Good and bad weekend

[Jennie1975]

Well it's been and continues to be a hard road. This weekend I finally accepted that I am a woman. I had the pleasure of dressing all weekend and was around some very wonderful people that made me feel like a normal woman. All was going well till sunday afternoon when I went to visit an old gg friend of mine. Her bf tolerates me, but yesterday he kept making snide comments. So I asked he to step outside and hash it out with me. We went outside and he tried to imtimadate me and at one point looked me straight in the eyes and said" Lets be real we both know your not a girl, you have a c*** and b****. Your not a girl and never will be". Now normally I would just let it roll off my back. Yesterday I couldn't, I wanted to curl up and die. I politely said my goodbyes to my friend and drove off, I just felt horrible. I broke down and cried had to pull off the road, I couldn't stop. It hurt so bad right in the very core of me. I had had such an awesome weekend before that and it all seemed to vanish with those mean and hurtful words. I finally got a friend on the phine and it all just spilled out.
I am doing better now, and I know inside me I am a woman always was and will be. I was just surprised at how hard it hut me.
thanks for letting me share.

Jennifer

[Rianna Humble]

Hi Jennie, I'm sorry you had to experience that so soon after getting up the courage to admit to yourself who you are. I wish I could reach out and give you a :bighug:

Unfortunately, there are small-minded people all over the place, and it does hurt when they show their ignorance in this way. Please try not to focus on this one joker but dwell more on those who accepted you and treated you like the woman that you really are.

[Melody Moore]

This bigot has no understanding that physiological sex plays no part in your true gender identity, he doesn't understand the processes of how this occurs. He doesnt understand that this is NOT a lifestyle choice we make, it is something we are born with and have to deal with. You can try educating people and I have tried this and been successful in explaining the processes that define gender identity in someone who is transsexual. I encourage you to read this document (http://shb-info.org/sexbrain.html) for future reference. Also see the videos on my Youtube channel (http://www.youtube.com/user/ATropicalMelody) for more help.
I hope this information helps and you have more success in gaining acceptance in the future. :hugs:

[Jorja]

I really hate to say it like this but,,,,,, welcome to the world of Transsexuals. If you are going to travel this road, you might as well thicken up your skin right now. If you are going to get deeply hurt everytime some jackass runs his mouth then maybe you need to sit down and reconsider what your reasons and goals are in transitioning. If I had a dollar for every rude nasty comment I recieved, I would be a millionaire today.

Melody, it is not only that he does not understand the processes, he doesn't want to understand it, at all. While I agree that education goes a long way in changing attitudes, education has been out there and offered for many years. Educating the masses is not a novel idea. Has it worked? Yes, to some extent. Should we quit trying to educate? No, never. We should however, educate those looking to transition and get them to understand that this road is not all perfume, panties, and growing breast. It is riddled with heartache, pain, loneliness, depression, and some days it just down right sucks. If you can deal with all of it and come out on the other side, then life just might begin to become worth living. In my opinion, it has been worth every second of all the crap I took getting here.

[Frances]

Transition is riddled with heartache, pain, loneliness, depression, and some days it just down right sucks. If you can deal with all of it and come out on the other side, then life just might begin to become worth living.

Sounds about right.

[Jennie1975]

Thank you. I appreciate the kind words. Yes you are right I usaully have a thicker skin, I don't know why it hurt me so. It was the first time anyone has been that down right rude to me. I can honestly say that I feel I am doing this for the right reasons and I expect a rough road. Time to pull my big girl panties up and getter dun! Haha

Jennifer

[Stephenie S]

"I went to visit an old gg friend of mine."

"So I asked him to step outside and hash it out with me."

Two mistakes. When you went to visit an old GF in the presence of her boyfriend you presented him with a threat. His girl's old boyfriend nosing around and in a dress. Can you understand his hostility? Guys are jealous of their girl's girlfriends anyway. And to him, you were a GUY pretending to be a girlfriend. No wonder he was hostile. In the future, visit her alone. He would have been upset at sharing his girl with ANYONE, much less "a tranny".

Then, you acted just like a guy and asked him to step outside. If you're gonna be a girl, you have to ACT like a girl. Cry. When you send out guy messages with your guy behavior, you really confuse others.

You have started down a long, difficult and frustrating road, but the rewards at the end are worth it.

S

[Megan Thomas]

"I went to visit an old gg friend of mine."

"So I asked him to step outside and hash it out with me."

Two mistakes. When you went to visit an old GF in the presence of her boyfriend you presented him with a threat. His girl's old boyfriend nosing around and in a dress.

I read the OP as saying he visited a genetic girl friend, not someone he used to date. Did i read it wrong, or have you?

[Jennie1975]

Just to clarify her and I never dated or had relations, and there in lies the problem for him he thinks because we talk like girlfriends that I am trying to get in her pants. Then he just recently moved in with her due to him losing his house. I understand limits and I respect his. What I meant by calling him out was I just asked him if we could talk it out in private, not ever tryiing to fight again.

Jennifer

[Aprilrain]

I totally understand your pain and it is OK to feel it, break down and cry if you need to then when your better pick your self back up by your high heels and move on. I don't think it's right for me to judge this guy, I wasn't there. Maybe he felt threatened, maybe he's bigoted, maybe he just didnt know how to feel and he doesn't like being out of his comfort zone, most of us dont. Maybe he'll come around maybe he won't, anyway you did open the door for him to make his comment. By inviting him to talk you gave him permission to speak his mind. Thank god you didn't get in to a fight. You did the right thing by leaving at that point. Perhapes if your friendship with the girl is that important, she will be willing to meet you with out him on your turf, so to speak. Everybody on the planet faces hardships and obsticals TGs are not unique in this way so hopefully you will not let this small matter paralyze you with fear.

[Eryn]

Just to clarify her and I never dated or had relations, and there in lies the problem for him he thinks because we talk like girlfriends that I am trying to get in her pants. Then he just recently moved in with her due to him losing his house. I understand limits and I respect his. What I meant by calling him out was I just asked him if we could talk it out in private, not ever tryiing to fight again.

The typical relationship between boyfriends and their girlfriends's girlfriends is strained at best, and you've introduced a dynamic, the girlfriend who is a boy, that the boyfriend was simply unable to process. Since he couldn't, he probably went into "the best defense is a good offense" mode.

I doubt that you'll make much headway in winning him over, so it might be to your advantage to avoid similar situations in the future. Your discussion with him pretty much set his prejudices firmly in his mind so the best path is to simply move on and not let people like this get under your skin.

[Christy_M]

I am so sorry that you had to go through this. There is just no excuse for ignorance like this. You can take solace in knowing that he is just an insecure hairless ape that will never rise above his own intelligence. I know the road you are taking will be filled with emotional road blocks but knowing who you are and your confidence level that your taking the right path should help you overcome these painful events. While I am not heading down this path myself, I am here to support you like so many others.

[PortiaHoney]

My heart goes out to you. Yes. It is indeed a hard road we travel and there will be many more tears and self doubt before you get through this.

Be true to yourself and those who are worth it will see (and accept) the real you. As for all the rest, you just need to remember that what they think really doesn't matter.

Don't let the AH's of this world deny you peace and happiness.

Huggs and best wishes