Female or male DR.

[pernille d]

Just a quick question

If you had to have a check up with DR. Where you had to say you where crossdresser would you choose a male or female DR.

I feel It would be easier to talk to s female than a male , therefore I dm interested to hear everyones thoughts

[Debra Jane]

Difficult question...

All doctors are supposed to take on board whatever they are told by patients, but I think in most cases you won't get an idea of their attitude until you actually spill the beans.

Me, I would prefer to tell a female, then again it could also depend on the doctors age.

[Kate Simmons]

I think it would mostly depend on what kind of check up it was.:)

[Elle1946]

I have a male DR and told him about CDing and he was OK with it, but I would have rather told a female DR. As my needs change I have going to female DRs as much as posible. In a lot of ways I find them more caring and tender.

[the_me]

If I HAD to tell them about CD, I would feel more comfortable with a female DR I'm sure. Otherwise pretty much any DR I've visited has been male now that I think of it.

Hmn... interesting question to think about.

[sandra-leigh]

I probably would have been mortified to have a physical from a female doctor when I was a teen, but I've long outgrown that. These days, when it comes to professionals, I only have professional modesty; if one of them told me to undress while they were in the room, I would go ahead, be they male or female. Let's see.. when I get massages, I do leave my panties on, but if there was reason to remove them it wouldn't be a problem for me.

[Joan_CD]

I had a male dr but switched to a female. She is fully supportive and is working with me to get on HRT. The whole office is female and I feel much more comfy there.

[StaceyJane]

I am currently looking for a doctor for HRT. My preference is female.

P.S. If anyone can recomend a doctor in the Austin area.....

[Cari]

Actually I was more interested in how they could treat my condition than their gender.
In the past I would have never considered a female doc but like the one I have now.
If you get into anything serious you will be refered to a specialist and you want the best; gender isnt as much of an issue.
There are things that can mislead them if they dont know, so Ive found it better to be open.

I had a condition where loss of body hair is a symptom of some issues so it is very much an inbounds question.
Their concern wasnt that I was a CD it was if I shaved it because I was shedding and it looked bad.

I also had a rash from epilating that could have been misread.

Another issue you could face are discolored nails, the nail beds do tell some health clues.
Mine were pretty torn up from fake tips and had to kinda admit that one, again a fair question.

I have had male and female docs read clues, both simply said if it becomes an issue they could reccomend counselors.
They also definately needed to know if I was taking any hormones ect before prescribing.
Their main concern was making a good diagnosis and getting the right meds not my personal life.

For a dentist I definately prefer a female dont have to open as wide for smaller hands :-)

[5150 Girl]

It's all the same to me, as long as they behave profesionaly.

[jazz]

pernille d, I would definately see a female Doctor. I feel more at ease speaking to a women doctor.

[annabellejorden]

Personally, I would rather not goto a doctor at all, and havn't except for my ankle in over 10 years.

Before I get flogged for that, I know, one should have regular checkups.

I would have to say female, they seem to have better bed side maner, as I recall.

[MichelleP]

Good Question. I go to a doc that's first, not too busy to take time for me to be the patient and he/she the doc. In this case it happens to be a male but he's very cool with the shaved uh, (most everything), shaped brows and the occassional toenail polish. That said my previous doc was frankly a snot and our communication really broke down once he put 2 and 2 together. I also go to a Nurse Practioner who's a female - she's wonderful and the person I see most times when I go to the docs office for minor stuff.

[Alice B]

I have both and both know. My GP is a male and my cardiologist is a female. Both have seen my painted toe nails and shaved body, so I outright told them. No comment at all from them.

[Cheryl T]

As they say... Been there, done that.
I was put in the position of telling my cardiologist (long story) and when I did he just said, "That's your business".
As for a primary care physician I think I would prefer a female (which is what I have at present), although she is unaware at this time.

[durhamgirl27]

I guess I told my therapist I crossdress; he's male and I didn't think much of it. I guess if I actually had to get a physical done I would want a female, but any true professional should be able to handle it tactfully.

[JohnH]

I feel more comfortable with a female doctor, and my wife feels more comfortable with a male doctor.

Johanna

[Stephanie Anne]

My doctor is female. Not because I was more comfortable with a female doctor but she is the best doctor for my hrt in Vegas. I am more concerned with qualifications than gender. If the best doctor that took my insurance was male, I would see him.

[Megan Thomas]

My doc is male, middle aged and has been great. I think it's how you gel as a doctor/patient than the gender which is important.

[Lorileah]

I have a female doctor who I love and trustm but she is sort of concerned that I may make decisions that I won't care for at a later date. Otherwise for some reason she wants to keep me around for a long time...

[Loni]

my regular Dr is a male, but i stay with him just cause i have been with him for years. but my cancer Dr is a woman.(not by choice, just sent to her) lousy bed side manners.

not sure as to the answer to the question. as my reg Dr does not know..at least we have not talked about it. the last couple times he put that thingy to hear into my chest, he did not want my top off? worked it like i was a woman. different way of doing things now? treating me as a woman? the modesty thing? might ask him when i see him next mo. but i do not want him to put this info onto his computer..every thing goes onto the main frame. open to any and all who can gain access to it...even hackers.

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[msniki48]

I told my doctor years ago..He is a sweet man 1st question was what pronoun would you want me to use in the office.... he was very supportive.

I am changing to a female gen practicianer who works with my wife...so this will be interesting. It will be the 1st thing i tell her on my 1st visit.

I'll let you know how i make out. I loved my female therapist, so i think i should be fine.

msniki48

[Rita C.]

You can go to any Dr. ( male or female) and thay will tell you that thay have seen it all, and thay are not there to judge you for your life style. If the Dr. has a problem with your crossdressing he needs to stop and remimber what you are in to see him about. My doctor has known about my crossdressing for over 20yrs. and he tells me that when I come in as a girl, that my BP is down and he tells me that hiding and not being open with your life style can cause madical problems.

[Steph.TS]

I have a male doctor, and TBH I wish I had a female doctor, because I'm not comfortable discussing stuff of this nature with him.

[Soriya]

Female Dr. for sure, and also with any other issue. I work in a medical system and women Dr.s generally have better bedside manors and more empathy then majority of male Dr.s

[Cynthia Anne]

I prefer a female doctor, at least the one I go to now will unhook my bra for me if need to!

[Joann Smith]

I use to have a male DR... I did not like him all that much and apparently he did not like me to much either...because he transfered me over to another Dr ...who is Female of course..I like her a lot better and we get along great. But to my horror she is has gone on leave for 6 months and her office scheduled me to go see DR Butt head next week for my yearly physical....I can tell this is gonna go really well cause i got to ask him to schedule me for a mamogram...


Joann

[sophiam]

My doctor runs his hospital's LGBT friendly clinic. I actually met this doctor some time prior at a trans support group meeting and went to him when I needed a new primary doctor

[eluuzion]

My dermatologist is female. My attorney is female. My dentist is female.

I also had a female doctor for 2.5 years when I went back to college for degree #3 (B.A. psychology). But she moved out when she accepted a Professor position at another University in a different state…hehehhee (she was a Ph.D type of “Doctor” :heehee:).

The only “reason” I can imagine having to advise my physician of my CD interests would be for hormones, breast implant surgery , or similar procedures…which I do not plan to pursue. If I did elect to take that path I would prefer female. But the final selection would be decided by credentials and expertise…not gender.

:love:

[Sally24]

My preference has always been for a female doctor. When my current MD joined the practice I had a checkup and then handed her some pictures of Sally. I said "I don't know if you have a box for this to check off in your computer but this is me". Thought in the long term that my GP should know what issues I have, both physical and mental. She has been wonderful!

[Vickie_CDTV]

I have had both, and in general prefer a female, but usually end up stuck with a male.

I told my family doctor when I was in my late teens I was a TV, and he a surprisingly good understanding of transvestism (and claimed to know a few himself.) I did not tell my 2nd doctor, I didn't feel comfortable talking to him about it. He did lock onto my lack of body hair and I told him my girlfriend preferred me that way (which was kinda/sorta true at the time.)

One thing I will say is that I have found younger male doctors (and dentists, therapists, healthcare providers in general) have a much better bedside manner, listen better and tend to be more empathetic than their older counterparts. The older ones also tend to have that "type A" personality going on, and I just can't stand that BS, especially when I am vulnerable; I suspect that is one reason cisgender males avoid going to the doctor as well. Of course, there are exceptions, but I found it to be a general rule of thumb.

[Mary Morgan]

My male Internist knows, doesn't seem to be an issue for him, but in your scenario, I would choose a female just cuz!

[DAVIDA]

Personally, I don't care what gender, race, or religion my doctors are.:)
Two out of three of my original Drs (I have to see a lot more for different reasons now) are in Who's Who of American DRs. They are the best in their fields!:thumbsup:
I have been with my Orthopedic Dr for 33 years and he has never once said anything about my hair-less body.
I have told several nurses about being a cross dresser and have never had any negative reactions.
The last time I was in the hospital, I was on-line here and asked the nurse if she wanted to see the real me.
I showed her my profile pic and she just said, your a cross dresser.
She then asked if my wife knew.
I said that Jean is the one who took the pic.:D
So, to answer your question, it makes no difference to me.:)

[Kate Lynn]

I would prefer a male doctor,but being a veteran whose healthcare is provided from the veterans administration,I never have a choice,we get stuck with whoever is up,veterans hospitals are teaching hospitals,and we always get students,who are still in college and when they make a serious mistake,we have no recourse.

[Rachel05]

Famale Dr for me in that situation, I would find it so much easier to discuss with a lady doc

[suchacutie]

My current general practitioner is male and he is terrific. My interest is communication and ability, not gender.

tina

[kimdl93]

I prefer going to a female primary care provider. I don't make any attempt to hide my panties or the tan line from my thong, but I honestly don't think that she really notices or cares what my dressing habits may be.

[naye]

I'll prefer a female doctor, IMHO females normally have more acceptance about CDing than males.

[Phoebe Reece]

The last time I needed to select a doctor, I selected a female one. It was not because of anything CD related, but because I needed a prostate exam. Female doctors have smaller hands.

[Rachel Morley]

I have a female doctor and she does not know .... and I am very happy about that! If I "had to" tell a doctor then I would be more comfortable telling a female one.

[sissystephanie]

I currently have 4 doctors! Hey, when you are my age you have problems!! My Primary doctor, my Endochronologist, and my Urologist are all male. My Cardiologist is a beautiful female! All 4 of them know I CD, and don't care. They get paid no matter what I am wearing, and that is all they care about, other than my health. I choose my doctors by what they know, not about how they will think of me being a CD!! That is my business, not theirs!

[Diane Smith]

Both the physicians I see regularly are female, and I prefer that. My current young female primary is very open and curious about my CD'ing (and bodyart and all the rest) and we have good conversations about it. I never felt I could be that open with male docs, especially the previous primary I had, who was kind of a cold fish in many ways.

- Diane

[2SpeedTranny]

Neither.

It's funny, really. When I was a kid, my dad used to tell this story about a city in California, not too far from where I grew up. One year, before I was born, all the doctors in the city went on strike -- and the death rate DROPPED. I used to think he was full of crap, but not only was he right, it's not the only time it's happened.

I avoid doctors like the bloody plague.

[Rianna Humble]

In the UK, you register with a doctor (even in a large practice) but don't necessarily see him/her for treatment. I am registered with a very nice male doctor with a good bedside manner, but for my Gender Dysphoria I see one of his partners who is a lady. I find it easy to talk to her and like the fact that at my first visit she told me that I would be the first person she has helped from day 1 (she has had patients who came to her already in transition) but that if I was willing she would like to undertake the journey with me.

I registered with this practice when I came back to England, One year later I got a letter from them saying roughly "We were wondering if you are OK as you haven't been to see us" :eek: Unfortunately, I can't get the same letter again as I now have to go there several times a year for blood tests, diabetes clinic and support for my transition.

[DAVIDA]

The last time I needed to select a doctor, I selected a female one. It was not because of anything CD related, but because I needed a prostate exam. Female doctors have smaller hands.

Hi Phoebe!
Miss you!:hugs:
The first time that I saw my urologist, he wanted to check my prostate.:doh:
I said "show me your hand"!
He held his hand up and asked why?
I told him that I don't bring the prostate up with my primary DR because he has short fat fingers!:heehee:
I said he would be OK.
He has long thin fingers.:)
I thought that he was going to crack up!:D

[GingerLeigh]

My doctor is male. I never felt the need to let him know about my crossdressing and I don't have any "tells" that would expose it. I rarely see him (except when it's shot time for the kids). He's a nice guy so I think he'd be fine with it. He gets paid the big bucks regardless of what I may wear.

Ginger

[missyvf]

I go to a female primary care doctor and have for 11 years. The first time I went in for an annual check up I was completely shaved. While examining she asked if I was a swimmer? I replied no, I just can't stand body hair and prefer to shave and that was that. We chatted about how there is a trend now for men to shave, wax or laser hair from their bodies. I've been there in the years since when I haven't been shaved and she has commented "gave up huh?" Knowing that it is a lot of work to maintain. It's kind of a running joke between us. Bottom line, I prefer a female doctor regardless of shaving or not.

[StaceyJane]

I just made an appointment with a female doctor for HRT.
The clinic I'm using gave me a choice of doctors one female and the other......
Well another female so really not much to decide there.

[GaleWarning]

My doctor is female. But don't read too much into it. She's our family doctor and a good friend.
And incidentally, a fine doctor!

[pernille d]

Thanks for all the posts. We all know that in a way it does not matter on a professional level if it's male or female, but this thread confirms my thought that a lot of us have it easier talking to a female DR.

I have a new male dr and to be honest I think he is a bit strange .so I agree also with a lot of you about patient/ DR relationship, asci would never dream about telling him.

Now all I need to do is book an appointment with the female DR.

Thanks all

[lauraabdl]

I have a male primary care DR., although I think I would be or feel better with a female.

[PretzelGirl]

I didn't need to tell my male doctor about me for a long time because I only had things like tendonitis. But he is great, easy to talk to and I owe him a bit for everything he has done for my family. A few months ago I decided to tell him because of a course of treatment where the knowledge could come into play. He asked me a few questions and ordered a complete hormone screening after we discussed hormone levels and how they may affect you.

I went back in last week on a follow-up and showed him a rash on my eyelids. He asked me if I had a new shaving cream, make-up, or if I was using Oil of Olay and did so without a flinch or hesistation. Doesn't matter that he is male or female. It is that he isn't in a hurry and he considers everything.

[MelissaLynnSilver]

I would definitly see a female doctor I would feel more comfortable and at ease

[Ash Leland]

I think...I would have to jump on the band wagon and say female. I've been receiving psychiatric care for unrelated issues for most of my life and most of the male psychiatrists I've dealt with have either been disinterested or a little creepy. Maybe I just have bad luck. Plus I'm seeing a female psychiatrist at the moment who I'm really hitting it off with so I'm biased.

(I'm assuming we mostly mean psychiatrists or therapists, since I can't really envision a circumstance where I would have to talk about my dressing to any other kind of doctor. If I had a physical and I happened to be wearing panties, I probably wouldn't think twice save for a bit of momentary self-consciousness, since the only thing that really matters is getting the procedure over with and the quality of the care...when it comes to physical issues I don't have a preferrence).

[Katie in Canada]

Good day to you all.

In the past I have had both and much preferred the guidance of my female Doc until she retired. My male Doc is very patient and understanding but at the same time does not know enough to give guidance other than to keep me in a good state of mind and health. I am the one who brings information to him which he very much appreciates.

My Urologists takes great care of my prostate health and accepts me as a person and the preferences that I have in my manner of dress.
On the other hand, my wife more so refuses than to try and understand and her Doc is male with a slight negative opinion towards CD backed up by very little to no knowledge about CD.

My preference to CD has been with me for as long as I can recall and wouldn't change a thing.

cheers,
KJ.

[linnea]

My GP is a woman whom I have gone to for about ten years; I have not disclosed my CDing to her. I don't think that she knows nor do I think that she would care if I told her. As I go farther on my transitioning path, I will undoubtedly need to tell her and get her recommendations for the changing care that I will need. I feel very comfortable about doing this, but actually I would be fine with a male as long as he behaves professionally and has expertise in the areas of my interest and need.

[Katie in Canada]

The last time I needed to select a doctor, I selected a female one. It was not because of anything CD related, but because I needed a prostate exam. Female doctors have smaller hands.

I just ask my urologists to use extra lube for a prostate exam.