Help for a beginner

[openheaven]

Hello there!

I've been cross-dressing since I'm 12 years old and I've always loved it. I can't resist the urge to put on women's(my mom's) clothing and just looking at myself. Recently, I meet this girl and we've been going out for a year now. I have one serious problem. Since I've never talked about cross-dressing with anyone before, I don't know if I'm the only one to act the way I do: everytime I'm having sex with her, I ony think about myself wearing women's clothes and that's what excites me, nothing else. Please help me with this, I really need to know what's going on! Thanks!! -xxx-

[Priscilla1018]

Hello there!

I've been cross-dressing since I'm 12 years old and I've always loved it. I can't resist the urge to put on women's(my mom's) clothing and just looking at myself. Recently, I meet this girl and we've been going out for a year now. I have one serious problem. Since I've never talked about cross-dressing with anyone before, I don't know if I'm the only one to act the way I do: everytime I'm having sex with her, I ony think about myself wearing women's clothes and that's what excites me, nothing else. Please help me with this, I really need to know what's going on! Thanks!! -xxx-

Hi,

First of all welcome to our family.You are not the only one to feel like this;I went through the same thing when I was much younger.The release is very satisfying when dressed,most of us started that way.Now the urge is mostly gone.I have been crossdressing for 48 years there is nothing wrong with you,joining here was a great first step in understanding yourself.Read some of the threads,ask questions you will learn so much and can find answers to all of your questions.We do have many younger members that might be a great resource for you.THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU.

[openheaven]

Thanks for responding! I just thought that I was some freak or something, all this talking about it feels real good!

[ladyfydiana]

Hi,

First of all welcome to our family.You are not the only one to feel like this;I went through the same thing when I was much younger.The masturbation is very satisfying when dressed,most of us started that way.Now the urge is mostly gone.I have been crossdressing for 48 years there is nothing wrong with you,joining here was a great first step in understanding yourself.Read some of the threads,ask questions you will learn so much and can find answers to all of your questions.We do have many younger members that might be a great resource for you.THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU.Priscilla I was just asking this myself earlier.I enjoy wearing make up and womens clothing but for alot of reasons.I still want and do masturbate after 7 or 8 hrs being myself.
I have been crossdressing for a while ,close to 30 years also but it was only for a weekend to 4 days.But I enjoy getting dressed and using makeup.I enjoy buying my clothes and cosmetics.I enjoy being (as close gentics will allow) a female and will do all the normal things female.
But I still consider myself a crossdresser that enjoys being a women.

[Stlalice]

As Priscilla said - welcome - there is nothng whatsoever wrong with you - It doesn't matter wether you are "just a crossdresser" or "transgender" or "transsexual" or whatever. Read the threads - ask questions - learn about yourself and what you are comfortable with. If you can, I would recomend that you read "True Selves" by Brown and Rounsley. While it is written primarily for the transsexual it does an excellent job of defining terms and may well help you figure out what and who YOU are. :D

[robyn1114]

Yes this is pretty normal. I find I need the fem feelings even more as I get older to perform sexually

[Phoebe Reece]

It certainly is "normal" for the folks on this forum anyway. Seriously, you're not crazy or some kind of freak. You just may need to explore this side of yourself a bit more. You will find that as the years go by, the relationship between a desire to crossdress and sexual desire will change. That too is "normal".