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Sara Jessica
12-28-2010, 08:44 PM
In my travels, I have been blessed to have made some unbelievable friends. Many of these friends have evolved out of my transgendered experiences but most importantly, the "T" starts to matter less and less as friendship takes hold.

The following is a comment I recently received from a wonderful friend. She is a natal woman, on the youngish side (twenty-something). It happens we have travelled very similar educational pathways from middle school on up through college (hum "it's a small world" about now). Anyway, she has been on vacation and I sent her a quick "merry Christmas" message and received the following as part of the reply. Words such as these are truly inspiring and I'm sure they will go far to help keep me on that middle path that I have carved out for myself. It's a path that is far from easy but is no less valid of a place to be.

So inspiring that I thought I'd share.

And one last thing (especially since I'm actually being good with my emails and not waiting to just see you)... please please keep your spirits high. I personally think you are so lucky have so many opportunities to be so many roles not everyone can experience in a life time.. A husband, a father, a mother in ways, a business man, a business woman, a gal, a guy, and a special friend to many as either Sara or as ######. Each role having pros, cons, and lessons only one can learn from experience in that life. Although you may feel torn, I truly think this a blessing that you do it all and try your best at being everything....Your wife seems like quite the lady to set aside her fears to benefit you. You must really have a special family.

Kathi Lake
12-28-2010, 09:53 PM
Oh my gosh!! Yes, yes, yes!!! Your friend is incredibly perceptive.

She nailed it - for me, at least. Do I feel that I am a woman inside? Yes. Mostly. Would I want to be "trapped" in that role. No. Mostly.

And for me, trapped it would be. As I have often said, I get to do so much in my life. I get to experience so many things. By choosing one over the other, I would limit myself, it seems. At least, that's what my brain and heart have agreed on for now. Do I know where I am now? Yes. Do I know where I will be five years from now? Mostly. Ten? Hazier. Twenty? Haven't a clue. Still, knowing me, I'll be happy. Denseness is sometimes its own reward.

:)

Kathi

sissystephanie
12-28-2010, 10:05 PM
Sara, that is one friend you will never want to lose!! Kathi is totally correct! That friend is absolutely incredibly perceptive!! I know that I have femininety inside me, even though I also know that I do not want to BE a woman! I have been a CD for well over 60 years, and always have been and still am very happy with it!!

herwannabe
12-28-2010, 10:32 PM
All I can say is WOW!!

Michelle 51
12-29-2010, 06:34 AM
Thanks for sharing that with us.I think most of us can find incouragement in her words

Gerrijerry
12-29-2010, 06:40 AM
Yes I aggree with the others, makes me feel there are some other people in the world that simple understand and accept on many levels.

morgan51
12-29-2010, 07:11 AM
Nice to know there are people in this world that are so accepting and beautiful souls too! Thanks for sharing . Cherish your friend.

NathalieX66
12-29-2010, 07:20 AM
Sara, that is a great inspriation! I hope to run into friends like that.
You are proof the middle path really is a good place.

SuzanneBender
12-29-2010, 08:33 AM
Hurray for us mid pathers!!!! Thanks to you Sara for sharing your friend's wonderful words. It is so hard being in the middle and words like hers are very very encouraging. It seems we live in a binary world and everyone insists that you are one thing or the other. You are a man or you are a woman. You are a crossdresser or you are a transsexual. There seems to be very little room in the world for us that are in the center. We are women born genetically male. We love our feminine side. It is the center of all that is wonderful within us. However, we also love the lives that we have built and our loved ones that define our lives. As Kathi points out limiting yourself to one or the other just for the sake of "belonging" to a gender is limiting at best. Transition would mean that I would be denying and giving up parts of who I am. I lived my first forty denying the female I don't want to live the second forty denying the male. So for now I will be happy just being me.

Claire Cook
12-29-2010, 09:29 AM
Hurray for us mid pathers!!!! Thanks to you Sara for sharing your friend's wonderful words. It is so hard being in the middle and words like hers are very very encouraging. It seems we live in a binary world and everyone insists that you are one thing or the other. You are a man or you are a woman. You are a crossdresser or you are a transsexual. There seems to be very little room in the world for us that are in the center. We are women born genetically male. We love our feminine side. It is the center of all that is wonderful within us. However, we also love the lives that we have built and our loved ones that define our lives. As Kathi points out limiting yourself to one or the other just for the sake of "belonging" to a gender is limiting at best. Transition would mean that I would be denying and giving up parts of who I am. I lived my first forty denying the female I don't want to live the second forty denying the male. So for now I will be happy just being me.


Sara, thanks so much for sharing your wonderful post and Suzanne, thanks for your comment. It so well expresses just how I feel.

JiveTurkeyOnRye
12-29-2010, 09:47 AM
That is amazing and I feel the same way, I *like* that I walk this middle path.

Salina
12-29-2010, 10:09 AM
What an incredible friend you have, thank you for sharing that!

JamieG
12-29-2010, 12:40 PM
Thank you, from another "middle-pather."

vikki2020
12-30-2010, 12:27 AM
Very nice! I can see why you were so happy to share the message. She is right, it is a blessing!