MY CDing SO and I decided to tell ONE other person

[Dahlia007]

So we had a long deep discussion over whether he wanted any other ppl knowing, in a word, NO. However we play this game where we list people we know and try to guess how they would react. When we got to my good friend (we'll call her Kara) we both realized she of anyone would be most accepting. Of course at first we were speaking strictly theoretically but then the more we spoke about it first, I think he just wanted another person to know after hiding all these years, and second it gave me someone to talk to about it all. WELL, we decided to go for it; I went to her house last night, spilled it all, and of course my instincts were correct, she really seemed unphased by the whole thing. So, now we have ONE other person in on our girl world :) just thought I'd share, anyone have any stories like this?

[Mary Morgan]

I'm glad you both have someone to share this with, especially you. It is good to have someone to talk to about therse things. In my life I've told several close people and none were phased, or at least they didn't appear to be. I have told my wife that she can tell anyone she chooses but I'm afraid she is most concerned with how they will see her. Someday perhaps.

[Michelle 51]

The closet is a very lonely place.Your so is lucky to have you and that you support him.Our male sides have a lifetime of friends but it is important for our femme side to find some.With you and her he now has two.

[PretzelGirl]

I agree with the others. Your husband had you to tell and talk about. Now you have someone. Very nice.

[xxprincess_tiffyxx]

I think its neat that she knows too. I also have these mixed feelings, part kinda happy excitement.
The other part just nervous for the next time I see her myself. I guess just cuz I didn't see her reaction.
It still leaves me a little nervousness. Yay Tiffany is making friends haha,is another feeling. All in all I thinks its cool that ONE other person knows

[Sally24]

Everyone needs to able to talk to someone. My wife told her best friend as did my daughter. They don't quite get it until they see pictures. It can make it much easier to have someone else to talk with.

[Misty G]

I have several friends who know. Actually a couple came to our house for New Years and when they arrived I was dressed. What I didn't know was there was another couple with them who didn't know. Nut everyone was cool with and they stayed all weekend everyone had fun.

[RebeccaLynne]

My GF has only "outed" me to one friend, who lives out of the area and whom I've met and get along well with. I told my GF early on that I had no objection to her disclosing my CD'ing to anyone she cared to.

So far just that one best friend has been informed, and she's been great. She sent me a birthday card stating: "It's your birthday- and I must say... You look FABULOUS!"

I think she picked the right person to tell...LOL! :heehee:

[Maria 60]

That's great, thank God for the wife and all of you girls or there would be nobody to talk to.

[Eryn]

While I agree that having someone to talk to is a wonderful thing, remember the adage that the probability of a secret getting out is proportional to the square of the number of people who know the secret. As long as both of you are comfortable with the third party it's all OK, though.

[eluuzion]

"Of course I can keep secrets.It's the people I tell them to that can't keep them".
--Anthony Haden

"Three may keep a secret, if two of them are dead".
--Benjamin Franklin

:) :hugs: :)
:love:

[Eryn]

"Three may keep a secret, if two of them are dead".
--Benjamin Franklin

I thought about this one, but thought it was a bit too morbid. :)

[gaylegirlify]

:)I would think having another GG knowing would be great for you both someone to confide in, you lucky pair.All the best

[Jay Cee]

My SO asked my permission to tell one of her friends about my dressing. It's someone who she's known for many years, and is very understanding. I guess she wanted a friend she could talk to about it, and get advice and support.

[BRANDYJ]

I think it's great that you and your wife now have a friend that knows and either of you can confide in or at least not have to hide from.
I have told 2 male friends and about 5-6 female friends in the past several years. I have always been careful to size them up on related issues such as religion, their views on gays, lesbians, or other alternate lifestyles long before I risked telling them. I had a very good idea about how they would accept me before I would trust telling them. Fortunately I have been right about each and everyone I have shared this with. The only exception is my older brother. We have not spoken in over 2 years. So much for his narrow minded religious brain-washing.
In some cases those that I have told have become even closer as friends. It's just nice not to have to hide this part of myself.

[xxprincess_tiffyxx]

I completely trust Dahlia007's judgement and we wouldn't have told our friend if we didn't trust her.
Its definately good for her to have a friend to share and talk with about all of this.
Its funny she has this other friend who I think both of us agree would be FUN to tell because she is very open minded and just the type of
Girl that me as Tiffany would be friends with. Whether or not either of us would actually tell her who knows.
Its a hard thing to decide to be open about it with new people I think.

[BRANDYJ]

I too trust my SO's decision on who she might want to tell. I also trust her decision on who I should not tell. lol

[kimdl93]

That's great - it gives you both another trusted friend to share with and expands both your universe to more experiences.

[Angelofsomekind]

My wife HAD to tell someone about it. So years ago she asked me if she could tell her best friend, she's a very open minded person. So I said ok. My wife was all worked up and worried about it, they went out to a bar and my wife told our friend she had something to tell her, and it was about me. So finally she told her, and her responce was, "Ok, That's it?" she didn't care at all. She was actually the one to show me how to do my makeup. I went shopping with her once, and occationally when my wife and I go out she joins us.

So a few years later my wife and I have another couple friends. My wife wanted to tell the wife, so I said ok, but I was kinda worried about how the husband would react to it. So one night she told her friend and her friend was ok with it, she said she felt bad that I feel like I have to hide this side of me. Awhile later she told her husband about it, he's all for it. We asked them if they wanted to come out with us sometime, the wife doesn't really want to, but the husband wants to. Over time it seems like the wife is less accepting of it and the husband more.

[t-girlxsophie]

my wife and I agreed that she could tell her Sister and her (ex) sister in law about my Crossdressing,they are very close and they both took it in their stride,even been out with us on a cpl ocassions,they both know I will never treat my wife badly,The first time they saw me dressed was actually on the eve of our wedding,we had a lovely night.
Recently my wife also told her close friend and boss,and her reaction was "Is that all" Sometimes she comes over after work and has a cuppa with my wife and I,its good that we can share with others and Its not closely guarded secret with them

:hugs:Sophie