Where to start

[Jinx]

Ok, it is time I find help. I need to find a therapist. I just can not figgure out what my end goal is. As far back as I can remember I have internally felt female but I have managed to survive in a fairly rough enviroment. I have a life, its tough, but I do have alot to lose by coming out. So I am stuck, I want to make the jump but I am too scared to let go.

Basicly I am wondering if anyone in the Central TX area has anyone they could recomend.

[Melody Moore]

Ok, one step at a time...

What town or city is best for you?

A lot of us have survived a tough life and also have had to face up to losing everything, but the fact is you don't lose everything. Sure you might lose some family and friends, but in the end you gain so much more. Taking a step like this is a leap of faith. But to the surprise of most of us it was one that was really worth it. So just bear this in mind in the meantime.

Hugs :hugs:

[StaceyJane]

I live in Central Texas and see a therapist. It would help if I knew where in Central Texas you live.

[Jinx]

Still a little scared, central tx is an awful large area.

PM me?

[StaceyJane]

I can once you get to 10 posts.
Your right. Cen tex is the size of some states.

[Melody Moore]

Jinx, don't be scared, because you really are amongst friends here OK?

[Frances]

Ok, it is time I find help. I need to find a therapist. I just can not figgure out what my end goal is.

My advice is to not have goal at all, but to do a lot of exploration until you find your truth. I spent almost 10 years on and off in therapy with the goal of NOT transitioning. After a massive depression and almost killing myself, I returned to the gender clinic with an open mind and no end goal. I peeled the onion that was my personality at that point and explored every debilitating fear that I had with a therapist and a group. I eventually transitioned successfully and relatively easily.

[Inna]

Hi Jinx, I have been holding onto every bit of my past for past two years since decision to transition. I was reluctant to see a therapist because I just knew better and of course no one can do it better then me :-). Then I met this wonderful little lady Phd psychology gender therapist. Since the first session my shell, which I thought I broke free, started to crumble for real. Then 3 weeks ago the moment of truth came and all was revealed to my entire family. Pain, sorrow, rejection, loss, you name it. Tears, oh my, I wasn't crying I was using as I put, liquid pain out of every cell of my body. Yet I would recommend it to anyone! Is it scary, more than any drama you can think of, is it painful?, I would take root canal without anesthetic instead. But after it all settled all I have lost wasn't there in the first place. Now I truly am free, loving and embrace those who keep on loving me with unconditional love. I also embrace those who have betrayed my love for I know they carry their pain as well and until they cope with it them selves it shall remain a barrier. Find a therapist and take first steps to true self, but don't be afraid to loose it all, if you loose it then in fact you never had it. Listen to you heart it never tells wrong, but leads the path of love to you.

[Billijo49504]

Hi Jinx, I also didn't have a goal. Just a burning question. Was I just a serious crossdresser or what?? I just checked with my insurance co and they recommended the group to ask. So when I called, and that was a hard call to make, I explained that I had some gender issues and wanted to get some advice. And that I thought I'd be more comfortable with a woman therapist. She suggested I see Peter, and that was how it started. After 6 meetings, he was writing the letter for hormones. Which I dropped on my regular doctor. I furnished him with enough information, so he felt confident to write the script for my patches and spiro. Some days I have to pinch myself, to make sure I'm not dreaming. And I'm still living as a male, most of the time. I don't know if it's the hormones or just knowing what I am, but I'm a happier person now....Billijo

[tanyalynn51]

Youre at the perfect goal, the one I started off with. I found a great therapist. True, I have the advantage of living in a large city, and she was already highly recommended, but I am truly happy with where I am going.

[Bree-asaurus]

If by Central Texas, you mean San Antonio, PM me. I can give you the name of a good therapist and doctor.

It's okay if you don't know what you want. Talking to a therapist can help you figure it out for yourself :)

[Faith_G]

It's okay if you don't know what you want. Talking to a therapist can help you figure it out for yourself :)Therapists are very good at getting you to ask yourself the right questions.

[Jinx]

I am not scared of others, I am scared of myself. Too much info out there and I will panic.

San Antonio is a little far south for a regular drive.


What I mean by "end goal" - I don't know the question, I haven't the slightest clue what planet the answer is on. I can't think of any other way to describe a state of being that I will obtain one day. Can't really say "happy" I am not a fool, I know life goes on. Can't really say "comfy" I can not tell you 100% that I will be. Don't know what to call it, kinda like "higher power".


Thanks sooo much for the replys.

[Jinx]

Couldn't resist.





Woo Hoo 10 posts!!!

[Sarah Welch]

Hi Jinks, that is too fun to pass up....XD