ups and downs

[karenhunni]

hi girls
just wanted to know does anyone else ever experiance waxing and waning of there gender feelings ? however i might add that my feelings are ever present but to different degrees
karen xx

[karenhunni]

anyone there ? xx

[StaceyJane]

Waxing and waning of feelings is natural. Gender issues might not anyways be the biggest hing you are dealing with and quite often we burying while we are in a denial phase but they are always there in the backround.
I'm getting ready to start HRT and it's just about all I can thinl about now but life goes on and the time will come when I will be thinking of other things.
But still the desire to be a woman will always be there.
One of the keys to being happy as a TG is accepting that.

[karenhunni]

ty stacey , seems after all this time i havnt fully accepted myself yet not sure i ever will xx

[StaceyJane]

That's were therapy can help. Even if your goal is not to transition therapy can help you find peace with yourself.
One of the worst things you can do is go through life hating yourself.

[karenhunni]

trouble is as you know its a massive roller coaster of your emotions and seems to take over our lives xx

[morgan51]

I always feel I truly am a woman/female. How I present is a concious decision. What my emotions are like at any given moment [feelings] depends on actual life situations and stimuli. I think they are human not gender related.

[CharleneT]

For me, the feelings of "femaleness" or whatever you want to call it, have been constant. Better put, I have always known my gender. But its incongruence with my physical reality sure caused a lot of waxing and waning ! Other issues wax and wane at will.

[Aprilrain]

I find that my need/want to express femininity can wax and wane but the need to be female has been pretty consciously constant (sounds like a tea) since shortly after getting off that boat on denial. I get pretty cranky if I have to spend too much time in male mode, it's actually gotten a little easier but I think that is only because I quit fighting and have accepted what I am and what I must do about it. Now it's just a matter of timing and resources.

[Traci Elizabeth]

The only "waxing" I have done is thinking about getting my eyebrows done but my wife says mine look better than hers so I don't need to wax.

The only "waning" I have noticed is that particular thing that I have no use for anyway. So that is good news.

So what the heck are you talking about? :facepalm:

[Melody Moore]

I use an epilator instead of waxing & the only thing that is waning is my male libido, but I don't miss it one bit.
The joys of being female has brought me so much more peace & comfort in my life that I never knew as a male.

[tanyalynn51]

I did have up and down feelings about it, but the further along Ive gotten, Ive become sure this is the right thing. I agree with Stacey- the right therapist is invaluable.