monitored on a rolling 12 month basis. I was, however, assured that the name would only be used for this purpose and would be kept locked in a safe and not accessible to just anyone.

If a potential employer wants to know about your schiool record, they should be given all of it under your new name with no mention of the old one, but to do that, the school has to know that the records under your previous male name apply to you.

[Nicole Erin]

They are seeming pretty weird so far. So far with all this the main answer I get is, "I don't know how that works".
I mean OK if they have to keep my old name attched for THEIR records, Ok I can live with that but what I don't need is for them to have my old male name plastered on everything I take out of school.

Specifically - while I am mostly finished with school, I still have to take a state board test for my cosmetology license. I don't need my license to be plagued with my new AND old first name. If everyone is still calling me *John at work or if this process impedes my ability to even FIND a job, it defeats the purpose of living full time as a woman and changing my name to reflect my new gender.
I am wondering if I will need to contact some kind of legal/civil org or something.

As I said and as we all know - people LOVE to "out" us TS women. Funny how I got into cosmetology thinking this would be the ideal route for a TS woman to face the least discrimination and problems yet here it is, them seeming to want to make sure everyone knows my old name. the old last one I can liove with but NOT the first.

* BTW John was not my male name.

[Karen564]

I'm confused....
So you showed them your new Drivers License & Social Security card to do change your name on school records & they still refuse to use your new legal name in it's entirety?
Sounds like you may have to bring them to court.
By them taking it on their own to use parts of your new & old name together sounds illegal to me because that is Not your legal name, but then again, I'm no expert on the law...