Did any of u start dressing after age 50?

[docrobbysherry]

I'm curious! I DON'T mean u "WANTED TO DRESS BUT COULDN'T" until after age 50.:brolleyes:

I mean, u never had any desire to dress until after age 50!:eek:

Reading that other thread about self hatred caused by being trans, reminded me of the crap I dealt with when I suddenly had the urge to dress after age 50. And back then, I was all by myself in a vacuum! :sad:

I've often thot that a few friends and acquaintances about my age, MAY have thot about dressing, but JUST COULDN'T GO THERE so late in their lives!:straightface:

Any input from older dressers with experience on this subject would be appreciated!:thumbsup:

[KarenSusan]

No. I'm 64+ and I've had the urge to dress since about 8. I suppressed it for about 40 years. All of a sudden it was like a dam broke and I bought my first dress and every year from then it has gotten more intense. Now I spend most of my time dressed.

[AllieSF]

Definitely, that is me. I started 4 years ago a decade plus after 50. I can go back now to little things in my life that could be interpreted as something was different about me. I even dressed completely as a woman for a costume party once. Just a normal woman with big water balloon breasts, panty hose, a simple dress, low chunky heels, a little hat with my hair colored whitish. Spent the night using the ladies room, having drinks bought for me and dancing with the guys. For many of us, that would have been a dream CD's night out without the fear of getting caught. However for me, once the evening was over it was back to male mode with life going on as before. There were no lingering desires to revisit that evening and how I felt during and after it. So, I never had, or maybe just never understood any of the signs, that I would ever do this. I am sometimes still baffled by it all. I started from scratch about 4 years ago. Cons = I missed out on a lot of fun and lost the chance to really be beautiful as a woman with that much younger body and skin. Pros= I started late and avoided all the pitfalls, anguish, anxiety, frustrations and issues of trying to live with this side of me like so many members here have suffered. I didn't crawl slowly to go out. I jumped at the opportunity and never looked back. Being older has given me a very clear understanding of what I am doing and helps me to apply life's lessons to my dressing. Worry about what I can do something about and forget about all the rest.

[Diane Elizabeth]

that would fit me. I am closing in on the big 60 in less that 2 years. I started dressing about 4 or 5 years ago. I have been to a therapist and sorted some things out. Such as I would always transpose my desires onto my spouses when we went shopping. I never liked to shop mens clothing, just womens clothing. Now I am shopping happily for myself.

[Tammynnj]

While I tried on hose and panties from time to time, I bought my first panties when I was about 50 and that was about it till about 2 years ago. I started buying 'nities' and hose. This past spring I bought a dress and this summer makeup and bra and breast etal. I went to a CD friendly event in October and now I try to get out to a CD friendly place 2 or 3 times a month. I haven't ventured out in public - don't know if i could come close to passing.

I have adult children who would flip out, so while freer then some, I still sneak about. Nothing is simple.

Oh yes, I'm loving it!

[Alice B]

I think I was about 63-64 when I started. Out of the blue and it gets stronger all the time. Also have adult children, but they know and accept. However, I have not dressed in front of them.

[sissystephanie]

I am definitely not in the category!! I started at age 6 or 7, it was so long ago that I can't really remember. Did stop on 2 occasions, but have been a CD for a long, long time!

[Vickie_CDTV]

I find it fascinating how some can go from completely cisgender (no crossgender feelings or interest ever) male to crossdresser later in life. For those who went from cisgender male to crossdresser, what triggered your interest in dressing? Unlike a new interest in a sport or hobby or such, I would imagine it wouldn't be an easily sparked interest for many reasons.

[Missy Tanya]

Sort of!! Dressed for just myself and wife for last twenty years. Just a couple times out of the house, like Halloween. But once the big five-O came a knocking, Tanya just had to step out and smell fresh air. Now two year later and 40+ times out in public, I've created a monster. A shopping monster that is. Nothing funner than shopping for Tanya as Tanya. So I guess I'm sort of in your group.

Tanya

[JohnH]

I started in earnest this past summer. I discovered a feminine side of me that I have been able to develop. I used to be really melancholy all the time, and I did not care about my weight. I had high blood pressure (160/100) and was hyperglycemic (high blood glucose). My weight peaked out at 110 kg (242 lbs) and now my weight is down to 86 kg (190 lbs). I still take medication but my blood glucose level is normal and blood pressure is 119/79 mm Hg.

[Added section]
Today this morning (Jan 29) I took my glucose reading - 91 mg/dL. So the type 2 diabetes is well under control.
[/Added section]

Now I'm a lot happier and am contemplating m2f HRT. My wife has even asked me when I am going to start hormone therapy.

Johanna

[docrobbysherry]

I find it fascinating how some can go from completely cisgender (no crossgender feelings or interest ever) male to crossdresser later in life. For those who went from cisgender male to crossdresser, what triggered your interest in dressing? Unlike a new interest in a sport or hobby or such, I would imagine it wouldn't be an easily sparked interest for many reasons.

"Fascinating" is not exactly the word I would choose, Vickie. More like, "Confusing". As in, "What the F am I doin', and why?" I tried on a pair of ladies jeans just for the heck of it. Didn't try on anything more for a year! Then, it came on pretty fast!:eek:


Definitely, that is me. I started 4 years ago a decade plus after 50. I can go back now to little things in my life that could be interpreted as something was different about me. I even dressed completely as a woman for a costume party once. Just a normal woman with big water balloon breasts, panty hose, a simple dress, low chunky heels, a little hat with my hair colored whitish. Spent the night using the ladies room, having drinks bought for me and dancing with the guys. For many of us, that would have been a dream CD's night out without the fear of getting caught. However for me, once the evening was over it was back to male mode with life going on as before. There were no lingering desires to revisit that evening and how I felt during and after it. .

I think we may have some things in common, Allie! One Halloween, my ex and I switched genders for the evening and went to a large, local bar. U had to dress up to get in.:)
I had balloon boobs, sloppy make up on over my beard and stach, etc. U know, the, "guy dressed up as a parody of a woman" look. My ex was a tough little guy! When a drunk popped one of my boobs, she wanted to punch him out!:brolleyes:

I promptly forgot about dressing that nite. In fact, it wasn't until I had been dressing for a couple of years, (nearly 10 years later), that I even recalled that evening! I still marvel at the fact that dressing up that evening made NO IMPRESSION ON ME WHAT SO EVER!:straightface:

[Loveday]

Thats me, I never had any desire at all to dress until after age 50. In my late forties the doctor suggested wearing compression hose or panty hose and I fluffed it off, back then no way was I ever going to wear womens cloths. After watching my father die unexpectedly in front of me in his home I decided maybe i should start listening to the doctor. So I went and got hue tights and liked the feel of them. Then panty hose then mini skirts, then tops ... etc. and here I am. Its fun. I am now dressed or underdressed about 24/6. I just cannot get a handle on the make-up.

[suzy1]

This is an interesting thread. I have had the need for as long as I can remember. All my life. Its just a part of me.
I never knew the need could come on later in life.
I am always learning new things on the forum.

SUZY

[lauraabdl]

I started early in life 6 or 7 and then there was this lull for a number of years. Then I don't know when really but I do recall that I really liked a certian pair of panties and finally had to have them, then more and more and finally we get to today with two closets full of girl clothes 1 and 1/2 dressers full of all kinds of under garments and four SO's later, last one left last Sept. couldn't deal with the other woman Laura, funny she was always there and SO's let her come out alittle, but when she wanted more they didn't? Last one lasted for 16 years, go figure.

[Tina B.]

Like Suzy, I'm a life time dresser, I always thought this was a pattern established young in live, I had no idea so many came to it so late in life. As a kid it took years to come to terms with who and what I am, I can't imagine having to deal with it at that point in life. over sixty years dressing, fifteen or sixteen years on the INTERNET, and still I learn something new about this hobby we share.
Tina B.

[Tammynnj]

Perhaps the late start is like someone who discovers painting (e.g. Grandma Moses, for those old enough to remember), or music or even golf late in life. The inclination/potential/talent was always there, just need a trigger or set of circumstances for it to play out.

[docrobbysherry]

Perhaps the late start is like someone who discovers painting (e.g. Grandma Moses, for those old enough to remember), or music or even golf late in life. The inclination/potential/talent was always there, just need a trigger or set of circumstances for it to play out.

I'm CERTAIN that's tru for some, Tammy. But, NOT me! I've been pretty uninhibited since I was 15. I've experimented with fetishes all my life. Had PLENTY of opportunities to try on my lady friends clothes, but it NEVER OCCURED TO ME to do that! And, I was single living on my own or had girlfriends with me, until I was over 40!

In my case, I simply CHANGED! Maybe there's a lesson here for some of u!?

[Ann-Marie]

Am 58 and only really started 6 months ago, guess i like the sexy look of womans clothes. My wife has benn very supportive so am really enjoying the eexperience

[suchacutie]

I had just turned 55 when I walked out of a hotel bathroom with a black silky top, black lingerie, 6" platforms (barely walking at that point, in all honesty), received one look from my wife after which she said, "we HAVE to buy you a dress".

That was it. Never dressed before (and really only cursorily dressed that time). In 48 hours Tina was named, had her own e-mail address, and had found this site. Within a week breastforms had been ordered and the many talks between Tina and my wife (her girlfriend) had started about being feminine, growing up as a girl, etc. We immediately agreed that there was some feminine part of me and we wanted to know who she is, and how she affects me every day (and how she had been affecting me for 55 years!).

Now she clearly has a personality, like and dislikes, opinions (heavens does she ever have he own opinions!), and even her own craft projects. It must have all been there all the time, but the situation just never presented itself to let Tina come into the light of day.

One thing is very clear...putting her back into the bottle is not possible.

tina

[Cassiecd]

There are relatively few of us, but nice to see its not just me!

Yes, I started cold at 50. No prior struggles or thoughts. I am throughly hooked now. Love it, what ever was I waiting for?

[busker]

I had a brief foray in my teens, nothing much for 40 years, and the itch came back after I turned 60. It got worse after my cancer surgery and my hormones went crazy, boobs grew, and now it is an itch I scratch every day.
I am certain that hormones are implicated in this desire especially if you had any inkling as a teen--hormones are really crazy then, and later after 50 T goes down, estrogen may go up, so there is a physical cause and likely a "strong leaning" somewhere in our psyche.
Over the years while I didn't dress, I remember now that I used to walk in department stores threw the women's dept and looked at the clothing. It never really dawned on me that I might have some latent interest in dressing.
Though I don't entirely understand it all myself, I have come to accept this as something that is part of me. I was cute as a young kid,
but I don;t think I was "girly" and wasn't treated that way. I am still working on it though.

[diane51]

That's me. I could count on my first three fingers the times I tried on anything feminine my first 50 yrs. Once I hit 50 look out, Diane was born. Since then in the last 3 yrs. I have accumulated a wardrobe that rivals my wifes. I can't explain it, the why or how, but I think hormones have something to do with it.

[Anneliese]

I had a brief fling, for a couple months, of dressing in my late forties. I think it was a reaction to incredible stress at the job I had at the time. I went thrift-shopping nearly every week, and dressed behind my bedroom door (I was raising my daughter at the time), and then I just quit for some reason. I kept all the clothes in a couple of suitcases in a closet, but never really thought to bring them out until a year and a half ago, when circumstances in my life changed (I'm 56). First, my best friend since junior high died, and then my boss, who I had an incredibly good relationship with, suddenly quit, and I got a new boss who has been very difficult to blend management styles with.

Both in the earlier time, and now, I had a desire to not only dress, but to also chew on fennel and fenugreek seeds. As a vegan, I also ingest a lot of soy. I desired breasts, and yes, some grew. They were embarrassing when in guy mode, but deliciously exciting when dressed. Since starting in late 2009, I haven't stopped, and don't intend to. Dressing is now one of life's greatest pleasures.

Upside: Stress relief, weight loss, working out every day to improve my figure, touching my feminine side (which was likely always there), breasts (although the more I work out, the more muscular they become)

Downside: Spending money I don't have on more and more and more clothes (I have cut down the last couple of months, and everything I buy is from thrift stores on half-price days only)

A few weeks ago I discovered women's super low cut stretch jeans, and since that day I haven't worn anything else anywhere. I love them! I also wear a woman's watch (although it's not obvious...is it? ;-) and tight t-shirts (women's cuts a few times). On days off I wear a thong also (not ready for thongs in my health-club locker room).

Even though my father is liberal politically, I think it would shock him to no end if he knew I dressed (despite the fact that I have worn the girliest (that I'm willing to wear outside), tightest jeans lately when visiting him and his wife). I want my father to live forever, but I don't think I'm ready to go out fully dressed until he's gone, or until I go to another city where nobody knows me (or him).

My only regret echoes one mentioned above. I honestly believe I would have been a knockout in my twenties. There was a moment in my life which might very well have determined my life for decades. In college, my roommates and I were all friends with the local gay community, although all of us were theoretically straight. One day, we went to a friend's apartment for a wedding shower. Two of our male friends were getting married. In a bizarre set of circumstances, I ended up alone at the party...the only (theoretical?) straight. It started to get wild, cross-dressing, women-on-women, men-on-men, and I chose to make my exit. The host of the party invited me to a back bedroom, where a cross-dressing gay couple were making out, to be part of a threesome. I said, "No thanks", and split. I didn't lose my virginity to a woman until six years later, and I married her (since divorced). Up until that point, although I'd had girlfriends, I was never all that into it.

Who knows?

[diannecourtney]

I replied to a very similiar thread within the last day or so, so I won't bore my good girl friends but I did say the thing that truly turned me on was following the lovelist pair of legs into a restaurant in of all places, Milwaukee,WI. I can still see them. Oh, a strange remark from my older sister one day, stating I had a great pair of legs and a butte for a guy. That w b4 the Mil sighting.as

[Jolene]

When I was young there were my sister's clothes which I would for some reason have the urge to try on. After the excitment of it ( and getting caught and The Talk ) there was something about female clothes tha always attracted me to them. But for so many years never did much about it until the age of 50, I finally bought a package of Hanes women's briefs and now today Jolene has a large wardrobe.
I only wish I did not wait so long. :)

[Joyously 27]

At age 16 I tried on my sister's bridesmaid gown, at age 49 I went to a drag show & met a drag performer in the audience. I went home with him & I asked that he put on a negligee which he did. The following day I thought I'd would have like to have warn it. He
called & invited me back that evening stating there will be other Drag performers there. I've often wonder how involved I could have
been if I had attended. I purchased a set of panties at age 73 or 74. Now it's 24/7.

[Suzette Muguet de Mai]

I started young and had a break in my mid twenties till early forties, I worked out to develop a muscular frame to hide behind my then weak, narrow shoulders and chest and thin arms. Argh wish I developed brains, now I spend my time trying to reverse. Getting there slowly but surely. I will not be happy with my crossdressing till I have lost more weight and define a jawline. The hard thing about my crossdressing was fear, fear to be found out that I am not a big, tough neanderthal who likes to wear a dress. So I guess my times when I did not dress coincided with how close to being found out I came so the neanderthal me was over done at times. Currently I do not care and I think my mother may know a lil more than I giver her credit for, after all I am part of her and dad.

[Carla4Guage]

This is the third time I've tried to answer this question, I keep getting interupted. I have senior moments. but I think I would remember! I never tried on anything fem. until age 59, almost 5 years ago. Never any of Mom's things and I had only two younger brothers, so no ready access to girls stuff. I would be 24/7 if the spouse would allow (I'm only in fem when she is at work & I am home alone). Burned all my male underwear in the BBQ and will never wear anything but panties for the rest of my live.

[Heather Daniels]

"Burned all my male underwear in the BBQ and will never wear anything but panties for the rest of my live"

I've got this image of you standing at your BBQ, wearing a chef's hat and apron, while piling on pairs of boxers and briefs over the coals. :D
Good for you !!!

[docrobbysherry]

-------------------------- Burned all my male underwear in the BBQ and will never wear anything but panties for the rest of my live.

I get that, Carla! I always try to throw an old undie on the bar-be just before the chicken and steaks go on! Gives them that, (how do u say it?), "SPECIAL" flavor!?

[jacques]

hello,
I have worn hosiery and panties for years, but only really started cross-dressing when the children left home.
luv J