Reconnecting with people from male life

[Jennie1975]

I will be going full time as of Feb 20th, my birthday. I have had a few people that I had worked with while I have been Patrick that have said they will be in my area again and would like to get together. I am comfortable with myself and my decision to transition. Just don't know how to aproach the situation.

I would like to hear how y'all have dealt with this situation?

Just to clarify these would be people that knew me as a male and know nothing of my my current life coarse.

[Stephanie Anne]

Simple. Those who reject you are not friends. Every single adult friend I had prior to transition knows who I am. Not a single one has outwardly rejected me. Just let them know straight that you are trans and weed out the one's that are not you friend.

[Jorja]

I have had this siuation on occasion. I first make contact with the person and state that I am not the person they once knew. I go on to explain that I have transitioned and I am now female. I leave it to them to decide if they would still like to get together. As Sephanie Anne has stated, not one has rejected me and many have become great friends over the years. Even the guys I played football (American football) with.

[JohnH]

You don't even need to transition to weed out the so-called friends. All you have to do is wear a denim skirt with otherwise conventional male attire (standard shirt and shoes or sandals) as a man and the narrow-minded fogies will run for the hills.

I have discovered two types of people:

1. If they tolerate the denim skirt with otherwise standard male attire they will tolerate my wearing a dress, hose, heels, and makeup. Presumably if I were to transition to be a woman they would still remain my friends.

2. The other crowd will never be satisfied unless I am wearing all standard men's attire - meaning that the bottom are men's pants or shorts.

Johanna (male name John)

[Rianna Humble]

I think that Stephanie gave the best advice - let them klnow in advacenthat you are now Jennie rather than Patrick and let them make their own decision. I bet you'll be pleasantly surprised.

When I came out in that way to some people who had only known Robert and who I did not expect to understand, I was amazed by how supportive they were.

[crystalann]

:iagree:
Simple. Those who reject you are not friends. Every single adult friend I had prior to transition knows who I am. Not a single one has outwardly rejected me. Just let them know straight that you are trans and weed out the one's that are not you friend.

[carolinoakland]

good luck! I just passed two years full time! Best thing I ever did for myself. Hope that helps.

[Traci Elizabeth]

[QUOTE=Rianna Humble;2396950]I think that Stephanie gave the best advice - let them klnow in advacenthat you are now Jennie rather than Patrick and let them make their own decision. I bet you'll be pleasantly surprised.



YEP! Can't agree more!

[Stephenie S]

I would agree. That's the polite way to do it. Don't surprise them. It might work, but it's impolite. TELL people what has gone on before you see them. Almost everyone will be perfectly OK with it.

"Hi Bill. Listen, I will look different when you see me. I'm now a woman." That's all. That's all that's needed.

Stephie

[Jennie1975]

Thank you all for sharing. That is what I had in mind I guess I just needed to hear it. Still a somewhat scary idea, but I have done scarier things. Haha

[Nicki S]

Just to add onto what Stephanie said.

"Those that matter don't mind, and those that mind don't matter"