Do you feel guilty and depressed after a crossdressing session?

[seanmuscle]

So when you crossdress it gives you emotional or sexual satisfaction but after its over do you feel guilty or depressed?

[Sophie86]

No. I just feel like I can't wait to do it again.

[Rianna Humble]

In the last few months before I went full time, I felt severely depressed and physically nauseous every time I had to go back to dressing as a man.

[AllieSF]

I never feel guilty and only feel a bit saddened that the wonderful moments that I was experiencing while dressed and out have to come to an end until next time.

[JenniferB]

I guess it depends on WHY you CD, but I think a lot of younger CD's can indentify with this. After you dress, and if you experience, umm...sexual satisfaction, many of us can't get the clothes off fast enough. Then follows the shame, guilt, depression, etc.
I think after a certain age, you start to grow out of this, and just enjoy being able to embrace your femininity, at least that's how it was for me.

[VanessaVW]

No. I just feel like I can't wait to do it again.

Same here. I wish I could stay like this..... sadly I can't.

[Roberta Marie]

Not any more, but there was a time when I would go through that cycle again and again. Then I came to understand that there is nothing wrong with crossdressing, nothing wrong with me because I crossdfress. I came out to my wife and have recieved her grace and forgiveness for decieveing her.

Now, I don't really have "crossdressing sessions". I am at least partially dressed all of the time, I can't remember when I wore men's underwear, and Christmas Eve, when I put on a suit to wear to church, was the first time that I've worn guy trousers in years. Instead, I tend to move between a more masculine presentation and a more femine presentation, occaisionaly presenting entirely as feminine, but rarely entirely masculine.

Once you come to the realization that it's OK to be transgendered, there's little reason for guilt or shame.

Grace,
Bobbi

[herwannabe]

No way!!!!!

[Pinky188]

No! Why would I???? Thats weird!

[Tina B.]

No,never, not anymore, when I was young I thought sex and cross dressing where connected, and it was all about self pleasure, then I had guilt that could last for days. But once I realized I wanted to dress whither I masturbated or not, I found myself dressing for longer periods and enjoying it more, besides other guys are using playboy or porn or what ever for the same reason, so whats to feel so guilty about. Not everyone has a partner, and have sex when ever they want, the rest make do, no big deal.We number in the hundreds of thousands, if not millions world wide, so we are not that strange, so forget the guilt trip, don't wait till your old to figure it out. Out or in the closet, there is no reason for shame of guilt, if the clothes are yours, you have done nothing wrong.
Tina B,

[Karinsamatha]

No, not anymore. Like other people have indicated I did feel guilty and ashamed. Now I feel nauseous when I have to dress as something I know I am not.

[charlie]

My depression happens because it is over and I have to go back in drab and being a man.

[BRANDYJ]

I guess it depends on WHY you CD, but I think a lot of younger CD's can indentify with this. After you dress, and if you experience, umm...sexual satisfaction, many of us can't get the clothes off fast enough. Then follows the shame, guilt, depression, etc.
I think after a certain age, you start to grow out of this, and just enjoy being able to embrace your femininity, at least that's how it was for me.

JenniferB hit the nail on the head. I bet many of us felt that way when in our early years crossdressed and self pleasured ourselves. Especially those of us that thought we were the only boy in the world that would put on girly clothes. I remember the guilt, the shame, and even worried that there must be something wrong with me. I was around 11 at the time. That all went away once I hit my early twenties and discovered that I was far from all alone in my desires.

[Blake Lively]

I don't feel guilty, as I enjoy wearing womens shoes. Like some have said before I can't wait to do it again. Can't get emough of high heels!

blake

[Kate Lynn]

I don't get anything out of dressing anymore,I mean absolutely nothing,it just seems to be normal for me to wear womens clothes,yet I no longer make any attempt to make myself passable in any way,the only makeup I wear is mascara.
My preference of dress is womens low rise jeans,bootcut and skinny jeans.
I do wear heels,and flats,and have several pairs of wedge sole ankle boots I wear,but I never go in public wearing a dress or skirt.

One thing I never do is feel guilt for anything I do,or have done,well I do feel some guilt over one small thing,when I was in Viet Nam,I might have missed a few and they may have gotten away.

But guilt over dressing sessions,never.

[sissystephanie]

If I felt guilty or depressed after crossdressing, I would stop doing it! Then I would go to a doctor to find out what was wrong with me! Except for wearing a wig or doing makeup, I dress enfemme almost every day. Some days it is for all day, other times just for part of the day.

[Samantha43]

I guess it depends on WHY you CD, but I think a lot of younger CD's can indentify with this. After you dress, and if you experience, umm...sexual satisfaction, many of us can't get the clothes off fast enough. Then follows the shame, guilt, depression, etc.
I think after a certain age, you start to grow out of this, and just enjoy being able to embrace your femininity, at least that's how it was for me.

Jennier has this exactly right. As I have grown older I have embraced my femininity and crossdressing. It's who I am. I don't feel guilty, I have no regrets and I don't feel depressed. I just look forward to, and start planning my next crossdressing day.

[Kendra (Tx)]

Since I'm not full time, The only time I feel "depressed" is when I have to go back to being my "ugly twin brother" afterward...His clothes are so ugly, dull, scratchy...and he doesn't get as much attention from the opposite sex as I do....:o Yes...In a perfect world...I'd much rather stay Kendra and avoid the depression...:daydreaming:

http://kendra954.com

[Chiana]

Sometimes I feel a little depressed when I have to go back to drab mode. I know it was a long time ago, but I don't ever remember being depressed because of my desire to dress when I was young, either.

[monika]

I guess it depends on WHY you CD, but I think a lot of younger CD's can indentify with this. After you dress, and if you experience, umm...sexual satisfaction, many of us can't get the clothes off fast enough. Then follows the shame, guilt, depression, etc.
I think after a certain age, you start to grow out of this, and just enjoy being able to embrace your femininity, at least that's how it was for me.

This is just the way it was for me too.
Now I am much more relaxed and the guilt is gone.
It is just a fun little hobby that does not hurt anyone:)

[Sophie86]

I guess it depends on WHY you CD, but I think a lot of younger CD's can indentify with this. After you dress, and if you experience, umm...sexual satisfaction, many of us can't get the clothes off fast enough. Then follows the shame, guilt, depression, etc.
I think after a certain age, you start to grow out of this, and just enjoy being able to embrace your femininity, at least that's how it was for me.

Yes, I went through that when I was younger. To be clear, though, it wasn't the "sexual satisfaction" that made me feel guilty, it was the dressing itself and the feeling that I had no control over the dressing. Back then it was like a compulsion. I would tell myself I wasn't going to do it, but then I would do it anyway. Part of me thought it was wrong, and part of me thought it was delish. The latter always seemed to win. The part that thought it was wrong never really had any convincing arguments, and let's face it, it takes a very strong argument to trump "omg, that feels amazing!" When I finally realized that there wasn't a good reason not to dress, and just accepted whatever it implied about who I am, the compulsive nature of my crossdressing evaporated, and so did the guilt. Meanwhile, the sexual satisfaction while dressed still happens on lucky occasions, and it doesn't cause me a bit of angst.

[Avana]

the only time i felt guilty was when i was young and living at home, embedded in an environment full of conformity and conservatism. it was not that what i thought i was doing was wrong in itself, but i just felt that it would betray my family.

i also felt guilty because when i was young i definitely 'borrowed' some clothes from girls i went to school with, in secret... which i ought to feel guilty for :p

but in later years, and now, definitely never feel depressed or guilty. I feel mostly completely elated, flowing, and radiant when dressed, and in general, i feel totally excited about the future, and to see where it will take me as i listen to my inner voice.

[Nicole Erin]

Folks, it is clothing.
Why feel bad about wearing clothes?

[Cari]

Jennifer really said that well; Your not alone on this one and time does "heal" it.

Allot of my guilt was from raiding closets and just knowing this wasnt accepted. For me having my own clothes and a safe place to dress made a huge difference.

I think part of it was also not knowing what the future held or how alone I was; I just knew I was different meeting others helped allot here.
This forum is the right place for your question.

I did hide my playboys as well. Come to think of it I wasted allot of time as a teenager :-)

[Theresa1955]

I do not feel either guilty or depressed. I just look forward to the next time I can dress and possibly expand on my wardrobe or further experiment with makeup. I just enjoy myself as much as I can.

[Miranda09]

Nope...no guilt or depression. Like any other hobby, I put it away and look forward to the next session (which has been pretty often lately!!!) :)

[Stephanie Michelle]

I don't feel guilty for what I do. Although I am dating someone that is getting serious and we spend a lot of time together at her place. When I get home to do chores and dress instead I get mad at myself for not taking care what needs to be done around the house.

[Pythos]

No guilt...but definitely a tad bit of depression as I remove the last item of my outfit (usually hose), and get into jeans. This is usually before having to go to my aviation or mom related things. LOL.

Those two things I can't even wear leggings let alone skirt and hose.

[ninapuella]

I feel guilt and depressed after if i lose my control over it. Earlier i tended to lose my selfcontrol about everything else when i dressed because i didnt dress as a natural part of my life. But as long as I keep a good balance between my both sides it just feels perfect. I think the best is to make it a natural part of life and not let it out as frustration. I have a "special day" every week now and that makes me relax a lot about the whole thing. The frustration is gone because i dont have to think about it anymore.

[Loni]

why would i feel guilty or depressed for dressing?

i am just being....me, and loving it.

now some of my shopping trips can be a bit depressing. mostly for my wallet.

.

[Michaella]

Yes. Guilt, because my spouse does not approve, and I don't want to create a problem, and because I know it takes up too much time, energy, attention, and money. And depressed because I like it so much, and know I cannot do it often enough.

Michaella

[Caprica]

I can't recall feeling that bad right after being dressed as a girl. In fact it is mostly quite the opposite.

Unfortunately I have to admit feeling sometimes a little bit depressed about spending too much time thinking about everything connected with crossdressing.
Another thing is the guilt that I sometimes borrow girly clothes without asking. But this doesn't bother me that much because when I borrow clothes from male friends I have no problem with doing so.

[suzy1]

No. Why?

[Ria]

I don't feel guilty or depressed so long as I'm not neglecting my other interests or obligations. A good post! Crossdressing is so powerfull, it grabs hold of you and won't let go at times, it can keep you locked up in your basement for hours when you could be doing other things, more productive things, family things.

Surely there is more to life than just sitting around looking at yourself in the mirror. For me it's about enterprise and what we can do with our time while we're alive. Crossdressing can interfere with that to a great degree if left unchecked.

I see many posts stating "I'm just being me, why feel guilty" ...and I agree with this within the context of acceptance of one's self, but for me I fear crossdressing could mess with my potential as a husband, father, artist, contributing person etc. I love CDing, and accept myself fully, no problem there. My guilt kicks in when I blow too much time doing it, it's compelling!

[Debb]

Yes to both.

Guilt: my wife "approves", but not really. She says that she's sorta OK with it, but I know better, so I feel guilty any time I even express a wish to dress up.

Depression: there are many fronts on which I feel depressed, related to cross-dressing. a) I get to do it so seldom; b) I'm not pretty, not at all; c) I'm really not "just" a cross-dresser, but it's all I dare bring up.

[StaceyJane]

No, no guilt at all

[Lainie]

Occasionally I do feel bad about cheating on my wife (with me as the other woman) since she objects so strenuously. And also that this pastime isolates me from friends and family, since I am not out to any of them. I do have some face-to-face acquaintance with other CDs in Houston, but it's very rare, since I have to sneak out.
So basically it's ok, but I regret not having a social life.

[deebra]

Yes I felt the guilt afterwards and sometimes when dressed just as JenniferB and BrandyJ said, but with time you accept and then look forward to the pleasure it brings, I dress somewhat every day and am proud of my acceptance and if someone finds it odd, then maybe they should look at all the cding women, every one accepts them. I would loved to have had a cding friend when all this was happening. We could have been very good for each other.

[Cheryl T]

It's not a sexual thing for me anymore, it's just who I am.
Guilty ---- NEVER...
Depressed --- sometimes, but only because i have to change back to the person the world knows as my male side. I'd prefer that never happen.

[Aprilrain]

To answer the question yes in the past but not anymore. As a GG friend of mine says "the law requires me to wear clothes but they don't say what kind of clothes I have to wear" she doesn't CD she just likes to wear outrageous outfits some times. I think her statement pretty much sums up the whole CDing thing. Now my emotions toward drab attire range from mild annoyance (tee shirt, hoody) to down right despair (suit and tie). The only negative feelings I have toward female attire is when I buy panties that don't keep everything in it's proper place. I really hate that!

[Deanna B]

:hi i love being in my clotles . i fell great and calms . iam unhappy when i am in work clothes but i do wear panties. :battingeyelashes: guilty hell no . are you sure this is for you.
love deanna . :love:

[MichelleP]

No guilt but I do feel depressed when the drab clothes go back on... That one last look in the mirror before the make up and the wig come off. The end of some wonderful outing... sigh.

[BiancaEstrella]

No guilt, and a brief sadness when I have to switch back to Daniel, but I wouldn't call it depressed.

[Dannigirl]

I used to feel ashamed, not any longer, but sometimes I get very annoyed and irritated for a few hours after I have changed back. Kind of like a withdrawal period I guess.

[suchacutie]

I can't say I've ever had any negative emotions with the possible exception of the loss of a really good set of polished nails :) I do wish there was more Tina time, not just in frequency but also in duration.

tina

[MargaretJ]

I never feel guilty, I generally feel a bit sad when my femme time is over and it all comes off, and on some occasions have gotten on a bit of a downer, if I have had a good time en femme and don't want it to end.

[JohnH]

Clothes are clothes. There are times when I feel like wearing dresses. And then there are times when I feel like wearing conventional men's clothes. So I never feel guilty about wearing femme clothes nor feel depressed when I am wearing men's clothes. If I still wore nail polish on my fingernails I would leave it on even when I'm wearing men's clothes.

The vast majority of time I wear men's underwear since I find men's briefs to be more comfortable to me than panties. I wear undershirts with dresses if the undershirt does not show.

Johanna

[TGMarla]

Do you feel guilty and depressed after a crossdressing session?

Nah.

I used to....but I got over it.

I like it too much to wanna deal with any guilt over it.

[NathalieX66]

No.

I think America has lost it's edge creative-wise. This is a recent development that has occurred post-9/11. this is not the America that I know. We are different than the rest of the world. Let's show it instead of talking about our guns. You want freedom? This is it. I'm, a crossdresser, period. end of story.

[KristaE]

When I was younger I thought I was feeling guilty about the CDing, but looking back now (literally, just now... I'm writing as I've had this epiphany), I think I can honestly say that I've never felt guilty or bad about the CDing. I always felt guilty about the self-gratification that often went with the CDing and now that I'm married, I feel guilty about the deceiving my wife (oh how I wish I could be more open an honest about it with her... but that's another thread). CDing always just felt good, and fulfilling in some way. Of course, the younger mind will confuse feeling good and "feeling good" and so there is a lot of cross-over between the two acts. I'm glad, though, that I've finally realized that there is no reason to feel guilty about putting on clothes that feel good. Men have to tolerate ill-fitting, harsh fabrics and we're expected to "like" it. Sure... I appreciate the ability to wear clothes that don't tear if I'm crawling through a barb-wire fence or straining myself a bit, but there is just something nice and special about wearing something soft, smooth, and sexy.

[dominique]

No I know I'll be dressed the following day. Only I feel depressed if I'm not dresses for a long period of time.

[eluuzion]

Nope, I never feel guilty, depressed or any of that stuff. I love being a psychopathic lunatic :heehee::brolleyes::heehee: (jus' kidd'n)...I hope...

I do not experience any of the drama or inner turmoil many members seem to face. I am single, live alone and I am self-employed. That minimizes my chances of having to deal with many of the challenges other CDs encounter.

I can say that I have never been depressed about anything in my life. I have certainly never been "bored". I have felt guilty a few times, but nothing related to CD. When I am not "happy", I figure out the reason quickly and resolve whatever the issue is that is causing the problem. Then I move on.

I do not continue any activity that causes "turmoil" in my life. I either resolve the crisis, or I discontinue the activity. That applies to CD or anything else in my life. (except paying taxes).:heehee:

:love:

[Derp]

You definitely get that feeling if the thrill of crossdressing is more of a sexual desire rather than a desire of identity.

But as others pointed out you get over it after a while.

[Virgin1A]

Like many (most) who have posted here, I went through a period of deep guilt when I was adolescent. I didn't understand the compulsions that tormented me, thinking that I must be sick. Back then, common treatments for transvestites were electro-convulsive or aversion "therapy". I haven't felt this guilt for a long long time. In fact I revel in my difference. Depression is another matter. As somewhat of a perfectionist, I do get depressed when I admit to myself that I just don't have the raw materials to create the beautiful woman that I want. I guess that's it's something like being infatuated with a super model or movie star whom you know in your heart that you're never going to get it off with. To be honest, like Lainie, I sometimes do feel a bit guilty about cheating on the wife with the "other woman".

[GingerLeigh]

I guess it depends on WHY you CD, but I think a lot of younger CD's can indentify with this. After you dress, and if you experience, umm...sexual satisfaction, many of us can't get the clothes off fast enough. Then follows the shame, guilt, depression, etc.
I think after a certain age, you start to grow out of this, and just enjoy being able to embrace your femininity, at least that's how it was for me.

Uhmmm.... I'll go on a limb here. Older guy here and I can still relate to the "younger" cd's. Like you said, I cannot wait to get the stuff off of me after a period of dressing. Depression no, but guilt maybe a little. Shame? Well I used to but I'm over that now. I dunno, I guess seeing that gurl in a short skirt, thigh highs and heels looking back at me gets me... well... you know. I'm a guy that likes to wear women's clothing sure, but I like women in sexy apparel as well. If I don't see myself in the mirror, there is very little eroticism. What do we all do when we dress anyhow? I always assumed many of us all look at ourselves in the mirror. No?

Ginger

[Loni]

why would i feel guilty?
as for depression, well i have suffered for my life from depression, so that does not apply to me. but since i have been dressing i am in a far and away better state of mind, so it leads me to believe that not dressing is the leading cause of my depression. i do not have to stuff part of my self away and be afraid of it. things for a mind bender to work on there. but by dressing i get to save the cost of going to a headshrinker,(no disrespect ment) and spend the cash on a new out-fit.

Loni